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Q: well well well well .. i like this boy and im not sure if he likes me back. but my friend kind of liked him a couple weeks ago, but doesnt anymore. And i dont know what i should do because i dont know if she will get mad that i like him and we start talking?
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Well bring up in random conversation and ask her who she likes and see what she says, if its not him then squeeze him in there and say you`d wanna start talking to him if that was alright with her, FRIENDSHIP COMES FIRST ALWAYS and i really hope you believe in that. If she says its fine then start talking to him, and shes not alright with it then maybe wait it out just a little bit longer til she gets over it.
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Q: i did sumthing bad that i really shouldn't have with a guy. and now ppl r gunna start to find out in school and im scared that im gunna lose friends over this...the 2 closest friends of mine r disappointed in me. i dont kno how to handle this i dont know what to do. and i feel sick to my stomach about it too...i dont know why i did it i wasnt even thinking and i regret it now because i feel so horrible...i dont know what to do!
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hayy we all make mistakes. at least you thought about what you did, next time think cleary about the outcomes that are gonna invlove with what you doing, and not whats happing rightthen and there. yes i`m sure people in school will find out, school is all about gossip, but learn to ignore it and keep your head up high, so you made a mistake, you got to learn from it, not let people look down on you. yes i`m sure your closest friends are gonna be upset and dissappointed with you, but dont they have every right to be? i mean think of it as if they did that. If there really that close with you they`ll forgive and forget and help you through it.
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Q: hmm... i like this boy right well hes totally hottie nice & awesome i have like a feeling he kinda likes me too the way he like talks to me but he like smokes weed & drinks im totally not into stuff like that but hes a totally awesome person if he does stuff like that would he be consider like a bad person ?
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yes and no. i mean you cant come to the rescue and save people from doing things that you think is wrong. Maybe if you too start talking like in that way, maybe you should give him your judgement on what he`s doing but dont lecture him on it cause that may turn things in the wrong direction. being "hot nice and awesum" isnt always everything. you might want to rethink you decisions before you do anything you might regret
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Q: i love melissa meyers!
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Q: omg i need major help ! i have two guys and they both like me, but im going to homecoming with one of them. i like them both but i cant tell the guy im going to homecoming with that i dont want to go with him bc i like him. The thing is, he might ask me out. i can kinda tell by the way hes been talking to me. i need your help what should i do !
signed boy_touble
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well thats great you like both of them, but it has to be a fair chance. You have to choose one or the other cuz its wrong to lead people on. If the boy your going with to homecoming askes you out and you dont wanna go with him, simply tell him your not ready for a realtionship.
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Q: Okay..i have a boyfriend but i have feelings for another guy. i wanna break it off with the guy i am dating but everytime i see him and wanna tell him or when we tlk online or the phone i wanna tell him how i feel but then i get scared bc i dont wanna hurt him. i understand going out with him and liking someone else is hurting him but i dont know what i should do? please help me thanks xoxo
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Well holding this off longer and longer and waiting it out, is just going to make it harder on the both of you. Just let him down easy and tell him that you dont think its right to stay with sumone when you dont feel the same as they do. I`m sure he`ll understand. Try and still be friends so he doesnt feel not needed. good luck.
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Q: ok i want to have a halloween party so about how much do you think it will all cost and what are some things to do like games and about how long should it last i rate high
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Well depending on how many people you want and how much food and supplies you`ll need will give you an outcome of a cost. First off figure out how many ppl your having wether its 10-15-20 or higher, ideas for food, would be ordering pizza, having a taco table were everyone could make there own, chips and pop and all that. Once you figure out how many people and what your gonna have to eat then for games you could have a haunted house in your basement were each group has to figure out the clues and has to find an object and whoever gets it wins a prize, or you could ever rent some scary movies and have a movie night. After you figure out exactly what you need, add everything up and see how much it will cost. ethier way you do it, i`m sure it will be fun.
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Q: One of my guy friends asked me to homecoming, and i said yes..but then about a week later my other guy friend asked me to homecoming,but i already had a date...and im really mad about it because i like both of them and i dont wanna hurt them..i know i already said yes to the first guy,but i feel like i hurt the other one because he was really down about it..and some of my friends are telling me to go with one and my other friends are telling me to stay with the one i said yes to first. and i dont know what to do and i dont know who i wanna go with!
