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I don't think this is normal, but I was wondering what was wrong with me. I noticed that whenever I eat something, 20 - 30 minutes later I have to go to the bathroom. I don't throw it back up, but my stomach feels weird or it feels like some kind of stomachache. So it basically goes in one way and then out the other 20 minutes later.
What wrong? It can't be super fast metabolism can it?
This sounds like it could be IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome)but you should really go see your doctor about this ASAP
Irritable bowel syndrome (IBS, or spastic colon) is a diagnosis of exclusion. It is a functional bowel disorder characterized by chronic abdominal pain, discomfort, bloating, and alteration of bowel habits in the absence of any detectable organic cause. In some cases, the symptoms are relieved by bowel movements. Diarrhoea or constipation may predominate, or they may alternate.
Although there is no cure for IBS, there are treatments that attempt to relieve symptoms, including dietary adjustments, medication and psychological interventions. Patient education and a good doctor-patient relationship are also important.
I suggest you go see a doctor to get a proper diagnosis and see if anything can be done.
Hope this helps xx
i know this is so weird to ask but my boyfriend is sick of missionary and i always make him do that because i dont know how to ride. he wants me to so bad but im SO nervous im going to mess up or something. dont tell me you should be honest with him and tell him blah no i just want to know the steps on how to ride my boyfriend. so please be as specific!! thankss so much
Get on top with your knees on either side of his waist/hips and go up and down. You can wiggle around a little bit, rub on him etc to make it feel better for yourself but not too much as it can hurt them going back and fourth rather than up and down too hard.
Tip: You can do this postion in reverse, called reverse cow girl. So basically the same thing but instead of facing him, turn around.
Hope this helps xx
19/f
For some reason I have noticed that I have always been more attracted to "bad boys." My stomach seems to flip for the guys who treat me the worst. I end up dating sweet and romantic guys but in the end I have dumped them for players and jerks who didn't have true feelings for me. This has happened about 3 times since I started dating at age 14. Is there any explanation for this?
I guess the only explanation for it would be the unpredictability, because they can be nice one time and mean the next but you don't know when or for how long. They're not like the 'nice guys' who are so predictable, send you flowers, sweet texts, stay clear of arguments. With 'bad boys' you tend to get more adrenaline pumping through you because of the heated arguments and if you are sexually active then the passionate sex. Just things like that that make you choose the bad boy over the nice boy. You just get more out of the relationship.
Hope this helps xx
My curse comes and goes long is it suppose to leave ? Because I am dying 4 it to go?And I'm 27 and I hate being a girl Terrible huh
I believe your talking about your period? There's really not that much information here.
Now if you talking about how long they should last on average 3-5 days but for some it can last up to 7 or as little as 1 day.
If your talking about when does your period stop on its ownThe U.S Department of Health and Human Sciences defines
menopause as when a woman does not have a period for
12months in a row. The ovaries stop producing as much
estrogen and progesterone. While body is changing, and
until you’ve gone 11 months and 29 days without a period,
is known as the perimenopause stage. Menopause is in fact
only one day the day that is exactly 12 months since you’ve
had your last period, the time after that is the
postmenopausal stage.
There are also other ways you yourself can stop your period for example a depo provera injection stops your from having your period but it is used a form of contraception.
Hope this helps, xx
The U.S Department of Health and Human Services say that
the average age to start perimenopause is between 45 and
55 but some women will start the process as early as 35. The
University of Maryland says that that perimenopause can
start up to 10 years before actual menopause. According to
the University of Virginia there are some factors which may
contribute to an early menopause such as smoking and
never having given birth.
According to the Mayo Clinic, the reason that your periods
become irregular during perimenopause is because your
ovaries produce varying amounts of the hormone each
month --- sometimes a little, sometimes a lot.
i have a friend whos had sex many times with many different guys. Shes really kool, but most people say shes a hoe. Shes only 13 and had sex with over 3 different guys, She even gave head to a boy younger than her, i dont know how to tell her without hurting her feelings? any sugestions would be appreciated.
