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well i need help with this,
i'm 14 and a chick
my boyfriend just broke up with me about 2 days ago and i still love him sooooo much. like you guys have no idea.
but i dont know what to do, i want to get over him but it seems impossible.
and it was such a rash decision too.
about 3 days before he was telling me how much he loved me and that i was pretty and all these reasons why he loved me, but then he just broke up with me.
he says its because he cant handle the pressure of being in a relasionship, and i told him i wouldnt pressure him at all.
we had been dating for 4 months by the way.
help would realllyy be appreciated. and i'll love you forever =]
Guys at your age don't know what they want when it comes to relationships. & sometimes they're actions won't make any sense. If you have any desire to move on & get over him, I suggest limiting your conversations & spending less time hanging out. Don't necessarily cut him out of your life (unless you both agree that's your best bet), but just don't devote your entire night talking to him like you used to. If there are certain things around your room (like the flowers he gave you or a picture of you two), take it out. Remove anything that might remind you of him & cause you to get emotional about. I don't suggest forgeting all the good times completely (you'll want to remember those!). But if you have less things around you that remind you of your relationship, it'll be easier to keep your mind off of him. In addition, try picking up a new hobby or spending more time with your girl friends. It'll work overtime, trust me. :)
the guy that i like and i are friends. he knows i like him. apparently he was planning on asking me to the winter semi-formal dance for a while, according to one of my friends. he asked me to go with him yesterday, and i said yes of course, but i dont know if he wants to go as "just friends" or as something more. how can i ask him without looking like an idiot? thanks =)
That's cute, congrats. :) I'd just ask him straight up. You aren't going to look like an idiot, I promise. Any girl in your situation would probably be asking the same thing, so it's not a big deal.
well my bf lives about 4 hours aways and i dont know what to get him for valentines day. and today he told me he missed my perfume. so i was thinking of buying a 2 ounce bottle of my perfume as a reminder of me and then i'll buy him something else too. do you think the perfume idea is a cute idea? i'd like a guys opinion too. thanks
I know the whole stuffed animal gift is overdone on Valentine's Day. But I think it'd be cute to spray some of your perfume on a big bear & send the rest of the bottle with him (so he could re-spray when he wanted to.) That way he could feel like you're always there with him. :)
15/f. how can i improve my handwriting? i hate mine because i tend to connect a lot of my letter, but not in a cursive sort of way. so what are some things i can do to improve my handwriting.
also what can i do to increase my writing speed? i right sooooo slow. lol and it is really annoying when i have to take notes in class. i guess in order to write fast i don't have to worry about neatness, but it has to be readable =]
thanks!
This may sound weird, but try finding someones handwriting that you really like (but not TOO different from your own) & imitate the way they write their letters. After awhile, it'll grow onto you. As for speed - I'm not sure what to tell you there besides practice & maybe go for cursive writing.
13/f
ok so theres this guy that ive been friends with for about 5-6months+! we can tell each other ANYTHING. but anyway...hes the sweetest guy but lately hes been acting a little different. everytime i talk to him it's "ooohh please dont fuck me like u did last night" but hes only kidding bcuz i never had sex. im a virgin. but then he started immitating all the moans and noises i would make if we did have sex...does it sound like he wants to have sex with me? but then the confusing part is he'll turn around and act normal again...off and on. should i be worried about him wanting sex from me? i mean...he just hit puberty so...can't really blame the guy for being curious right?
and i wanna have sex with him...dont get me wrong im not a slut!
...but should i do it?
thanks in advance
You're right - he's 13, he's hit puberty & sexual remarks are gonna be in his vocabulary. His hormones are just raging & sex is gonna be on his mind from this point on. But it doesn't necessarily mean he wants to have sex with you. I don't suggest looking into deep into it because this is typical. & I wouldn't worry about him wanting sex from you unless he actually says it to you directly. But take it from me - you're 13 & you're on a site asking if you should have sex. That right there alone says you are not ready. I'm sure you have been given this speech before, but it's important you wait till you're mature (& 100% positive) enough to make that kind of decision. It's just more enjoyable when you've had time to mature & it's with someone who is not just your friend. It's your decision, but if you give it time before making such a big decision, you'll look back & be SO glad you waited.
Hi I'm 15 years old female and a sophomore in high school. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 1 year and 3 months and I love him sooo much and he is like perfect. But I have absolutely no idea what to give him for valentines day... he is always so nice about getting me what I want. But he never tells me what he wants so I never know what to give him. And I want it to be really sweet, but my mind is just drawing blanks whenever I think about it. Thanks :-)
Forget candy, stuffed animals, & flowers. Oh & the mixed CDs/tapes. Very cliche & almost always expected. If you're gonna settle with any of those, atleast do something meaningful along with that gift. It's too easy to go to a store & buy him something cute. Instead, why not put more thought into it & make him something? My advice? Cook him his favorite meal. & if that's too easy, throw in desert. If cooking isn't your thing, I don't think it'll matter this time. [Most] guys like food & when you take the time & energy to make him dinner, he's gonna appreciate it more than a box of chocolates. If you want to make it romantic, throw in the candles & a maybe a massage afterwords. :)
Whenever I have my period, its always really heavy.
So this week I'm going to a dance convention which is like 10 hours away. I'll be there for 4 days
My first question is: how many pads should I pack?
2nd question is: When I'm dancing, I always feel uncomfortable on my period.