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Friends are friends. If ya like em both, theres more than 1 song at homecoming, i`m sure you can squeeze em both into your nite. I'm sure both will understand how hard of a decision that is for you, espically when your friends with the both of them. I wouldnt tell the first one your not gonna go with him because theres sumone else. because then you would be hurting his feelings. Unless you really wanna go with the second one, then i guess thats all up to you.
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Q: um okay here it gose i have a boyfriend and i like it better when we were just friends...we were like bff before now we just dont act like that anymore..im confused what do I do ?
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If you dont feel the same anymore, your just gonna end up hurting the both of you in the end, if you wait longer to tell him you dont care for him in that way. Tell him you miss what you used to have and you want to build up on that relationship again. maybe he feels the same as you do about this.. but just doesnt know how to tell you.
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Q: i really like this boy who is one of my best guy friends...but he likes one of his best girl friends..me and hime talk alot and i guess you could say that we are close...during the year my friends thought i should go out with him because they think we flirt alot. and i admit that we do but i dont know what it would be like if we went out. i dont know if it would ruin the friendship or not because i just feel better around him i feel that i never wanna leave him. but the girl he likes is one of his best friends and it just bother's me how he always talks about her and the fact that he would ditch me for her...and in school they would always be around each other and it would just really make me mad. they never went out cuz the girl he likes had other boyfriends. and he tells me wut he does with her and it just seems like everytime we talk,he brings her up. i mean i know he can like someone and he doesnt know that i like him. so i know he doesnt know but i dont wanna tell him. but at the same time it just kills me inside because i think i've liked him longer than i've realized. but i just dont know what to do because i like him alot and i dont want him to know because i dont know how he would react to it and i just dont wanna take that chance of us growing apart and i wouldnt want him to feel wierd around me if he did know. i just wanna get closer with him but i cant because i already know i wouldnt have a chance.
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well we all will make mistakes, or do something we regret in the future, but there is also a fine line of questioning yourself with the what if`s because if you tell him how you feel and how you felt for how long you`ve known him, then he most likely probably feels the same. If that all backfires tell him that you want to stay close, and to still be bestfriends because you care about him alot. That shouldnt make things wierd if you guys are bestfriends. If you dont feel comfortable with that all. Simply try talking to other people and see if the feelings are really that strong.
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Q: Hi missy! I have a problem see this girl I know doesn't like me and well I guess she wants to fight me... but I don't like fighting and I don't want to fight her. I have no idea what to do she says that she'll still fight me even if I don't want to. And shes also bigger than me... If you could help me out I would really appreciate it!! Thank you!!
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if she doesnt know you, then she has no reason to want to fight you, no matter how much courage it will take you need to have a talk with her wether its online, through an e-mail or in person. Ask her exactly why she doesnt like you (not in a cocky way) let her know you have no problem with her, and that you want to settle things without violence.
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Q: I went out of town for labor day. While i was there my best friends were hangin out. They invited my boyfriend over. Well one of my best friends was all over my boyfriend, like hugging him and holding hands and kissing. He let her do that to him. I'm just really upset. And my friend also made my boyfriend break up with me. I just feel heartbroken. What should i do?
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well first off all i wouldnt call her a friend at all. Friends dont treat others like that. What i write in almost everyone of these boyfriend/friend entrys is in my opinions i think friendship comes first, there is gonna be plenty of boys but your friends will stay with you forever, and you will come across ones who dont care as much as you do about them and backstabb you and it wont bother them one bit. Your boyfriend obvisouly wasnt ready to have a relationship if he can make out with one of your "friends" .. if someone can be that low, you deserve better than him, and better friends.
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Q: okay...so ive dated 1 of my friends brothers...>>hez in my grade
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what comes first friendships or boyfriends? thats what you gotta question yourself. Who cant you live without him or her? First off if u really like him alot talk to your friend try to work something out. Let her know you care about her and that friends are the most important thing to you, and that you want her opinion before you lose a friendship over a boy. Maybe she feels the same as you do, or maybe feels somewhat less.
