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sara. 19. oh. i'm disappointing. most mornings i don't want to wake up, but it happens eventually. i love to sleep. i usually never remember my dreams, although i try to. hopeless romantic and i hate it. i never know what i want. i'm not satisfied. i'm a bitch to my parents. i say that i hate them often. i don't. i'm a brat. my family is the best there is. i regret, often. i love music. who doesnt though? i appreciate it. i never want to grow up. the fact that i can't help this scares the fuck out of me. i believe in god. i'm not christian even though you will see me fondly wearing a cross. i don't do drugs. i don't drink. although i probably will as soon as i hit 21. i play the guitar. i wish i could play the drums and the keyboard. designing things is fun. i try and give good advice. ask me anything. i will try and help. i like helping people. i love you all. xxx

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I'm 18, and wil vote in the upcoming election. I understand that it's important to be educated on what each candidate stands for and everything, so I need help finding this out. I've Googled it, but there are SO many websites and none of them really "sum up" each cadidate, they only compare them. So anyone know of a good website where I can read summaries of what they stand for and all that?

you don't want biased crap. i'd say your best bet is: http://www.barackobama.com/index.php
and http://www.johnmccain.com/Undecided/WhyMcCain.htm

VOTEHOPE!

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For school im doing a project on the tenth amendment. i live in north carolina, and my teacher told me to do a gay marriage for my project. but i dont understand why?
so can you please tell me why she wants me to do a gay marriage, and what the 10 amendment actually states in simple terms.
thank you very much


"The powers not delegated to the United States by the Constitution, nor prohibited by it to the states, are reserved to the states respectively, or to the people.

The governmental powers not listed in the Constitution for the national government are powers that the states, or the people of those states, can have.

Examples: The states determine the rules for marriages, divorces, driving licenses, voting, state taxes, job and school requirements, rules for police and fire departments, and many more.


States regulate many of our rights, not the national government.

The national government does not control these areas because they are not mentioned in the Constitution, and so they are under the control of the states.""

link:: http://score.rims.k12.ca.us/score_lessons/bill_of_rights/media/ten.htm


so basically those laws that are not the responsibility of the national government are the states responsibility. there are different laws in different states concerning gay marriage.
good luck.. :D

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I need a cute blue anchor, girly tattoo.
I'm getting my second tattoo here soon, and I can't find what I want.
I want a blue Anchor, maybe a little something more, on my foot. About a inch or a inch 1/2 big.
Plz help.

pictures

helloo. i found one that was really neat here :: http://www.shirecafe.com/tatoo-anchor-O.jpg
and i also photoshopped a few images you might like.. might not..
anyway

http://i33.photobucket.com/albums/d91/andwatchitbreak/Untitled-2copy.jpg

i can make you another probably.. if you describe what you want more maybe i could draw it for you.. contact me if you need more help
:D good luck
-sara

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I really want to learn how to play the guitar; however, I am a total beginner and I have no idea to look for when purchasing a guitar. I need some advice on where to begin!

Since I am just learning how to play, which guitar is best to begin on: acoustic or electric?

How much should I expect to spend on a good guitar for beginners? How long should a guitar last me? A lifetime? A couple of years?

I have seen some cool brands called Gibson, Ibanez, Fender, and Peavey. Which brand is best to start on though? I know the model or style might vary according to what stage you are in playing so any information on finding the right guitar for me is appreciated.

I want to end up playing some Jonas Brothers songs. I really love the Jonas Brothers and I think they have great music. The Jonas Brothers' songs don't sound too difficult to learn, I think, but I have no idea where to start. I know I need to look for guitar tabs for the Jonas Brothers but I don't know where I buy guitar tabs at or where to find guitar tabs online! If anyone could direct me to that as well, I would be thrilled.

As a note, I do plan on basically teaching myself how to play. My best friend plays a little bit and she has agreed to help me start out since she taught herself how to play guitar.

Any and all information is welcome!

first of all don't buy a guitar out of a box. they're usually shit. if anyone who knows about guitars can come with you to buy it, take them with you. a good guitar should last a lifetime, unfortunately they can be expensive. if you can find a NICE used guitar you can really get a deal. my guitar was $80 amazingly, but i doubt youll find one that cheap. just find a guitar that feels right, and that isn't hard to play. don't buy the first one you pick up, look at several.

http://www.ultimate-guitar.com/

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I have had alot of ups and downs in my life so I have alot of depressing music, well now everything seems to be going right and Id like some happy songs. Something like Innocence by Avril Lavigne etc. I like acoustic, rock/punk/metal basically anything but rap and country. For some more help on what im looking for:

anything about everything being perfect
anything about a crush/new guy
anything about living life
or having amazing friends :)

