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I'm Erin. This is my advice column. I'm suuuuuuuuuuper open, and I'm always here to answer and help you with your problems. Yeah, many people say I give out good advice and it works. So, here I am now, making one.Don't be afraid to ask.
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well, okayy. hi erin. i am one of your cousin's friends, delaney, my names rachel. haha. yeah, im your friend on your myspace. soo anywayss, my friend and i are not in the same class/team. she is like, one of my bestest, bestest friends. we are trying to walk together to our classrooms in the morning and and when we see each other in the hallways and stuff we always say hi. but im afraid that when it gets later in the year and forget about me and never be friends with me again, and i am really trying to talk to her a lot and trying not to let that happen, i really am. but i am reallly scraed! i knoww, i am retarded, rightt?
pleaseee helpp!
thank youuuu x3
:D
rachel
heyy rachel, yeah i know who you are, lol. well dont be scared, because things like this are eventually going to happen, but you have other friends too, right? so i mean if she does forget abtou you or something like that, you have other good friends to rely on. but in the meantime, ask her to come over on some weekends, and see if maybe she wants to go to football games with you, and stuff like that. and still try to talk to her as much as you did when you were in the saem classes.
and no, your not retarded. lol.
come back for more help if you need it.
Thanks =]]
erin
THANK YOU SO MUCH ERIN!
my friend and i are getting along and she is in my team/class and we hang ou a lot. i am trying to be as nice as i can.
THANK YOU SOOO MUCHHH!
:D
your welcomeee (:
im happy to knwo that i helppeed youuu :D
Erinnn.
umm if u said something asbout one ofmyour best friend hair and they said they ahte u what should i do
tell tham that your sorry, and maybe they will forgive you.
.......cw.
erin.
um well melanie says she hates lindsay and she is not friends with her when ever she is not around lindsay and she is being a hipocrite and saying stay away from her never talk to her and i won't but she does it anyways and she tells everyone she doesn't like her well she goes to her house like everyday and when we are in school after shcool she always goes to her house she does like everything with her so my question what should i tell melanie or what should i say to lindsay about because she doesn't knoew anything about what melanie says
and one time i was at my friends house and we called melanie and lindsay was there and we are like you don't like lindsay why do you hang out with her and she was standing up to her and stuff like that and when we talked to her the next day she said sorry i had to stick up for her she was right next to me so we said.....
so then a few weeks later she goes to lindsay house and is on myspace and i said melanie you don't like lindsay why are you at her house shut up i never said that and i said melanie wants your password so she told me to do this thing to get her password and then she blamed it on me so now everybody in her family is aggested me and her mom was going to talk to my mom then the next day melanie says to me she was right next to me i had to say it was you or i would get in trouble
so anyways what should i say or do?????
and who should i say it to?????
from the blamed on girl
what you should say to melanie is "why are you telling everyone you hate lindsay and not to talk to her and stuff, and you say that you hate her, but you go and hang out with her all the time?" and that is a really stupid thing for her to do.
and maybe you shodul tell lindsay everything melanie says because melanie isnt just being a bad friend to you, but to lindsay also.
now for melanie to get you in trouble like that, she is DEFFINATLY not a good friend. and you shoudl tell her "just becasue you didnt want to get in trouble, you got your best friend in trouble. and that is not what friends do." and maybe you shoudl also tell her that if she is going to keep lieing to you, her others friends AND lindsay about you, then tell her that you dont want to be her friend. and also tell her that if she dosent tell lindsay the truth abotu all of this, then tell her that you wont be her friend unless she does.
and if melanie says thats wrond to do, its not. melanie is being a hypocryte and a mean person, and worst of all, a bad friend.
and if one day melanie and lindsay arent hanging out, then talk to lindsay abotu it PRIVATELY, and tell her the truth abtou EVERYTHING.
thankkksss =]]
loveeeee erin.
*call me and tell me what happens, or call or something for more advice.
i had/have a friend who was nice to me and would talk to me a lot and stuff. but when she is with other friends like on ecertain one she like prank calls me and she syas to her friend/s that she doesn't like me. and when i talk to her, i'll ask her something and she lies about everything, like one time, she was over at her friends house and she prank called me and i called her the next day at her house, and i asked her if she prank called me, and she said no. i know she did cause i could hear her voice. now, i am going to start school soon, and she is in my team/class. should i not talk to her, but still be freindly or what should i do? pleaseee hellp me!
it is wrong for your friend to lie to you and talk behind your back. trust me, i have gone through this soo soo much and i still am.
you can still talk to her, and still be nice to her. but talk to her about it, tell her i heard you were talking about me and tell her what she said about you.