Bring her to the side and ask to talk to her. Tell her that she's beginning to get a name for herself. The tender age of 13 is definitely too young for all of this. You should be focusing on your school and having fun with your friends. You need to tell her that as her friend you think that what she's doing isn't good for her, say that you care for her and don't want to see her get hurt, she's taking the wrong life path and if she carries on she might just end up being a teenage mum with a dad who's too scared to face up to the responsibilities. When a girl loses her virginity at a young age. Boys get the wrong idea. They don't love her, they don't think she's amazing at sex. They've heard she does this, they show their "interest" in her and she rises to it. Their using her because they think she's easy. Tell your friend to stop what she's doing and get a grip on her life. I guarantee you she's feeling very vulnerable right now and extremely insecure. This will probably be the only thing she thinks will make her happy. Take her out and try and say this to her, or better yet say it at a sleep over or in her house or something. Somewhere where she can't run away from what your saying. I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck in helping your friend, xx
16/f/India
Okay so I am in senior year. Here 12th grade is VERY important..My admissions into a good college will be only on the basis of the marks I score in my "board examination" which is held at the end of the year. The papers are not checked by my teachers but by some other teachers who don't know me and are teaching in some other school. This is done to make the examination fair. The cutoffs for any college where i live (new delhi) are CRAZZY. I mean nothing below a 475/500 is acceptable.
I have Physics, Chemistry, Computer science, English and Maths as my subjects.
Im telling you all of this just so that you know there is a lot of pressure to perform well.. and I have to in order to get a good college.
Ive just been real distracted for a while. I don't know how to concentrate on my studies. I dont feel like sitting with my books. It is freaking me out because every day matters to me. Please help!!!!!
If it helps. I havent been that bad in my studies. I wont say its cutting edge but then im one of the top 10 students in my class. Its just that i dont know how to get that extra edge..so that i can actually get into a college here. a very good college..
Well first off, when you study you study in moderation. Yes everyday does count but this is why you make a study plan, so that your not stressing or thinking am I spending too much time on this? Shouldn't I be revising? I'm not saying go out and have a party but take a small break each day from your studying to just de-stress, yes this is a very important time for you but stress and revision really doesn't go well. Even studying somewhere other than your room can help, try a park bench? maybe in your garden, different scenery and open spaces tend to help people relax more and feel at ease because they don't feel like they're trapped between the walls of their bedroom. As for getting that extra edge - it's how you study. you have 5 subjects to study for make a couple of hours for each subject each day? and you pick which two days you would like during the week to just relax. Try revising in a fun way so it sticks in your head more, listen to pod casts on an mp3. Little things like that might help you as we tend to learn more hearing and looking. Make your notes bright, anything! Just make sure you keep those stress levels down, good sleep, sufficient food, and a PLAN. I really do hope this helps, please inbox if you need more help!, good luck with everything!!xx
Okay so there is this real close friend of mine.We are classmates. And we had this sleepover, a couple of us, guys and girls. I just broke up two months back with my bf who cheated..so i am still getting over it...And my friend broke up a few days ago. We ended up chatting throughout the night, and i dont know what happened but we ended up kissing each other too..it was not our intention of doing ANYTHING like that. we pretty much have feelings for our ex's and not each other. i dont know why and how it happened.
we have promised not to tell this to anyone. and that this incident will stay a secret between the two of us forever. but i feel weird about it, i feel disgusted for doing such a stupid thing now. do you think things will change because of this? i am scared he would tell someone which i really dont want.HELP. how should i handle this?
