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im not fat! amanda how could you!!! stop telling pppl im a fat whoree..you suckkkkk

The best thing to do in this situation is to accept yourself. I simply tell people that you are a fat whoree because it's the truth! own the label, girllll. just say to yourself- I AM A WHORE, AND I AM PROUD! I AM A WHORE, AND I AM PROUD! and you will feel so much better about it! :] im always here to helpp!

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hey. im watching tv, but its not the show i want. wwhat do i do??????????????????????????

My advice to you is to do something more productive with your time, such as reading a book, or maybe studying for that testt you have coming up monday. school work always comes first! :] janis, janis, janis. you slacker!

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okay so. i really like this guy but then the next second i dont!! like wat do i do.like omg like wat do i do?

--you know who =)

well try making up your mind you hormonal freak. ;] glad to help

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So i am going to be my boyfreinds first kiss..
and i know its going ot happen, before you go there.
I've kissed before.. a few guys.. (boyfriends)
and he hasn't.
He is going to be 16.. well, pretty gosh darn soon.
&& he's pretty shy..
so im sure i'll make the first move..
((( we were talking about it, like kidding aroudn.. well, long story..but anywyas, i can assure you it's going to happen )))
my question is..
since i don't really make the first move..
ever. i hate it..
what should i do?

what kind of kiss?
wehre should i put my hands..
stuff like that.

:] please help!

haha, this is really cute! :] before this kiss happens, make sure you two are talking for a while to make it more comfortable. then you just sort of lean in slowly, and when you realize he's doing the same- close your eyes and kiss! then you won't feel like you're doing the moving 100%. maybe not use tongue right away, but just a longer intimate regular kiss. and when you break away if he liked it, i'm sure he will go back for more ;] no matter how shy he is. really, he's a guy. to start off with your hands, maybe just rest them in his hands or something and slowly move them up his arm till they're around his neck- if it's his first kiss then i'm sure his hands won't be roaming in other places, either. if you don't act nervous or unsure about it, it'll make him feel alot more at ease, too. good luck to the both of you!

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15/f. I apologize, this is really long.

Well, I'm beginning (and have already BEEN) to be VERY depressed. And I mean, sometimes for no reason at all. I can't talk to ANYONE. My parents don't understand...and tell me "Oh...don't be ridiculous...there is nothing wrong with you. Everyone passes through this stage". etc. It's driving me nuts. There is too much pressure from school (having to get straight A's or else my parents will EXPLODE), I HATE my friends. They haven't ever done ANYTHING for me. NEVER. They never.......care. :( When I look at them...I see FAKE USERS. They talk crap behind me...which I can prove. I've been cutting myself...and I can't stop. I have NO ONE to talk to and no one to confide in. I don't know if I have some kind of mental illness...but I feel so freaking ALONE in this world. So very lonely. NOBODY and NOTHING ..(LOL) understands me. I feel like an outcast. I'm constantly judged by everything. music tastes, clothes, grades etc. I'm so different. ARGH. I want a therapist and I was wondering (after writing such a long paragraph) if I'm in need of one. :/ Any suggestions? Do therapists actually help? Thanks in advance.

A therapist can be a good idea for some people, but for others it just doesn't work. it depends on your view on explaining yourself to a stranger. it can be a plus because they know nothing about you or your life to begin with, so there is no way they can judge you on the things you feel insecure about. On the other hand, if someone is having a hard time telling their feelings to the people they care about/trust the most, they figure, why all of a sudden pour my emotions onto some random person who doesnt know me and hasn't been a part of my life to understand it? you have to decide which is more of your thinking process. If therapy doesn't sound appealing, try getting your words out to yourself rather than someone or something else- meaning writing. you can reveal the weirdest things about yourself with just a pen and paper, and taking all of this conciousness off of your shoulders will make you feel so much more at ease. free writing is great because it doesn't involve you to think- just completely let go and let your pen do the work. and there is no pressure in this because it doesn't have to be perfect, either. then maybe it will be easier for you to explain your view to your parents or develop better, trusting friendships with new people. I hope you know that things like these don't change overnight, and that your patience will subconciously get you through this. you just need to try to be open minded about everything! when you have nothing (which even if you believe it, it is DEFINITELY not true) there is nothing to lose. things can only get better! :] you can IM me at amandaaxoox if you need anything, i'll be happy to talk! hope i've helped

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So I like this guy in my class that im friends with, but i also have a boyfriend that i rly cant break up with due to complicated reasons i dont want to get into. I just cant break up with him. not now anyway. Problem is i REALLY like this guy in my class, a lot and i want to go out with him. i just cant break up with my bf.i think the guy likes me and im afraid if i wait too long he's going ot get over me. what shud i do?

honestly, the reasons why you can't break up with your boyfriend don't matter in this question. there really is no excuse or reason to be with him when you're wishing you were with somebody else. maybe you should talk to the guy in your class about this problem so he won't feel hopeless and move on, and also the two of you might be able to think of a way to fix this without hurting your boyfriend, since i'm sure you TRUST this guy enough to tell him your complicated reasons (a major part of a relationship, which is another reason why you should end what you have with your boyfriend because the two of you aren't exacly on the same trust level). but anyway i hope you keep in mind that the longer things are dragged on, the more effect they have on people and the more pain is involved. even though it won't be easy, it won't be as tough on your boyfriend now than if you broke up with him later because if he is truely involved in the relatioinship he should feel closer and more attatched to you as the days go by. and as you said, the more you wait, then the chance of the guy in your class moving on gets higher. then you would end up with no one. don't keep waiting for the perfect moment, or it will pass you by. you need to take the moment, and make it perfect. i hope i've helped!

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