Thank you
:)

well. happy songs. its so hard to think of which is why i'm going to just search my itunes haha. anyway. you sound like you like the same music as i do..
remember to breath and hands down by dashboard confessionals
stars by au revior simone
always by blink 182
brightest by copeland
passanger seat by death cab for cutie
hold me tight and it won't be long by the beatles, or (if your looking for a newer version) evan rachel wood
hey julie by fountains of wayne
plastic stars by freezepop
boats and birds by gregory and the hawk
the way i am by ingrid michaelson
whats simple is true by jewel
all my loving, something, and i've just seen a face by the beatles or (again new versions) jim sturgess
birds by kate nash
unintended by muse
quit your life by mxpx
the glory of love and eyesore by new found glory
misery buisness, my heart, and crushcrushcrush by paramore
sunrise highway by straylight run
earthquake and smother me by the used
tonight you belong to me by steve martin and bernadette peters
its true that we love one another by the white stripes
hey darlin' and waters edge by 1997
:D there ya go
happy listening
-sara

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1. When my boyfriend sucks on my nipples, it really tickles, it does not feel good at all; not even when he plays with them with his fingers or anything, does anyone else experience this? I love the feeling where he would be kissing them and everything, but it just tickles a lot (I can't stand it.)

2. My vagina kind of smells. I wash down there and everything, but my whole life it just naturally smells bad, is there anyway I can fix this without douching or using feminine spray? (Would it help if I used hand soap down there) or does every girl just naturally smell bad, because in the past when I have given handjobs and stuff, penises have no scent, so is it just me or is it every girl that has some sort of scent?

maybe he is being too gentle. i get that tickly feeling when my bf is too gentle. its annoying to say the least.
you should definately WASH down there. but i wouldn't douche. thats just not good for you. and it makes it harder for the gyno to see if anything is wrong, because you wash away good bacteria too. so wash but don't wash inside. it won't smell like daisys but it also won't smell too nasty. there are also feminine wipes i think. that may help if your overly smelly. if the smell is a problem, you should see your gynocologist.
good luck :D

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i missed the teen choice awards is there anywhere i can see them online or anywhere let me know

YOUTUBE!
http://www.youtube.com/user/CyrusVirusxo
this person has the whole thing on their youtube!

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my teacher for english wants my paper to be written with 1 inch margins all around how do i do that?

Using microsoft word go to the menu bar and click FILE then click PAGE SETUP and change top, left, right and bottom margins to 1"

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i really like my boyfriend and whenever we make out i get really wet...like we're not even doing anything sexual but i get so wet and i dont really like it lol im afraid if we actually do do something i'll like squirt (ew) is it normal for this? oh and we've only been together for a few weeks so is it because its a new relationship? thanks

usually when me boyfriend and i are really into the makeout session i get wet too, but it doesn't squirt out. some girls do cum when orgasming, but i don't know if they squirt? or not. i don't. but if your not comfortable enough with the guy knowing your sexual habits you shouldn't be doing stuff with him. and i doubt he would think it was weird or something. it might even turn him on. if your worried about being uncomfortably wet and your not planning on doing anything, wear a liner. :)

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http://i138.photobucket.com/albums/q262/prescribed-pills/robinshirt.jpg

From an episode of How I Met Your Mother. I've already tried SeenOn. Any idea where it's from, or where I can find out? Thanks so much in advance!

i'm not sure about the exact shirt (if you want that particular one, i would try ebay) but macy's had some that were the same style and had simalar patters, and they were only four dollars, but i think they were on clearance, so i'm not sure if they still have them. you could find out what kind of shirt it is and google it. anyway good luck :)

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I am 16 and got braces in June, just on my lower teeth. I have had a problem with one of my lower adult teeth not coming in... it's been about 2 years waiting for it to come up on its own and its still way under the gum. I'm sick of waiting and my mom talked to my orthodontist about an oral surgery procedure he had previously discussed. We will be looking further into it and, hopefully, having it done so my braces can be off sooner!
All I know right now of the procedure is that the tooth would be taken up from under the gum (unless it is fused to the bone... ick) and then a bracket would be put on it.

If anyone has any experience with something like this or has a career in this field, could you tell me what to expect? Will I be knocked out for the surgery? Will they inject something in my veins... because that makes me freak out..? How long is the recovery period? How long do you think braces would be needed afterwards? My teeth are already straight, but that one tooth is stuck under.

