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Gender: Female
Location: maryland
Occupation: high school senior
Age: 18
Member Since: May 20, 2010
Answers: 32
Last Update: July 2, 2011
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I have known one of my really close friends since about first grade. She has always been a person I go to for a great girl's night out; we shop together, watch movies, etc. She's amazingly talented and we've always shared our passion for writing.
Well, the problem is, she's...er...kind of a flirt. With everyone. Not in a bad way; she's classy and very quick-witted, and she has a tendency to make every guy in a room fall for her within a few minutes. She just doesn't limit it to guys, either. Although she says she's 100% straight, she's always hugging and flirting with girls as well. She says she's confident about her sexuality, which is why being jokingly flirting with a girl doesn't awkward her out.
I've recently come to the realization that I am pansexual. That is, I'm gender-blind; whether you're a boy, girl, transgender, crossdresser, etc. doesn't matter to me. I haven't come out to my friends yet, seeing as a few people I know are extremely judgemental and I'm waiting for the right time.
My friend has still continued to be overly flirty with me. She's very touchy-feely, and calls me her 'husband' jokingly when she introduces me to people. I don't want to admit that I am REALLY attracted to her (although I'm not in love with her or anything; I just find her extremely sexy). I feel like crap when she touches me and I actually like it.
How do I try to handle this? Do I keep clammed up and just enjoy the attention, or do I tell her the truth?
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If she is keeply straight I think you should try to get over her feelings. She did say she is comfortable with her sexuality meaning she knows she is fully straight so its comfortable for her to do what she wants without feeling awkward. Thats why she is so comfortable around both sexes.I dont think you should try to do anything with her since she is your friend and she likes guys. You can still tell her your secret if you are confident in her that she wont freak out about it and wont tell nobody and still loves you for you. If you do tell her you never know it could come with a good outcome. If you dont feel confident that she will still be your good friend and isnttruthworthy dont tell her just yet. Well i hoped i help.
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the guy that i liked got a girlfriend and i was really upset about it. and now i feel kind of disgusted by him and his actions but i cant stop thinking of him and looking at him. could i be getting over him? (link)
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Did this guy know you liked him before he got a girlfriend? Either way you need to get over him. This has just recently happened to me too. They didnt last though. I got over him real quick though. It was very hurtful but i got over him. There are plenty of other guys out there that will notice you first. Even if it does take time.
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I've never been considered particularly attractive by the opposite sex and I've accepted that. For years I hated how I looked and it would really get me down but as I've got older, I've become alot more confident in myself. I always make an effort to dress stylishly, have regular haircuts and good make up and I'm not overweight so it's not like I'm hideous, I just can't compete with my friends.
My problem is that every time we go anywhere where there are guys, they will get alot of male attention. There have been several occasions where I've been with my friends and guys have made comments about the fact that they're attractive and I'm not. I try not to let it bother me and tell myself that guys who feel the need to make negative comments about my appearance aren't worth it but I can't help but feel disheartened. Recently it seems to be happening more and more. In the past week I can think of at least three occasions when a guy has said something negative about how I look and compared me to one of my friends.
How can I stop this from bothering me and not let their comments ruin my self esteem? (link)
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guy below me grow up
and guys are jerks. dont pay attention to them. You will sooner or later find a guy worth attention. For now try to have a good time. If its really bothering you tell your friends that the guys seem to not pay any attention to you. If they are real friends they will help out. If not hang out with different friends. You can even start being more outgoing like a club just have a nice time. Im sure there is guys that will notice the personality. Well i hoped i helped. :)
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Okay so last night I started sneezing a lot and also today. I started feeling my nose run after I got home from school and after sneezing I don't know if I'm catching a cold or my throat scratched from sneezing. If I'm getting a cold, I would like to prevent from going to the doctors because I really do not want to miss school. I'm 15/female, would anyone be able to tell me if there is anything I can do to help me not catch a bad cold and make what I have feel better(even if I might not be catching a cold)? Like anything I should wear or do or eat? Please give some advice if you know because I really can't be getting sick this early into the school year! (link)
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drink plenty of water, dress weather appropiate be aware of people sneezing and coughing around you. sounds like you have a cold. i just got rid of my cold that i caught last wednesday or thursday and it got better by sunday. just take allergy or cold mecidine. get plenty of rest. it should all be better. hope all goes well
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20F.
