My gay relationship has recently ended and now I don't know which sex I want to be with. I'm male and I'm attracted to girls physically but not for sex and I'm not attracted to lads but like the sex. This was my first gay relationship now I don't know what I want. I'm so lonely and really confused please help.
Well maybe this is the time to play the field see what your options are. Think about what is going to make you happy. Flirt a little. It's okay to not know what you want and maybe since you're single this is the time to figure out what you really want. I went through a period where I was trying to figure out if I liked guys or girls. I think everyone goes through a time where they are experimenting and such. I weighed the pros and cons and thought about what I really wanted. Point blank you have to be happy with yourself first so don't assume that when you find someone they will make you happy because that's not the way it works. 'Happiness comes from within' and that's the honest truth. Be patience and think about what is going to make you happy! Good luck!
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so, my friend is going through a really hard time, she tried to commit suicide, and she's getting really depressed. her mom doesn't pay any attention to her.. she used to be the peppy sunshiny person, now she just puts on a mask... I know what it's like I used to be the same way.... I keep telling her to talk to people, then I suggested for her to change up her normal life and listen to some songs she never would consider (my kind of music) and i'm just wondering... what else can i do for her?
Well first off you are truly a great friend to her and by asking what you can do shows how good a friend you are to her. Sadly there isn't much you can do besides be there for her and listen to her. Support her and let her know that you will always be there for her. She should really try talking to someone but you can't force her too. Obviously if you know somethings going on tell someone. Are you close to her mom? What about your parents? Maybe talk to your parents or talk to her mom and let them know whats going on. This situation is serious and shouldn't be taken lightly.
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I'm M/16. I'm a Junior in HS. I used to be good at school. My gpa was 83 in freshman year. In sophomore year my gpa went down to a 69, by the end I got it up to 79. This year has been okay but, I just don't want to do homework. I pay attention & do class work but I don't feel the same. I'll get home, play video games & research random things on the net. At around 11pm I'll look at my homework and just put it back in my bag. Then I'll end up going to bed at around 1am, fall asleep by 3am, and wake up at 5:30am. I've tried to sleep earlier and I just can't. Its like I've lost motivation & will power. I have nothing tol look forward to. Then I'll try in school but they think I'm dumb. I'm not the same, I used to help people with work & stuff. I had my first chemistry test & got a 50, even though almost all answers were right. Thats a disgrace, I loved science, I used to get streaks of 100's in earth science. I just feel lazy more than ever. I'm always tired too. How am I going to get into college if I go on?
Things happen and as you get older things change. When I was in middle school I was in my room for hours after school doing my homework. My parents would have to pull me out of my room to take a break. I worked my butt off to get my stuff done in middle. When I got to high school things changed and so did my priorities. I didn't do as much homework and it wasn't because I didn't care I just didn't have the motivation and I found things that were more important to me. It doesn't make you a bad person even though I know you feel bad about it. I have ADD so when I need to do work I try to concentrate on what I need to get done and then take 15 minute breaks inbetween. When you get home sit in a place where there are no distracts and focus on the task at hand. When you feel yourself getting tired or bored take a 15 minute break and then after that go back to the work. As far as sleeping goes try not to do so much on the computer when its near bed time. I find the computer keeps me up later than I should and if I don't get the right amount of sleep in the morning I don't function as well as I should. You're a junior this year? It's time to change this habit around and if you want it bad enough you'll get it done. Have confidence in yourself!
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I'm constantly surprised that I actually look good.. like in all honesty. But then I seem to forget and feel self conscious and like I'm ugly or something.. fu390urqprfpcaspfka. i guess i have low self esteem now but idk. What can I do about it? It's even been hard for me to accept compliments sometimes. I don't want to be cocky, and I really don't like cocky people. I see beautiful traits in all people, but idk.. I guess I think a lot of negative thoughts like people are thinking about me in a negative way and ugh.
I know what you mean. I've been told I'm 'pretty' or 'beautiful' but I never believed anyone when they said it. There are some things in the past that have been said about me that have stuck in my head. It was not until my current boyfriend that he made me believe and feel beautiful. You don't have to be cocky but be confident in yourself and don't let anyone tear you down. I have been through a lot in the past couple of years and it has made me see what is important and whats not. Be confident in yourself!
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I babysit for this family and the mom and dad go out when they come back they are intoxicated. What do I do? Should I tell my mom? This has happened quite a bit?
