HI!! Im a 27 yr old single mom that actually loves to give advice. Im very honest and will be blunt, however I will not hurt anyones feelings. I believe people need to be told the truth about things in order to be successful in life, as suppose to the cliche "I will tell you what you want to hear". I actually had a strong desire to become a therapist to work with mentally ill and/or depressed patients, but never finished college due to my pregnancy. I recently broke my foot so I now have alot of time on my hands.
So if you need a honest answer or simply someone to talk to IM HERE!!!!!! XOXO
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Recently I decided to let go on a lost friendship with someone who has trash talked me to my face, made me cry on multiple occasions, tells my secrets and then lies about it, forced me to cheat for them, and all of a sudden stopped talking to me without a reason. It's taken awhile for me to realize that this friendship may have started out well, but it took a bad turn. I really want to let go and move on, but I'm having a hard time. Now, I think about all of the good memories we had together. How can I help my self move on from the pain of such a failed friendship?
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Getting over a friendship is just as bad as getting over bf/gf relationship. Its your dumass friend that took advantage of you and you dont deserve it so letting go was by far the best thing you did for you. The pain will subside sooner or later but to make it sooner, keep yourself busy with real loving friends. I say write her/him a letter expressing how you feel and dont hold back. you can either send it to her or throw the letter out after. the point is to vent then throw a "f-u bad friend party" with all your fab friends. it sounds silly but my point is surround yourself with people who love and respect you, you will move on and feel great in no time. Good Luck!!
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Ok, so I don't know what to make of this to be honest. My boyfriend of 8 months has been nothing but good to me, he bought me everything I ever need from books to jewellery, and swears he'd always protect me even if we weren't together.
Anyway, I know he has a violent streak in him, I've never seen it but his family knows and he told me some of the stories from his past, which didn't worry me too much because he's never once hurt me or anything. But last night he told me about his attitude to relationships when he was about 17, and most of these stories involved him treating his girlfriends like crap, dumping them after a day and using them to buy him shoes and give him money etc.
I don't know if it's possible to change from this attitude though, I mean, he's lovely to me, I give him freedom to go to parties and tell him he can chat up girls so long as he's clear that nothing happens, and he says that made him respect me more, but since he told me that I'm worried I'm just going to be another name in a list of people he humiliated and hurt.
Is that something I should let go because it's his past and he's changed? (link)
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Do you really believe he has changed?1st thing is just he buys you things that doesnt mean he will never snap and hurt you. You dont want to live with the somewhat fear cause now you know and its in the back of your mind, you sound very smart and level headed I say move on to a "safer" bf. Domestic violence is a scary thought even if he so far has treated you lovely.
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i just want to know what can be the most unpainful way to commit suicide , I know some of u will try to convince me not to do it … but i’m afraid a won’t change my mind .my life right know is a living hell I really can’t bare it anymore , the thing is that I have a mom who’s driving me mad even though I’m really sensible and a kind of mature no drugs no drinking and certainly no smoking cause I’m really interested in sport , school report aren’t bad at all I don’t know why I have to stand all these things , I’v been really patient but it’s just getting worst I’v never thought I’d end up like this …. However I just want some answers because I can’t afford a gun or anything like that so… by the way I’m 17 years old ps: sorry for my bad English (link)
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I tried to commit suicide when I was 18. I know how you feel you know the desperate feeling. Believe I know first hand the last thing you want to hear is the convincing of dont do it. Try talking to someone first. why do you want to do it? If you are embarassed of this feeling/emotion your going through vent with a stranger like me. please be patient just a little little littlleeeee bit more and talk to me or anyone. let it out.
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Hi, I'm in a situation. I have no job, car, home, money, and no one to turn to when I feel like I need some one the most. I live with guy and his family- he doesn't really support me with my struggles. My step parents will no longer let me live with them and they are not very helpful with what they could help with. My dad is psycho- he harasses me when I'm not at his house and had recently harassed my friends on facebook regarding me. When I found out, I blocked him. He has the mind of an immature ten year old. I've grown apart from most of my good friends. Only a few I still keep in contact with but they are not really supportive or helpful in any way. I have no one. NO support. NO anything. My boyfriend isn't really there for me. I don't think he knows how to be even though I tell him what I want and need. He doesn't do anything even proactive to help me with all these burdens on my shoulders. He usually goes on a tirade about me always wanting something when he's not in a mood to help and says "There's nothing I can do." He doesn't know how to be the supportive type. My step parents who have helped me all these years by giving me a home and taking care of me have the idea in their heads that I didn't care about them like they hoped I would. I did but they didn't know how to be supportive of my emotional struggles at school or with my peers back in my grade school years. They always had a negative approach towards me and it had always brought my mood all the way down. Instead of helping me understand how to deal with my mental troubles, they always nagged about something such as my grades dropping or me leaving a cup on a table for ten minutes without putting it in the dishwasher. When there are times when I really feel the need for some attention regarding my issues and no one is there or even tries to help, I get very agitated and negative towards everyone. My needs are Never met. They are always moved behind and neglected then everything gets worse and my head starts to feel like it's going to explode. I just want something some of you out there have, Someone out there who actually cares about how I feel and someone who could help. Someone to hear me out once in a while instead of just waiting for their turn to speak or to tend to their systematic schedules of their lives. (link)
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Hey, So I never been in your exact situation but I can definitely relate to that feeling of loneliness and burdens. Its very hard to dig deep in yourself to get the will power needed to stand up for yourself and get your life together. The first thing I suggest is maybe therapy, someone you can trust a family member maybe even reach out to one of those prior good friends, you surprised maybe they feel the same way. Talking things out sounds corny but believe me feeling something and saying it out loud is sooo different.
It will help you as the first step to better yourself for you. And of course the support you emotionally need. The next thing I think is to come to terms with your reality and accept it. Psycho dad, non understanding step parents, non supported boyfriend, etc. you can not change what people think, say, do. Give it your best to express how you feel and if you know in your heart you tried all you can will little response, then you have to just focus on your self 100 percent. Lastly is looking at groups in many community center in your area where you can meet other people build a better support system and start building your life. Life is too short to sit around with burdens that are not even your fault. Remember its your life good or bad choices they are yours and you learn from everything in your life. Hope you feel better.
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