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Q: ok so lets say theres this kid umm "bob" who liked me over the summer and was going to ask me out but i kinda started to not talk to him cuz i was scared to say no to him if he did ask me but the only reason why i didnt want to go out with him was because i liked this other kid umm "jim" and liked him for a really long time and it seemed like he kinda liked me too and i was kinda waittin to see if he would ask me out but he didnt and now hes has a girlfriend and "bob" who i did kinda like isnt even talkin to me anymore and its all my fault and i think i really like him now but i dont know what to do.
ps. i dont think this even makes much sence how i wrote it so if you dont wanna give advice i`ll understand why.
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There are certain things your going to have to understand about people. Girls seem to wait around for guys forever, no matter how long it takes to get them. But guys are different they dont like waiting around for someone that there not even sure there gonna end up with. Yes you made a mistake, but theres always a back up plan for everything. talk to "bob" and tell him you werent ready for a relationship because you didnt want to hurt him when you had feelings for someone else. and tell him things didnt work out the way you hoped to, but you care about him alot and you really wanna start talking to him again and say your sorry for how things work out between you guys, and that you want another chance. - good luck
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Q: my best friend can be really rude sometimes...she would make fun of my friends just because of how they look...and i think its really wrong and it bothers me. i think all of my friends(girls) are pretty in their own way...and when i would tell her that she would make a face or turn away. even with the guy i go out with she makes a comment or brings me down. and i hate it. im trying to find the right time to talk to her about it but if i do, i dont want her to flip out and get all mad at me. but im really getting sick and tired of her. she is really imature..but i dont wanna lose her as a friend cuz shes really close to me..i wanna know if there's a nice way i can talk to her about it because everytime she acts like this i feel like screaming at her but i always hold it in. i cant let her keep saying stuff like this about my friends. and if she's got a problem with my friends then she should keep it to herself because i know i dont wanna hear it. she even makes fun of her own friends too...there were so many times where i just wanted to yell at her for it because i just couldnt say it in a nice way but i dont like being all screamy and yelling...i just need a nice way to tell her..
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Well its wrong for people to put others down. But no matter what you say to someone, everyone will put sumone down. its sumthing called opinions, alot of them can sound messed up and hurt others feelings.. but thats what people do their inconsiderate of others, and somehow think there better because there prettier or smarter. everyone is speical in their own way, and thats good that you can see that in friends, and respect people. If your bestfriend has no repsect for your friends or you, then their certainly not gonna respect her back. Just tell her what shes doing is bothering you because those are your friends, and how would she feel if this was all flipped around on her. Tell her to get to know them, before she puts them down, and if she still seems to make the faces and says rude remarks, tell her to keep them to herself, because you dont want to hear it.
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Q: Is it wrong for girls to mix up there clothes? like is it wrong for a girl to wear pac sun jeans and an abercrombie shirt? alot of people have a problem with that and think that you should just stay with one style (prep/skater/goth)most of my friends are like that..but i like clothes from prep stores and skater stores like pac sun. and i wanna wear both but i just dont want people in my face about wearing to different styles..would girls in high school get made fun of or talked about if they wore clothes from to different stores/styles? i know i shouldnt care wut other people think but it just gets to me sometimes...i dont know why my friends think its so wrong cuz i dont really care wut i wear as long as i like it...and then some of my friends r telling me to go all prep and then my best friend is telling me to go skater..i wanna be both! i think its wrong how my friends care wut i wear and wut store its from...it bothers me and i dont know what to do...
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the whole labeling people is b.s, no theres nothing wrong with that at all, just because you like different varieties of clothes does not make you a poser, i dont know who draws the line on that one. There will be people who agree and people who dont. But people are gonna do that for the rest of your life, wether is the way you act, dress, who your friends with, etc. People will always try and bring you down. and yeah you like to hear your friends opinions, but this is your life not theres, if they want to dress differently then fine, clothes are clothes, try not to let it bother you, because if people say sumthing, good for them. and middle school has a bigger problem with the labels.. when u get to highschool its not really that bad.. have your own style and be different
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Q: hey there is this gurl that im talkin 2. shes very cute i think i might like her. what should i do? hah
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umm.. get to know her really good, be friends for a while, go from there :-D
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Q: missy i got a question.....why do all these little kids ask corny love questions...is it normal for me to find this funny? i just want to say that mostly everyone will go through alot of the same things throughout highschool whether it be breakups,loss of friends, etc. It's all part of growing up. Part of becoming a mature person is being able to build off of these things and realize that yes, you will encounter many problems throughout your lives. You must learn to be versatile and figure out ways to cope with these problems because they are only the beginning. And this doesnt mean that growing up is terrible, but you must learn to be more mature. Middle/Highschool is a learning experience not only educationally, but socially and emotionally as well.