Thanks.

i actually just had oral surgery for almost the same exact reason. weirdd. anyway, my tooth is on the top. they did give me an iv and put me to sleep,however they gave me a drug before that to help me relax and actually wanted to give me MORE before the iv but i was relaxed enough. i know its scary but its not as bad as you think. they exposed my tooth and attatched a chain to it now i just wait for it to be pulled down. i really wasn't in all that much pain either, but they did give me medicine for the pain. i only took three.
also its v. rare for it to be fused to bone. your doc will probably tell you more about the situation. the recovery should just be a few days but you might be put on a soft diet for awhile. i'm not sure about how long the braces will be on, as i'm still waiting myself. good luck :D smile pretty. -sara/19

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Well...

My boyfriend and I had unprotected sex, However I am on the Marena IUD "form of birth control" 99 percent effective. During sex I came and he didn't I was just wondering if it was still possible to become pregnant.


Thank you

BahaiMa22

i would say there is a VERY slim chance of becoming pregnant due to pre-cum. but since your on birth control i wouldn't worry much, when you miss your period you should start to worry.!

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17/f... senior in september.
For any of you who live in NY or might not, i desire to go to SUNY Downstate Medical Center, as a college choice. problem is, i dont know how im going to pay tuition.. what grades i might need.. SAT scores i might need.. because apparently this school is a little difficult to get in.. does anyone know where i can get more info? the website doesnt give me much info.. perhaps any of you in college who pay your own tuition can give me some guidance? thanks, its really appreciated!!

collegeboard.com may have some information but you have to sign up. it is free. you should talk to your high school councilor and even visit the campus. google the school and see what comes up or google college requirements. good luck to you next year and in college.

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i requested you..
=)

i knoo

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ok i been going out wit my boyfriend for a yr and 2 months.
but now he left to the dominican republic..nd everytime i call him he is never there.i dont know what to think,sometimes i think that he is just cheeting on me.because his brother got a myspace and he cheks it every 4 days,then why cant my boyfriend do that and ask why did i called or something..?
omg im confuse nd sad please give me some really good advice,thank you

so you are in a long distance relationship? i'm assuming he just left. long distance relationships are really hard work. have you confronted your boyfriend about why he never calls or wants you to call. if he is asking you why you called that is definately weird and suspicious. do you have trust issues at all? if someone has betrayed your trust in the past or cheated on you or something that may be effecting the relationship with your current boyfriend. it definately sounds like hes not paying you enough attention. so tell him how you feel and try and get an honest answer out of him. but don't be like "OMG YOUR CHEATING ON ME" because then he will probably just blow you off and call you a psycho bitch, and thats never good lol. just tell him you feel neglected and a good boyfriend would want to talk to his girl. and if he doesn't treat you right your gone. so he better treat you right. :/ i hope i somewhat answered your question if you want to talk more messege me here, email me: lostinmyundefinedsoul@yahoo.com or hit me up on myspace: myspace.com/xxxxxxxxxlostxxxxxxxxx

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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 months now. And i love him to death. He just does so many things that upset me. I went on vacation and he went to the club, when he knows how i feel about that. He'll invite me over then drive his friends around untill 4:00 in the morning. He barelly ever says nice things about me or to me, but he comments on every other girl. He wont talk to me when im trying to have a serious conversation. He never calls me back when he says hes going too. But.. He does things i like. He can make me smile when im sad, i love the way he holds me, and watches movies with me. I love how he cute he is. But honestly i dont think im happy with him. I know i have to do whats best for me. But i really do love him and i cant let him go. What do i do. Please help me.

if he isn't capable of listening to what you have to say and continues to act like this you Should definately break up with him. in the end the decision is yours. he should be treating you like a princess and hes not. so tell him your dissapointed in the way he is acting and see if his attitude changes. there ARE ups and downs to every relationship, but it sounds to me like its mostly downs.. its hard to let someone go if your really love them, just take some time and think about what you want.

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I'm going into my junior year this fall, and I'm nervous. I heard it's one of the most important, yet the most hard year in high school.

I'm also going to be getting my permit AND my job in October. I need a job simply because I'm BROKE.

I need study tips, any tips for balancing time, and any other advice for my junior year.

Also, should I be looking into college? I want to be a vet, so should I also be doing anything else? (Volunteering, etc.)

for me. junior year was hard, and senior year was harder. and i didn't see it coming. everyone said that senior year would be easy. i think it was so hard because 1 i was expecting it to be easy and 2 i had no idea what to think about college. it's going to be a lot harder to manage your time with a job so just be committed to your schoolwork, but don't get too stressed out. remind yourself that its not the worst thing that could happen to you to not get an A on your research paper. you don't have to know EXACTLY what you want to do in your life because there is so much time. Most college students switch their majors at least once if not twice and the undecided catagory of students is the largest. However since you know you want to be a vet you don't have to worry much about this. find out which school has the best programs in that field. think about if you want to live in a dorm, at home, or a million miles away. Volunteering is always a great way to spend your time, and i'm pretty sure most colleges like that. above all don't get too stressed or you can lose it. Good luck :)

