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Q: i'm 14, female, and REALLY into musical theater. i've been dancing since kindergarten, and i started acting classes in 5th grade. i've played the violin since 1st grade and i'm really into theater.

I hope you get in and it sounds like you have a great shot, but NEVER get your heart set on anything that isn't a sure thing. If you get your hopes up and you don't get in, you'll be crushed. Wait it out and try to keep your mind away from how great the school is until you get your acceptance.

I wish you all the best!

Q: Let me start off by saying that it took a lot of courage to finally ask you guys advice on this matter. So I would appreciate it if you didn't judge to hard.

Well, I always found the disease schizophrenia fascinating. I've done quite a bit of research. And well lately I've been wishing that it could plague me. I just find it so mysterious and interesting. I'm pretty sure this is not normal. And I was wondering what I could do about this?

It's not really just this one disease but others that disconnect you from reality. But schizophrenia is the one I really keep thinking about. I just find our reality boring and uninteresting so seeing the world differently would be 'fun'?

This is something I can't just stop thinking about as it has already contaminated my thoughts.

I realize that if I was a person with schizophrenia I would think totally opposite but as I am not one with such disease I don't.

I've tried to talk about this with an adult before and it was just brief and never spoken of again. And I would like to not bring it up again.

And I am only a fourteen year old female.

I tried to sum this up the best I could.. So if you have any other questions I will answer them.

You know a lot of schizophrenics commit suicide because the disease is so terrible. The fact that you want to be like them is extremely insulting. Stop thinking like this and don't bring it up with anyone. You're a naive 14 year old girl.

Q: what are some fun LA restaurants that are trendy and unique?

This blog entry does a terrific job at laying out some of the best LA restaurants for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.

http://cupcakesandcashmere.com/guide-to-la-part-1/

Q: I have a few questions about my new camera my friend let me have.

It is a Canon SD1100IS and it's blue.

Everytime I turn it on, it says "Change the battery pack" Some other friend told me that you don't need to change the battery, you just need to charge it. Is that right?

My questions are:
- Does it charge by USB or an actually battery charger?
- And if it needs a battery charger, how much do they cost?

I have the Canon SD1100 Powershot, so I can answer these questions.

Your friend is right, you only need to recharge the battery and it will be working fine again.

It requires an actual battery charger that you plug into the wall, so you will need to buy that if your friend didn't give it to you.

The battery charger is usually priced at around $15.

Good Luck :)

Q: what flat iron do you reccomend?

I swear by Corioliss. I straighten my hair nearly everyday without any protetive sprays and it has yet to become fried or dried out. It also makes your hair extremely soft and silky. It is the best straightener out there even better than the CHI (if you read the CHI's reviews, EVERYONE complains about it damaging their hair). It also lasts for an extremely long time. I got mine over two years ago and it is still working perfectly! I HIGHLY recommend corioliss!

http://www.corioliss.com/

Q: Right now I use garnier fructis and sometimes herbal essences lines of shampoos and conditioners. I pay about $3-4 a bottle for them, and I was just wondering if anyone uses the really expensive salon brands of shampoos and conditioners (that cost like ~$20 a bottle) notices a big difference between the cheap and expensive shampoos/conditioners?
I have wavy hair and i usually just scrunch it a little to give it a tousled look. Do the expensive brands (like maybe bedhead?) make your hair shinier or less frizzy than the cheap brands? Thanks.

I used to use Suave hair products years ago, but I switched to Tre Semme because a friend said that it was good. I don't necessarily know what the price difference is, but I know Tre Semme is more expensive and WORTH IT! I automatically noticed how much shinier and healthier my hair looked. More expensive brands definitely work better than cheaper brands! I recommend Tre Semme, but I've heard John Frieda is good as well :)

Q: im on a strict 500-900(TOPS) cal a day. i have like 500 on one day and 700 on another- the most all ever have is 900 but thats like barely.

then whenever im with a certain friend i ALWAYS binge so its like sat-sun i go totally all out and off.
then i start fresh monday.

is this bad? will i gain weight? can i loose weight?

(dont say stop hanging with this friend... im working on it)
PLEASE LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK IM REALLY WORRIED.

Eating 500-900 Calories a day is EXTREMELY unhealthy. Hang out with this friend more often.

Q: Okay i weigh aroung 160 and I'm thirteen. now i know what your thinking but just wait. I look like i weigh 120 lbs, the reason i am 160 is that i have very large breast i wear a 38d and my mom makes fun of my weight, she calls me names and it really hurts me. How should i deal with it when it's not me that's causing the weight?