You have nothing to hide. You have both just gotten out of a relationship in which your still in love with the person and you guys were just feeling lonely and at the time it felt like the right thing because you have so much in common and are feeling the same things at the moment. Just treat it like it is. A complete misunderstanding. It wasn't intended and you don't like him like that. Don't stress to much about it because then you'll make it seem like it's more than it is. I doubt things will change but you might both be feeling a bit awkward about this so maybe you guys should talk but this time just air your feelings about the kiss, and keep it to that. I'm sure it won't hurt to talk about what happened, you just have to push past this and good things will soon start happening again, I hope this helps, if you need any more help please don't hesitate to inbox me again, good luck xx
So my boyfriend lost his virginity to me and we've been together for two years. For some reason he spiked up the urge to have anal sex and kind of rushed me into it. i don't mind anal sex too much, it's just i dont want all of my 'nastiness' to be on him or fall when he pulls it out. how do i prevent that?
also, i know that the anus is tighter but i asked him why he wants to do it all of a sudden and he said just to spice it up. do you think that could be true or would there be a most likely underlying truth ?
also, how can i , as a girl get orgasmic pleasure from anal sex? sure it felt OKAY the second time and it didn't bother me too much but how can i get myself to find pleasure in it?
how do i keep him from wanting anal sex all the time and turn him back on to my vagina? i feel like it's being totally rejected.
i know i asked a lot of questions but im really curious. thanks :)
oh and one more...does the anus self lubricate? -male and female
The anus does not self lubricate which is why its recommended to use a decent a mount of lube to help with penetration so it doesn't hurt so much, easier to go in and out and obviously no tearing.
There are taboos surrounding the various types of anal sex – and particularly anal intercourse.
These may arouse strong feelings of moral indignation, guilt and anxiety.
It is important to remember that while some people find these activities repugnant, others may find them stimulating, exciting, and a normal part of their sexual intimacy.
Research shows that, whether we like it or not, the anal area is equipped with many erotic nerve endings – in both men and women. So it is not surprising that many couples (including a lot of heterosexual ones) derive pleasure from some form of ‘bottom stimulation'.
How to have anal intercourse safely
Anal intercourse involves the penetration of the anus and rectum with the erect penis for the purpose of sexual stimulation. It is possible for both men and women to ‘receive’ it, although care is needed for it to be safe and comfortable.
Ensure the anal area is clean and the bowel is empty. This is important both aesthetically and practically. If the bowel is empty, there is no risk of the receptive partner passing faeces.
The 'receptive' partner must be able to relax the anal sphincter in order to accommodate the erect penis. The anal sphincter is a ring of muscle that can be contracted or relaxed under voluntary control. Forced penetration may result in tearing of the sensitive skin around the anus or the sphincter itself. This may result in severe anal pain or even faecal incontinence.
Try gently inserting a lubricated finger, perhaps covered by a condom or glove into the anus first. This will enable the receiving partner to find out whether penetration is comfortable and enjoyable. Having managed to accommodate one finger, you can run the finger around the anal canal - gently stretching it. This must be done delicately so as not to cause pain or injury.
Next, you can, if you wish, try and insert two fingers. If this is successfully achieved, the couple may agree to try with a well-lubricated penis or with a butt plug (a broad-based anal dilator), dildo or vibrator (see below about the risks of sex aids and anal sex).
Gentleness, care, adequate lubrication and anal relaxation are required, not the insertive partner pushing harder! If condoms are used for penile penetration, which is advisable to reduce the risk of sexually transmitted disease, it is important to use a water-based lubricant. The insertive partner must control any thrusting, so as to give the receptive partner time to allow the sphincter to relax. With time and practice, this may become easier
As to get him to go back to vaginal sex rather than anal that involves you talking to him. You need to tell him that it's not as stimulating for you and you can't climax that way. If you are willing to have anal sex with him then you could say that your willing to have it but not every time because you prefer vaginal sex. There are plenty of other positions to help spice up your sex life however if you've only just started having sex there's no need to rush to 'spice it up'. You need to tell him that you wanna climax as well as have him climax but always going anal sex isn't all that pleasurable to you as it is to him. You've been together for two years so having a talk about this shouldn't be awkward or too bad. He should be understanding about this if your both willing to co-operate with each other and listen to each others needs. I hope this helps and if you need any more help feel free to inbox me, good luck!!xx
me and my boyfriend are together for 9 years. we love and care each other so much. we'll be living together soon. months ago he wanted to ejaculate in me but i disagreed coz i didn't want to get pregnant and afterwards i wanted him to ejaculate in me he disagreed saying it's too soon to have a baby. but recently, it's been a while that he says he wants to come in me. is he hinting me to get pregnant? he also knows that i want a baby. thanks.