*that could just have been a rumor, and she may not have said it.
but talk to her abotu it, if you are still having problems then maybe take a break from being her friend until she realizes that what she is doing is wrong, and that you dont like that she did that.
if you still need more advice, im always here.
thanks =]
erin
i really want to make out wiht my boyfriend, but im not sure how to do you have any advice for me if im to afraid to ask him about it?
you probably know who this is but, dont tell anyone. even though i know you wont.
okay, 1) yes i know who it is.
2) i would never tell anyone.
sexual tension is natural for our age, and 13 is usually the age where most people feel most of it, and learn how to makeout, and im being serious, not trying to be funny.
TIPS ABOUT TALKING TO HIM ABOUT IT.
*bring it up casually, be like "i really like you, and i think that maybe we could makeout soon, b/c i never have before and i want to learn."
*be comfortable when you are talking to him abotu it, dont sound weird, or he will be awkward when you are talking about it too.
*to avoid an awkward silence after that conversation, say so how was like practice today or how was your day, or so anything new?
TIPS ON HOW TO MAKEOUT.
*if he has done it before follow his lead.
*dont be afraid to use tounge, if you are, then dont use alot of it.
*when you want to stop making out, then back away and just smile at him, and look away. b/c you dont want him to think that you dont like making out with him.
*making out doesnt last that long, 2 minutes is usually long.
BEST TIME TO MAKEOUT.
*at the movies.
*in your house when no ones around, or outside.
*at night, under stars.
need anymore advice about it? them i/m me.
thankssssss babe.
erin.
hey well you see ive been going out with my gf for a couple weeks and i really like her but the problem is that im not totaly sure if she likes me back.... she flirts with other guys and talks about them being her sexii buddies.. i dont know if she likes me or the ""sexii buddie"" i dont want to dump her yet just in case she does like me back please help im pissed, and confused and i have absoulutey no idea what the hell to do.. plz help
well do you talk abotu other girls back? because if you do then she probally thinks that she has to feel either good abotu herself or something.
but maybe she is just trying to make you jealous, or playing hard to get. because just a few days ago this happened to me, except it was the other way around and my bf was talking abtou girls alot. and like i talked to him abotu it.
and i said well if you are going to talk abotu all these girls then i guess you dont raelly need me, and he reassured me that he loves me.
so talk to your gf abotu it. say, why do you always talk abotu guyes like that? im your boyfriend. like just talk to her abotu it, and if you two get into an arguement dont just break up with her because you got into a fight, because in the future when you get married you are gonna have tons of fights. so just be calm, and be nice about it.
all you have to say is, it sorta makes me jealous or mad when you talk about those other guys all the time. can you stop or something like that. it can get better.
thanks =]
erin.
sometimes i think of myself as an elf..
is that normal? [please dont laugh]
well everyone thinks of themself and something else.
you probally arent an elf.. so theres nothing wrong wtih that.
-erin
ok. so, i just started liking a guy this past school year right? and we had a few classes together, blahblah, his locker was by mine. i never really had the guts to talk to him all that much, but when i did it was amazing. some of my other guy friends were like asking this guy qusestions and would come back to me and tell me everthing. the next thing i knew, he was asking his ex-girlfriend out. i knew they never really talked and everybody said it wouldnt last long. well, it didnt. they broke up @ the middle of this summer. now, this boy would i-m me every so often and one day after the breakup, he asked me 'SO DID YOU HEAR MY BIG NEWS?' and he told me the breakup story. hes friends with alotta my friends , so its good..but hes going to a new private high school this year. there have been a few times where ive been invited to like go to the movies and hang out with him and my friends, but my parents are a little strict and wouldnt let me go. basically, i have to sneak alotta stuff, which i know, is not right--but geez, im not aloud to havea boyfriend til im 16? what is thaaaaaaaat haha. but i figure i could sneak it blahblahblah, im a good liar. (shouldnt be proud of that, but i am). sooooooo what do you think i should do? we dont talk as much as we used to in the middle and beginning of summer, and i dont know how to get close to him really. people say i have a good chance with him and all that. but the more i dont talk to him the more i stop liking him. so, LET GO OR KEEP TRYING? but whats the point of trying because nothign serious can happen til im 16, i am 14 right now.
thankkkkkkkkkkkkks x3
sorry it's long.
i figured more details would help though.
ha, its okay that its long, because more details, more help.
well do you really want a chance with this guy? start talking to him more, and if you still feel apart of you still likes him, then whats the use of letting him go? but if you have gone through alot, and just figure that hes not even gonna notice you anymore, then try to let him go.