3rd question: Since tampons dont work for me yet, what kind of pad should i use?
thank youuu
1.) Pay attention to how many you use on your average (or heaviest) day. Multiply that times 4 (for the number of days) & there's your answer.
2.) Define uncomfortable. If you have cramps or bloating, take a couple Midol an hr before dancing.
3.) If you're really heavy, use an overnight pad (the one with the highest absorbancy). I know you said tampons don't work for you yet, but when you get situated with them, they're so much better & you'll probably never wear a pad ever again.
Hope that helped.
is there ANY CHANCE of getting pregnant if you give head? like anyy chance at all? because i know its stupid, but im just worried.
There's no way to get pregnant unless you have sexual intercourse. Swallowing semen will NOT get you pregnant; it's not possible.
Is 5'0" average height for a 16 year (almost 17) old girl? I was 4'10" when I was 11 years old. I'm now taller than my mom by about an inch.
I'm just so tired of getting practically tackled in the hallways at school because literally, no one sees me.
You're 16 & still growing. Who knows? Maybe you'll grow another inch or two in the next 2-3 years. But since you're already taller than your mom, I wouldn't look at much taller. (That's unless your dad is extremely tall, of course.) I think you're a little below average height for your age, but that's okay! There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. My best friend is days from 19 years old & she's only 4'11". But hey, unlike tall people who can't do anything to be shorter, atleast you have some options to make yourself taller. An obvious option is your shoe closet. If you don't want to wear heels everyday (which I don't blame you!) try platform shoes/flip flops or wedges. They're cute & will atleast give you a couple inches. :)
right now i really dont like the way i look...
i was wondering if you guys could tell me what you think of me HONESTLY!! i dont want to hear like pity answers (ill rate well even if you say im hideous!!)
heres some random pics of me from facebook:
http://photos-048.ak.facebook.com/ip002/v60/162/44/1223791587/n1223791587_30189048_5121.jpg
http://photos-101.ak.facebook.com/ip002/v54/74/80/1223791338/n1223791338_30173101_3546.jpg
so can anybody tell me what they seriously think of me?
and make up hints?? or tips??
THANKS FOR THE ADVICE!!
First off, you are BEAUTIFUL no matter what anyone says. & I think you should have a lot more confidence than you seem to have right now. I think you have gorgeous eyes & beautiful bone structure. & from what it looks like, you still have a fresh look with little or no makeup. But since you want makeup tips, I'd say brighten those beautiful eyes up! Go for neutral colors or even metallics, but don't go too overboard. You have a natural pretty face & don't need a ridiculous amount of makeup. Try for a thin line (bottom & top lashes) of a brown gray eyeliner t bring out your eyes. (My suggestion: CG Perfect Blend pencil eyeliner) & brighten those lips up with a natural light pink lipgloss. Hope that helps. :) Like I said, you're gorgeous girl. But sometimes with a dab of makeup to bring out those features, you'll feel a lot better about yourself. :)
Um I caan't wear high heels for this wedding I'm attending and I have really ugly feet so I guess I'm gonna have to go with platform shoes. Anyone suggests anything? Is there a way to make my feet look more pretty? It's clean but it's just an ugly feet. Like everyone in my family all were high heels and have really pretty feet but I can't and my family keeps saying I have ugly feet which makes me sad =(
Try a pedicure. If you want to save money, do it at a home. First start off by removing any kind of nail polish you may have & trimming your toenails. Second, get some kind of bowl, container, or bucket & fill it up with hot bath/sink water. Pour in about a quarter (coin) size of exfoliating shower gel/scrub. (I suggest Ginger Clean by AVON; Avon products are amazing). Soak your feet in the hot water for about 5 minutes while massaging them & your lower leg with a wash cloth. Wash off any exfoliating gel off with water & dry your feet. Paint your toenails with a color of your choice (I prefer Maybelline Wet Shine nailpolish.) Do about two coats if you want it to last longer & not chip easily. After they have dried, apply a body lotion. I strongly recommend Be Gingerly Pampering Body Lotion by Avon. Like I've said before, they're products are amazing. It's hard to find a good lotion & you don't know you have a good one till you use this one. I know you said your feet are just ugly, but I can guarantee you that they'll atleast look better after you give yourself a pedicure.
If you're still not comfortable with showing your feet, atleast they'll feel better. You can try finding shoes more flattering. Styles such as these (but not necessarily these exact shoes) are still cute & dressy, but don't reveal too much of your feet:
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http://www.payless.com/Images/beauty/052577_beauty.gif
http://www.payless.com/Images/beauty/046689_beauty.gif
I'm not sure if you can't wear high heels because you physically can't walk in them or just because you're self conscious about your feet. If comfort is another reason, try for shoes like wedges. They can still dressy depending on the type you get. PLUS they're more comfortable & you have more balance walking in them than you would with your average pair of heels. Hope this helps. :)
15/f
Okay, about a year and a bit ago, (with my boyfriend of 10months), I had sex. But my cherry didn't pop. So my question is.. Am I still a virgin or no?
You can't always tell if your "cherry" has popped or not. It's possible it's popped one of several ways before you even began having sex. Either way, your virginity is only determined if you had sexual intercourse (cherry popped or not). & since you have, this means you no longer hold your V card (or in simplier words: your virginity).
When guy and girl are having intimate relations what do girls like the most when your trying to pleasure her...
That all depends on the girl; each girl is different. You'll have to find out by either asking her yourself or experimenting & paying attention to her reactions in order to figure out what turns her on.