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Q: does fingering hurt if your a virgin?

Ok well I'm not going to say it hurt but I'm also not ganna say it don't hurt. But its will hurt just alittle not realy bad but as you do it it shouldn't hurt only thing you have to worry about realy is sex your first time some people say it don't hurt but 4 me it hurt like hell so yeah hope I help not alittle 2much bye friend

Q: hey my mom said whenever i want to become sexually active she would give be birth control pills does that mean she cares or not?

Yes she cares about you she just wants you to be safe but if she didn't say that it will be like she don't care cuz she'll be giving you that chance of going through the process of haveing a baby so yes I do think she cares about you. I wish my mom would say something like that to me but yeah good luck bye friend.

Q: hey my sister is driving me crazy wat do i do

Well sisters aways mess with you cuz you give them that attention so don't pay any to her when she talks act like she's not there make her feel like she's not there and when she ask for things say no or take a long time to come. So basicly make her feel like every on els don't make her feel special so I hope that helps bye.

Q: I'm a 15-year-old bisexual girl. I am naturally a flirt, but I find myself unsure of flirting with my female friends. All of my close friends know I'm bi, but it's not common knowledge in school (though if anyone asks, I'll tell them). I know my close friends could care less whether I flirt with them or not (or at least pretend not to care) but with girls I don't know as well, I don't want to make them feel uncomfortable. However, most teen girls jokingly flirt with each other A LOT. If they think I'm straight, they wouldn't have a problem with it. However, I feel this might be decieving. Is it wrong to flirt with girls if they don't know I'm bi?

No I don't think its wrong cuz its pretty noticedable that your coming on to them and from that they should know your bi. So yeah now if you weren't bi and you flirt with someone then that will be wrong so feel free to show your true color and even if the other persons not bi so you are right so yeah hope I helped some bye friend.

Q: my armpit hair grows back very quickly after i shave. about a day. is there a way to prevent this from happening

A way you can stop this by waxing it and it might be a little painfull but when you wax it pull out your hair from the roots and your hair has to go throgh the making the root and that's why people wax cuz it don't grow back as fast. Or you can just keep shaving every day hope something works bye friend.

Q: At first i was really itchy in my vaginal area now i have a white cottage cheese lookin discharge and it feels like i have a few little bitty balls inside i have been treating myself with a yeast infection over the counter medicine can someone please tell me what i may have or am i treating this right because i am totally freaking out.

Ok so the white stuff that is coming out is sometmes normal but if its not realy creamy and its more like chunck and it have an weird smell to it then you should see a doctor and I'm sorry that's all I can help you with but hope every things ok with you bye friend

Q: There's this girl who really likes me. I'm not sure if she wants a serious relationship or just a sexual relationship, but I'm sure she wouldn't mind any of these. I'm not sure I want a serious relationship with her but I wont mind having just a sexual relationship with her. But then she's got a very bad breath so bad it will even turn me off sexually and I don't think she knows this. How can i make her realize she has a bad breath?

You can offer her gum or a mint at times and it will be a slick way to get her to think you think her breath stinks. Or you can just tell her if your strong enough. I don't think she will mind or anything cuz I know if my breath stunk and I was talking to someone I like I will like to know so I can fix the problem so just try one. Good luck friend bye.

Q: Is it possible that a girl will fall inlove easily with any company or guy when they lose someone who they loved so so much?

I never heard of it that way but it was always said that it will be hard to fall in love with a guy after you brook up with someone you cared or really loved a lot because your trust and other good things in relationships don't want to go throw that course again. But I did it so yes its possible

Q: ok well, my myspace, facebook, and even the page i am on right now just wont show color. or on the IMing thing, it woult sho emoticons or smiley faces. i dont know why my internet is like this but its driving me nuts. someone please tell me how to fix it!

I'm not sure but did you try hitting the butten to set thing try that it should say something about setting smiles and color that's all I can help you with and hope things get better 4 you

Q: Ok so I like this guy, I sit in the middle of him and his friend in class.
One day in class his friend and him always scoots super close to me, it's really weird so I always push them both away. Another day the guy I like was like "are u cheating on me with my friends?" it was really random because we weren't going out, so I just laughed and said no. He always waves hi to me in different classes and I just smile and wave hi back, he never talked to me before I sat by him. His friends say hi to me now also.
He always takes my pencils and one day he took my notebook and so as I was pulling it away he was like " I have a crush on u." but I didn't know if he was joking or not.
Does he like me?

I think from the sound of it he likes you. So if you rea you can also show him you like him by flurting and that will get him to ask you out so try it and good luck friend.

Q: So my grandparents and my family found a litter of lab puppies. We are both getting two. My aunt picked out all of our dogs we are all getting. My grandma and grandpa are getting 2 Black Lab GIRLS and we are getting 2 Yellow Lab BOYS. i need good names for girls or boys!!! ASAP! Thanks so much!!! (mostly boys would help the most)

Ok so a way to train puppies the fastest way is to spanck them when they use it in the house. Next is afther you spanck them put them out side for an hour or 2. The best thing to spanck them with is a newspaper, cuz they don't like the noise of it so hope that help a little.

Q: i slouch a lot, leaving two lines on my stomach. since its almost bathing suit weather, i don't want these stupid lines there anymore.