and sometimes its not that good to sneak things, and it does make it hard that you cant date until your 16. but i guess you do have take risks if you really want him.
but if you liek someone else, then move on. there are plenty of other guys out there. and there is bound to be another one.
its not my choice, you have to make it yourself.
thanks =]
erin
ok well i have this friend and, shes nice and all, but shes getting really annoying.
i wouldnt really consider her as my "best friend"but she ALWAYS tells people that im her best friend. and she calls me ALL THE TIME to hangout, even if we just hung out.
and i dont knwo what to do because i dont want to be mean to her, but i need to get her to back off.
help me!!
well she problly looks up to you and counts on you all of the time.
maybe you shoudl talk to her about it. not mean, and say your being obsessive, but tell her that your other fiends feel lieft out b/c you hang out with her all the time. soo yu have to give your other friends some time besides her.
maybe she will get the hint that she is hanging out with you too much.
thanks =]
erin
ALOT of people think one of my friends that i've known for a long time is retarded andd has no life and acts like a monkey and once we saw her pick her nose an dlike i like her but i like my other friends to so i don't know witch ones i should like more.and hang out with mthe weird one that i've known for a long time or forget her or hang out with the cool people. that like me.
well if you dont want to be her friend anymore then dont, it will probally hurt her alot.
and if you are just not gonna hang out with her b/c other people dont like her, then thats not right.
i cant tell you which one to choose, but if you are willing to ditch your old friend for new ones that you dont really know, and that are "cool" then go ahead, you will hve the guilt of hurting your friend on your shoulders. and if you dontt, then hang out with them equally.
b/c you dont want anyone to feel left out.
thanks =]
erin
hi erin..
i have a BIG addiction to myspace.. i am on it like WAYYY to much.. i dont want to be but there is nothing really else to do around here.
i dont want to constantly be on myspace andd im sick of just sitting here doing nothing!!
ughh PLEASE HELP ME!!
well instead of sitting in front of the computer all day, maybe call some of your friends and ask them to hang out. go outside and play with like your dog or a pet.
practice a sport you play. take a walk, take a jog, workout. there are plenty of options to do instead of be on myspace all day.
try one of those, make a new hobby or something.
thanks =]
erin
okay. well i have liked this guy for about a year now. he's my best guy friend. at school we are ALWAYS together. our friends always tease us telling us we're the best couple of the year. i have even had people who i didn't know ask if we were going out or tell me that we were a really cute couple. then in febuary my friend asked him out. she didn't know i liked him though. it was real weird because he saw me alot more than her but yet they were still going out. well, in march they finally broke up and he was crushed. then after a week or so he was fine. after they broke up it seemed as thought we were becoming a little more than friends. he started walking me to classes and things like that. then at one of the dances he was real shy and didn't talk to me until halfway through the dance. he came over was about to say something but then my friend came up and started talking to me. before i knew it he was gone! i asked him the next day what he was going to say but he wouldn't tell me. we just became coming closer and closer. then this summer he called me. at first i really thought he was going to ask me out but at the last moment he asked me if i would ask my friend(the one who he had already gone out with)to go out with him again. i was absolutely crushed. i had never once felt the same way about a guy before. i love him. so i was being a nice friend and asked the girl if she would go out with him. she said no and i was kind of happy. i saw him for the first time this summer at the pool and we talked just like where we left off at the end of school. he still acted like he liked me.
so basically i want to know what to do. ask him out? let things run their coarse. or just be friends?
-confuzzled );
well ask him what he thinks about you. and then ask him out, if he says yes, than that is awesome. and you will probally last for a while. if he says no, its probally because he thinks of you as a sister or something like that, and he probally thinks it would be awkward between you guys if you broke up or something.
but maybe you shoudl let things go smooth for a little bit, and ask him out.
thanks =]
erin
ps; dont be crushed if he says no, it just means he thinks of you as a sister or something.
ok, well, hi erin. i am a girl first of all. so, this guy at the swimming pool/ country club that i go to really likes me. he is like 14 and i am like 13. he like stares at me all the time. he is a lifguard and he is suppper nice. i see him everyday because i am on the swimteam there and he is one of the coaches. he is usually really busy and he never has the time to talk to me. but well still got to talk. well, anyways. i went on vacation for like 3 weeks and when i came back, he was all over one of my friends, but she is not that close of one and he hardly even noticed me. i know i don't own him or anything but then when our season ended for swimming, we had a banquet. so, i was there and he always kept talking to the girl he liked i guess, and he kept in looking at me to see if i was looking. it almost seemed as if he was playing hard to get. i took a few glances at them, but all they were doing is talking, nothing else. i went to the pool a couple weeks later. like always, he was on duty right when i got there. when i was walking up the sidewalk to get to the gate he turned around to see who was coming in. and then he saw me and he just kept staring with idk a blank look in his eye. so me and my friends found a seat quick and jumped in the pool really fast. he just kept staring at me the whole time i was swimming. i tried to ignore him, but all i could think about was him, how can i get over this guy?
how you can get over him is by maybe spending some time at OTHER places with your friends or family.
