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ok see around sept i tried datin my best friend who happened to be a guy. well we dated and like we were in love with each other so much. but i moved and we both broke up and moved on. but the whole time i was gone we both had feelings for each other still. well i move back and everytime i see him he always touches me and all that. but he got out of a bad relationship and i feel im just a rebound to him. i don't know but i took his virginity... and i don't know he says he wants to date me again but i don't think i could...what do you think i should do...i really dont think he likes me cause he likes to many people..hes always over everyone..

Tell him that you are the only one you want him to have feelings for. don't date someone if they like 349448487 other people.
it wont work. especially if they are the flirty type of people.
i think you should talk to him about it.
find out what he wants with you, if its the same thing he wants from the other people he likes. but if you want to be with him take a chance.

good luck.

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I am having so many problems with my recent breakup! I can't stop wanting him and thinking of him! I need him!
People say go out and live your life and flirt...but I just can't flirt. I never could!
I don't want to cry anymore and I want someone to make me feel better!

i just recently broke up with my boyfriend for three years.
i have known him for seven.
yeah, i miss him. but i am over him. i thought of it non stop for two weeks regretting it.
yeah, it sucks being single. but you will start liking not having to answer to someone, or waiting by the phone to get a phone call.

the first weeks are the hardest.
youll get through it.
good luck.

*message me if you need anymore help.

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okay. long story. okay. so yesterday "thursday" some kids dared me and this girl to kiss. so we did. and so someone convinced me to tell my b/f. and so did. and he got really pissed. but he "said" he got over it and he wasn't pissed anymore [[yesterday]] so today, i went to this thing after school. and so i got these 3 guys to call him and say "dude, your girlfriend is a really good kisser" and hang up. but i NEVER made out with any of them. and he got really mad. and he left a comment on my profile. it says. "I will never trust you again.You broke my heart.I trusted you with everything now that is shattered.you meant everything to me now you mean nothing i will remember you but hope i will forget.you were my life,but thats now over. I HATE YOU" i don't know if he means it. and i don't feel bad for getting them to call him. but i do feel a little guilty because i hurt him. but i don't really care about him. or i don't want to. because everyone i've ever dared to love has gone. and. i just need to know if i should care. i mean. we've been through alot. and i do think i love him. but i don't want to. i mean. i care. but. what should i do. i don't wanna loose him. i really don't. i can't afford to. i mean. he's been there for me through all my bullshit. and i think i hurt him really badly. and. i really just need to know what to do.
i don't know what to do without him. and i guess i do care. but i dont want to [[sorry for the repitition]] please help. everytime me and him have gotten in a huge fight i started cutting again or i've attempted suicide. i really need him in my life. i can't lose him.

First off, Yes, he meant what he said .
Yes, he does have a reason to be upset with you.
Yes, you did do something stupid.
But there is a chance he might want to fix things.
Cheating is cheating no matter what , doesn't matter if you kiss a girl and you are straight. I really think you should explain everything you are feeling to him, and try to do everything in your power to get him back.
If you don't win him back over there is nothing you can do you can't make someone love you back.
so if all else fails you are going to have to move on . i know its hard but there will be someone else.
having a fresh new relationship might be the best thing right now.

good luck.
message me if you need to talk about anything.

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My boyfriend had been living at my house for almost a month. Everything was going great, he was getting along really well with my siblings and parents and everything. On Saturday my dad came home early from work and walked in on me and my boyfriend having sex. My dad got really angry and said "YOU CAN LEAVE NOW!" to my boyfriend and saying things like "HE'S NOT LEAVING FAST ENOUGH!" to me. I can understand how walking in on us having sex would upset him a lot and I understand that it's his house and everything and that we were being disrespectful and all, but at this point he still won't let my boyfriend back in the house and things are still really awkward between all of us. This SUCKS. I really miss my boyfriend living with me and we don't know how to make it right with my dad. What should I do? HELP!

That really does suck.
I think all you can do is let some time pass. I think that whole situation was awkward. If you aren't patient, pull your dad aside and tell him that it was a mistake and how disrespectful it was and ask him how you can earn his trust back so that you can see your boyfriend again.

good luck.

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alright so im trying out for my highschool team (im a freshman) for softball. Any good tips to give me? Its my second time ever trying out for a school sport, and i really want it. badly.

uh, if you really want to be on the softball team.
brush up on your skills, and practice skills with friends that are interested in softball too. it will give you quality time with a friend and help you make the softball team.

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well theres this boy..
hes so popular and cute
btw: im in 7th grade[13] hes in eight[14?]
and well he never talked to me.
it doesnt suprise me cuz i havent had a boy notice me in a while. so why would the most popular boy notice?
well i went to my freinds house and he lives right down the street so...
we rode down there.
he was beign really nice.
and now in the hallways he says hi to me and stuff:)
and his friends are always askin if i like him or think hes hott. does that mean anything?

usually if his friends are asking if you like him , that means he likes you . unless, you act like you like him and they are just being nosy.
if you think you are going to be interested in him, start talking to him , something great might turn out.

enjoy yourself.
good luck.

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Okkay, Im going to name some people and descibe them and I would really appreciate it if you would tell me which person you think is better.

Person A - He has his own car & its really nice. He's super sweet, He is understanding, he is straight forward, He calls, He invites me places, he likes to hang out, he really fun to hang out with, he doesnt have anything against me and he likes me for me. & He is on the baseball team.

Person B- I just met him but he's really sweet and cute. My friend said that we would look cute together but there wouldnt be alot of communication because he is shy, I dont think he is shy, He has his own truck and he is fun to hang out with, he is atheletic.

Person C- I really just met him like literally, I dont really like him like him, but he's cool. He also has his own car. He's cute. Right now there isnt much to him that I know of, because I just met him.

Anyways, im sure some people are going to be like well you just met them or something like that, I dont care what yall say, just give me yalls input :) Thankss.

i think person a sounds like you really know him.

person b you wont have a relationship that will go anywhere if you can't talk to him.

person c could be another good choice if you give it time.

good luck.

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