I dont know because what i can make out from what you've told me he said its too soon. Considering you've been going out for 9 years and your now living together you guys should be comfortable enough to talk about things like this as a couple. So ask him if he wants to have a baby with you and ask him if he wants to now cum inside you because your now basically a family. Don't be like do you wanna have a baby! just bring it up in conversation and be like we need to talk and just say how you said it to me. You'll soon get your answer.
Hope this helps, inbox me if you need more help! good luckxx
My dog has resently been peeing all over the house, but she has been trained for like three years... its jus been resently. And than the other night she was sleeping on the Couch and peed,while she was sleeping! Can anyone tell me what's wrong with her? What can I do to make this stop. Oh and we let her out like hour now, but she pees like crazy still... thanks:) for reading.
Call the vet and ask if you can get a prescription called Proin-50 (phenylpropanolamine). This frequently helps. The incontinence in older dogs is not unusual.Some dogs acquire this at an earlier age due to them being spayed and no longer having the hormones that help keep their muscles tight.Just in case...the vet may ask for a urine sample to rule out an infection, not a bad idea!!
Hope this helps, good luck!!xx
If I am a lesbian, what can I do for fun if I am alone?
Being a lesbian doesn't mean you have your own separate list of things you can do when your alone. You pretty much do what everybody else does. If you are talking about sexual fun then obviously you can masturbate, watch porn etc. If your talking about general fun then obviously go out or do some cooking or watch a movie hang out with friends. If your talking about being alone with someone then obviously you can do a number of things with that person. Or if your talking about being alone but wanting a partner, then go to like a gay bar or something etc. Hope this helps xx
Hi,
I have a keloid, the size of a dime, on my chest, slightly to the right. It's raised & pink, so it's hard to hide. So far I've been placing large necklaces over it so that it's hidden.
Any advice as to how I can hide it better? Or at least some websites with huge necklaces? (preferably fashionable) lol.
Thanks!
Because a keloid is raised on your skin it is fairly difficult to hide it without covering it up. You could try and get a foundation/concealer for it so it doesn't look as pink or you could just get it removed.The methods now available to treat keloids are:
Cortisone injections (intralesional steroids): These are safe and not very painful. Injections are usually given once per month until the maximum benefit is obtained. Injections are safe (very little steroid gets into the bloodstream) and usually help flatten keloids; however, steroid injections can also make the flattened keloid redder by stimulating the formation of more superficial blood vessels. (These can be treated using a laser; see below.) The keloid may look better after treatment than it looked to start with, but even the best results leave a mark that looks and feels quite different from the surrounding skin.
Surgery: This is risky, because cutting a keloid can trigger the formation of a similar or even larger keloid. Some surgeons achieve success by injecting steroids or applying pressure dressings to the wound site after cutting away the keloid. Radiation after surgical excision has also been used.
Laser: The pulsed-dye laser can be effective at flattening keloids and making them look less red. Treatment is safe and not very painful, but several treatment sessions may be needed. These may be costly, since such treatments are not generally covered by insurance plans.
Silicone sheets: This involves wearing a sheet of silicone gel on the affected area for several hours a day for weeks or months, which is hard to sustain. Results are variable. Some doctors claim similar success with compression dressings made from materials other than silicone.
Cryotherapy: Freezing keloids with liquid nitrogen may flatten them but often darkens the site of treatment.