Your mother may be making fun of you because you are overweight and its her way of subtly hinting that you need to lose some weight because there is no way that breasts even at a size of 38 D can possibly weigh 30 lbs. You should sit down with her and talk to her about your weight and your feelings, ignore her comments, or lose weight.

Q: i was in my friend msn and i was cheking his mail because he told me to. i was scrolling down and clicked on the mail and i saw 3 pictures of a girl with bras and panties only...if i report that what can happened?

I'm not sure how old you are because I can't see your age, but if the girls in question were under the age of 18 in those photos then he could be arrested for possessing child pornography and face charges. He could potentially be labeled as a sex offender for the rest of this life.

If the girls were over 18 in the photos, then nothing would come of it :)

Q: what are rich brand names? like juicy couture.. victoria's secret...

Not like Juicy Couture/Victoria's Secret at all, but I had to put them because they have really cute clothes:

Charlotte Russe
Delia's

Closer to Juicy Couture/Victoria's Secret Price:

Free People (More of a Bohemian look with looser clothing styles)
Ruehl No.925 (has AMAZING jeans and a large back room full of sale items)
Guess
BCBG
Armani Exchange
BeBe
Sevens
True Religion
Ed Hardy

More Into the Designer Realm/Higher End:

Marc Jacobs
Burberry
Coach
Lacoste
Dooney and Bourke
Ralph Lauren
Michael Kors
Vera Wang

Q: Was Casey Reindhart on the hills in season 5? She says she was but i watched and i never saw her. Which episodes was she in?

Thanks!

She was on Laguna Beach, but I never saw her on the Hills and I've watched all of what has been aired. Online sources say that she was, but they could be wrong?

Q: 17/f

I'm 5'8 and I weigh 90lbs. I've always been very skinny. My mother, grandmother, grandfather and father are all skinny, too. I have two older brothers and they're both skinny. It's obvious to me that being tall and skinny just runs in my family. My family knows this so I hardly get complaints from them.

My problem is dealing with boyfriends/friends/random people. I've never seen a person run up to an overweight person that they don't know and say, "Dude! You're fat as hell. Do you have an overeating disorder or something??" But I've had random people on the street and in stores come up to be and say things like, "Holy crap. You're so skinny. Are you anorexic or bulimic or something?"

I don't have any eating disorder. In fact, I eat extremely healthy. But can you imagine if someone did have anorexia/bulemia and someone randomly said that to them?

Every time someone gets angry with me, they call me anorexic/bulimic. It's extremely irritating because it makes me self-conscious and makes me think that people are always thinking those things about me.

I have so much trouble with my current boyfriend about it. He asks me every single time he talks to me about what I've eaten since the last time he talked to me. He has to know that I don't have an eating disorder since we go out to dinner together and eat together often.

I feel very unattractive due to people criticising me over my weight. When I meet people, they say one of two things, if not both: 'You're so quiet' or 'You're so skinny'. Usually both at some point within the first few minutes of meeting me.

How can I explain to people like my boyfriend, friends, and random people that don't know me that it's very insensitive to talk about people's weight. Yeah, we all know overweight people usually develop a low self-esteem when messed with about their weight; why don't people think the same would go for skinny people? I can't get through a day without two or three people making comments about my weight, asking me what I've eaten, or saying things like, 'You're so skinny it's nasty' or 'Do you have an eating disorder?' or 'You need some meat on your bones' or 'Guys like girls with curves'

I already know all of these things, yet random people feel the need to tell me about it. I try to be nice/friendly about it, but half the time I just want to say, 'Oh yeah? Screw you.' I just don't care. If everyone left me alone about it, I wouldn't even think about what other people thought about me. I honestly don't care if people think I'm too skinny. I just don't want to hear about it all the time.

So, I guess what I'm asking is, what should I do about this? Am I being too sensitive? I think it just bothers me because I've been dealing with it nearly every day for seven years. I'm getting sick of it.

Thanks in advance.

I think that the only thing that you can really do if you don't want to gain weight, which I don't suggest you do, is to simply ignore the comments or take them in a positive way. I bet that half of the comments that are rude are because people are jealous of you. I would KILL to be able to eat a healthy diet and stay that thin. They're probably just trying to put you down and make you feel bad about your weight to make themselves feel better about their own weight. Take as a compliment that you're lucky that you have a fast metabolism and can stay so thin. I know its easier said than done, but I'm sure you look great. I have a friend who's about the same height and weight as you and I think she looks amazing, so I'm sure people are just jealous!

Hope this helped a little bit.

