I'm a 17 year old senior high school student who considers himself quite knowledgable in the realm of relationships and I've experienced alot more than most people, so if you have any questions, ask away! I'll do my best to take you seriously but remember--stupid questions merit stupid answers.
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13/f
Lately Ive been miserable
I like this one guy who ive liked on and off for 3 years and he likes my friend.
We were really close over the summer and now that we are back at school he likes her, and he barely talks to me and he is sometimes mean to me.
But then if we are alone, hes pretty nice to me.
And the more people say hes hot, it makes me sad and mad .
I just dont know what to do!
please help!
ps ive never had a boyfriend and ive only like 5 boys in my life.
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Any guy who's a jerk to you when you're around your friends and sweet to you when you're alone is an ass. Soon enough, he'll stop being sweet when you're alone and then it will all suck. Don't settle for someone who's not good enough for you.
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14/f/ freshman
i dont even know where too start.
uh, well this all start on the first day of school. i sit down in a seat with my reallllly good friend of 6 years, heather. we have a new bus schedule and it was the first day of highschool, so i was interested in any cute guys. one stop, had this really cute guy named steve on it. i only recongnize him from being on my friends myspaces. so a few days passed and then around wednesday the 13th i added him on myspace and i got his screenname hes a junior, heathers a sophmore, we started talking alot. and i started to like him. the only thing that sucked was that he had a girlfriend, we talked a little over the weekend and he told me to say hey to him on monday. monday finally came and i was sooo excitied, when i got onto the bus i told heather that i had been talking to him and she seemed surprised, because this kid is kind of popular. and so i could tell heather was like jealous that they dont really talk. anyway, me and steve had been talking this whole week and today heather got off at my bus stop, and we were planning on going to the mall. we were sitting in front of the computer and i as usual was talking about steve, and she knows i like him. we were on myspace and we saw that him and his girlfriend brokeup. i was so happy, words couldnt describe. i was talking to him and trying to make him feel better and stuff. heather says "we should tell him to meet us at the mall, i'd probably hook up with him" ....i dont understand how she could say that. and then she kept saying how cute he was. i didnt make the connection that she was starting to like him. after that she left and when we were talking online she said that she decided to go with her friend lilly. i got pissed at that too. so i decided to go with my friend alison, so i posted a myspace bulletin saying oh yay im going with alisonto the mall, and steve i-med me saying oh yay im going to ! lets meet up or something ! i was in suchhh a good mood and then it all fell down. first alison decides to ditch, and go over her friends, then heather callsme asking me if i am coming to the mall, and she also adds that she was sending steve messages back and forth, and she told me to read them, so i go on her myspace and she lied, she reversed everything, like she said that he said that he wanted to hang with her, and on themessages it was backwards. she was the one who wanted to hang with him. anyway so now im home, and im praying that they dont hook up. because that would ruin my life and my friend ship with heather.
this is my question:
do i have a chance ? should i stay liking steve ? and should i still talk to heather ?
if you think i should still like steve.. then do you have any tips for me ?
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Is this a question or a novel?
P.S. Heather sucks. Do whatever you want when it comes to Steve.
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I have deep feelings for my best friend. Our relationship is just that friends. I've shared with him my feelings about this & he's always accepted them with an open heart. My issue I'm facing is I'm starting to act jealous. He's a very flirtatious guy. I end up wanting to cry now whenever he turns on his charm to other ladies. This was never a problem for me in the past. Being a flirt is who he is. He claims up & down that he doesn't want to be in a relationship (which is fine by me, we both have the same view points on that topic) My issue is that I'm in love with someone that shares his affection with everyone. We've talked numerous times about this. I need to find out why I feel so jealous & 99.9% of my jealousies are because I misunderstood him. How do I over come this before? I might have a chance with him, but for right now I just don't want to loose my best friend. (link)
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As a very "charming" 17/m myself, I have had extensive experience in this area (actually, I'm going through a similar experience currently). Guys and girls alike are extremely flirtatious during the high school years. Yes, it sucks, but it's part of finding who you are. My biggest problem with this situation is that you admit to being "just friends" and that neither of you want anything more. The fact that you're not "going steady" gives him (and you) every right to flirt with whoever he wants. It might be difficult, but if your friendship is really that strong, maybe it's just best that you stay friends.
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ok well some of my freinds have started to act like im not there. and well they would tell me everything and now they tell me nothing. my ? is ... should i just stop hanging aroud them???? help (link)
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Don't just "give up" on them. Friends are the people who will get you through this life when no one else understands. Approach one of them individually and just say "Hey, what's up?" Try to get them to tell you why they've had this sudden change of heart. Chances are, you can fix this by talking it out. After all, saying something can't be any worse than not saying anything.
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im in drama and every time i try to do my act, this girl keeps taking over and keeps saying im not doing it right on every little thing. how do i become good enough so she wont say anything, she doesnt only do it to me, she does it to other people and they get mad too. any advice to this situation? (link)
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Look, this girl is obviously a bit over dramatic which, as you continue in your theatrical career, you will see over and over and over again. So many people I've worked with over the years have been this way. My best advice: ignore it. Be professional. Work with her when you have to and only when you have to and be as nice as possible when you do. Kill her with kindness. People tend to feel much worse about mistreating people who are nice to them as opposed to those who are rude and mean.
As far as your talent level, just keep working at it. Get as involved as you can as often as you can. You've gotta work from the bottom up. My first role was as an extra (a "Dinner Guest/Soldier for Macbeth) and I have since earned featured, supporting and even lead roles. Of course, I still receive an occassional "extra" role, but sometimes I find that those are the most fun. No stress, just fun.
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Like so many other teenage girls, I want to be a model or movie star.
I was wondering how to get into either buisinesses, and tips on how to be good. Also, how can I convince my parents to let me audition if i do find something?? How do I know if I am good enough?? Or pretty enough?? How do I audition??HELP!!!
THANK YOU!! f/13 (link)
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It seems to me that you are more concerned with becomming "famous" than pursuing a successful acting career, in which case, I say to you: STOP NOW! The world is too full of Paris Hilton's. However, if I am incorrect, and you are truly interested in a career in acting, I suggest you start locally: get involved in your high school theater program and talk to the sponsor about oppurtunities outside of the school. Audition locally for small community theater productions and work on making connections that can help you "step up the ladder" later in life.
Then, go drink some coffee.
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