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Q: Ok,
So I had sex with this guy about four days ago.
He didn't use a condom, but i'm on the pill. Now I'm starting to get paranoid and I think I have herpes or some other type of STD.
My vagina is burning a little.
And I can't tell if there are sores on my vagina or not.

Please give me some advice on what it might be, or what I should do about it.

I agree with the columnist under, but just keep in mind that i had that after I had sex once and it was because the guy was so big for me. he like kinda stretched me out and that caused the burning, especially while i peed. hahah but i hope ou understand what im trying to say?

Q: What's an ideal outfit for a girl to wear to hang out with a guy?

I think they really like us to wear cute little casual dresses

Q: Where is your favorite place to put your hands, and body, while you're making out?

I never really think about it when I do makeout really, but I always catch myself grabbing his face and pulling him forward, you know? not in a hurtful manner though lol

Q: so.. i'll keep this hort. im gonna die soon hopefully... any tips? im gonna use any and every method possible.... so yeah. just need linis to previous successful cases... any particular drugs? even prescription.... thats basically it really. if im really unlucky ill still be here till the end of this year. which is about six months, if i get what i need, then ill be outta you hair! thanks in advance.

I know I can't change your mind, but YOU will fail, and will be sent to a mental hospital. This isn't what you want. You need to talk about your problems, get them out.

***I'm here for you, remember.

Incase you don't know, a mental hospital isn't someplace where you want to be at all. I found that out for myself last September. My problems were nothing until I went there. Now I have dreams every night about that place, it was the scariest place that I've ever been to. You have no idea

EDIT: If anyone gave you the answer that you're looking for, we would live in misery knowing we helped someone kill their self.

I'm sorry but I can't tell you how to actually do it, I can't. I actually hope noone gives you the answer that your looking for because I don't want you to die. THINGS WILL GET BETTER I PROMISE.

Q: i wanna go tanning at the beach what lotion, suncreen, suntan lotion, or sun screen works
best? that makes you the darkest the quickest.
i usually use banana boat 10 but, its not really
making me any darker so i wanna try something new
so please help meee thank youu :D

They all do the same thing. If you want a fast tan, just go to a salon, Pink Diamond by Swedish Beauty is the BEST. But it has a tingler, so be careful!

Q: is 115 a lot to weigh for a fifteen year old girl between 5'0-5'1 ?

I'm 15, I'm 5'0, and I'd KILL to weigh 115

Q: I hear it in songs, poems, and in everyday conversations among friends.

What does it mean to "wear your heart on your sleeve?"

I feel dumb for asking.. but anything would be good.

Thanks.

You hand out your heart, you're emotional

Q: I am 16 year old girl and I don't know exactly how to say this- but I have no confidence in myself. I have no self esteem. I look in the mirror and my reaction is always like- oh wow my hair looks so bad. Or my makeup looks so ugly and dull. But then again, my friends are like- shut up you're beautiful. I am dissatisfied with many things about myself- I have a saggy ass, I have a camel toe when I wear volleyball spandex, my breasts are tiny, my whole body shape is petite. I'm tall and skinny. I have love handles, my hair is frizzy and only looks good when I straighten it and it gets even more damaged, I pick at my cuitcles/nails and bite my nails so they are ugly, I can't wear tampons still, I love to sing but I have a terrible voice. I like to dance but I'm a clutz and run into things. I break a lot of things I touch. I can't wear high heels. I've only been to 1 formal dance in my school and my friends are already going to prom. My friends are taking advanced classes and I am getting A-'s in regular classes. My parents are overly-strict. I don't eat healthy and sometimes I worry about getting diabetes or appendecitis. I am VERY stubborn. It's hard for me to make friends. I feel like no one loves me. I feel like I'm selfish a lot and when I try to put other people in front of me, I feel like they're more important. I feel like i'm too nice and I need to stand up to myself and be a little bitchy towards the people who bully me. But when I do become a little bitchy, I feel bad about it. Ahh HELP!!!!!

If you keep complaining about how ugly you think you are, your friends are soon going to think that your fishing for compliments... and then they will get tired of it. It's like when a skinny girl stands in the mirror and announces how fat she is... all she is doing is looking for everyone to jump out and compliment her. This may not be what your trying to do... but you don't want people to think you are.