I just wanna say I like the advice you have given so far and so I'm hoping you can help me :) this will probably be long but I WILL definitely return the favor!
So a few weeks ago I hooked up with this guy brad while we were both kinda drinking. We know each other, but we're not really friends. We have mutual friends and we just made out and he fingered me, no big deal, whatever. Well the first time i texted him, before the hookup ..he was drinking and so he forgot to save my number so he does NOT have it. Anyway while we were hooking up he told me "oh my gosh your sooo hot, and your body ..aaaah so hot." something along those lines ;) so I know he's attracted to me and I am a very pretty girl (do not want to sound conceited)
Well now tonight I was with one of my good friends and she has brads number. I find out before I'm gonna go home that she had been texting brad all night about ME. and the whole thing was a lie about what she said to him, I have NO idea why she made it all up?? But thats not what i'm asking ha..
This is the convo:
MY FRIEND: whats up
BRAD: partying, you?
FRIEND:oh just trying to find where candis'(me)drunk ass is partying at haha but when are we going to party again like we did that one night you hooked up with candis.
BRAD: well i'm having a party now, come.
FRIEND: well i don't go to partys alone haha but is there anyone i would know thats there?
BRAD: bring my girl candis.
FRIEND: i can't get ahold of her, try texting her and see where she is (she gave him my number)but i know she is having people at her house next week/weekend because her parents will be gone you have to come
BRAD: ohhhh haha okay i'm not texting her.
FRIEND: why not please she won't respond to me and i'm worried about her and so maybe she will respond to you
BRAD: haha i don't have her number
FRIEND: i just gave it to you, (gives him my number again)
BRAD: i'm not texting her
FRIEND: fine brad don't help me out then!
BRAD: call her.
FRIEND: haha omg nevermind she just sent me a funny drunk text and picture
BRAD: haha nice
FRIEND: (sends this pic of me that she took from a different night, different party, while I was wearing this sexy outfit dirty dancing with another girl)look how hot she looks in that outfit i'm so jealous!!
BRAD: wow
FRIEND: shes so innocent but so crazy and everyone loves her and wants her i'm so jealous but i'm sure you don't wanna hear this i'm going to bed have fun!
BRAD: bye
i'm confused about this whole conversation. I felt good when he said bring my girl candis because it showed he wanted me to be there but then when my friend tells him to text me he didn't want to? I don't know if it was because he was nervous to text me, like i'm intimidating or because i was "supposively drunk" or he just didn't want to talk to me? Or because he was at a party drinking? And then when she sent that pic of me to him and he said "wow" I don't know if that was a good or a bad thing that he said wow. I just don't know what to do..does he seem interested in me? It threw me off that he didn't want to text me? But then the other things he said made me feel like he did want to see me.
What should I do?! (link)
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Well obviously he wanted you to go to the party. About the text, he probably thought that you were drunk because your friend said you were. And he would want to talk to you sober. Or he was drinking at a party, but if he was he probably would had texted you anyways. If he is interested in you he will let you know. If he doesnt and you are interested in him you will have to tell him. Also it could be he is shy. Guys are shy to. Well I hoped i helped. And Good Luck :)
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I'm a big money saver. Sometimes I go shopping with my friend for three hours and while they come out with ltos of stuff, I'll buy nothing.
WELL I've heard about how you need sunglasses for good eye protectiona nd under wrinkles and dark spots you know? And Most are UV ones now and they're nice and cheap. $10 in almsot all the brand stores.
So I want one but yet I DON'T. I cna't see myself wearing sunglasses and the last time I wore sunglasses was when I was 5 swimming - those star and heart shaped ones form the dollar store.
Should I buy them? And when would you/I wear them? Driving would be great on those sunny days (but I loose my balance when I try one on because the world looks SO different. Plus, I can't tell the traffic light colours apart). In school and the mall, I only see people wearing them on their heads. If I wanted a head accessory, I would get a head band!
