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Q: I'm really in love with my bf(21 and im 20). we have been dating 3 years off and on. but are long distance.
since weve been so off and on i feel like i cant trust him. i dont mean with other people. hes never been with anyone else. i just mean with him going away for weeks without hearing from him.
recently i left town again and told him i really didnt want to be used and was nervous about having sex if i wasnt gonna hear from him. he assured me that he was so in love with me and would make the distance easier.
Its been 3 days now that i havent heard from him..i know eventually i will hear from him but this is such a tough time in my life that i really wish i would hear from him sooner. (he doesnt have a phone)
Ive been feeling really lonely lately and feeling like if i dont find someone who treats me better i will always feel this way. but i cant move on because i want so badly to be with him i almost always put up with it.
Im just kind of wondering if anyone else had a similar situation: where they feel like the person they are with isnt fully there? they feel like theres nothing they can really do cause the pain of walking away is so hard? and if they lose them then everything will be lost? :/ I know this is super depressing. but im just trying to be honest so i can get some good advice :[ thanks for your guys time!
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As women we tend to love hard and quick...even if it is with the wrong man. Walking away from someone we love can feel like our heart is being ripped out of our chest, however, we must love self first. You say you put up with it. If you do, expect to continue getting hurt. This man seems to have another life. (Frankly, you may be the other woman.) If he loves you he will make every effort to contact you. Also, trust is something that is important in all relationships. Both parties must trust and also do everything they can to be trusted. It doesn't seem like you two are on the same page. If you want to stay brace yourself for more pain. I hope you make the right choice.
P.S.
And wear protection, you are worth it.
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Q: I keep lying to my supposed "friends." I don't know why I do, it just comes out! I hate that I can't keep from lying to them. Mostly it's about a boyfriend that doesn't even exist! I honestly don't know why I say these things. I get really sad about it, but can't face telling them the truth. What if they don't wanna be friends anymore afterwards? I've had lots of trouble making friends in the past and don't think I can face being friendless again. Please help. I'm desperate.
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I can understand your need to fit in. We all seek approval at some point in our lives. Now the issue here is lying in order to get that approval. Obviously you know that it is wrong. The misconception that you have, however, is that you can't keep from lying. You can control what you say but the truth is that you are afraid of rejection. My advice is to come clean. If they are your friends they will be willing to forgive you and move on. If not, they are not real friends. Why would you want friends who you can not be real with anyway? One lie leads to the next and all lies come to light. Wouldn't it be better for you to tell the truth than to have your lies exposed by someone else? How embarrassing would that be? I know its hard to face ourselves, but it is only then that we can truely grow.
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Q: i am in a relationship with a pastor for almost 8 yrs. Most of his church members think he is still with his wife , he is not divorce her yet but he is living with me. Now sudenly his wife is working night shift as home health aid, he has to go sleep with his son every night and left me alone. what should i do now?.I am so depress and i feel likekilling myself
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Sweety, I'm going to be real with you. You're the other woman. You are not his number one. He has not even claimed you as his. He masquerades like a good shepard tending his sheep, but truth is he is a wolf in sheep's clothing. He belongs to someone else. If you loved yourself and stood up for what is just and good, you would leave him. As a woman you are beautiful and more valuable than you may even think. You should find someone who will hold you in high regards and not "play" you. As a religious woman what you are doing and allowing to be done is not right. Please take a closer look at the situation and even when it hurts, you can get through this. It may be uncomfortable but you are able to do what you know is right. And remember, if he did it to his own wife, he'll do it to you.
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Q: Ok so my first question for this site is.. I am never loved or accepted by friends, boyfriends or anyone except my family.. I always try to make others happy before myself, but for some reason no one likes me.. I take care of my self, I'm a little over weight and insecure depressed a lot but don't let it show... Question is what can make everyone hate me or not want me, why do they run?
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The question you ask is about others. The question you should ask is what is wrong with me? It is only you who can change and all else will fall into place. From your post it looks as if you are very insecure. When describing yourself you focused more on your outward appearance. This is but a small fraction of who you are. From what I hear from you, you are a loving caring individual. I believe you are an awesome friend and girlfriend. I also believe that you constantly try to help out your loved ones and make sure they are taken care of physically, emotionally, and maybe even financially. The investment you put into them may come across as being overbearing. You must learn to invest that time into yourself. Who are you? What do you want out of life? What makes you happy? Learn to be alone with yourself and embrace who you are. People will learn to appreciate you when you appreciate yourself.
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bio
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I'm a reconnection coach. I help women return and reconnect to their authentic inner essence so they can live a more fulfilled life. I am also a dedicated to helping other people, both younger and older, in regards to relationship issues. Relationships are not just limited to boyfriend and girlfriend but parent-child, brother and sister, etc.
I was a mother at the age of 17 years old so I understand the pressures and issues teenagers face. I have also been married 10 years and counting so I understand the struggles and problems of a marriage relationship. As a mother of four I can relate to the stress of raising children.
I am currently working on obtaining my degree as a marriage and family counselor.
I look forward to giving real and raw advice to you.
If you would like to follow me on a journey to self improvement check out my website below.
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