Ask and it shall be answered by.... TheMaster
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what do guys like a girl to do when they are being eaten out or having sex? like do they like it when a girl makes noises, or eye contact, or what? (link)
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Your question brings up an optimum point about sex in general. The answer is, "ASK YOUR PARTNER". Everybody is different and has different things that turn them on. Both partners should seek to find out what the other person likes....what "get's them off". Most guys love a noisy, moaning, groaning, ravenous whore in the bedroom and a "Lady" in public.
Keep in mind that as people evolve and change what "get's them off" may change. Keep talking and let your partner change and experiment. Much of the fun is experimenting with them. Remember Love is not just about sex it's about Love.
GL TheMaster
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alright so my friend Melinda is kind of prude i mean she has hooked up with one guy almost one year ago. we are sophomores now. but she does socialize and flirt. i recently found out that she has been talking to this freshman in college, James, that she has known for over a year. they honestly talk everyday about everything, the problem is, he has a girlfriend. Melinda and James dont discuss anything about being together- but i found it a little shady that yesterday James and his gf were in his room and the gf was on his bed and that Melinda and him were videochatting but he couldnt say anything to her so the girlfriend wouldnt hear. he had earphones in so he could listen to Melinda. anyways i feel like he likes her- he asks her to hang out and stuff and she is always always talking to him. what should she do? i know she likes James, but doesnt want to bc she doesnt want to be the other girl (link)
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James may still be trying to figure out what he wants in a girl. He may love his girlfriend, or maybe not. One or both of them may still have the urge to date others. Don't make James decide to quickly (unless of course you are having sex). Many young men like to "play the field". This is not abnormal at all. Some girls are this way but more often girls will tend to gravitate toward one boy. She should keep talking to him but be honest with him about her feelings (especially about the girlfriend). If it gets to the point where she can't continue, tell her to just smile and play hard to get....ha ha. Tell James, "You know where I'll be if you decide what you like"
GL TheMaster
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So i am really freaking out!
This is my last term in college and so far I've maintained a B average (that could have been an A+ if it weren't for family crap and the 2 Ds and C that came with it) I am freaking out this semester because I have 2 of the toughest profs ever! and I got a C+ on my midterm in one and a B+ in another.... they are worth 30%
the finals for both are 40% and the research papers are another 30!!! I am freaking out because they are so hard and I really really want get an A for both of them to get a scholarship.... I have so much to do besides these two classes and I've been experiencing very severe case of depression and fatigue right now and can't be bothered to be motivated!!! please help I really feel I am going to end up with Cs for both classes!!! and my average is going down and I won't get into the grad program!!!! what should I do I hate these profs. they are so rigid and stubborn and only want a regurgitation of what they say in class and I am not one to memorize without understanding (I COMPREHEND! which is what i think students at this point should be doing)...
I am going to flunk!! please help! I have 6 courses on my back, a job, (technically 10 courses since my sister is a lazy bum and my parents are blackmailing me to do her work too in exchange for paying tuition) and the whole crap of dealing with ALL (and I mean ALLL) the family issues: sorting bills, handling taxes...etc
Elle, VT (link)
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You have to much on your plate. A good manager knows how to delegate duties. Get help. You could try getting a digital recorder to record the Profs. COMPREHENDING in class is good. Acheiving your goals will be better. In the end, just do the best you can and ask God to help you get through. If you believe he can help you then he will.
GL TheMaster
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Me and my ex just started talking on saturday. we had gone out for 4 months, and he lost his virginity to me and everything. i messed up with him big time though in the past because i ended up breaking up with him to be with another guy. We have been acting towards each other completely normal, as if we had never broken up to begin with, thanks to the fact that i apologized to him and told him how horrible i felt about what i did. & honestly he is the best boyfriend i've ever had, but at school he doesnt want people to know that we're talking again because their going to start talking crap. i just wish it would be okay with him if we could AT LEAST act like we're friends, because if not i'd have to wait till after school to talk to him on the phone, and if i want to actually be with him i have to wait till the weekends. & i cant take that. how can i approach that subject with him in a way that i can convince him? & also, does it look bad that i'm getting back with him? (link)
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Girls and guys break up and get back together all the time. Actually this is quite normal. Your boyfriend may have other friends that will give him a bad time saying he is indecisive, etc....these friends will get over it if he makes these people realize that YOU are what he really wants. Give him a little time. Keep talking to him. Be kind. If he doesn't come around consider he may have another reason for wanting to keep the 2 of you a secret. Could there be another girl he has become interested in?
GL TheMaster
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ok im not going to sugar coat this or anything im just gonna straight up tell you how it is. i need to get something off my chest and i want to hear what you have to say about it. im putting myself out there so, try not to be too harsh :/ i really appreciate you taking the time to read this and help me out.
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been going out with my bf for 1 year and 6 months. let me just tell you for sure we definitely are in love, no questions asked. we go to different schools but only live 15 minutes away from each other and we make it work. even though i truly do love him, i have mildly [nothing horrible] cheated on him on several occasions.
okay, back last year when we were going out for about 4 or 5 months, i started to talk to this guy, G. he was blatantly flirty with me all the time and i guess sweet talked me into a situation i did not want to be in. one day in school he texted me saying to 'go to the bathroom' and meet him outside in the hall. so i did, and we were just walking around the school talking. we sorta got slower at the staircase and he turned around and kissed me. i kissed him back but it was just 2 short pecks held out for 2 seconds each id say. it felt like the WEIRDEST THING ever, i didnt like it. but it was almost like he had me brainwashed because i kept talking to the guy. over a break like the easter break or something when no one was home he snuck over to my house and i let him in... i kept him in my room because my brother was home and if he saw some guy in our house he would get me in trouble. so he almost forcefully laid me down and started kissing me. no tongue or anything, just kissing, like long pecks i suppose? so i felt sort of violated because i was very hesitant and it made me feel uncomfortable. right after i got up and didnt let him push me down anymore and told him he had to leave and i made him leave my house. i only told my boyfriend about the kiss in the hallway and i twisted the story and said that the guy kissed me but i did not kiss him back. eventually i realized talking to this kid got me nowhere but into trouble so i ended all contacts with him. so that was over. my boyfriend was upset of course but forgave me because he still doesnt even know the whole story.