Q: About what side bra do you think this girl wears? I'm considering breast implants and i would like to be her size. Can someone throw a random guess out there what side bra you think she wears and how much you think she weighs she's about 5ft tall maybe she is really short. Thanks.

http://i36.photobucket.com/albums/e22/hotsauce_n_spyda_r_fine3/maggies104.jpg

http://i36.photobucket.com/albums/e22/hotsauce_n_spyda_r_fine3/maggies108.jpg

http://i36.photobucket.com/albums/e22/hotsauce_n_spyda_r_fine3/maggies110.jpg

She's probably about 5'1ish and 130 lbs. I know that everyone else gave lower weights, but I'm about that height and weight and my body looks like hers.

Also, she's probably a D, because I'm a C and my boobs aren't quite that large :)

Q: Okay, so here's the deal. I lost too much weight, I was about 109 pounds in mid-May, so I decided I wanted to gain some weight back; not a lot though, only about 10 pounds or so.

I ended up gaining just about 30 pounds, instead, in that little amount of time (from then to now.)

I fell out of the exercise routine, and started eating bigger amounts (compared to the fact I was only eating about 400 calories a day-yes, I did have an eating disorder.) so I gained too much back. Now I'm trying to lose 15-20 pounds before August 6th, because that's when I'm going away for a week to celebrate my 16th birthday, and I want to be confident and feel good about how I look. Right now, I'm absolutely miserable, because none of my pants fit me, my bras are too tight, my hair is falling out, and I've been having terrible problems with going to the bathroom (fluctuating between constipation and diarrhea, it's been a nonstop problem too.) I need to know EXACTLY what to eat and how much and how many times a day, and I need to know the absolute PERFECT exercises so that I can successfully do this. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help me, this is something that I don't feel I can do on my own.

Could you post your height? That way it will be easier for use to calculate how many calories you should be eating a day to lose weight the healthy way.

I wanted to know your HEIGHT not your WEIGHT!

Q: Im sorry if this is a weird question-

But how many "holes" to girls have done there?
I heard there is 3..?
i know the vagina and the pea hole..
Is the clitoris* thing considered a hole and what exactly is that???

Aha.

thank you so much
XD Xrated love

Vaginal (birth canal), Anal (butt), and Urinal (pee) holes.

The clitoris is the pleasure point for women and does not consist of a 'hole' :)

Q: So next year i am taking english a, accounting, us history a, orchestram algebra 2 a, spanish 4 a, and chem a.. i cant decide wether to drop orchestra and take another math because most of my grade is on the excelerated path and already in precalc or if i should stay in orchestra since i have been doing it since the fourth grade. i am going to be a junior next year and i know its critical for me to do good so i want to take the best classes possible for me to do well in. Should i double in a math? or take another science? or just stay in orchestra.

Orchestra definately.
Colleges and Universities LOVE to see a devotion to something. The fact that you have been doing Orchestra since 4th grade is something great to put on your college application. Do not give that up.
Also, don't worry about not being as accelerated in math as you would like. Not everyone is good at math, so don't worry about it :)

Q: okay, well i lost my cable about a year ago so i don't have the n anymore. so i've been watching my degrassi episodes online. the last episode i watched was when hollie j and alli are getting revenge on one another.

anyways, it really doesn't say when the new episodes are going to be on.

so my questions are:
- has the degrassi summer movie aired yet?
- if so, where can i watch it?
- if not, when is it coming out?
- have new episodes aired yet? (after the one of hollie j and alli getting back at each other)

thanks in advance!

The Degrassi Movie is coming out sometime in August although no advertisements or previews have given an exact date except that it will premiere in August.

New Episodes begin airing Friday, July 3rd at 8pm Eastern Standard Time on The N.

Hope this is what you're after :)

Q: I recently just got the blackberry pearl. I like it except i put it in my purse without a case and now the trackball sunk lower in my phone and it's harder to use! What should i do to fix it without bying another trackball?? thanks!

I agree with the person below me. Do you have insurance? because if so then they will replace the phone for free and maybe even without insure because Blackberry's should NOT break that easily and you did nothing out of the ordinary. Your first move should be to take it to the store and if they wont replace it then try the tweezers because the tweezers could end up damaging it further if you make a mistake

Q: i'm in latin class and i am way behind.
and i can't seem to remember all of the declensions and conjugations. we only need to know the first three right now for latin 1. but does anybody know of a good way to memorize those?

well the first 2 declensions have the same conjugations but with a different stem and all 3 declensions have the same conjugations for the perfect, pluperfect, and future perfect tenses, so you really only have to memorise the present, imperfect, and future for the 1st and 3rd and then memorize the endings for perfect, pluperfect and future. its not as much work as it seems, but i really dont know what else to tell you just memorize the endings.

hope this helped a little bit