(picture --> http://tinypic.com/r/301n3ti/5 , they're a LOT more noticeable in person lol)

so i was wondering if there's any lotion or anything that can make these less noticeable? im trying to stop slouching, but until then....? haha thanks.

UMM you should try not slouching and yeah I seen the picture and you are a nice size its not like your over wieght. You can also try taning that might help a little and just try to stop and it will proble get less notice-able good luck friend from me......CLN bye.

Q: Hi, im 15/f and i live in new york. im starting to feel like im unemployable. I have applied to around 20/30 stores/shops/restaurants/malls/kids party places in the past 2 years and every time they tell me im sorry, but were not hiring anymore. and then a week later i see someone new working there. Just last week i applied to a pizza place and they said theyd call me. a girl in my grade whos YOUNGER than me with no experience got hired the day she applied. what can i do? i feel like no one wants to hire me, and i dont know why. I know most people hire at 16, btu a lot of my friends who are 15 already have jobs and ive asked them to try to get me a job and no one can seem to. I just dont understand because im a good student, dedicated, and i want to work

Well hay to get-go my lil sis is 15 and she works in a pet day care. She gets payed enough for a kid and she found out about it from me. How I knew it by the internet a went to " teenjobs.com" and they will let you know about jobs in your aera and how much they pay and ages they excep. Good luck friend from C.L.N that's me bye

Q: okay so i reallllyyyy like this guy. His best friend told me once earlier this year that he liked me b4 and after his last girlfriend. im not sure if he still like me though. B.T.W. one of my friends likes him to. i have known him longer and everything and she even said i deserve him. but i always get shy around him and think im not cool enough. What should i do? how can i make him like me more? What are some things i can do for this? like flirting? What kind of flirting like how? plzzz help asap!!! thankzzzzz and also, he already knows i like him soooo....yeahhh
thanks!!!
13/f

So a way to get him to like you more is to make him notice you more like smile at him every now-and-then. Make sure your friend know that he like you and a real friend won't get mad at the fact that you want to be happy right. Next don't start the flirt with him not too much you know give him a different conection when you talk and flip your hair. Don't come off to heavy cuz your young and if he likes you it should be easy to get him ggod luck from me............... C.L.N.

Q: 18/male
I don't mean my own life as in kill myself, but just hate the fact that we exist. I don't really know why i feel this way, but i've felt myself be come more distant and generally happier if nobody is around and i am alone... I had become preoccupied with thoughts on existence and i figured its a fucked up joke. I also started cutting myself for what seems to me to be for no real reason. I never really feel connected to anyone and even though my family loves me i feel incapable of loving them back. Also i find everything we do in life ironic and stupid... am i insane?...Is this normal for a teen(except the cutting part)?

Sometimes I feel like I hate life but I come to know that its something that makes me like that at that point so is it something that make you feel that way . Just think about it k and you will come to an answer.

Q: I recently have been working once a week as a stripper and over the past 3 months have given about a blowjob a week without protection and spat it out. I am now totally freaked out about what I may have picked up re HIV and STDS. I went for a full HIV and STD test tuesday week ago and all was clear. I will never do this again however I am now distraught and I want to know what to do. What is the window period? What could I have picked up? When can I test again? I am a 32 year old female. I am from Souhth Africa.

If you just tested for STDs and it came clear then your good but can take about six mounths to show up so you should go get checked again after a while good luck.

Q: how do i stop from bitting his lip when we kiss

If you want to stop jus try when you kiss to realy focus on not bitting his lips but most guys lik3 when you do that but if you wants you to stop that's different you should jus try realy hard

Q: I'm 16/f/Australia.
I have a boyfriend, who's leaving to Texas for 2 years, and he said he's going to give me something so I would remember him when he's gone.

My question is, I want to give him something too, but I'm not sure what would be a very memorable gift. I don't want to give him something that he won't treasure, and could easily be shoved to the end of the closet.

So help.. What should I get him that would help him remember me when he's there?

A good gift to give a person who is going away for a long amount of time will be something that will make that person laugh and feel happy when they think about you. That will also have them think about the times you spent togerther good luck from me...........C.L.N

Q: 14-female-uk

so i havnt had my first kiss yet but when i do and not just kiss i mean get into them (snog) do you use tounges ?

Well when you kiss and get into it you can ues toung or you realy don't have to depending on who you are.

Q: My boyfriend broke up with me..but i want to hear some stories from girls who got dumped and their ex boyfriend ended up crawling back to them.I treated my boyfriend SOOOOO well and now that we aren't going out,ive been seeing him and talking to him less and he keeps asking for so many favors and i keep blowing him off.We had a good relationship,and he even admitted that so he didnt really have a real reason to break up with me..his reason was that "he was sick of me" since we were together alot.I really still like him so much and I want to know stories where girls had their ex boyfriends come back to them so i can still have hope! What should i do?

Well I've been with this one guy for about 3 months then he ended up dumping me cuz I was too sweet and how I'm like his sis. So 4-5 weeks after he tells me there is no one like me as sweet as me and who can love him better so now he wants me back and I got someone who treats me way better and he tells me now he made a mistake and he want me but I say no cuz I could do way better so yeah that's it. Bye

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