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i have 2 best friends. one i've called my best friend since kindergarten, but now that i'm older she's really not a great friend. my other friend is great, she's always there for me ect. i want to drop the "best friend" name with the one from kindergarten but i don't know how she'll take it. she's kinda the person who will go & ruin your life after that. what to do, what to do?

hey! well tlk to the girl who u feel isnt ur friend .. and if things dont work there then ignore her .. eventually she will get the picture .. hope i was of some help!

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im 14 and hes 16..well this is kind of a long story but i have my picture on this website called buddypic.com and i would always talk to a lot of guys from there. well one day i started talking to this guy who lives in miami (i live in orlando) and we talked on the fone for 3 hours then started really liking eachother. weve been talking everyday for over 4 months. hes pretty much my boyfriend. well anyway over the summer i was in new jersey for a weekend and he was too so we met for the first time and we went to the mall and movies...i love him soo much i mean he told me he thought he loved me a long time ago but hastn said anything since. lately hes kinda been changing like he acts different with me and i mean we only talk to eachother but weve been fighting a lot more lately...i dont really know whats going on with him i mean he always has an attitude and thats no surprise but i love him and i dont wanna break up with him unless its what i have to do. its just so hard not seeing him cuz he dont have a lisence...hes 16 and he told me hes getting it soon and after he gets his car hes gonna come visit me. i also think its more of a physical thing between me and him than an emotional thing, because we have wanted to have sex and havent been able to do it yet...it kind of hurts me not knowing if he loves me or not. pleaseee help and tell me what you think i should do about him...i like him sooooo much but i dont think im as in love with him as i was this summer :/

hey! yea u probably arent in love with him as much as before .. and iif all you guys do is fight then he isnt much of a bf .. tlk to him and tlk to ur friends about the situation .. i personally would break up with him only because of the long distance and u wont kno if hes cheating on you ..follow ur heart .. it will kno wuts right .. i rele hope i was of help :)

IM me at justoxsurrender to let me kno how things went!

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well my friends last year spread lies bout me lovin this boy who i soo hate cuz hes always bitchin and says stuff behind my back also he so 2 faced. wat should i do bout my friends cuz i really scared this stuff will start up again durrin skool. and the boy im scared he will call me names and crap like wat he did all summer and durrin the skool year.
wat should i do???

hey! talk to ur friends .. tell them to stop .. there rele not good friends if there doing this to you ... and about the boy .. if he dosnt stop calling u names and stuff then tell the teacher or wut i would do is just hurt him where it hurts :P .. im sure it will teach him not to mess with u again .. hope i was of help :0)

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What do you think about friends with beneifts? Because I really wanna make out with a guy friend but I want something more than friends!!

hey! well if one of ur guy friends are likeing you .. more than just a friend .. then i would say go of it .. spend a little time with him .. flirt ALOT and just go for the kiss .. im sure if he rele likes u then he will like it .. hope i was of help :D

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I've never kissed a guy and I've enver been kissed. And I wanna do it. Any tips?

hey! well ur first kiss has to come from a guy rele important .. like i guess u can say from the heart .. lol .. but yea it has to b special .. :)hope i was of some help

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i love my boyfriend and he swares he loves me what do i do ? i dont think he loves me ?

hey! talk to your parents or friends about this one .. u can feel if someone loves you and if you feel that he dosnt then u should break-up with him .. follow ur heart .. it will tell you wuts right :)

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hey i'm 13/f and i have a kind of gut that i wanna get rid of .. but i can't stop craving junk food.. and then i always end up eating candy bars and unhealthy foods but i wanna lose a couple pounds befor october.. but i don't know what to do

hey! well u need alot of will power to do that .. u can still have SOME junk food as long as u work out/exsercise everyday and u should be slim in no time :)

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i really like this one guy and so does a very close friend of mine! he already said that she was hot! but i kinda dont want that. How do i get him to say that about me and ask me out and not her? :/

hey! well u should get to kno the guy first .. like spend some time alone together with out ur friend and well if you spend enough time together and flirt alot then u should get him! hope i was of some help :D

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im 14 and im a female
well heres the thing .. i really love this kid .. but like since june hes been tellin me a million different stories .. he loves me .. he likes me .. he hates me .. he dun like me like that .. n everything ... yesterday he told me that he loved me ... but he wanted to tell me to myface .. than he told this kid that he didnt .. i dont no if hes using me to get ass or not. i really do love him but i dont no what to believe. i really need help .. n if u could give me n e .. it would b greatly appriciated ! ..
thanks alot...
xOx Jess
p.s. IM me .. xosunshine12
i really think that imma do something stupid and get killed or something .. so i really need ur advice ..

hey! from personal experence i wouldnt go out with the kid mabey just friends or not even that.. if someone says they like you .. they love you .. then they hate you .. u dont want someone like that in ur life .. find some one who will love you no matter what .. i rele hope i was of some help! :) IM me at justoxsurrender to tell me how things went ..

