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I'm Ashley, I'm currently studying nursing in college and hoping to deliver babies one day :) I'm terribly obsessed with my best friend and sister. I've been dating my boyfriend for a few years now and I am busy being 21 and juggling 3 jobs :)

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OK, I just started going out with this guy and for his birthday coming up I got him this book that I know he wants. I don't know what else to get so I was just going to leave it at that. But then the other day he gave me roses and told me that he wanted me to know how much i meant to him, so now i'm trying to think of what i could add to the gift that would say the same thing to him as the flowers did to me, if that makes any sense. :) Anyway, if anyone has any suggestions, please let me know. thanx :)

He seems really into you and a book, that he really wants, is going to mean more to him than a cliche gift =]

Get him a card and write a personal message saying how much he means to you, it'll mean more than any gift you could get him =]

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ok ive asked plenty of questions involving this guy but if u didn't know heres the story between us he is 22 and i am only 16 he likes me i like him but we can't date because of our age and because we don't live that close to each other and we could barely see each other.besides that my sisters jaymie and casey do not want me to see or talk to him.well after awhile of me and him talking he ended of getting a gf that lives in OHIO which is really far away from him and me and him stopped talking because my sisters threatened to tell my parents that i was if we didn't stop talking to each other.me and him have been talking to each other for like a few days again now and i found out him and his girlfriend are broken up but they are still really good friends and they still love each other.he knows how i feel about him he knows i really like him but he says it will be almost impossible because of our age because we don't live that close and because my sisters hate him.he says he still likes me and everything but i don't know what to do i really like him still but im only 16 and it sucks.I really like him and hes really cute to me what should i do? Right now im like trying to get to know him better and try to wait to go out with him until im 18 but i really like him.so any advivce please help also i don't want to wait until im 18 because he he would be 25 when i do i just really want to be with him please help.

I've had a similar problem and trust me, at sixteen, dating a 22 year old may seem really fun but it's hard to make things work.

Besides the age difference, the distance seems to be a problem. It'll make it harder to sneak around behind your family's back and it'll really strain any relationship you guys could have.

As much as you like this guy now, if all of that is real and if he really likes you, you should wait it out till it's legal. (I Know that takes forever.)

And in the meantime, try giving guys your age a chance, I know 16 year olds don't have much to offer but it's worth a shot =]

Good Luck!

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Hey Guys yea i'm Back with the same problem yea that boy again... and this time he likes this other girl I just wanna know whats wrong with me y cant he see me and like me oh and did i mention ive liked this guy for 5 years now!!! so what do i do Plz Help


The Poor Confused Boy Obsessed Girl!!!!!

It's not what's wrong with you! It's what's wrong with him?

Try talking to him about all this!

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you know theres the story where the guy asks yu out anf you guys are automatically dating. well my friend "tea" asked me out just as friend and we began to hold hands and stuff and then after i went home i started to wonder are we going out..?
he acted like we didnt on msn but we talk on the phone for hours and we hugg and hold hands and whatever couples do but we never had the conversation and im too afraid to ask. but i really wanna know. and i really do wanna go out with him.

I had a similar issue, and I think the best thing you can do is after another one of these 'dates', text him or something and be like so where are we? are we friends or more? Tell me how it goes =]

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Okay, so apparently all of the Jonas Brothers (Kevin, Joe, AND Nick) all wear purity rings and vow to be virgins until they are married; however, exactly what religion is/are the Jonas Brothers?

I know some Christians wear purity rings but I'm not sure about other religions or if the Jonas Brothers are just doing it outside of a specific religion. So, do the Jonas Brothers believe in God? If they ARE Christian, could anyone tell me what denomination they are for sure?

Thanks!

Evangelical Christians

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my boyfriend of 2 months is leaving after college starts August 25th for me. I want to give him a gift but I dont know what to give him. It can be either I give it to him before he leaves or put it in his stuff when he leaves that way when he gets to his outta state college he will see/ find it. which sounds like a sweet and good idea.

i already wrote him a note that I will put in his stuff. I have only been with him for 2 months, so scrapbook isn't a good idea because we don't have many pictures taken together. he has pictures on his camera, of me and us.

i've already wrote him poems for our one month. I was thinking about cd, of love songs which I have been working on but I'd like to do more because he will be gone for about a whole year, but we will see each other twice a month and on breaks (christmas/spring)

btw he's 20 im 18.

thank you for all your help everyone!

Try building a bear!

I don't know if you have a build a bear workshop in the area, but you should definitely do that.

Stuffed animals are great going away gifts =]

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my boyfriend is in jail and his bond is $600 . hes been in there for a month now - his parents wont get him out so ive gotta get him out myself .

i want to get a loan but im only 17 ;; ill be 18 in 3 weeks tho . i would ask my mom to get a loan for me and me just pay it back , but she has no job &nd someone told me that you have to have a pay stub or something to show you work ?

i need a way to get money fast !! other than babysitting or working around the house , because my parents dont really have money to give me to work around the house .

Try getting a job and getting payday advances.

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ok, so im "talking" to this guy. lets call him nathan. well, me and nathan have been talking for about 5 months. we always talk about dating, and i give him hints all the time, but he ever actually asks me out. We act like we're dating, but were not, ya know? but i guess what im asking is what are some ways i can get him to ask me out.

ps, i dont ask guys out haha

Just flat out tell him you like him.

He might not be sure what you want, or how you feel.