Also, when you you NOT wear them outside? (link)
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I think you should buy a pair. I also hate spending money. Just make sure its a pair you like. I bought a pair and im very satisfied with Just make sure your in a good mood when you buy them. If you cant see while driving then you can have them on top of your head but usually they block the sun while driving and makes it better. you can wear sunglasses anywhere the sun is. usually outside by a pool or when walking with friends if the sun is blaring things like that. In buildings you usually wont need them so thats why people dont wear them in the mall or at school. Well good luck and i hoped i help.
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20 ..female.
I'm beginning to be quite confused about most guys being turned on about a girl being a virgin.
In my mind, a guy would be turned off because you're not experienced. And everyone says, a guy would looove to take a virginity from a girl but I would see it the exact opposite. Wouldn't a guy be afraid to take a girls virginity because he would think the girl would then become attached, and maybe even annoying/obsessive? That is, if he's not you're boyfriend.
I don't know maybe I look at it wrong. But everytime I tell a guy i'm a virgin i'm always thinking they're like .. "this girl can't get any?" or she's not experienced ..definitely doesn't know what shes doing. And i'm a pretty girl, comfortable with my body so yes i've had so many opportunities to do it, just not going to. Just things like that and feeling like it ruins everything. But people tell me most of the time its a turn on for guys.
Can someone please help explain this to me!? (link)
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Well I think guys think its a turn on because they know that the girl havent been with anyone before them. They know that the girl is clean and havent been fooling around with anyone else. Also guys like a challenge. not necessarily gurls that can give it up easily. Its also fun knowing that the girl is a virgin and seeing if they can get with them. Also most guys like to take control so if the girl is not experienced the guy can take lead. thats how i see it. so i think guys think its a turn on. hope that gives u some idea.
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well i have this friend mia and this other friend alex they went out a while ago but it didnt work out so they broke up she say she still loves him and he says the same but on the other hand he close to me i mean he only hangs with her when im around we text each other alot and every time we make plans im the one he tells first i dont really belive in horoscopes but this time it said i was going to open up and i did turns out i like him and someone that wasnt into me now is ai read his and its telling him to let go of the past and that he has to pick stay friends or become lovers could that be about me i dont konw what to do i like him but shes one of my bestfriends what do i do? (link)
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Well you say him and your friend are still in love. well i think you should just keep being the friend you are being. because if you end up dating him and lose your friend over it and then you and him break up you wouldnt have neither. and plus he would just telling you he still has feeling for your friend right?
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Here's the deal, I've been friends with this guy for about two years now...Since the day we met we clicked! Things were great we spoke as friends and as time went on I developed feelings for him. I had a major crush on him and a while later one of our guys friends asked me if I'd ever go out with him I said sure why not. He has such an amazing personality and hes cute and very smart and he makes me feel happy, with that said our friend told me that "he" liked me too. A great deal! I was shocked because it didn't seem like he had much interest other than being friends. So when word got back to him that I knew, he started being all shy around me, he was shy before, but not to the ex stream that he is now. We went out last year for a bout a month...didn't last much because he was waaaaay too shy! I was being patient and trying to compromise but, there's only so much one can put up with. It was like, he didn't even want to seem me. :( We'd make plans and he'd cancel. Later on I found out he was ditching me to hang with some other girl, not really cheating, but still he ditched me to hang with another girl. I felt bad, especially because I'm not that self confident and I'm not ugly but I'm not hot...and this girl was like a barbie girl. So I asked him if he wanted to break up he was like "Do YOU want to?" I didn't want to, but I did. Since we never spent time together anymore. It was hard for me to stay friends with him so, I stopped talking to him for a while and tried moving on. Very difficult, but then I met this other guy who was wooeing me a bit. But wasn't really into him I actually was hoping he'd help me get over the other guy but I didn't want to use him and then have him get hurt. So I just quit on that before it got complicated. Well summer is here and the old guy and I started talking again, hanging out with our old friends making plans just like old times but the thing is I still have feelings for him. Always have and probably always will...He recently asked me if I was happy. I said things could be better. He's made it quiet obvious he still has feelings for me, but he's so damn shy. I don't get it, when we had become friends he was shy but not so much, and now he's over the top...he's the type of shy that, when we go to McDonalds I have to order his food for him, because he's to shy to...I know there's no changing someone but should I give it another shot? The thing is I don't want to be the only one to try again...so should I just forget and try to move on...or what do I do? :/
Um...one detail I left out is, I'm 17 and he's 15...I don't age matters but then again who knows.