next incident came in the summer, we were going out for 8 months. i went on vacation with my family to the bahamas at a resort. i made out with/kissed 3 boys within the vacation. nothing was passionate it was just regular kisses. out of curiosity i suppose? spur of the moment? the feeling of carelessness that the summer gives you? i was on vacation and i would never have to see these people again? im not sure why i did it but these reasons seem logical. right after every time i told the boys that i had a boyfriend and that i felt horrible that i did that. the first guy, B, it was his last night. we were walking on the beach at night after a teen activity that the resort had, and it was my first night there so i was naive. he said that he had never slow danced on the beach before and he asked me to. i thought it was the sweetest thing ever so i did as we listened to a song on his ipod. he kissed me 2 or 3 times that night, nothing passionate, just kisses. and he was really shy and inexperienced and would ask me if i was bad and stuff. i told him i had a bf and we both felt really bad and he understood because he had been cheated on before. the next guy was a total jerk, i was going back to the hotel room to get ready for dinner and before that i was with a group of my friends. he said he would walk me back and i thought that he was just being a gentleman, the naive person i am. little did i know he had other intentions. when we got to my door he leaned in fast and kissed me and grabbed my ass. i was insulted by this so i pulled away after a second once i realized what was happening. then i left him and went into my room. he later told my friends from the resort that he made out with me 3 times and that i let him grab my ass a lot, which was obviously a lie. the next time was with a boy, N. my group of friends was in the poolside hot tub one night. he put his hand on my leg and eventually i sat on his lap playfully because we were all friendly like that i didnt see harm in it at the time, but now i realize that is completely leading on. my friends ditched us thinking we wanted to hookup. once they left we started making out, i did think he was attractive but his personality was a jerk and he just wanted to get with girls, but anyway, after 7 seconds or so he started to go into my pants [ i was wearing full tank top and jeans bc i got pushed into the pool with my clothes on before] and i stopped him right there. i realized then that it was wrong and definetly did not want to go any farther. we met back up with my friends. later on a friend told me that he had said that 'he wanted to f*** me before i left" and that insulted me. it made me realize he wasnt a good guy. so then i went home. i told my boyfriend i didnt do anything and that one guy B tried to kiss me but didnt and lied about it and the last guy tried to get in my pants but i didnt let him. thats all i told him, basically a half lie. still bad i know.
the last incident occured around christmas time, we were going out for 1 year and 2 months. this time i didnt do anything physically, but emotionally. my bf and i were fighting a lot, had a rough patch if you will. i just felt unhappy a lot of the time so i turned to another boy. we had just met and just started talking through insignificant means, like facebook, IM, and texting. he started to tell me that he liked me and would also sweet talk me as the first guy did. it sort of persuaded me into liking him. i did find him attractive and i did like his personality. but i learned from the past mistakes and knew i would not kiss him. we wanted to hangout one time to get to know each other, as friends of course, even though we had little crushes on each other, but he respected that i had a bf and didnt want to mess it up'. i felt my bf couldnt know about it because he would feel jealous or start worrying, couldnt blame him though. so it was originally set up that we would hangout at the mall with other people. he would bring some friends and i would bring some. i was supposed to bring my friend jenny but at the last minute she couldnt go so it was just me. he had 2 of his friends with him, and we saw other friends while we were there too so it wasnt any sort of a date. my bf thought i was just at the mall with jenny though, bc that was the original plan. but thats all he knew. anyway, this guy and i never kissed or did anything innappropriate. i did later admit to my boyfriend that this kid and i were talking and that i had developed a crush on him. my bf and i had a long talk and i eventually ended contacts with this kid and stopped liking him, and things between me and my bf got better. i am completely over that guy. but i can tell my bf is still hurt that i could like another guy so easily and he probably feels insecure, which is understandable, i would too.
so there it is. he really only knows half or even 1/3 of all of that. i have a terrible conscience inside that reminds me of this stuff constantly. i was in denial with my self for a while and would refuse to think that i did any of that stuff, i just couldnt deal with it, i was so upset with myself and still am. i know i should tell him one day... sooner is probably better. but i am SO scared. he told me a few times that if i ever cheat on me he would be so devastated and heartbroken and it would show that 'i never loved him'. but that is not true at all. i KNOW i love him with all my heart, i dont know what i would do if he broke up with me, i would be so incredibly upset. i dont want to lose him but i know that what i did was very wrong and i am truly sorry for it. it was a mistake and i meant nothing by it, i never loved anyone at any point in my life but my bf. i used to be so naive and curious and just stupid and i see that now, ...i know i will never do those things again. i am just so afraid that if i tell him everything that he will just start thinking... and it will end up with us breaking up or something to that horrible effect. i really need advice on this. thanks so much for your time. (link)
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You are experiencing the normal sexual urges of a young girl. You are not married and from what you said you have only kissed and experimented. Don't torment yourself over this.....and DON"T tell your boy friend. Take it to the grave (as the old saying goes). You feel guilty for your experimentation which actually is very normal. This makes you feel bad. Telling him will make him feel bad. That's 2 people feeling bad. That's selfish. To make him feel bad for something he can't change is wrong. Keep it to yourself and you will get over it. All people make mistakes. Remember, he may not be perfect either but as long as you love each other it will be OK. TheMaster
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