OR you could try to meet other guys. dont try to make him jealous if you do that though.
maybe he was trying to make YOU jealous when he started hanging out with your other friend, and it souds like he likes you alot.
meeting other guys would probally get him off of your mind, and also expand your social life.
thanks =]
erin.
well my parents are fighting and the might be getting a divorce my mom was talking to someone about it and i feel stuck in the middle because they are always wanting to do something and i can choose and ifeel like runaway cause i dont want to choose
well dont runaway, b/c that woudl just make it even harder on your parents.
and maybe they are just going through a bad time, b/c that happens to everyone.
and if you dont want to choose, spend time with them equallly.
thanks =]
erin ;)
heyy erin.. i use to have a best friend.. that wasnt really a best friend. she controlled my life, never let me have any other friends.. she was always mean to me and i cried over her almost every night. so then i just got tired of it and me and my other friend started sticking up for our selves. and now that im like popular.. shes reall jelous and she wants to be like me really bad. and shes still super mean.. SHE COPIES EVERYTHING I DO.. i cant do anything without her just copying it. its so bad that right when i put that i am obsessed with iced mochas.. shes puts ICED MOCHAS ARE MY OBSESSION!!
and its driving me crazy.
all my other friends think shes crazy too.
and im really drading haveing to see her at school when we start back.. plus she is on my cheer team.
i deff. dont want to be her friend, [im never going there again!] but what should i do??
-tired of this crap.
thats really hard to deal with. confront her, dont yell at her when you do it though.
but be like, why so you always copy everything i do? its getting on my nerves.
and if she makes a big deal about it and starts yelling, just try to keep peace. and if she keeps doing it, then she really needs some help.
so just talk to her about it.
thanks =]
erin
hi erin. im having sex. should i tell my parents?
well it depends on how old you are. if you are too young to be having sex, then you shoudlnt even be doing it. and be honest to your parents if they are wondering.
if you are old enough for sex, around the age of 18... then you can.
b/c if you are too young to be having sex, you coudl have a baby, and if you become pregnat, or become a father.. then you will have to have full responsability to the child, and abortion is not the answer.
but its up to you, to get the courage to tell your parents yourself.
ok well i really like this guy. hes soo hot and i want him soo bad.
but like when im around him he is really niice to me and acts like he likes me but when hes with his guy friends he always says stuff about me. and even at the movies once he put his arm around me and all that good stuff. and like when i get mad at him if like he says something i confront him about it and hes just like feels really bad and he like truthfully says sorry to me. please help me. what do you think i should do? ask him out? because i really like him and he just seems like hes scared to make the move himself. if you think i should ask him out where do u think at? or just give me ur opinion please on what i should do. thanks!!!!!!!!
-confused heart
well if you really like him that much, and you think he does too.... then ask him out, because maybe if you go out and hes around his guyfriends then he wont act different towards you.
take the chance, and if he says no... dont make it seem awkward... keep talking to him.
thanks =]
erin
i have really curly hair and all my friends say they love it and are so jealous..but its so much work to kep it non frizzy and everything, do u have any hair style ideas??
kristen
well thats cool that your friends really like your hair, but there are alot of styling gels are stuff you could use. if you go to your hair stylist and ask them to straighten your hair, they can do it.
its easy, just ask your hair stylist.
thanks =]
erin
alright, so.
i like this kid named mike. he's my friends neighbor and he's really great. and things were great between us, and we really liked each other. then one night, mike had his friend over and he stayed upstairs with his friend. me and my friend and mike's brother were all watching a movie, and well i didn't know that his brother liked me too. so his brother and i were sitting on the same coach and he kept hitting on me, and i tried to stop him. but mike walked down right when his brother had his arm around me, and now mike is completly made at me, and won't talk to me. i've apologized and told him the story, but he won't listen. i really like him, but i don't know what to do.
well mike is probally over reacting. maybe you should just give him time. b/c you didnt want his brother too, and you could say to him "i like you alot, and there is nothing going on with me and your brother, im really sorry." he doesnt have to say anything back, and if he doesnt then give him mayeb a few days to cool off.. then try to talk to him again.
and if he still doesnt listen after a while, then he probally doesnt like you as much as he said did.
thanks =]
erin