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Well i have 2 best friends that i have nd theyre both couzins..i think that one of them is jealous bc i alweys tlk to tha other one more..what shood i du?

hey! u should tlk to ur cousin and ask them how they feel .. and try to include him/her in ur conversations with ur other cuz .. hope i was of help :-)

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Alright, I really like this boy, and he likes me. We talk on the phone almost every day and i feel so comfortable when i talk to him. But whenever he asks if I want to hang out, I get nervous and make up an excuse for not being able to go. What should I do to relax a little... and actually hang out with him??

hey! yes if you rele like this kid and u wanna hang out with him try to over come ur fear .. talk to ur friends or family to learn how to b more comfortable with him .. and in no time you will be able to hang out with him .. hope i was of some help :D

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I have blotchy skin like pimples and its kinda red should i go to the dermatologist? Also what kind of face wash should i get? Thanks

hey! well u should try nutrigina ( sp? ) or clearisal .. if that dosnt work u should DEFINITLY go to a dermatologist .. hope i helped :D

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I love my boyfriend with all my heart. He is the best thing that ever happened to me, but he has this one little problem. He likes to play by the hand a little too much. He doesn't hurt me or anything, but like if I'm sitting at the computer, he will pass by me and knock me upside the head, or flick the back of my neck or something. It doesnt hurt but its really annoying. Sometimes I yell at him because i get so agrivated, but that doesnt seem to help. I also try telling him, but I just think its a really bad habit he has. How do I get him to stop.

hey! tlk to him nice and calmly and ask him to stop .. if he askes why then you say well because i dont like it or it hurts ( even tho u said it didnt ) .. there are other ways to play around! hope i helped :)

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okay heres my story! me n my friend went to the beach together n i took her there for her birthday! and we met this guy who we both thought was hott there..i talked to him first cause she was too scared! and he is realli intrested in me and i'm into him too! but i don't wanna hurt my friend! and i feel bad now cause i told her i would take her to the mall when me n him went but i didn't..we went last night but she doesn't know we went cause i know shes gonna get mad! i don't know what to do cause i realli like him! and i've had rough relationships in the past and he feels right for me! and i don't think talkin is gonna do much good with her feelings so instead of talkin to her what else can i do?! i feel kinda bad..but i realli truely like hiM! he's a sweetie!
ugh! help me please! i'll rate high!

Ps:she is just a friend..not a best friend

hey! well if you find that hes the guy you have been looking for then i say go for it! yeaa u dont wanna hurt ur "friends" feelings u just have to tlk to her and c if its ok .. well actually shes rele not the boss of you soo u should b able to make ur own decisions and if she dosnt like it then oh well for her .. hope i helped!

x33`serena

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OK.. so I really like this guy a wicked lot. He is the first crush that I actually talk to and I would have a chance w/. I like him cus hes funny and nice not cus hes hott(even tho he is;) ). The problem is he does weed sometimes and my friends tell me hes bad news. Its a total suprise cus hes soooo nice in person. I told my friends i'm over him but i'm not. i cant help it. i dunno what to do..should i keep trying to get over him or should I continue trying w/ him and just ignore his bad habits. please help. BTW i'm 14/f

yea u might wanna get rid of him .. cause ne guy who does weed isnt good news ( sometimes ) n ur 14 .. u dont need to b dateing a guy who does weed .. im sure ur very preety and can find another guy .. whos CLEAN! good luck n listen to ur friends for a second opinion or tlk to ur parents .. hope i was of some help! =)

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Ok there is this guy that I have went out w/5 times! And we have both said that we love each other. The thing is now I have a bf, and ppl keep telling me that he still likes me and all this stuff. He is in 2 of my classes and he is always staring at me or he sits beside me. He is suppose 2 be going out w/a senior but ppl say he likes me!! I dunno what 2 do, what do u think? Please IM me the answer...my s/n is iluvcamcoleman15 or AzianChick143!! Thank u so0o much 4 listening!

heyy! well you should keep going out with ur current bf .. only cause im sure u broke up with ur x-bf for a reason .. if thing definitly dont work out between u and ur current bf then u should definitly go out with the other guyy! ive had this problem before .. u should rely on ur heart and listen to ur friends advice for a second opinion .. i hope i was of some help =D

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ok well im 13 nd a grl nd i had a boifriend teh past yr nd goin into 8th grade we broke up nd we saw other ppl but while he was wit some1 else hed tell me that he missed me nd had made a huge mistake nd i still have feelings for him nd over the summer we were still seein ppl but than we both broke up wit em nd we decided that we would wait till school starts to go out again cuz we dnt usually see eachother over the summer but he went back out wit his ex but he still says he loves me but i dnt kno whether to believ him or not or if i should jus try to get over him even tho i tried that b4 nd it didnt go to good wat should i do? thanx for listenin

hey! well if he go back together with his x that means he probably dosnt wanna b with you .. thats just my opinion .. if he rele wanted to be with you he would have waited until the skool year started so he could be with you . i would not go out with him for now but if u c a change in him then go out with him .. i would just find someone else for now! hope i was of some help =D

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hi...well im almost 14...and i had sex for the first time on Monday...it was with a guy i REALLY like...but hes like 4 years older than me...he likes me too..but he doesnt rly wanna tell alot of ppl about everything...should i tell someone and stay with him or find someone thats more of my age..?!

hey!.. mabey you should find someone a little more your age .. n u might not wannna tell someone that you had sex with him cause u will get in a whole bunch of trouble .. also dont tell ur parents about him cause if you do decide to stay with him they might make u break up with him .. i hope i was of some help :D

-serena

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Ok.. I'm 18/f and my b/f of 2 and a half years moved to Georgia 5 weeks ago. He said he was doing it to ''grow up'' and to make sure his feelings for me were real. Well, he tells me he still loves me and wants to be with me, but when I try to get him to come back home..he won't. Do you think it's cause he is testing me, or because he wants me to leave him alone? Thanks!!

hey! well it could mean both .. u wont rele kno for sure unless u talk to him .. try to work things out .. good luck!! i hope i was of some help :D

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I went to visit my aunt and met this guy and i guess he says he lieks me and when we were in the car he asked when i was going to be his gf and i said i didnt no well i havent seen him for awhile and i call him and talk to him on the phone and i really really like him what should i do becuz i really want to go with him

hey! i think you should go for it! if you like him and he likes you .. then u should go for it! i hope i was of some help :D

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