Interferon: Interferons are proteins produced by the body's immune systems that help fight off viruses, bacteria, and other challenges. In recent studies, injections of interferon have shown promise in reducing the size of keloids, though it's not yet certain whether that effect will be lasting. Current research is underway using a variant of this method, applying topical imiquimod (Aldara), which stimulates the body to produce interferon.
Fluorouracil: Injections of this chemotherapy agent, alone or together with steroids, have been used as well for treatment of keloids.
Radiation: Some doctors have reported safe and effective use of radiation to treat keloids.
Hope this helps xx
im a female n i masturbate almost everyday with a vibrator n i wanna kno y it feels so good, like u wanna keep going, n y orgasms feel good? ps im a virgin
With solo sex, there is no distraction, and you can focus on your own experience without making sure someone else is having a good time.
It doesn't mean you don't love your partner, maybe just that you need to think only about yourself sometimes. "The woman doesn't have to be outside her head, wondering, 'Am I taking too long?'
Women who masturbate on a regular basis learn what feels good for them."It helps build sexual confidence,". "It helps you guide the partner when you have a partner.”
It's the constant stimulation of the vibrator that can be made stronger or weaker depending on the person that makes you feel aroused and helps you to orgasm.
And orgasms feel so gooood because when you orgasm, your brain releases a large amount of endorphins. Endorphins are a chemical that make you happy. And just because your completing a sexual endeavour with has given you so much pleasure.
Hope this helps xx
i am a young teen, i'm on 17 and just fount out i was pregnant. i would like to know what can i expect throughout this pregnancy. please be detail in what your telling me. i no idea whats going on and my doctor has already confused me. i really need help.
Every week brings new developments when you're expecting. Your baby's changing day by day, and your body is keeping pace with developments of its own.
Expectant mothers are excited during the first few months of pregnancy. This is when the greatest developments take place not only in the mother’s physical body but also for her child within. Here are some of the most exciting changes outside and inside a mother’s womb during her pregnancy week by week.
Week 4: is when you realize you are pregnant. Most women will have their first bouts with morning sickness during this time. Inside the womb, the amniotic sac and cavity will begin to develop. The placenta is beginning to grow as well.
Week 5: your baby’s brain and spinal cord will begin to develop. Although they are still rudimentary, this forerunner of the brain will help develop the other organs such as the lung, digestive track, reproductive organs and the heart.
Week 6: Some mothers will feel tenderness in the breasts at around this time. Most women also complain about feeling tired. This is because the body is getting used to functioning for two people: the mother and the baby. Inside, baby’s heart will begin to beat. He will also start forming his eyes, arm buds and intestines.
Week 7: Baby will double in size during this age. The lenses of his eyes are already developing and he will already have his tongue. His arm buds have now become paddles and his jaws will become visible.
Week 8: The cerebellum which is responsible for muscle movement will begin to develop inside his brain. His elbows and legs are developing as well as his retina. At this age, your baby’s eye pigment is now appearing in his retina.
Week 9: you will be able to tell whether you are having a boy or a girl at this stage. Your baby’s heart will have 4 chambers and is now busy pumping blood to his little body. Muscles and the nervous system will begin communicating and your baby is now kicking and swimming inside his warm little sac.
Week 10: this is when your baby will start looking like a baby. Your baby will have developed his upper lips. Toes and fingers begin to form and his taste buds will begin to develop.
Week 11: Mom’s morning sickness will start to wear off at around this time. Although most women still don’t have the baby bump yet, inside your baby’s muscle structure is developing.
Week 12: Baby will now have his finger nails and toe nails. The brain as well as the pancreas and gall bladder will be fully developed.
Week 13: During this stage of the pregnancy week by week development, vocal chords will begin to develop and your baby’s chest will begin to rise and fall preparing for the same movement outside the womb.
Week 14: Baby will now practice to suck and swallow inside your womb. He will also begin to open and close his hands.
Week 15: Your baby will start to be active during this stage of the pregnancy. He can now turn his head, open and close his mouth and kick!