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i'm either living what 90% of other women on the planet go through, or there's something wrong.

sex is pretty much uncomfortable for me. the first couple of times hurt, as was to be expected, but after that, despite trying out different positions, it still varies between uncomfortable and neutral. no matter how turned on i am when my boyfriend and i start, it always just ends up with me going through the motions and not getting anything out of it.
is it just that the media tries to make you believe that all you need is a dick moving in and out of you and you're set? i know that most women have no idea where their g-spot is or if they even have one, and i guess it's wishful thinking to hope that sex will automatically 'find' it. i have a great sex life when it comes to everything else, but actual intercourse (sorry, i sound like a teacher) is where i draw a blank. is it normal that i feel nothing and should just consider myself lucky that i find all other types of sex so great? or am i pretty much screwed (no pun intended)?

I would spend more time on foreplay. I know you've tried different positions, but maybe try moving around a little bit and don't be afraid to experiment! =]

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Okay so, theres a boy named lets say," Justin", and his best friend;s name is umm, "Nick"...
In the beginning of the year, i liked Nick, and Justin was just weird.
But all summer, i've been talking to Justin and hes been flirting with me and we've been talking about Nick.
I found out, Nick and I have a lot in common, but i dont think he likes me.
But Justin and i get along and he might like me. Somehow, i told him ill only go out with someone if HE makes the first move... so he might do it..
but one more thing. Nick is a virgin, and Justing ISNT.
But we're all only 14.
so should i go out with Justin, or ask him to ask Nick if he likes me?
Justins been telling me a lot how pretty he thinks i am, and i know that means a lot, considering hes the type of guy who only uses hot and sexy.
But Nick is more attractive then Justing.
and they've been best friends since 4th grade, and I NEED HELP!
please help me out and you'll get a high bonus! :))

Well if you like Nick, I think you should try talking to him instead of talking to Justin. I'm kind of assuming Justin not being a virgin is kinda of making you uncomfortable.

I don't know Justin or Nick but I mean if you like Nick, try talking to him a lot more. =]

And no offense but Justin sounds a little bit like a player, so be careful with him.

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do you have to be 18 to get a credit card?
anddd which credit card is the best?

when you get a credit card, do you always have to swipe the card at the store, or can you take like $100 off the card?

You don't have to be 18 to get a checking account, which will give you a debit card. As long as your parents have an account at the same bank and they're willing to be secondaries on the account.

And you can go to the ATM to get money and stuff.

I have CharterOne and it works out okay. I'd avoid American Express and Discover because I know some places don't accept it. Mastercard and Visa are okay.

I would definitely get something with online banking because it helps you avoid overdrawing your account.

But the first step is defnitely talking to your parents about it.

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I was wondering if something could let me know how to download new/different hairstyles for the Sims 2? Thanks :)

Use the sims 2 exchange.

http://thesims2.ea.com/exchange/

=]
You can get tons of other stuff there too!

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i have fantasies of my tennis coach who is about 35.
i'm only 15.
but i have no idea how to not think about it.
i mean hes attractive, but is there anything i can do to stop thinking about him in a sex related way.

I know a lot of my girlfriends and I have had weird fantasies about older guys, or guys we shouldn't have fantasies about. It's normal.

I think as long as you don't act on these fantasies, you'll do fine =]

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ok, so this guy and I have been hanging out for awhile and he had told me that he wanted to kiss me and we did, but it was my first kiss and it was really awkward because I don't really know how... Could anyone give me advice on actually HOW to kiss? Because I really want it to go better next time. Thanx :)

This is probably going to suck to hear...
but you can't get better with words, trust me, you forget everything when you're actually kissing lol

But yeah, I would just make sure your comfortable and don't kiss straight on, like make sure to tilt your head. =]

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Okay, so I don't have a boyfriend nor do I want one, but I want to lose my virginity anyway. Please, don't tell me wait until you're with the one that you love, because I really don't want to.

I don't have any guys that I'm hooking up with at the moment, but I was hooking up with two guys, let's call them N and C, the other night. They all left for basic training. I'm tired of highschool boys (I'm almost a senior in highschool) all of the ones that I know are too immature for me.

Anyway, six months from now one of the guys N (the guy that I really want to do) that I was hooking up is going to be back. I got the other guy C (who I like more as a friend) to give him my address, and we're going to meet up and try things again. I really want to have sex with N, but... I'm really tight.

I know this because C couldn't get it in. Any ideas for becoming a little bit looser? That way, I won't have any problems in the future?

Try getting experience fingering yourself and stuff. And don't necessarily worry about being tight, just make sure you're pretty wet.

Make sure you use a lubricated condom and pounds of extra lube.

Either way it will hurt, but you'll be fine =]

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I'm 16 and I've already failed my on the course driving test twice. I live in Pennsylvania and I was wondering if there is a limit to how many times I can fail. What happens if I fail it a 3rd time? Do I have to get my permit again?

In Illinois, you can fail a million times and nothing happens. I'm not sure but I think PA is the same.

Just get a bunch more practice before your test, and you'll do great =]

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Okay I have windows vista and whenever I try to play the Sims2, it wont work.
Likee after the intro when you put the disk in and the blue screen comes up and its loading the game and its configuring everything.. the game "crashes to my desktop" and UGHH its so friggin annoying!
I have the freaking stupid Norton Security thing but my subscription has been expired for a few months.
Could that have anything to do with it? Because I sooo do not wanna renew my subscription for a freaking one hundred dollars to play a game...

I had a problem similar to this. It could be that the Sims 2 takes up too much of your computers memory, so try to get rid of other big programs.

It could possibly be that you have a low virtual memory.

If you download a lot of things from the exchange or anything, that can crash your game. If that's the case, maybe try uninstalling Sims and reinstalling without downloads.

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