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I love to give advice, I do NOT judge, and I love trying to help everyone and their situation. Even if I don't help much it makes me feel good to know I tried and did my part.


I love that I found this site because I've always been trying to find a way to have a site where I can give advice and where people might actually come to me for it, and I hope that some of you will give me a shot :)
Alot of times it is easier to talk to strangers about things, especially when it's about something you find you can't go to anyone else about.


I might not be one of the older people on here but that doesn't necessarily make me any less wiser or any worse at giving advice. It actually means I can probably relate to more of you better.
And I might not have a fancy paid account but I think mine looks alright and it doesn't stop me from being able to use it for what it's for, giving advice :)


Inbox me! I'd love to hear from anyone and everyone and I'm ready to try and help.


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okay so you're suppose to put the tampon in the hole closest to your stomach right? cause i tried opening like the lips and its really small...the tampon doesn't fit and i don't know if i should force it...helppppp =/

The person below is right, it's the middle hole.
Ahh, I remember those days... I was terrified when I first started using tampons and it does take some getting used to and a while to get the hang of doing it. But not too long and you'll be a pro at it! lol
You won't even have to think about it, you'll just be so used to it and trust me it's worth it.

What really helps when you're first starting is having a mirror to help you see down there and get it in the right place. A hand held mirror that you can hold that in one hand and hold the tampon in the other. Yeah, it takes practice. Took me a little while before i could put it in without even looking. But it's really easy once you get it and it will come to you don't worry!

Important thing is to stay calm. I freaked out too when i first started using them. But don't be nervous, later on you'll feel stupid for it lol

Not being nervous or tense helps to relax the muscles down there because when you first start it will probably hurt a little and won't go up quite so easy as it will after youve done it a bunch.

Just put it up to the right hole and slowly start sliding it up (remember to relax and breathe) and slowly push and dont be afraid to move the tampon around a little work with it to get it up there, wiggle it around some if you need to when you're first gettin it in there.

Don't force the tampon that's not a good idea.
Start out slow and soon itll slide right on in there :)

Hope that helps a little
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So, my bf and I were lying on the bed side by side facing each other and we were hugging etc. with our clothes on and he had an orgasm and I don't know if he had ejaculated. If he had so, could sperm go through clothes? He had boxers and a pair of jeans and I had underwear and shorts.

Then I went to the bathroom and I found that my underwear was wet with discharge. Could it be sperm or just discharge as I was sexually aroused?

Wow, he orgasmed just from laying next to you and hugging?! :P
Well if you felt any sort of excitment or sexual arousal during this then yes, that's definately just you. It's normal, sometimes even when you aren't sexually aroused or anything, to experience some vaginal discharge.
And I very highly doubt any ejaculation from him would have gone through all of that anyways. Boxers, jeans, underwear, and shorts. Yep, I'm quite positive. :)

Hope that helps
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17 / F [Sorry if this is lengthy]

Okay, well I met this guy back in 2007. And we became really close friends. He asked me out three months after we met. And we really liked each other. We were together for 3 months and then he had to move to another state. I manage to cope with it. We didn't stay together because we were both young (I was 14) and we didn't believe in long distance relationships. Well, he eventually moved back and we became close again. Well, we've been together for 7 months now. And we really care about each other. (I'm not going to say I love him, because I don't know that yet. And I'm not like those stupid little teens who say they love someone because they're with them. But I really, really care about him.) But we still don't believe in long distance relationship. But I don't know, there's something there that we want to start believing because we care so much. I'm 17 and he's turning 19 in a couple of months. So, it's not much of an age difference. But I'm scared that he'll move on when he moves. I really do care about him and I don't want him to leave, but I know that he has to.

So my questions are...

- Have any of you been in a situation like this? If so, how did you deal it?

- Should we continue what we have even though he's far away?

- If we talk more about a long distance relationship, do you think we'll be in one?

I want to make him some CDs so he can remember him. And I already have CDs of our songs. But I want to make more.

- What are some songs about having someone you care about moving / leaving and you're just not the same without them there?

Thanks in Advance!

Situations like this are always tough. But life is tough, and nothing comes easy. Being able to overcome obstacles I believe creates stronger relationships. You should never let something you really want slip away or get by you... It will only make you regret doing so in the long run.

And I agree with you guys actually about the whole long distance relationship thing. It's obvious that you cannot have the same kind of relationship long distance as you would have when you live in the same place and can actually physically be with each other. All that you can do is keep in touch with one another via the phone the internet and pictures. I have tried it before and what usually happens is you end up getting too frustrated with the whole situation and have periods that you don't even know about it anymore. It might bring you farther apart just trying to make it work long distance.
A long distance relationship isn't much of a relationship if you ask me. The real thing you need to know is if he's coming back or not or if you're planning on getting back together physically when you are able to be together for real. If he is and you are planning on doing that, maybe the best thing to do for now is to accept that he's moving, and make sure you stay in touch with each other. But don't make any promises you can't keep. After he moves make sure you both don't forget how you feel about each other. But don't keep yourselves tied down to each other when you live so far apart. If I were you I wouldn't try to maintain a formal girlfriend/boyfriend relationship because like I said it will probably just create problems and frustration between you both missing each other and not knowing how to have a real relationship with eachother when you can't be with eachother in person. You don't know what each other is doing and with whom they are doing it with. And you will wonder this and get angry, and probably with yourself for having to wonder about it so much. Hense-frustration.
Just talk about having a relaxed relationship and staying in touch so when the time comes you will still have each other if you still want to be together.


And two songs that come to mind would be:
Far Away- Nickelback
Here Without You Baby- 3 Doors Down

I hope at least some of that made sense and helped
Let me know!
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Thanks
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I'm 16/f. Ok, so last year, I lost 30 pounds. But during winter I always gained weight. And last year i became a basketball manager, so I never had anymore time to exersize. Well I gained most of it back, and I'm really starting to hate my body again. When I lost weight I was so happy all of the time, I felt like I was on top of the world. Well now I usually feel depressed, because my body is back to its usual self. So what can I do to get back in the habit of loosing weight? I've tried to start working out again, but it's just not working. Some tips please? I can't figure out if it's just because I'm not motivated or what, but some ideas would really help. Thanks!

You have probably heard this expression before but, motivation is key. And it really is.
If you want it bad enough you most certainly can do it. Afterall, you have done it before, you lost thirty pounds! It sounds like you have motivation, which is that you are becoming uncomfortable with how your body looks. Maybe you should try thinking of how you felt before when you had lost the thirty pounds. You probably felt happy, proud, and accomplished.. And also satisfied and more happy with your body right? Ask yourself how badly you want to have that feeling of liking your body more again. That should be your motivation. How you look isn't everything, but how you feel about yourself means alot. And if how you look affects how you feel about yourself then that is important. But if you want to lose some weight, do it safetly and healthily. Eat healthy and find time to excersize more. There is no such thing as not having time to exersize. You walk everyday don't you? That is exersize right there! Take longer routes to places, try running/jogging more often, if you don't have much time on your hands then try doing sit-ups and crunches whenever you get the chance. Set a goal for yourself, write down a exersize plan if you must. Write an excersize such as sit-ups, and write a number as to how many you want to do, etc. Maybe this will help motivate you too. Honestly, I've done that before, and it helped and actually got me excited and motivated to losing a little bit of fat.
Hope this helps, if you need any more help with anything feel free to ask!

Thanks,
:)
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