1. Saggy eyes? makeup can fix that. makeup does wonders.
2. No one likes a camel toe... Buy bigger shorts or find a way to fix it. I'm SURE there's a way
3. If I had small boobs, I would stuff my bra. I admit. Try going to Victoria's Secret for a ultra pushup-ultra padded bra!
4. Mine is petite, but isn't that better than being manly?
5. I've never been tall, so I couldn't relate. If I were, I'd just show it off girl! Wear heels! Show offf them legs!!
6. Guys love Love Handles.
7. Straighten it then! Put Olive Oil in your hair everynight when you wash it! It will fix any damage.
8. Biting your nails is total self control. you can TOTALLY control that issue.
9. Wearing tampons has nothing to do with anything...
10. You don't need to sing to be pretty!
11. Then dance! It doesn't matter if your a clutz!
12. Start with low heels, wear them around the house. Get gradually higher and higher! Every girl has to do it!
13. IVE NEVER BEEN TO PROM OR FORMALS! I've never been asked. I didn't even go to my own winterformal, because my date got punished! YES it makes me feel discusting, but you've been to one more than I've been to! & it's not that guys don't like me or ANYTHING... you just may not be the person they think of when they think of "date." I got all upset that my friend didn't ask me & I asked him why he asked my other friend, and he told me he didn't think I'd want to since I never go to them! Hahaa it just happens! They are boring anyways.... from what I hear!
14. A-'s are great! I get D's when trying my hardest! School just isn't mything!
15. All parents seem to be
16. DONT WORRY ABOUT DIABETES OR APPENDECITIS.

TRUTH IS, that everyone feels the same things you feel. ITS OKAY! it's completely normal! YOUR GOING TO BE FINE, i promise!

Q: 16/f.

In the middle of June I am going to Hawaii for 7 days. Then i'm coming home for like 3 days and then i'm going back for another 6 days. I am supposed to be getting my period at the end of June and I can't wear tampons and I really don't want to have my period during my vacation. My next period is supposed to come at the end of may. That means the period after that is coming at the end of June. So my questions is... How can I delay my period so that it comes at the beginning of June and not end of may, that way the period after that will come at the start of July and not end of June. Sorry if that was confusing. Please and thanks :)

Doesn't it suck being a girl? Your best bet is to go to the gynecologist and be put on the pill. (birth control)

If you don't think you can do that, then either learn how to use a tampon correctly or suck it up!

Q: 16/f.

Are there other ways to get pregnant besides having vaginal sex?

My boyfriend and I were messing around. Clothes were on. And I didn't know if possibly his sperm could go through clothes. What if he fingered me and had his sperm on his finger? Could I get pregnant then?

I know that abstinence is 100% safe way of not getting pregnant. But I'm just curious of other ways someone could get pregnant besides vaginal sex. Please and thanks :)

Your fine, the only way you could be pregnant is if his penis went into your vagina.

Q: If someone was 11 years old in the 7th grade (my sister) and lived in Texas how many grades ahead would that person be for there age?

Location doesn't matter, (as long as your in the U.S.) but normally you're suppose to be 11 in 5th grade

she would be 2 years ahead, BUT birthdays & cut off dates mess that up a lot... so I'm sure she's in the grade she's suppose to be

You're just suppose to be 18 or 17 when you graduate from highschool

Q: Okay.. So I want to try something besides shaving.. I was thinking maybe like one of those cream things? Does anybody know of a kind that actaully works? Thanks in advance. =]

Hair removal creams often smell terrible. Nair makes me gag... Before you buy it, open the bottle and sniff... you may not be able to stand the scent either

Nair DOES work, if your body hair is thin and light like mine... but if your a guy or if your italian, greek, spanish, it may not

Q: Are there any secret tips to being flexible. I already stretch everyday for around an hour. I hope to be a bit of a contortionist.

Here is a link:

http://www.expertvillage.com/video-series/1658_contortion-basics.htm

Just keep in mind to never over do yourself, you can pull a muscle and your body will never be the same again. I pulled a muscle in my leg while forcing myself into a split in 5th grade, and I haven't done one since... now when it's SO tender

Also, try youtube. type in "stretching exercises" or something like that