Week 16: At 16 weeks, mom will have a proud baby bump! Inside, the neck is beginning to straighten and the head is steadily growing larger.
Week 17: Baby is really starting to grow. At this stage, he will have increased his weight by 6 times. He is busy working on his reflexes like blinking, swallowing, sucking and breathing.
Week 18: During this week, your baby will begin developing his finger prints. Baby’s eyes and ears will now be in their correct places.
Week 19: Vernix coseosa a creamy substance that protects your baby’s developing glands and sensory organs will begin to cover your baby’s body. If you are having a girl, her egg cells will begin to develop in her ovaries.
Week 20: At this stage, all the major developments have taken place. The baby inside your womb will be waking, sleeping and playing like most normal babies outside the womb do. Scalp and hair begin to develop during this stage.
Week 21: During this phase, you will be able to hear your baby’s heart beat through a stethoscope. Baby is becoming more active and muscles and bones are now stronger.
Week 22: Your baby now has hair! His hair on the head as well as his eyebrows will now be visible. If the baby is a boy, then his testes will begin to move from the pelvic area to the scrotum.
Week23: Your baby’s sense of hearing is now almost done developing. Soon he will be able to hear and in some studies recognize your voice.
Week 24: You won’t need a stethoscope to hear your baby’s heart beat. In most cases, you will be able to hear the heart beat by placing your ear on the mother’s stomach.
Week 25: Capillaries will start to develop and your baby is now reddish pink. Your baby’s nostrils will also begin to open.
Week 26: With the nostrils open, your baby will start muscular breathing. His lungs will begin to secrete surfactant, a substance that prevents the lung tissues from sticking together. Blood vessels will begin to form inside the lungs and the development of the air sacs will begin. The brain will start gearing up for visual as well as auditory activity.
Week 27: Your baby will increasingly start to become more and more active at this stage of his development. It’s not uncommon to feel 10 kicks per hour from your baby.
Week 28: At this phase, your baby’s chance of surviving a premature birth has improved greatly. He is also now capable of opening his eyes and breathing in air.
Week 29: Your baby will now have his eyelashes and will be able to move his eyes inside their sockets, though they are still unable to focus.
Week 30: Baby will now begin to store up some of the nutrients he has taken from your body. He will stock up on calcium for bone growth, protein for muscular development and iron for blood. Laguno or the small hairs surrounding his body will be nearly gone except for small patches in his back and shoulders.
Week 31: Though growth and development will begin to slow down, your baby’s internal organs will continue maturing, so make sure you get enough folic acid, iron and calcium
Week 32: Mom will be pretty heavy with baby at this stage. Frequent trips to the bathroom, sore feet and back are common complaints at this stage. Inside, baby’s irises are now able to respond to sight and all 5 senses are developed although the sense of smell is limited because baby can’t breathe inside the uterus.
Week 33: Baby is now able to suck his fingers. Most moms feel constipated at this stage since the baby’s size will now be putting pressure on mom’s bowels.
Week 34: At this stage, the baby is preparing for birth and is now developing his immune system. Eye pigment is not yet fully developed so baby’s eyes will look blue regardless of final eye color.
Week 35: In most cases, your baby will now shift his head to the pelvis, although not all babies do this.
Week 36: Your baby will now begin to develop dimples on his skin due to the continuous deposit of fat which he will need for insulation outside the womb.
Week 37: At this stage, be wary of signs of labor. Around 85% of pregnant women give birth 2 weeks before their due date. Start packing your hospital bag at this point.
Week 38: Meconium or the dark green substance that is a mass of waste from the pancreas, liver and gall bladder are now accumulating in the intestines.
Week 39: Most women feel clumsy during this stage as the baby is now settling in the uterus. You may feel off balance as your center of gravity shifts.
Week 40: Be prepared to welcome your new baby if you have not given birth yet. At this point it is now a waiting game for the mom. Inside, development has slowed down and your baby is now getting ready to leave the uterus.
