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I'm Samantha Jane Stepp. 17/f/Ohio. Junior at MHS. I digg photography, music, writing, reading, swimming, shopping, singing, and going on adventures.


I've seen and done it all. Nothing you can do/say will intimidate me or make me think less of you. With that being said, roll with questions, I give dayum good advice.

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ok.. so i'm 19 and am in my first relationship ever, its been six months now, and just last week my boyfriend left for a job in another country. he says he wants to stay together and be together when he comes back in a year but it dosen't even seem like he cares at all.. he dosen't write me emails or anything, he can't call me because he said that he can't use his cell over there and it would cost way to much to call, however i looked it up and he could have used his cell over there if he paid a little extra.. and he tells me that he loves me a lot, he had an ex who did the same thing (take a job in another country) and so he knows how it feels but if he does and he loves me as much as he says why would he want to put me through that? anyways, i don't know what to do because this is my first boyfriend maybe i'm not really supposed to end up with him and i don't know.. i've just been such a mess lately and don't know if i can last a year feeling like this. anyways if anyone has any advice whatsoever please let me know, thanks in advance and thanks for actually taking the time to read this, i didn't mean for it to be this long

Firstly, you should do some research and see if he really IS in another country. The whole situation sounds like an escape from your relationship.
Secondly, said he had an ex who did the same thing? That's a bit ironic/unbelievable.
Thirdly, like I mentioned, it sounds like an escape from your relationship. If he's honestly been in your footsteps in the past, and really cared, he would have paid that extra.
I know it's your first relationship, and you may not want to leave him because of this, but trust me, it's for the best if you break it off and be single/date other people for a while. If you and this guy are really meant to be, then he will respect your decision, save you the pain, and let you enjoy the fact that he is away, rather than have you desperatly waiting, and feeling like crap.
I hope you make the smarter decision :)

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im turning 16, ive had a digital camera for like 3 years, it's time for a new one =]

i want a professional, or very excellent digital camera that takes great pictures, preferebly under...$200 let me know please! =D

You can get an excellent digital camera for under 200, perhaps; however, you will not find a professional camera for less than 600.

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ok so i work at a deli store and theres this guy that im really attracted too...but he seems to be really nci eand into me but at the same time he dont seem to give me much importance what should i do? i am really attracted to him and i cant wait to talk to him? any thing i should do??

TALK TO HIM! That's the first step. :]

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if someone gives you some flowers and you put them in a vase.. are you supposed to change the water every day?

To preserve the quality and lifespan of the flowers, yes you should change it every day.

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16/f, sorry if this is a bit long, I appreciate those who take the time to read this and help me :]
So, there is this guy, and he told me he liked me, I told him I liked him, but then a couple days after that he got with his ex girlfriend who basically was just dumped by her boyfriend. the guy and i havent talked for 4 or 5 weeks. [since that happened] he is in one of my classes. math. and i hate that class already.
well on friday, i had to collect homework. and no one was passing it up, so i kind of went down his row [which is right next to mine, and im in the way front, he is like 2 seats behind me in the next row, so awkward. he moved there when we got our seats changed.] but before i got to him, they started passing it up, so then all of the sudden the guy ... we'll call him bob.. leans on his desk and says something like, "[my name] would you mind taking this--" or "[my name] will you do me a favor and--" i've been wanting him to talk to me, but i felt like he was being an asshole so i cut him off and snatched it out of his hand. [with attitude i guess] and then bob was like "thank you" [i think kind of sarcastically. or surprised.]
anyways, that happened and then i've been having wierd dreams involving him [nothing sexual, dont worry hahaha] just like dreams that I'm trying to get him to notice me. or talk to me. or break up with his girlfriend. who doesn't deserve him because she always told people ho annoying he was. and not that bob deserves anyone because i REALLY like/liked him.
sometimes i feel like he's looking at me in math. and when i talk to someone who sits behind him, i feel like he tries to make eye contact with me, and when we do make eye contact, i break away frist really quickly, or he does. and we were put in groups on friday [the day i snatched the paper from him] and he was right next to me [in his group] and i think he was listening to me talk to my group or trying to get my attention because whenever this guy in his group asked me a question, he would look at me and our eyes met and it was so intense. like. i don't even now how to explain it.
and ontop of that, i think i like this freshman now. but i still like bob. im so lost and confused and i can't get bob off of my mind. and sometimes the new guy i like comes into my mind. but not really. wow im so confused. what should i do? talk to bob? I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO, I AM SO LOST. someone please help me :[ thank you.

Nah, you should move on. :] Better things await.