Any and all help, thank you! (: (link)
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i say that you should stay friends with your old friend. Since he is shy let him get more comfortable around you again. If you date him again it woukd just leave it awkward and him more shy. if he is a great guy like you said its always better to be friends and not lose him again. hope i helped
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17/f. There is this boy I know who is friends with my younger brother whoim extremely attracted too. Like I don't like him per se, but whenever I'm around him I have to restrain myself to not flirt. And it's very hard not too. I know he likes me. Which makes things harder. Also, I'm seeing him Friday and I'll be seeing him a lot this month. After that, I probably won't really see him much. So I kind of have to make up my mind, and decide if it's worth it. I think it might just be some weird chemical reaction, but I've never felt the way i feel when I'm around him. I would like him.. It's just the stupid agE difference! Help me. I can't even ask my friends because I'm embarrassed. (link)
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ok so im sort of in the same perdiacment. i like this boy younger than me. im 17 and he is l6. i was embarrassed to. but i told my friends eventually because i couldnt hold it in. and they think that its cute. i think its totally normal to like someone younger than you. (if they are like a year younger) have you ever consider your lil bro feelings. like would he care that you like his friend. also i found out that younger guys can be immature. so i say hang out with him and your brother. and if he is someone you could talk to him then try it out if not. let it go.
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16 and 17 year old girls, what are your opinions on and experiences of sex?
Being a 16 year old girl turning 17 in two months, and still a virgin, and also the kind of girl people assume have had sex, I'm definitely not comfortable with my lack of experience, and can't come up with any reasons why I havn't had sex except for, well, it just hasn't HAPPENED.
So I'm interested to know what other girls my age think. Have you had sex or are you a virgin? If you're a virgin, what are your reasons and how do you feel about it? If you've had sex, how did you lose your virginity, what is your sex life like now and how do you feel about it?
A lot of detail (though obviously I'm not asking for anything too personal or graphic, just your thoughts on the subject) because I really hate being a virgin at my age, and would like to know what your views are.
I'd really appreciate answers, thankyou! (link)
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hi. im 17 and i am still a virgin. im a virgin and glad i am. im going to wait till im comfortable with a guy. i perfer my first time to be with a guy who is a virgin because i know he is clean and havent been with other people. because most guys i know who arent virgins have been with more than one person and those people have been with other people. also i dont want to have sex and then regret it, or get played. and when you have sex there is some much worries. but without having sex i wont have to worry about anything. also for my first time i want it to be with someone i enjoy and will be proud to say he was my first. so just make sure that when you lose it make sure its when someone you will be happy to lose it too
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16/f
okay so i have been talking/texting this boy for two weeks straight. and i thought he was really into me. like he would text me first basically everyday and say hi to me in school all the time. so i thought everything was going great.
then on the bus one morning i get these swarm of texts and they were all from him, they said:
well i did want to say something, ive been thinking recently and im not sure if i want to get into a relationship again...well atleast not yet...i dated jess for so long and trust me im over her cause she is crazy but i just dont think i wanna start up something right now...like i think your a really nice girl and i think its so cool that you like a lot of the same things as me...im sorry if i sound like an ass im really not trying to be. i just wann stay single for now, and as i said its not you id say the same thing to anyone. im really sorry i dont want to sound like a jerk cause trust me it isnt you, who knows maybe in the future.
it was a complete shocker to me! i didnt expect it at all. now im so confused on what i should do. if he ever liked me/likes me? idk. his old girlfriend and him went out for almost 2 years, and hes right she is crazy. but idk im so confused. HELP ME! what do i do? what did all this really mean? (link)
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i feel that he does like you. he likes you alot thats why he isnt justt hopping into a relationship. he wants to make sure that he is ready also. just give it time and wait till he is ready.
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