I am a single mom of a three year old little girl who i am pushing to be te best person she can be. I am striving to find myself a literary agent so that the words i write dont die with me but change the lives of the people who read my work.
E-mail: jesswilliams06@verizon.net
Gender: Female
Location: Baltimore
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Age: 21
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Been in this relationship for 8 months now, we've had our break ups and a few though times. We've also had sex...blah, anyways sometimes when we do "it," I tend to get a bit strange after, I feel a bit sad and I don't know why. Is this normal? We live in different suburbs but in the same state, he visits as often as he cans, as do I. We speak on the phone every night. Hmmm...I've also had a small crush on this other guy, a friend of mine, had it for awhile now, before my actual bf and I got together. =S
I thought it'd go away since I have someone else, but it never really did, is this ok? Is it normal?
My crush likes me too, but nothing ever happened since we both are very shy. My bf on the other hand, is pretty head strong. My bestfriend says we aren't in love, since I have a crush on someone. She thinks that you can't like someone and also be in love with someone else...is she right? She also thinks we're more in lost than in love, I'd agree at times. But when I think things over and all we've been through I do believe it's love, right? Why would you stick around in something unless it was love. We tend to get very hot & heavy and end up...y'know. Does that mean it's lust instead of love? We do other things other than that of course, but I really like sex. I enjoy it...is this wrong? T.T
I mean only with him of course, he was my first and is the only guy I've ever been with, I don't see myself sexually with anyone else, not even my crush. But i could picture a noe sexual relationship with my crush, hmmm...I guess I'm just wondering all this because of this other guy, my friend. I'm feeling a little confused and stressed, I also have a few other things on my mind, none related to this. Sorry if it's long and if there are any typeo's but I'm to lazy to revise.
Additional info, I'm 16 female, my bf is 18 male, my friend/crush is 14 male >.>;
WEIRD AGE MIX UPS!!! I know xD (link)
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you have to ask your heart what it wants. it sounds as though your in love with the idea ofd love with your current bf. your crush is still at a very fickle age. heck im older then all of you and im still at a very fickle age. the heart wants what it wants and if you want someone other then your bf then your not being honest with him. you need to be honest with both yourself and your bf
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alright i really need your help...my friend was on and off with this guy for about 2 years.towards the end of their relationship she fell pregnant and decided to keep the baby. so once she gave birth to her baby boy the father visited the baby once in like 3 weeks.he doesnt have a job and isnt looking for one,he doesnt have a car to drive and has all these pending tickets from the police that he hasnt paid and cant afford to pay.all he does is drink and smoke dope.
anyway in the end after like a month of not seeing his son because he didnt have transport to get to her house they decided that once the baby was 6 weeks old (i think) she would take him to his father's place every sunday for aday.my friend soon regreted this because the father doesnt take care of the boy,he smokes around the baby and doesnt wash his hands after hes been smoking doesnt pay for baby's food and dipers etc like the mum doesnt think hes capable to be a good father figure for the son. she txted him today and told him that shes going to stop taking the baby to him( she didnt want her son growing up like his father) so now the father is txting her back saying that if he doesnt see the boy hes going to kill himself. the mum told me that he always talks like that when they argue(always says hell kill himself)just for attention. she asked me for advice and i told her to ignore the txt and not to txt back. she listen to me and didnt but then he txtd her again and said hes going to do it and wrote her a letter for her to read after hes killed himself.she txtd me and asked me what to do.i told her that if shes sure that she doesnt wnat her baby seeing the father then not to txt back because if she does the father will just try talk her into letin him see the baby etc. she put me in an awkward position and asked me if i was sure it was the right thing to do and i told her its what id do.now im just really scared he might kill himself.i dont want to get blammed for anything.what should i do?should she let him see the baby even though he doesnt have a job doesnt pay for anything because thats abit useless i rkon.what should i say to my friend??i dont wnat to be too late.would he actually kill himself??omg help!!!just anything tell me plz!!1 (link)
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i understand your friend wanting your advice. but it is her baby and she needs to make the decision. tell her what your opinion is. my opinion after being in a relationship like is that the man will do anythign for the attention. people who are going to kill themselves just do it, they hardly ever talk about it. and she needs to do what is best for her baby, she shouldnt put the baby in an environment that is dangerous... as a single mom a know that the safety of the baby is everything and as much as i want my daughter to ba able to see her father i know its not in her best interest
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Well, Ive liked this guy for a really long time (2 and a half years)...and ive been wwaitin a really long time to see if he likes me back because i already told him I liked him.But now i want to forget about him and move on but i cant because i see him everyday. So please help me. (link)
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i understand you wanting to forget him. bit one day you will look back and say goodness i miss those days. cuz as complicated as these days are, when we look back these days right here will be the best days of our lives. so dont worry about forgetting the boy because as sad as your heart feels right now, these are the best days of your life. focus your attentions on something or someone else. get a new hobby (or new crush) or just try and be this boys friend.