Well I could kind of understand if it was a one time thing. You say this is happening a bit often then you should consider stopping your babysitting services if you feel uncomfortable. Now I don't know if you can drive to your babysitting job or not but make sure they don't drive you home. What I learned in my babysitting course is the "milk excuse" if they ask to drive you home. You say that you're Mom is picking you up because you need to get something at the store for example "milk". Than call your Mom or Dad or someone is capable of driving!
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hey so on facebook there was a guy who messaged me and he told me he went to a school in the same city as me. his name was Danny Spencer. and i blocked him. well this is going to sound dumb but i unblocked him and he messaged me. i didn't think he would but he did and i asked him who he was and apparently he goes to community college with me but i don't think I've ever seen him. i blocked him when he replied. and today i got on facebook and one of my old friends went to school with and on her facebook she said dear Danny Spencer leave us all alone, and there were a few other girls who said that he tried to contact him. and one girl said he kept texting her. i asked my friend on her status who he was and she said that he's some white guy who looks like a drowned rat and thinks he's black. well my concern is what if i see him at school and he starts talking to him? or what if i happened to see him what should i do? i know the chances of him going to school with me are slim because people make stuff up on facebook, but he's creepy. i don't have any information on my facebook like where i live or my phone number on there so he can contact me, but i am scared what should i do?
I wouldn't worry too much about bumping into him. There have been many people claiming they went to my high school and they don't. I would block him and keep him blocked don't bothering replying to him anymore because like you said you don't know who it could be. Block him and ignore him! If there continues to be anymore trouble with "Danny Spencer" bring it to the attention of an adult or even to your school!
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Boy's want my sister but not me. Don't know if it's cause of age(I'm 14 and she's 16) or what. But a lot of people say I look a lot like her (I can't see that) Why can't I get a boy? For girl's only....thanks anyway.
First off you shouldn't be comparing yourself to your sister. You two are different people! Never compare yourself to someone else because no one is like you and you no one ever will be like you. I call this the "boy crazy syndrome". It's all about finding a boyfriend and having a boyfriend. Why do you want a boyfriend? Do you think it's going to make you feel better? Do you want one because your sister may have one? Why are you asking why you can't get a boy? Do you think your not good enough? Don't put yourself down because you can't find a guy. It's not you, its just you haven't found him or maybe he hasn't found you. Don't worry about ti too much. Just have fun for right now!
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urgent I'm a female 15 yes and this afternoon I had sex with my boyfriend. The condom was pretty tight and he was afraid that a bit of cum may have leaked out into me.But neither of us were sure and it might not have done, I daren't tell anyone I told my friend but she can't come with me I'm at work tomorrow and have no money as it's a sunday the youth clinic isn't even open and I don't know what to do should I leave it or what?! Monday and tuesday I have doctors appointments already and my mums taking me so I can't go to see the doctor then what should I do?!"
Well you have two options. Go to the clinic Monday and if you are really worried ask them for the day after pill. I believe you have up to five days to take it. Or you could speak to your doctor about it at your appointment and tell her your concern. You tell your doctor its confidential and that way your mother is not involved. The doctor is not allowed to tell your mother anything if its confidential. Maybe call the doctor's office ahead of time and see if you can speak to your doctor. Don't panic I'm sure its nothing but try either going to the clinic or talking to your doctor as soon as possible!
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Okay so i'm 12 years old and i know my body isn't finished developing but all the other girls in my class are and fully chested and curvy and im a pencil and flat chested! I even get made fun of about being tall and skinny. Any advice because i seem to think about this quit often and i feel confident with my body at home but the second i hit school EVERYTHING changes! Please help thanks bye!
I was stick girl in middle school and junior high. I understand what you mean. We all develop different I didn't finish puberty until I was in senior year of high school. And then after I finished I wished I could go back to the way I was before. I know its bothersome sometimes but try to ignore it the best you can. You're young. Enjoy it! Don't rush it. And if people continue to say something don't bother answering back. The only reason they criticize is because they either are unhappy with themselves or they want you to argue with them.. Silence will give them nothing to work with and sooner or later they'll stop.
