It's good that you are worried about this, and it's good that you're trying to get help. You can't get the right help here, though...You need somebody who is trained to help people like you, so you can really get over this. This number is a hotline that you can call to talk to somebody-1-800-949-0057. If you ever need help, you can e-mail me anytime. Good luck!

Put your hand on their thigh when you're sitting together. When you're in private with him, make up some dirty inside jokes with him. Then, have some friends say them in normal conversation when they're talking to him. Whisper in his ear that you think he's hot. Run your finger down his spine. It's the little things that count...

You sound like a really sweet, caring person, and you deserve a sweet, caring guy. Don't just "hook up" for the sake of hooking up. Anyway, this guy sounds familiar-it's almost like I know him! His name is Major Creep. Wait for someone better, and they will find you, because they'll be attracted to how nice you are. Good luck!

I'm a 13-year-old girl, and the best thing to do here is to become her friend. Don't treat her like a baby, or bring lots of books and toys and stuff. This girl has her own interests, and you should call her mother before and speak to her. Maybe you should meet her once or twice before, and take her to the movies or something. If it was me, I would think it was awesome to have someone older hanging out with me. You're gonna be her role model, so give her advice. Tell her stories about guys and when you were 13 or whatever. You're not going to have to coddle her or anything, so just enjoy yourself! She's probably going to turn out to be really cool.

Hi! I know exactly how you feel. I'm 13 and I used to hate people's reactions when they heard I'd never been kissed. The only thing is, the reason I wanted to be kissed was because I was ready. If you think you're ready, and people are pressuring you but you are honestly ready, then get out there! I met lots of guys at acting camp this summer. Get in a new environment, and see what happens. You'd be really surprised who will be interested in you!! My first kiss was on a dare. It was pretty good, and that gave me the courage to kiss the guy I liked later that day. First kisses are supposed to be special, and in my opinion, it's better to wait a little bit longer and do it with someone special than to just do it and get it over with. Good luck!

That's kind of how I feel right now...I read somewhere that you're not ready for a boyfriend until you don't feel like you need one. Lots of people I know can relate though. Everybody wants to feel loved, and you deserve a hot boyfriend who's really nice and cares about you. Start exploring your options. Look carefully at the boys around you, at your school, at your after-school activites, even at the mall. Pick a few guys that you want to get to know better, and start hanging out with them. Maybe drop a few hints, dress a little more attractively. Don't make any major changes or become a huge slut, because guys don't like that. Be who you really are, but show guys that you're interested. When they see how cool you are, and your great personality, they'll definitely be interested! You just need to push them in the right direction. ;)

This is bad-this is really bad. You are hurting yourself, and you need to stop. The first step is that you have recognized that there is a problem, and you want to stop. You have to stop. It's going to be a long tough road, but you need to find it within yourself to STOP. Tell somebody that you trust, whether it's your parent, your school guidance counselor, your best friend, your teacher, even your school nurse or a police officer. There is always somebody to help you, even when it seems like you're all alone. If you can't talk to anybody, you know, wait until you're home alone and call this number: 1-800-949-0057. It's a hotline with people who are trained to help. You probably have very stressful things going on in your life, and you need somebody to help you get through it all. Whatever happens, you're going to be ok if you stay strong. Stop cutting, and resist the temptation to do it. If you need anything, I'll always be able to help. You can e-mail me anytime and I'll answer as quickly as possible. You're going to be just fine, and you can talk to me if you need someone to be there for you. Good luck and remember, part of being strong is getting help when you need it.

It's good that you respect this girl and don't want to break her up with her boyfriend. If you did that, she would find out it was you and hate you forever. Here's what you have to do: Get close to her. Respect her, and talk to her as a friend. Whatever you do, don't flirt with her, don't let her think you might be thinking about flirting with her, don't do anything past hugging. (And if you're really young, don't even hug her.) Talk to her, listen to what she has to say, and show her a piece of the real you. Don't get her to like you because you're hot, just hang out with her. When she does break up with her boyfriend, you will be her shoulder to cry on, and her friend, which will be what she needs. Then you can make your move when the time is right.

13/f

That depends...Are your parents going to be there? You need lots of junk food and have your friends bring over lots of CD's. You can rent a karaoke machine for cheap. You can play a little spin-the-bottle or 7 minutes in heaven if things don't get too out of control. It's probably best if you have it in some big room (like your basement or something if it's really big.) Just put on lots of music, have good food, and relax! It's your party so you have to have fun.

Hey! I'm Elana. I'm 14 years old and I'm always available if you need anything. Even if you think it's a stupid question, feel free to ask...Hope to hear from you soon!!

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