Hope this helps, please don't hesitate to inbox if you are in need of more information xx
Well, first of all, the boy I'm talking about is this guy: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=594784 that I talked about in that question.
In answer to that question, I decided to just be friendly. Today, I was talking to him online and I had finally had a chance to talk to him at school and he was friendly and all. Online, I said, "so how old are you?" Because I just wanted to make sure he was actually 12.
He said, "I have to go, bye :) see ya :) " .. but he was still online ages after that. Is it because I asked him how old he was? I know that I might be overreacting, but I HATE having people annoyed at me or angry with me even though they say their fine.
So what do I do now? He's still online . . should I be like, "your still online..." But I don't want to be mean or rude! Or should I just pretend that I don't see him online, or something?
I DUNNO. HELP, PLEASE AND THANKS!!
I'm sorry for my late reply, if you see him online again, then just ask him again and if he ignores your question then you ask him why are you ignoring my question, or equally ask to meet up with him and then ask him outright, and then you will be able to see his reaction to the question and any hesitation. You were right in deciding to be friendly as right now your trying to decipher your opinions about him and he's really not helping you with the positive opinions. I understand hating people being annoyed at you but just trying to brush it off. With things like this or even people like this you just have to be blunt and straight to the point. If I have a friend that is still online after they say bye then I'd wait a little bit and then say "why are you still online lol?" try to make it as friendly as possible so that he will interact with you in the same way and not just brush you off.
I hope this helps, inbox me again if you need more help xx
f/24.
Hello my name is Ashley Neeley, i'm 24 and a virgin, well of my vagina at least. I have had anal sex with my boyfriend who's 48. We do it about three times a day average and my symptoms are usually just a sore, stretched out butthole. Yesterday i noticed that my butthole was seeping yellow puss & had a horrible smell. I went to Walmart and bought Depends, which are diapers for elderly. Is there anything else i can do?
I think you have what is called a burst anal abscess.
There are two different kinds of abscess that can develop in this region of the body.
One is called a perirectal abscess, and develops in the deep tissues surrounding the anus, such as within the musculature of the buttocks and spaces around the anorectal canal.
The other known variety is a perianal abscess, which is a collection of pus that sits right underneath the skin of the anus and can easily be mistaken for an external hemorrhoid.
Both types need immediate attention from a doctor, as any delay may cause serious complications such as systemic infection.
While you are at home, the anal abscess may burst outwards on its own, at which point you should notice a significant release of pus either into bath water, toilet water, or your clothing.
Pus usually has a quite distinctive odor, and ranges in color from white, to yellow, and may even have a slightly greenish tinge.
If there is blood in the pus, it can take on a characteristic reddish or rust color as well.
Pus is composed of decomposing immune cells that died while attempting to fight off an infection, and is usually quite bacteria rich because of it, so if the abscess does burst outward, clean the area, change clothing, and wash your hands well and in hot water to prevent the spread of the infection.
As anal abscesses can be difficult to diagnose at the best of times, when you see your doctor it is important to answer all questions fully and to freely volunteer information.
The treatment for abscesses of any kind, including anal abscess, usually involves a surgical procedure to drain the abscess cavity, followed by a round of antibiotics to eliminate any lingering infection, and pain management medication to make you as comfortable as possible.
In addition to antibiotics and pain management, your doctor may also give you special dietary instructions to help recovery from an anal fissure, such as more fruit and vegetables and nil or greatly reduced fatty foods / sugary foods / eggs / meat / dairy.
Your doctor may prescribe stool softeners, and tell you to take frequent warm sitz-baths, to help the anal abscess to heal and provide some relief. And sex is most definitely off the table.
Natural anal abscess recovery helpers include Vitamin A and Zinc to help the immune system. Vitamin A and B complex to help offset the negative effects of the antibiotics. If fever a symptom, then consume more liquid, plus Vitamins A, C, E.
