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"People who ask our advice almost never take it. Yet we should never refuse to give it, upon request, for it often helps us see our own way more clearly."
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It has been awhile since me and my ex broke up, but im still madly in love w/ him and i want to talk to him desperatly. Sadly he has a girlfriend who i happen to be friends w/. Im really scared to call ... any advice?
THANX
That is not a dumb question at all. Don't let anyone get to you. I've been in your situation before (both the girlfriend and the ex)... And it was devastating to hide my feelings and put on a smile for him and my best friend. Isn't it possible that he might still have feelings for you also? Even if he has a girlfriend, he can just be in denial. It's good that you don't deny loving him. First, I think that you should talk to your friend that's dating him. If she's truly your friend, then she'll understand and it won't ruin your friendship. There might be hard feelings at first, but she'll realize that it's not anyone's fault. Ask her to remain open-minded and understanding before telling her about your feelings. Also, if you're not quite ready to tell your ex, make sure that your friend can keep a secret. Be honest, but don't make it seem like you're pressuring her to break up with him so you could be with him. I can't tell you how she'll take it, but I hope she's as understanding as my friend was. When you're ready to reveal your feelings to your ex, don't let fear and doubt take over you. You'll feel much better after admitting it. It's going to be hard, no doubt, but it'll be for the better. If he's mature, then it won't ruin your relationship with him, whatever that may be. If he doesn't take it well, then that's that. Some people might say that he's not worth it, but nothing can change how you feel about him. If you truly love him, but he doesn't feel that way and is happy with his girlfriend, then you should be happy too. To tell you the truth, I still haven't told my ex yet. It's not that I'm afraid that I might regret it, but because I like what we have now. We're really good friends, and although I wish sometimes it could be something more, I'm thankful that we were able to get over the "awkward after-breakup" phase. There's so much more stuff I can tell you about my experience, and you might be able to learn some things from it, but I need to know specifically what your thoughts are. Remember, you should keep in mind about other people's prespectives. I'm sorry if my answer wasn't what you were looking for, but I'll be here if you need anything. Best of luck to you.
I'm a pretty social person, but everytime I want to plan some time to hang out with one of my friends my parents always interfer.They hardly ever let people come to our house because they claim it's messy when all they gotta do is clean it up! Today I wanted to sleep-over my friends house and my parents wouldnt let me go because it was raining, but it wasn't even raining hard!! Everywhere I go, I'm questioned.One time, I wanted to ride my bike around the block and my parents made me come back in 10 minutes when it was only 6:00..They make me so mad!! It's hard for me to show them I'm responsible because they baby me with how they are overprotective and I'm just so pissed off right now!!I want them outta of my bussiness!! Please help!! How do I get them to stop buggin me and let me be able to do stuff with my friends?
I understand completely how you feel. I'm a firm believer that you can't truly understand something unless you've experienced it... Trust me, I've been there before. My parents used to be controlling and overprotective of me before I confronted them about it. I'm also a social person, but it was hard to be social when my parents didn't allow me to go out often. First, know that your parents are only strict because they love and care about you. You should take matters into your own hands and compromise with them. Show them that you can be trusted and you're capable of making responsible choices. Confront them in an assertive manner and tell them exactly how you feel, in an appropriate manner. This will show them that you're respectful and independent at the same time. This might be hard, because you're standing up to your parents, so be prepared to back up your opinions. Tell them that you would like to have a social life and that you're mature enough for them to trust. Casually bring it up first at a comfortable time so you can take note of their reaction. If they don't take it well, it'll help to have someone who is understanding there with you. Perhaps a sibling or a relative. First, tell them how you feel about their strictness. You need your independence and freedom. Also, explain to them what you would like them to do. Don't expect too much from them. They might loosen up once they see that you had the courage to confront them. The again, they might get irritated with you. I can't tell you exactly what will happen. In my situation, I told my parents that I could be trusted and backed that up with how well I do in school. If you're doing well in school, that obviously means that you pay attention and you're responsible, right? The rest is up to you now. Just remember to be open-minded with what your parents have to say, but also emphasize on your perspective. Good luck!
my friend is anorexic and i need to persuade her to tell and adult, before i do. what should i say?
thx
You love and care about your friend, let her know that. It's supportive to give her advice, but only if she asks for it. First, help her recognize that she has an eating disorder and tell her that she need help. Be assertive, but not aggressive. Research further on anorexia and tell her the truth, even if it's harsh and cold, she needs to hear it. Tell her what exactly she's doing to her body and what could happen, God forbid, if she continues to abuse her body. It's going to be difficult, but eventually, it'll be for the better. You're saving her life AND yourself. If she clearly emphasizes about not telling someone about this, let her know that you can't handle standing by and doing nothing about it. Again, be assertive, but not aggressive. As for telling an adult, find someone who you can trust and will be understanding. Perhaps your parents, her parents, or a counselor. They'll know what to do if you cooperate with them. As for your friend, you should be by her side every step of the way so that her recovery will be much easier. I'm sorry if I couldn't help you, but I'm a firm believer that you can't truly understand something unless you've experienced it yourself. Talking to someone who's been in your situation will help. Good luck and stay strong.
K see me and this guy just started dating and all for like 3days now and hasen't called me yet i gave him my number. But see i want him to go with me to this fourth of july thing with me what should i do to get in contact with him???
Do you have his number, e-mail, screen name, etc? Any way of communication is fine, don't think that e-mails are too impersonal. If not, you can ask his friends or go see him in person if it's possible.
How can I show my boyfriend that I REALLY love him, but not by making out?
Most importantly, you have to let him know that from the bottom of your heart. Anyone can say "I love you." but it takes a lot to say it and truly mean it. Many people say that the timing has to be perfect and all, but it really doesn't matter if you really do love him. Sure, it'd be nicer if it was a romantic and appropriate setting, but when the moment seems right to you, that's the time to say it. Spend more time with him and take notice of when and where he's most comfortable. Also, it's critical to show him that you care about him. Support him in every way that you can, that will show him that you have a sweet and kind nature. The rest is up to you... I'm sorry if I couldn't help you.