I am a teacher and I love working with teens. I am one of their favorite teachers because I do sit down and listen to them. I allow them to cry on my shoulder and have been noted as a second mother to many of my students. I enjoy answering questions from teens about their lives and when school is back in session I will have my students help me with the advice by asking them what they would do so hopefully that will further help any and all questions that do come my way.
Gender: Female
Location: California
Occupation: Language Arts Teacher
Age: 34
Member Since: July 4, 2006
Answers: 32
Last Update: August 8, 2006
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i hate math...me and math will never understand each other...i always get c's on my report card...i was in tutoring but that did'nt help much....my parents give me a hard time on it all the time..and all my friends are really good at it...my parents are always saying look at my friends there doing perfect in it...wat do i do??? (link)
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I teach Language Arts and I could not do math to save my life. Most students are really good at one or the other and your brain just happens to be more fond of the other classes. You may need some tutoring but you know what, you are doing well cause at least you are passing with a "c".
Be proud of what you can accomplish and stop putting yourself down for the things you dont understand. If you are getting to the failing point, thats when you need to seek out a tutor but for now, just relax and enjoy being a kid.
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well i am 13 and i think i would rather talk to u than any one else i dont no wat else to tell you right now but i will tell you more later i would love to tell you about my mom but im at my friends house but i really need to talk about it with someone i will probibly be back august 1st so thats when i can talk about it more.. so im not ignoring you.. just camping lol
bye
p.s. My name is Nicole and i live in Canada (link)
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Well Nicole, I am glad you have found me and we will get through it together. Have a great time camping!!
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my parents give me a hard time about studying..they make me feel like i'm stupid...i hate it...i come back frm school and do all my homework and when i'm done my dad is all like "go study...and i'm like i did.."i'm finished"...then he goes..."oh..so no wonder ur grades are bad"...and my mom if i ask her a quesition she eexplains it to me and if i still don't understand it then she gets really pissed off at me...she says i'm not paying attension...then my mom's friend always calls in and says my son got a 100 on this...wat did ur daughter get....and my mom's all like an 85...she sounds embarresed...so that's why i can't ever show her any of my grades that i'm proud of....or ask her any questions...that's why i always make a low A...B's and sometimes high C's...i've tried tutoring but that does'nt help...even the tutor gets pissed off at me...how can i make my grades be higher w/o getting my parents invovled??? (link)
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I think its great that you care about your grades and its also cool that your parents want you to succeed. I am not only a teacher but a parent and my son and I go through the same crap with my sister-in-law. I hate it when report cards come out and she counts all of her A's and says how perfect she is. She is only 7. As a parent, I feel like I have neglected my son and perhaps he too should be pulling the same grades; however, all kids are different. We all learn in different ways. I suggest you find out what ways you are able to learn and run with that. For example, if you are a visual learner, you need to see more pictures to understand things. A tactile person needs to feel things for them to understand the material. There is also the auditorial learner where if a person hears a lecture they easily get it. Find out where you lie and perhaps that will help you.
As far as your parents are concerned, its not right for them to yell at you at all but it is in their nature because they are frustrated. My guess is that they see you study but do not understand themselves why you are confused over the material. I also suggest seeking out the teacher, they can also help.
No matter what happens, Good luck!! And keep in touch as I am curious if this will help you or not.
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i started my period just know...and the blood is all chunky...it's been 11 days...i think something is wrong...is there?? (link)
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The chunks are called blood clots and its quite normal; however, if they are more frequent and thicker you need to see a doctor.
Also, stress does cause a lot of that clotting so you many want to see what else is going on around you. Also, there is another possiblity and that is a miscarriage but that would consist of a much thorough anaylsis which comes from, of course, the doctor.
As this has been going on for 11 days you should definitely consider seeing a doctor.I hope all is well and you feel better. Let me know how it goes.
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i just began my period and i was wondering, once i am done with my period of the month or whatever, do i still need to wear a pad or tampon all the time? (link)
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Welcome to womanhood!! No you do not need to wear a pad or a tampon once your period has completed.
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ok well for one thing um he isnt really pressureing me really he says he would never do that and stuff i thinks its more i feel immature or something i dont no i just feel really stupid and i cant talk to my mom she is not apart of my life but thats another question for another time lol and i dont want to talk to my dad or my sis so who do i talk to and please dont say a school cousiler i have tried that i hated it please reply but unless you reply before sunday and i have a chance to get to a comp i will not be able to reply untill august 1 or something close to that date (link)
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I would like to know how old you are to be able to further assist you. I only need your age so that I can get a better understanding of why you may feel so immature. If you can also provide me more details as well as more direct questions that would also help.
As far as school counselors go, I love ours but not all of them are as cool as what we have and so I understand that. I suggest talking to some of your other friends that you trust. If you not, you can keep talking to me. I will guide you and try to take over the suggestive "motherly" role for you which means while I am not able to hold you and love you I can offer suggestions from a mother's point of view.
I sure do hope that this helps you out and I will also be praying for you because thats what mothers do.