While an anal abscess is a serious concern, and can be quite frightening with the rapidity and severity of its symptoms, with proper treatment most people fully recover in a short period of time.
With good, responsible medical attention and the support and comfort of loved ones, an anal abscess should be an easily resolved problem that takes almost no time at all to recover from.
If the anal abscess does burst at home, it will probably relieve quite a bit of the pain and fever, as the pus is usually a haven for the bacteria causing the infection in the first place.
While the relief can be extreme, even if the abscess bursts on its own it is still important to see a doctor because the area can become reinfected or the abscess can reform on its own.
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If you have sex slot do you get tired of it?
You don't really get tired of sex in itself, but you do get tired from sex, because you're doing it so often. For some people they do get tired of sex but mainly because its in some way boring, like they always do the same positions, or the guy doesn't last long enough and the girl never gets to finish which is why some people don't bother.
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Hey(: does anyone know where you can get Justin Bieber shirts?! I've only seen one that says the future Mrs. Bieber but do you know where to get different ones?? thanks!!:)
You can go to the official Justin Bieber Shop.
http://justinbieber.shop.bravadousa.com/
Or
http://store.universal-music.co.uk/restofworld/justin-bieber/clothing/icat/justinbiebermainclothing/
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What's lube?
"Lube" is a shorter, more casual way of saying "lubricant" or "lubrication." In general, lubricants help machines of all kinds, from bicycles to jet engines, run more smoothly. When I said lube, I referred to the products made to allow for greater glide during sex (thrusting), making sex more comfortable and pleasurable. Lubes come in three basic types – water-based, oil-based, and silicone-based – all of which have different properties:
Water-based lubes are generally considered most user-friendly and all-purpose of the three types. They don't deteriorate latex, so they're safe to use with condoms, dams, diaphragms, and other latex safer-sex products. For most people, water-based lubes are non-irritating, user-friendly, and easy to clean up. A number of these lubes also contain glycerin however, which may cause yeast infections in some women. They can also dry out relatively quickly, but adding a little more lube, water, or saliva will get you sliding smoothly again.
Oil-based lubes like Vaseline or lotion are not recommended for safer sex because they break down latex. They can also leave a coating on the vagina or rectum that can lead to infections. Males masturbating alone, though, can use oil-based lubes as a way to avoid chafing or to simply try something new.
Silicone-based lubes are the newest on the market. Like water-based lubes, they're safe to use with condoms and other latex products, but they last longer. Silicone lubes can also be used in the water without being washed off. However, this means they're harder to clean up after: you'll have to use soap and water. If you're using silicone lube with sex toys, you may want to use caution, since it can damage sex-toys made of silicone. Using a condom over the toy or choosing a water-based lube can help avoid mishaps.
Within these broader categories, you can find more specific kinds of lube, such as flavored lubes for oral sex or lubes that contain a spermicide like nonoxynol-9. Note that nonoxynol-9 can cause irritation, which may increase one's risk of contracting HIV. If you have sensitive skin, you may want to do a spot-test on your inner arm or thigh the day before you plan to use any new lube in order to make sure you don't have an unwanted allergic reaction.
Overall, lubes are a great way to enhance pleasure during sex. There are hundreds of different varieties available, so with a little experimenting, just about everybody can find a lube that makes their sex life both more slippery and satisfying.
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How long do people have sex, how long does it last?
It all depends on the person, and how many times you want to go for.
Men seem to complain that they either last way too long in bed or not nearly long enough.
Very few people have intercourse that goes longer than 12 minutes
For men, essentially, ejaculatory inhibition, which is also called "delayed orgasm" has less to do with actual time than an inability to ejaculate when you'd like. And premature ejaculation, which is also called "rapid ejaculation" refers to intercourse that lasts less than a minute or two.
He can last longer by improving his technique through what he calls "masturbation". You could also try switching positions and varying the speed and pattern of thrusts, and then you might attain the required 18-minute minimum or even longer!
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