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I am a junior in high school. Although everyone says it's time to get serious once one reaches junior year, somehow I don't know how to adjust to it. I can be very lazy and seem to be pretty "chill" about this year. I don't seem to give a crap for the life of me and I just can't get my mind focused and out of the "summer zone", the zone where I just don't care about anything. I feel so shitty. I feel like already I am going no where in life! At all! I don't know what I want to do after high school, and I just feel so lost. I realize everyone probably feels this way sometime in high school or later in life, or even earlier, but I just feel so...ugh. I don't even think I can afford college. Not that I am putting excuses on others, but my childhood was very difficult. My father was never there to teach me or tell me about life in high school, and I was never raised to be independent, anyway. Half the time, my mother was going crazy, and she sunk down into a deep depression, as was I when my father abandoned us. Up until freshman year, my life was very dramatic and lonesome. I don't know anything about financial things, or even living on my own for that matter. I feel like a sorry excuse for a teenager and like I will never be able to live on my own and handle myself. I am very forgetful, lazy, and indecisive. I have difficulty paying attention and I try to stay focused and get what I need done, but I don't have much motivation. I'm smart at times and I have so many goals, I also love to write and stuff, but I never figured out what I want to do in life. I need some guidance. I feel scared to go to my parents about this, and I just can't find anything to ease my worrisome thoughts.
I know right now it's tough and it seems hopeless but you have to push yourself sometimes. We all do things that we don't want to but sometimes you have to push yourself in order to get the things you want. When I was a junior in high school I had no idea what I wanted to do and guess what I've been out of high school for 5 years and I still don't know. That's okay. I'm trying to figure out what I want I'm still young I'm not married and I don't have kids. I have the freedom to figure out what I want and explore. In high school I feel the pressure they put on students is that you have to know what you want and guess what not everyone does and that's ok. I use to sit near this girl in class when I was in junior high and she had goals and always knew what she wanted. Fact of the matter is that there are very few people like that. Think about the positives and think about you possibly would want to do. Try out new things and maybe work in retail see if you like that or maybe work in healthcare and see if you like that. Whatever you find appealing "attack it" and go for it and do the best that you can Life is like a mini mall of opportunities that awaits you. Believe me you're not alone and I'm sure if you ask your peers how they feel most of them would be able to relate to what you're feeling. Think about it, if money weren't an issue what would you want to do? As far as your childhood being difficult, we all go through struggles in our lives its how we overcome them. We are all dealt a hand of cards in our lives its how we play them that matters. I understand how you are feeling all to well and I'm working on making myself happy. I'm not where I want to be but I'm getting surely but slowly I'm getting there. "Life is a journey, not a race" Think positive and believe me I know its hard but you'll get through it and eventually things will work out. Good luck!
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Im 13 and female. I know what your going to say, youre gonna say its just a teenage phase im going through. Id believe that if i hadnt been thinking this since i waz 4. So lemme start my story. Im scene, just saying, most ppl call it emo. But my parentz dont get scene so they just think imma freak. How can i get them to understand im not emo anymore?
You shouldn't have to explain who you are to them. Your parents will accept you for who you are and what your about. So you're a scene kid who cares you want to be a scene kid go ahead. Whether its a phase or not you have the right to express yourself which ever way you want. I'm sure your parents don't think you're a freak. I still butt heads with my mother on the way I dress. I sometimes like to dress in a tank or halter top and she doesn't like it. Guess what? It's who I am and my style is the way I express myself. No one is going to tell me how to dress, what kind of make up to wear, or even how I do my hair. Be YOU! Be PROUD!
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I really don't know how I got to this point, where I had to buy a pregnancy test. I've never really been a rebel, in fact I'm a good kid was a virgin until 2 weeks ago. I guess I got too carried away when my parents gave me liberty and let me sleep over my friends house whose brother is my boyfriend..bad idea. We ended up having sex. 2 times. Unprotected.( I know, I know that was stupid!) He said he never cummed inside of me, but precum can get you pregnant. I got my period last month sept 13. And its the 18th and it still hasn't come. I took a pregnancy test (E.P.T.) With my friend (she helped me, because I know nothing about stuff like this) and it came out negative . So I was off course thrilled. But that was 3 days go. And now its the 18th and I still haven't gotten my period. I'm extremely nervous. The way I took it was I peed on a cup, then put the EPT stick inside and waited 2 mins. It came out negative. I mean could my period just be irregular? Wat are some early pregnancy signs? Something that scared me so much was what my mom told me this morning. She said she had a horrible dream that I had a baby. And she followed it with "I know that wouldn't happen, I have such a good daughter" go figure. I really hope that's just a coincidence. I pray that it is. Please don't say go to the doctor because my mom has my insurance and she will suspect if I just ask for it. Also, If I am pregnant (which I pray I am not) I heard there is a pill you can take if its early enough? How much is it? Ahh!! I'm so nervous and scared. Please any information would help me. Thank you.
