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My mom tells me I'm fat. A lot. She's constantly telling me I need to lose weight, and though she tries to do it in a gentle way it still hurts. And it's not that she's telling me I'm fat and I'm not. I really am fat, but I have a tendency to be stubborn, so when she nags me to do things I never want to do them. And half of me wants to be skinny, and half of me doesn't, so I end up getting lost in the middle, getting stressed, eating more, and having my mom tell me I've gained weight. Thanks mom. But I don't know what to do. She thinks it's for my own good that she's telling me this, even though I've told her countless times that I KNOW it's not something I need to be reminded about. And she has her own weight issues that she should worry about. She's a lot heavier than I am and at more of a risk of health problems than I am. Not that I'm comparing myself to her, I just wish she'd focus on herself instead of me.

Is there any way you can think of that I can ignore her nagging or get her to focus on herself instead of me? (Or both????)

Alright, well insulting her of course is not a answer to clear that, but not insulting you because a lot of people are, but you could try to run and make things fun for excersicing. In the long run it really helps, and you will not feel the pain in the long run, but you will be glad you did when you walk around knowing you are nice and lean. Sorry if i didnt help, but i hope i did

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I'm 14 and I've never had a boyfriend. Usually it doesn't really bother me but I've seen so many couples who are younger than me and it makes me feel so sad and worthless. I'm ugly and shy and boring so I suppose no boy will ever want to go out with me, and even if a miracle happened and I did get one, I wouldn't really know what to do or what to say =\ People think I'm weird because I've never kissed a boy or even been out with one, I feel so different and frigid =[ I guess I was made to be single but I just want to know what it feels like to be loved.. How am I ever gonna get a boyfriend when I look like I do and I'm as shy as I am? I like this boy at school but he doesn't really like my friends because they're so immature, so he most likely thinks I'm like them and hates me too - I'm not as immature as them though.. Please help? Thanks xx

Ok, well i had the same problem a while ago and i am 13 now, and i am a boy. So, i remember when i didnt, and i would pray and tell mainly tell my self some day i would get one, and that gave me a lot of self confidence that someday a girl would like me for who i am, and it worked out, but you have to remember, social relation ships arent more important than familes because families are usualy always there for you, so take it easy and i think to relax in your situation and let things flow to you. Good luck

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im a fourteen year old gurl. i have alot of freinds but ive never had a boyfreind and i think its becuase of my weight i dont understand why guys dont like me just becuase of that one thing im a good person and really does hurt. what should i do to help me?

Alright, well i am a guy so from my view, it isnt really the weight issue its what the boy likes. I mean if you have a certain personality certain guys might like then they will start hanging out, and talking with you my guess. After a certain amount of time that probably wont be long they will come to the conclusion of what they like in girls and see if you have what they like, and you will run into one boy that will hopefuly .. good luck

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I went to a dance last night and had a BLAST! My friends went up to the kid (Ive admired from a distance lets say for like 2 years! lol) and they asked him (Logan) if he would dance with me and I guess he said yes (I wasnt there though.) So, the next slow song came on and he asked me to dance. =) Yay! And we both seemed to really like it and I could tell he was nervous which happens when you like someone right? But, then I kept trying to get his attention on the FAST dances. He would be right next to me and not even look over @ me! I mean, all these other guys told me I looked hot nd stuff byt Logan didnt even care! I was so mad. I was dancing with all my friends and we were dancing really dirty ..lol but obviously it didnt get his attention. ANyways, he didnt ask me to dance at all again the whole dance! So I danced with other people but he didnt dance with any other girls so thats a good sign?? At the end of the dance, my friends dad picked me and my friend up because I was sleeping over her house. And, we were stuck in traffic for like 3 seconds, and i saw mike with a few friends and he looked at me and i looked at him from the car and i smiled and he smiled back! We used to flirt all last year, but then he got really popular and wasnt in any of my classes. DO you think he likes me?! i hate boys ..what would you do NEXT if you were me? I dont know what the next step is for logan and me ..or if there is one at all . SOrry its long!

Alright, well i am a boy and have gone through many things with girls and such, but i think he might not know how to dance or he could think you might make fun of his dancing. He could have done the slow dancing because their isn't really a skill to it, but the fast dances and such he might have been scared you might think he is a bad dancer, and that happened exactly with me , but i was the boy, but the girls made me dance but in a friendly way, Good luck

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