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the prom dress im getting is identically designed like eva longoria's dress here:
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/arts/graphics/slideshows/goldenglobes06/globes7.jpg
i have no idea how to do my hair, because this dress is already really busy with the design. the material is charmeuse, like a light satin.
note: i have a slightly round face, so anything face-framing is good. i have medium-brown hair and ill be pretty tan by then.
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pinned up with curled strands hanging down is good, also wearing it down with loose curls is good, maybe a few pretty pins in it, but do not make the curls to tight or you will look like a mushroom head.
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Does Having sex hurt, if you feel uncomfrotable ansering the question you dont have to just tell me that you are uncomfortable. (female, 15) (link)
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the first time hurts but eventually the pain goes away, as long as the guy knows what he is doing. Anal really hurts and unless you do that everynight it hurts everytime. Not to mention if your not ready emotionally it will break your heart when you and your are no longer together. my advice is wait as long as possible
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Ok.. I am new to this thing. So i dont know exactly what Im doing, and I cant believe I am doing this! But I need help. Me and my boyfriend had sex, used a comdom. I am just a couple days later for my period BUT I am having really bad stomach pains, my lower back is killing me, Im having vagina pains, feeling sick in the middle of the day and bad headaches. Could I be pregnant?.. (link)
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there is the possibility that you are pregnant. your cycle could just be changing- with mine i git bad headaches and cramps that feel like contractions- you need to take a pregnancy test even though they are not 100%accurate at least you have an idea
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I've been questioning my gender identity(whether i am male or female)(i'm physically male, 15) I'm wondering how to tell my parents, if i decide I want a sex change. (link)
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you dont tell them because you dont do it your 15 years old you have your hole life ahead of you dontr ruin it by havin a sex change god madev you the way you are for a purpose
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theres this girl that sits next to me in spanish and i think shes hot. i always kindove playfully mess with her and she does it back and gives me that little look with her eyes (the one girls make when they flirt with you). but then I asked for her sn and she said she'd think about it. not in a short kindove mean way or anything its hard to explain how she said it. but anyway i cant figure out mabye did i ask her to soon or mabye she already has a bf and thats why she wont give it to me. i dunno some Help
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HI sweetie,
the girl- if she flirts back- is probably playing hard to get. we do that at times when we like a guy and are not completely sure what we want. just be persistent and flirt with her shell break down
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Ok so my dad started dating this chick and after a couple months she moved in well to make a long story short she moved out and her son was still living with us and is still but they were broke up so..after a while and other stuff i had end up having sex with her son multipule times and me and him are like i dont know what you'd consiter us. But i really love him like alot and i cant stand not being around him but the problem is that he says he has feelings for me but then its like he goes out on the weekends and hooks up with all these chicks and i thinking like is he just using me bcuz im conveniant because i live with him or does he really care about me. Like i asked him i was like are you just using me hes like no and then hes like why are you using me or something...i was like ehh no. But the thing is like when i mention bout the other girls hes like naw your different. I have no clue because i love him but i just dont know what to do because he gets with alot of girls but its not like i cant just not talk to him i mean he lives with me and i love this boy like none other. And its like when im around him and things are going to happen i cant stop myself to say anything i just go for it because i fell so strongly bout him if that makes any sence.Then when i hear hes been talking to some chicks it breaks my heart thinking hes probably trying to fuck them. (link)
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hi honey.
he may be trying to get with you because your convenient but if he really lvoes you then ask him to stop hanging around these other girls. if he doesnt and you feel like you cant trust him then it nay break the realationship-trust me i know- but if you know that you cant trust him then the realationship isnt worth it/ my bf and i broke up less then a week ago and it still hurts to breathe. youll be fine honey but if he is trying to get with other girls he really isnt worth it.
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My best friend told me a secret, and he told me not to tell anybody. It was about his ex. I didn't think it would be a big deal, so I told her, because we are so so so close.
and he got really mad at me.
and I really miss him. We havent spoken since.
what can I do or say to make it up to him?
I know it is my fault and I feel terrible about it. (link)
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hi sweetie,
the first part of this is admitting you were wrong
the next is going to take time. call your friend and tell himthat your sorry, then give it time if he wants your friendship back then hell come back if he doesny want it back then dont worry about it.
good luck anf from now on keep your secrets.
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There is this CUTE guy at my school and his name his Logan. He's a tall, cute, blonde guy that is a Freshman. He's nice, sweet, handsome, and everything what I think is perfect.
If you are experienced with guys that are hardly older than you, maybe you can give a girl a hand.