Okay first off relax. Sometimes your period may not happen due to the fact of you stressing out. So try not to think too much about it.The pregnancy tests aren't all accurate its always better to go to a doctor and get blood taken or have them test you just to be sure. There is the morning after pill but that's not an option since you can only take it five days after you've had sex. You said you don't want to go to the doctor because of your mom well first off your visit with the doctor is between you and the doctor no one else. And two if you are really concerned I would go to a clinic if I was you and get tested there. My advice is go to a clinic and try to get tested to see and be sure and if it comes out negative relax and try not to think about it. I know its easy said then done but if you think too much about it, it will affect when your period comes. Good luck!
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I have thought about this for a long time but I just don't know what to do.. Maybe you have a solution? I am a girl, 16 years old. I am beautiful, well lots of people say so. I just feel insecure about my body and personality. I only feel good with the right clothes and the right make up. I have never really had a real boyfriend but lots of flings, one night stands and stuff. Lots of boys disappointed me and broke my heart. Not only boys, lots of friends did the same. They dumped me for someone better and just left me. When I was younger I was naive and gave my heart away easily. But now I don't really dare to have a real boyfriend or a real date because I am afraid they don't like it if they really get to know me. And I just don't know if I can take it anymore, those heartbreaks. It hurts so bad, I really hate love. I build up walls so no one can see how I feel about them, but still; I feel lost. So there have been boys I really like but I am just too afraid they will hurt me, so I just tell them I am not looking for anything serious. But when I hear they have a girlfriend I am totally crushed. I know it's stupid, because I have pushed them away myself. I really hate myself for being such a drama queen, I know lots of people have it so much worse, but I can't help the way I feel, I guess. So what do you think, should I first work on myself, on my confidence or just take a risk and not think about the consequences?
I know how you feel I've been there and done that. Heck I'm still working on trying to be more confident in myself. No matter what my friends or boyfriend says I sometimes don't believe in myself like they do its weird. When I was 16 I was in the same boat but never got a boyfriend because I was either scared or I had no interest. One thing I've learned is that you have to take risks. If you don't then you'll never experience anything and you're only limiting yourself. Risk sometimes unfortunately comes along with hurt and no one likes hurt. It's better to have feelings and experience then feel nothing at all and isolating yourself from everyone. I've put my heart out on the line many times and I've been both rejected and hurt. It's not fun. After being hurt though, I eventually get back up again and move on. Just because things don't work out doesn't mean its your fault it just means it wasn't meant to be. You need to be comfortable with you and how you feel about the situations. Be positive and confident in yourself. Take risks and take the opportunities that come before you. That doesn't just go for boys it goes for the things that might come your way in life. If you don't take a risk, instead you're going to be dealing with regret. Good luck and keep your head up!
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I am a biology major in college. My grades are usually A's and B's but this semester is really hard for me. It's almost over and I haven't had any A's on any exams. Im taking Chemistry and Physics 2, along with Ecology, with a few others. My main concern are my science classes. I might get C's in these courses and I am really worried about my future, medical school wise. I am very stressed all the time and am almost in constant worry. I barely sleep and I don't have any time to myself. What should I do to relieve some stress?
My advice is to try and give yourself some me time. Whether its taking a 15-20 minute break once in awhile. When I was in college I use to listen to my iPod and draw for a bit or even go out for a walk. For me walking is the best because it clears my head. What I have been recently doing is meditating which has been really nice. Try to make sometime for yourself because if you keep stressing about this its going to make matters worse.
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Do you really believe that there is life after death because I've been thinking of ending mine. Than I realized eternity is a long time to spend in the company of the things that made me end it in the first place.
My advice is worry about the life you are living now and worrying about becoming the best you can be. People will be people. There are many times where people will get on your case but its best to not let them get to you. Think positively! I've been in some tough situations that have made me feel worthless but its not worth beating myself up about it. Sure I've made mistakes but the only regret I've ever had is how I've never stood up for myself as much as I should have. Have you ever read the book 'Tuck Everlasting'? If not it's a great read! The character Tuck says "Don't fear Death but fear the unlived life". Don't listen to what other people say, people are always going to say what they want. Listen to you, and follow your heart and mind in what you want to do. Don't let people get you down. I also suggest you go speak to someone whether it be your guardians, guidance counselor, friends, or even a therapist. Keep your head up!