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This is exactly why i have an advice column, this is the way i look at it, if i can give advice and help people through there problems, it makes me and them both a better person. Everyone has there own opinions so yes maybe it is normal for you to find this funny. But i see it differently, because not everyone is the same, meaning we all express ourselves differently are adolescent years and teenage years are tuff your introduced to a lot of new things as well as people, but i`m not judging you on your opinion neither i`m actually glad that someone has brought this up, but theres no need for the critism of "asking corny love questions" because this may be corny to you, but not the people who are really stuck with problems. and yes part of growing up is having to deal with these things, but its people like me who take there time to read this help questions everyday, and try and make life a little bit easier for them because we all know its not, take this under consideration and look at it now through my point of view.
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Q: i have a really good friend who is a guy,(im a girl) and i\'ve known him all my life. his aunt and my aunt are best friends and thats how we met. we sw each other alot when our aunts would get together and bring us places with my brother an some other friends. we would go camping,hiking,sleepovers,campfires, and all that other stuff...and everytime we were together we would have so much fun and i loved hanging out with him because we got along so well. we talked about alot of stuff. he is the same age as me, so we pretty much went through the same stuff. but now that we are getting older and we have more friends, i havent been seeing him as much as i used to because either our aunts are busy or i\'m busy or he\'s busy. and it sucks because i miss him and now we only see each other a couple times a year. and now when we get to hang out, its not the same. we dont talk as much anymore online or when we hang out with our aunts or whoever. i feel like i lost him and i feel like we arent as close and it really really bothers me. i dont wanna lose him more than i already have. and i dont think i can do anything about it because when we talk online we dont have things to talk about and we dont know what to say. and yeah i know we\'re growing up and making more friends and we have more activities and things to do, but i just really miss the times we would hang out! and i keep thinking about it and it brings me down. my aunt sees that we\'re not as close anymore either, and she feels bad. sometimes i dont even wanna hang out with him when we get the chance too because now its so boring and stupid. i dont know what to do and i dont know how to handle this !!!
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where to start, throughout your life your gonna meet people who mean everything to you, and their gonna hold a speical place in your heart no one can replace, but instead of thinking how boring and stupid your relationship is now, dont push it anymore, you guys were bestfriends you made endless memories and gave eachother something that no one else could give you both, the love of a true friendship that was hard to handle of letting the fact come through that its over. One thing about growing up has a downfall of growing apart, i wish i could tell you everything was gonna be okay, but you both are different people now, and different lives and now will meet other people who are gonna need your love and strength to the pull the friendships through for others. there is a time and place for everything. not being close anymore doesnt mean stop talking forget what you had, or simply getting over upset about the past, because its gone and now you have to look forward for whats going to be coming at you. You both gave eachother a gift, and that was being able to tell eachother everything and still loving them for who they are. there will be a time in life where taking 2 oppsite paths will approach you. "everything happens for a reason"
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Q: okay so theres this boy & he acts like he totally likes me and i like him alot too...i mean we talk all the time and we smile at eachother at random moments..but when hes around other girls he flirts with them and he barely talks to me...what do i do ?
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Typical Guy .. thats their way of firlting with you.. in other words making you pretty much jealous. He knows how far he can push u and thats exactly why he is doing that, tell him how u feel about that whole situation .. maybe hes blind sighted on the whole idea of liking eachother.
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Its okay to want someone you cant have. Its okay to keep friendships when you dont want them,or want something more. Its okay to cry when you're hurt, & its okay to stay mad at someone who hurt you. Believe it or not, its always going to be okay. Thats just how it works. Sometimes, things dont always work out the way you want them to, & a lot of times, it seems like they never will. But its okay, thats how lifes suppose to go. Its all about learning how to deal with the bumpy parts in the road & waiting till they're smooth again. Its all about forgiving & forgetting. Its all about waiting & wishing. Thats just how life is.
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Gender: Female Occupation: school Age: 17 Member Since: March 21, 2005 Answers: 86 Last Update: October 8, 2007 Visitors: 4816
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