I'm 14/F (Chinese) and I just want to get some advice how to talk to the guy I really like.
I met him last year, and only been liking him for about 9 months and I hardly can talk to him!!! When I am with my friend and she says Hi Logan, I try to bring up cofidence to talk to him and later, I wish I just said MORE.
Can you help me and what can I tell him so I can figure out if he likes me or not. How can I overcome this fear? I only have 4 more years and things happen quickly. He's going to the homecoming, maybe, and I'm so jealous because I'm not old enough.
THANK YOU AND SO SORRY IT'S SO LONG!! (link)
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Honey,
First, dont spend all of your hish school waiting on one guy to notice you. He prbably will never even know you exist unless you say something to him.And second of all- the only way to ovvercome a fear is to face it. I hope i helped dear good luck with logan
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ok theres this guy, cory, iv always liked/loved we've been through alot togeather he was always there when i needed him we were like best friends, but im afraid that thats all we will ever be, i have a boyfriend (but he dosnt even compare to how much i like cory), and he has a girlfriend and it seems like they love eachother, but sometimes the get into relly bad fights, they date on and off, i think he dersirves better and i think i could be the one that treats him right but i dont want to tell him anything because im afraid that it will ruin our friendship can anyone help me? (link)
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first of all sweetie- you spelled deserves wrong seond of all- if you like someone other then your boyfriend its not fair of you to date him while you have feelings for someone else. and thirdly you have to choose between friendship and romance if you really think this thing with cory will work out and your willing to risk the friendship then go for it. if not then just stay friends but follow your heart its the best advice giver out there
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When a guy gets an erection how much bigger does his penis get? is there any average? my bf is 16
and sometimes he has trouble keeping an erection
after a few minutes he is embarassed about it.
Is there anything i can do to help him? (link)
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be kibd n dontembarass him about it its normal if hes young and nervous what your going to think about him play with his penis a few times so he can figure out how 2 control it
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i am 14. Ok... me and my mom are always fighting. (about the smallest and STUPIDEST things) i know it's because we are so much alike, but i just found out we are moving in a month, my parents said they will take me to my high school if i have a good attitude (that means no fighting).. so i need tips on how to suck up to them and to avoid fighting with her. (link)
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dont suck up but maybe clean up when your mom is out clean up the house some if your mother says somthing and you cant keep it inside tell her calmly hoe you feel
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Here's my problem, I am the youngest of 6. I'm 14 a gurl. (the yongest next to me is 24) I have 2 sisters and 3 brothers and about 1 week ago I found out that my brother is gay. he is almost 30 and the fact that he is gay does not bother me atall but I don't even know what is bothering me. My church does not beleive in being gay or anything. I dn't care what other people think so don't go telling that my church is awful.
i think 1 of my sisters is gay and I just am a stake of shock and don't know what to do. I also have a cousin that is gay (my aunts son) I feel like everything I thought was right and everything I thought I knew is out the window. I don't know what to believe and what not too.
My mother has such weird ideas she doesn't care what ian does but she almost act immbarrissed at the fact that she has a gay kids. I sometimes feel that maybe I am (befroe my bro came out) but I know that I never want to explore that part of me.
really was wondering if I could get some advice from some advicenators that have experience in what I'm dealing with.
I Love my bro and I will never turn against him for what he is but I just feel so confused to what to beleive.
signed,
lost (link)
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you said your a church goin gal so pray the lord will tell you what 2 do
luv your brother for who he is not what he does
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what is an errection??? (link)
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when a guy is sexually turned on his penis gets hard an errection aka a hard on
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I reallllyyyy want to start my own advice column for the kids in my school! My parents don't really think that it is a good idea. I mean, I sort of agree because I'm telling a person what to do with their life and it only takes one wrong piece of advice to ruin a friendship! Please help me with my problem!
signed,
Puzzled (link)
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talk 2 ur princeple or couvselor and ask them. remember 2 respect your parents
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Hey I was wondering because of your advice name that you listen to avril lavgine? I'm just asking out of pure curiososty. (I seem to do that alot) I think avril is THE best singer!
anways just asking to know
kat (link)
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yup u bet she is
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theres this girl at school and i am way to shy to ask her anythin because i dont no wat to say or to ask or anything plz can u help me figure somethin out? (link)
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be yourslef if youj cant be yourself around her shes not worth it. take it from sum1 who learned the hard way
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OK, I'm 13 and I havent started my period yet. Is that normal?? All of my friends have started but me. I dont want to get my period but I was just wondering if something's wrong with me. (link)
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it can be completly normal i had a friend who didnt have hers until she was 18 if your worried talk to your mother/or women figure in your life or ask a doctor. dont be in a hurry swettie i was and now that i have it i HATE it.
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