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So I just got my report card back and I got two A's, but then I got two B's and a C+. The problem is with the B's and C was that I started a couple weeks late because I switched from another school and they had put me a grade ahead because there was some stuff I had already learned. I was really really upset and I spent about five hours crying. I just wanted to know if my grades count for anything. If they do I will go throw myself off a bridge (I'm twelve and a very distressed eighth grader).
There's no reason to be upset. As, Bs, and C+ is fine. No one is perfect. Don't beat yourself up over it you did the best you could under the circumstances. If you are really upset than try better next time. Don't beat yourself up over it because that's going to help you. Keep your head up!
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I'm 14 (female) and I like a guy a lot but I've just found out from my friend that he smokes weed along with loads of other guys from my year. The problem is I still like him a bit because I cant really believe it...what should I do about it and should I carry on as if I don't know and that everything is normal??
In life you're going to find people who have lifestyles that you might not necessarily agree with. I know weed is illegal but it's not hurting anyone and it's not a health risk (or so I've heard). I don't smoke weed but I have some friends that do and I'm still friends with them. I guess if it makes you uncomfortable than move on. If that's the only thing that is making you uncomfortable but you still like the guy than flirt with him or ask him out. Don't judge him for what he does or how he lives his life. And don't ever try to change him and his lifestyle. Like him for who is as a person and not what he does.
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me and a friend had sex and we didn't use a condom and im not on birth control. I knew he cummed in me because it didn't just cum back out in my shorts. I have had little signs but not much to tell im really pregnant. SO how can i know for sure without taking a pregnancy test, because if my parents found out im screwed.
There is no real way to tell whether you're pregnant or not without taking the test. I mean I guess one way is when you get the baby bump other than that there is no way. Either go to a store pick up a test and go to a friend's house to see or go to a clinic. Those are your two options. You won't know whether you're pregnant or not by not getting a test. Maybe even go to your doctor and get a test there they can do it by taking blood or by a urine sample. Whatever you choose, you need to know so you can have options and make some choices.
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The last time i wrote on was April, its October. I think i have matured and have became more wiser. My life has change oh so much. The main problem i have is is forgiving my family. Such as my mom and my cousin and nephew. I say my mom, because i really cant look at her the same way . We were in NY , my moms boyfriend and i gotten into a huge argument. He called every curse word and she did NOTHING BUT tell him to shut up . Thats it ! I told her how i felt and she hasn't done anything at all life back to the same way. I was never very fund of him anyway. Shes changed so much. My cousin and nephew because they betrayed me they had the audacity to sit and both talk about me on the phone. I trusted them and thought they would be the last ones to talk about me and TRASH talk about me, i was in tears when i heard about it. I haven't talk to them since 2 months. Forgiveness? Its so hard you forgive when you've been hurt by the same person & its not the first time. Any advice.
Forgiveness is probably one of the hardest things to do. Letting go of something whether you were right or wrong is hard. It's better to let it go instead of containing that anger. I'm not saying you should forget it but don't hold the grudge. Family is family. With your mother, she is your mother at the end of the day and she has chosen to be with this man. Maybe you don't like the way she is acting when she is with him but you need to accept that. If she's happy she's happy. Forget about him and worry about the relationship with your mother. As for your cousin and nephew, if they want to talk behind your back let them. It only makes them look bad. Maybe try not to be so close to them now since you know this. Be aware of them and maybe don't give out any information that you don't want them gossiping about.
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why do i feel the need to do my hair and makeup again? i stopped when i was 16. now i see all these girls and i feel intimidated because i dont really do anything but apply a little mascara. i want to be happy when i look in the mirror, but im not. i dont understand why because i should be happy. i want to dye my hair, but i know this is just going to lead to temporarily happiness.
Happiness comes with in. Make-up and doing your hair is not going to make you happy. What do you like to do? What makes you come alive? For me it's singing and music...it brings out the best in me and just puts me in an overall great mood. Ignore those girls at school that seem to have everything going for them changes are they have things going on they just won't tell anyone. Think of something that makes you happy. Do something that makes you happy! Keep your head!
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