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So I think I am depressed but I have never been to a doctor to get help or anything. Usually I just hide all my emotions in and then when Im riding my horses I will take my anger out and use that as stress releif. But latley that has not been enough. Earlier this year I was un happy with my body image so I turned to bilimia to make myself thinner, that helped me feel better about myself until I started passing out at gymnastics practices, I was able to overcome this on my own and not have to tell anyone. I thought I was doing better but sense summer has been here I have been a weck, my anger is taking over me and I have been physically hurting myself and I just try and stay away from people because I feel as if people are judging me and are annoyed by me. I fight with my family all the time, except my older brother who no longer lives with me, I have an older sister and my parents idolize her they think she is just perfect she, has all the friends, good in school, never lets anything affect her, Im not as good in school I have problems focusing and I struggle with school, my parents beleive that because my sister is cappable in getting good grades and scholerships that I should be able to do the same and I am just not trying, I also have many problems at school socially I try and get involved but I feel so uncomfertable I dont have any true friends when we have to pair up in groups I am always the last one or the one left out of groups.... I dont go to the school district that I live in but the school district I live in that is the school I want to go to I have friends there from sports and 4-H but my mom does not want me to attend there because she thinks that it will be the same for me there that it is in my school now, school is starting soon and I think that if I have to go back to my original school I might blow up and just not be able to take it anymore. When my family was on vacation, my sister said a little thing that made me explode so I didnt want to eat dinner with the family so i could cool down but my dad ended up not letting me then my dad and I ended up in a physical fight where my mom and sister had to break us up, I cracked on my parents and tried to kill myself that was the first wake up call to them but they still dont get it they think it was just one bad day, and they dont know how I truely feel, and how sad and lonely I really am I need help because Im not sure how much longer I can take it.

You have to tell your family how you feel. which is one of the hardest things ever. tell them how you feel like you aren't as good as your sister and you don't have many friends, tell them what is bothering you is the way your life is going not the way the day is going. i hope they can understand the pressure they put on you and how bad you feel. it makes me sad to think that people outcast people like you and i. its not like we WANT to be depressed. you should get help. if you ever want to talk about anything my email is lostinmyundefinedsoul@yahoo.com and my myspace page is myspace.com/xxxxxxxxxlostxxxxxxxxx
good luck to you. i hope that i helped some. :/

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I'm in the mood to download some new music, so I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions. I'm the mood for some good alternative/electronica/dance type music. Here's some bands along the lines of what I'm looking for:

-Tokyo Police Club
-LCD Soundsystem
-The Ting-Tings
-Be Your Own Pet
-Hyper Crush
-The Bravery


...anything along those lines or any music you'd like to suggest is fine.

Thanks! =)

theres this great website called pandora where you put in a few artists that you like and it plays first a song by one of those artists and then more songs that are similar to the artists you like! its pretty sweet

http://www.pandora.com/

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I'm looking for some good bands. I'm into stuff like Secondhand Serenade, Blue November, The Used, Dashboard Confessional...stuff like that, you know? I'd like as many as you can come up with, seriously. =) Thanks!

Weezer (Alternative)
Blink-182 (Pop-Punk)
AFI (Punk)
Alkaline Trio (Alternative/Punk Rock)
The Almost (Pop-Rock)
Andrew WK (Rock)
The Anniversary
Anti-Flag (Punk/Alternative)
Ben Kweller
Boxcar Racer (Pop-Rock)
Brand New (alternative/emo)
Bright Eyes (indie/folk/alt rock)
Copeland
Death Cab for Cutie
Flyleaf (Rock)
Fountains of Wayne (Alternative)
Good Charlotte (Pop-Punk)
Green Day (Alternative/Pop-Punk)
Hot Water Music (Alt-Rock/Punk)
Jimmy Eat World (Popular Alternative)
Kate Nash (Indie/Pop)
The Killers (Post-Punk/Alternative)
Mest (Alternative)
Metric (Indie)
Muse
My Chemical Romance (Pop-Rock)
New Found Glory (Pop-Punk)
Nine Inch Nails (Alternative)
Nirvana (Grunge/Punk)
NOFX (Punk Rock)
Paramore (Pop-Rock)
Reggie and the full effect (Rock)
Taking back sunday (Alternative/Rock/Emo)
The White Stripes (Alternative)
1997
MxPx (Pop-Punk)



OR you can go to http://www.pandora.com/
Its this great website called pandora where you put in a few artists that you like and it plays first a song by one of those artists and then more songs that are similar to the artists you like! its pretty sweet

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