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16/f

My best guy friend moved a few years ago and we still keep in touch. and he is like a brother to me. We have had a thing between us where we both liked each other and we tried long distance but it didnt work. and we decided to stay best friends. well he found someone else and recently broke up. He's been talking to me a lot and i'm always there for him and i'm trying so hard to help him, but he is SO depressed. He says everything in his life sucks and he doesnt know why he's still living. and everyone would be better off if he wasnt alive. I REALLY care about him and i have done everything i could possibly think of to help him.

also, he says part of the reason why he is depressed is because he and i didnt work out. and i told him that some relationships are just not meant to be. and he says he has no love in his life and i say his family loves him and godddd i just dont know what to do! I really need help here. badly. I'm afraid that he's going suicidal and i care so much about him. but not in the romantic way.

HELP PLEASE!!!!! i'm begging you. please help me

Every man and woman has their ups and downs, a time in their lives where they think no one loves them and that they just don't belong. Explain to him that he doesn't have to be in a relationship to be happy. Also, tell him not to fix what isn't broken. You guys are bestfriend. Bestfriends last a lifetime, while relationships only last for a moment in time. I'm sure he'd rather have you for a lifetime than a moment in time. You should write him a long letter, old-school, handwritten of reasons why you love him, and why he's your bestfriend. Also, let him know how you, his family, and friends would be affected if anything were to happen to him. Sometimes that's all it takes. And a hand-written letter than he can hold on to is a lot more personal than a telephone call. And don't forget to tell him: "Everything will be alright in the end. If it's not alright, then it's not the end."

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I'm 21, he's 23. He still lives with his mom and dad and brother, who's my age. We've recently gotten back together after like two years of fighting and pretending not to love each other. We're head over heels for each other, we treat each other well - I mean, we're still trying to get past some of the stuff that we had trouble with before, but we joke around with each other, we laugh together, we cry together...We'd have a perfect relationship now if it weren't for his family.
His family hates me - absolutely HATES me - I've done nothing to warrant this behavior. If anything, I've been a saint as far as they should be concerned. I've spent hours taking care of him while he was drugged out of his mind on painkillers after surgery, I've stayed on the phone with him at four in the morning when he couldn't sleep...Even so, his family just despises me.
I've spoken to them about this - they think we're "too much alike." His mother is "Afraid we're going to get married." They want him to "Stand on his own two feet."
I don't baby him. I don't think it's too much to make sure he knows he's loved. He does the same thing for me.
He actually had a conversation with his dad where he explicitly said that he loved me, and his dad said, "You can't control your heart. If you love her, then you love her," which my guy took as kind of a declaration of acceptance of his choice and of me.
I called their house the other day to get a hold of him because he wasn't answering his cell phone, and after we hung up, his dad bitched at him. They can't accept the fact that we love each other - they make every excuse in the world for it and try to say my guy's at fault, or something. His mother - I'm pretty sure - is certifiably insane. With a few psych books, I'm pretty sure I could diagnose her with more than one mental disorder, including bipolar. His father agrees with his mother about me.
His brother just hates me for no reason - well that, and I know he doesn't like me so I've never really let him get to know me. I'm kind of a closed off person. He has a girlfriend, so it can't be a jealousy issue.
I don't know, I'm at my wit's end, here. I've tried everything - talking to them, purposely not talking to them, pretending nothing's wrong, being bitchy to them, being sweet to them (I've even done their dishes (of my own accord, because I just couldn't stand the mess anymore))...
I feel at this point like he'd more likely walk out of their house than lose me, so I'm not concerned about him leaving me. This is, however, unnecessary strain on an already difficult relationship - all second chances are hard. We're handling it as well as we can, though.
Still, this sucks. If we were ever to decide to get married or anything, they would probably disown him...and I could really like his family if they didn't hate me so much...Does anyone have any ideas? =(

To me, it sounds as if you need to schedule a little get together with his parents, again. His mother seems to be contradicting herself because she says he needs to "stand up on his own two feet", yet he is 23, living with his parents, and isn't allowed to go off and have his own life with you. As for his father...I think what he said was an acceptance; however, women usually dominate the man in the house. So, if the woman is unhappy, the man is often to agree with whatever is being said. Children are often the same way. They take in whatever beliefs that their parents do, so that could explain why your boyfriend's brother feels the way he does. I think you should let his brother get to know you. Then you'd have him on your side. In time, your boyfriend will have to move out and be on his own 2 feet. After that, his parents really won't have a say in your relationship. Also, I want to bring up a point. Momma's alwayyys think that their son/daughter is too good for their partners. In time, they'll accept you and grow to love you. "Everything will be alright in the end. If it not's alright, then it's not the end."

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