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ok so my boyfreind is 15 im 13 the age doesnt bother me that much but the fact that he has has sex before does we can talk about it openly and all but i think he thinks i am imature for telling him there is no way in hell i will lose my virginity when i am only 13 and stuff i dont really no wat my question is i think i just need to talk to someone about it help please (link)
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I would like to congratulate you on your honesty and trying to look for help. This is a very difficult thing to go through thats why its called peer pressure. He is not too old for you age wise; however, it seems you would be better off with someone who will not pressure you into sex. I was pressured many times and it was my weakness and I cant tell you how often I regretted those times I had said to a pretty face. I know its hard but you need to find the strength within and resist. Fill your life with people that care about you as well as people who do the right thing. Those people can help guide you through this difficult time. Whatever happens, do not be afraid to say no and if you are, have your mom enroll you in a self-defense class which will empower you to no end. Please reply to me and let me know how it went and how you are doing. If you need further assistance, please do not hesitate, I am here for you.
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Here's the deal: I really loved this guy and I didn't think he loved me back. But on 4th of July, he said he had a confession to make and he said he loved me and asked me out. I said yes! But I haven't talked to him since and it's been two days. What could he be thinking? Guys, Why would he do this? It's sensless.
~Kayla~
♥ (link)
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OK here's the deal!! Some guys will say they love you and not really mean it. In your case, I obviously do not know this for sure but if he truly does love you then he would have called by now. Or possibly he may be very busy with work, school or whatever he does. I would suggest calling him and backing off a little with the "I love you" or you may run him off for good. Perhaps he got scared and is feeling intimidated by those three little words that say so much. Either way, please keep me informed as to what you are going to do. I hope that everything works out for you and this guy really does love you.
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For my major, I have to take an "speech" class (I assume you make speeches). The thing is, I am a horrible public speaker and get totally nervous. Do most colleges offer this as an online class? Are there any degree programs that do not require a "speech" or "oral communications" class? I try to avoid speeches as much as I can in school. (link)
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I also agree with the other advice that you shouldnt give up any degree because of this problem you have. You must know that you are not alone and the instructor who teaches this class should be easing people into a public speaking situation rather than just saying "ok now, its time for your speeches." What I do with my students is have them do a group project and have the others stand up beside that person. This usually helps students ease their way into standing in front of a crowd. When they have completed that type of an assignment, the next would be on your own but at least by that time you would feel more comfortable in the classroom.
The best thing you can do is just get up there and do it. The more you do it the easier it becomes. I also had this issue and now I am a teacher who loves to stand in front of crowds and talk. Also do not forget to know your speech or the subject well. Dont just memorize and practice but rather know what you are talking about--Become the teacher and you will do fine. I hope this helps. Let me know how your first speech goes, perhaps we can get through it together somehow. You know where to find me!!
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I'm going out with this guy. He really loves me and I really love him. I haven't seen him since he asked me out. I used to see him every Sat. at a place I go. He gave me his phone number. I called the next day and for 3 weeks I'd call and we'd talk about normal crap and then I finally told him I liked him. He acted like he didn't like be back so I backed off and just started talking about normal stuff. So, he finally on fourth of july nite said he had a confetion to make and told me he liked me still. And then He asked me out. I said yes! But now I want to know when I see him this Saturday, Should it be more than just a hug?
~Kayla~ ♥ (link)
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It seems you both have a great start so do not ruin it by sleeping with each other. Kisses are great but watch out because even kisses can lead to some bad decisions. He likes you because you arent like the other girls and he sees you for the sweet one that you are. Sex is over rated if that is your plan. If you go to church, contact someone you trust and talk to that person. If you do not go to church then I suggest you talk to either your parents or someone you look up to. I always try to find someone whom I see making good decisions because that person will help guide you through the right decisions, not just give you advice and walk away.
Good Luck!!
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hi..this is my 1st time using advicenators. im 14 yrs old & im a female. i need advice with my first boyfriend. its been like two weeks since we started goin out. we talk a lot on msn, and hes always askin me if im in do mood for "cyber". i don noe wat dat is. people say dat, dats like having cyber sex. but i still dont get that. please someone explain to me wat he means with " do cyber". & if it is cyber sex..den how do i does that go? is it good or bad? how do i do dat? thank you..=] (link)
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First of all, I do not know how he could understand your replies with such bad grammar. (I teach seventh grade Language Arts, sorry) As far as this cyber stuff goes, your heart is guiding you in the right direction. Do not do it. Cybering is another form of sex and your boyfriend seems to have an issue regarding his sexual appetite. If you cyber with him eventually he will want it for real. Please, there are so many more guys out there without this crazy appetite. My advice is to keep looking for another boyfriend who will not ask you to do something you really don't want to do. Hang in there, life does get better and don't give in because you are afraid.
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hey! i had sex for the first time last week. We were safe as i am on the pill and we used a condom. I was just wondering if i should go see the doctor now i have had sex? I heard i would need a smear test or something? also if i do need to go should i go straight away or can i wait?
thanks 15/f/uk (link)
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First of all I am very pleased to hear that you were extremely safe. I do wonder why you feel the need to go to the Doctor's office. The ER is already full and the urgent cares are closing little by little. If we all ran to the doctor's office after sex, there would be a gigantic line and you would never see your doctor anyway, he doesnt have the time to see you with all of the other gents.
So my advice is this...There is no need to see the doctor after having sex. Keep being careful if this is what you plan on doing in life and remember that the only safe route is to have no sex at all. (and that is possible)
Also, one quick reminder...Talk to your parents, they love you even though it may seem like they don't. They are the ones who would have to care for you if you contracted something or someone...
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