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Q: I already saw someone with an ADD question, but I'd thought I'd make my own. Lately I haven't been concentrating on anything in class. I don't have THAT much stuff on my mind, and when some people get bored, they're still able to concentrate--just being bored. I can't even do that. My question is, what are the signs of having ADD, and what is it exactly?? I would tell myself in class, "Okay, I need to concentrate..." seriously like 10 seconds later, I'm off in space again...and I won't realize it until like a minute later, and even then I won't concentrate, I'll just keep thinking about other things. And that same pattern just goes on and on again...

Also, if you for sure have ADD, what are you supposed to do about it? Do they give you medicine or anything?

same here i do the same thing but as long as u keep up the grades i dont think it matters

Q: ok well i really need some help cuz c i have this guy friend named ryan and we r real good friends. but hes 2 years younger than me. but i love him as in WAY more than a friends but he only sees me as a friend and i cant get him 2 c how much i really do love him. what should i do?

signed confused

age is not important unless ur like 10 and hes 8 then thats just nasty.........but tell him that u would like 2 be closer with him if he says he doesnt want 2 then u gatta respect wat he wants cause if u dont ur gonna seem like a stalker......hope i helped

Q: I'm an only child. Through my childhood, I spend a lot of time at home. I didn't have THAT many friends at school, and I didn't have any friends in the neighborhood, so I was at home a lot, and I spent a lot of time being with my parents. When dad was at work and mom had to go somewhere, I would go. When I was a little girl, I spend SO much time with my mom. And my dad. My friends and other family members would say that I went everywhere my mom went. By 7th grade, I started to get a little...crazy. I got very moody around them, and every little thing they did would bug me. I felt like I needed to get out of the house and get away from them. I got to the point where I would go to my room and cry because they bugged me so much. They weren't abusive, they weren't mean, and they gave me everything I needed and more. But just having them around and nagging bugged me. I disliked them so much. But I didn't tell them, because I had no reason to. They just thought I had developed an attitude. Now, I'm in the middle of high school, and my mom has threatened to leave before because I treat her mean and I get mad at her all the time. And I really shouldn't, I know that. She's a great mom. But now, its like she's always nagging at every little thing and calls me like every 5 minutes (not to 'check up' but she has to have me do something for her, or she has to tell me something that I already know). She doesn't understand anything. And she's nosey. God, I just don't know what to do. I do have an attitude towards my parents, they've given me everything I needed, etc. I just spend way too much time around them. I even told that to my mom one time, and she was crying and yelling at me, saying "Well then from now on, I don't even want to talk to you! You're always so mean to me! From now on, you find your own rides and I just won't have nothing to do with you!" When she told me that I started crying too. I don't totally want her out of my life...I'm so confused. What am I supposed to do?

go 2 a docter!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Q: wut is frosting it?

its getting your hair like blondeish but darker then ur color. kinda like light brown with blonde hair

Q: i am a big dork at my school im not fat im not ugly but i am just average. i want to get a boyfriend really badly and i dont no how cause i like this guy at my school and i dont no how to be 'cool' can someone teach me how or tell me

being cool is something that comes natural so act urself u will be so surprised

Q: alright, if it helps, im tara and im 14.

i've been cutting myself for some time now. always on my wrist and always in the same general area. whenever its a cold day i wear a jacket, and whenever its hot out i just wear bracelets. nobody has ever noticed or said anything. so last night i was laying in bed and i forgot to put on a jacket. my mom came in and saw my arm and said something like 'what's that?' .. i freaked out and pulled it away and said i was drawing.. and she asked why and i said i couldnt find any paper. she asked me if i wanted to talk about anything so i just yelled no and she left. i dont think she has even heard of people cutting themselves. so this morning i covered my wrist with coverup and a few braclets so that she'd think it really was drawings that had washed off. it was very akward and i tried to pretend nothing happened. all she said was 'is body art a new trend or something?' i dont know if she believes my excuse or not.. what do you guys think? and do you have any ideas of how i can cover these darn cuts up? mucho thanks in advance.

PS: oh and please dont tell me to stop cutting. im working on it, i promise. but its like cigarettes or drugs, you cant just stop. it takes time and effort.. =)

watch the movie "Thirteen"..First the girl cuts herself then she gets in the wrong crowd.....then well i dont want 2 ruin the movie but its a true story...u no wats right and dont give excuses

Q: How old do you have to be to give up on finding a girl friend. The reason I ask is that im 24 ill be 25 next may and ive never had a girlfriend or been in a serious relationship, I Know im not ugly and I can send you a pic to prove it, and most of the time i can talk to girls just fine, but it always ends up the same for me, they always say that im a real nice guy and that one day ill find the right girl for me and then the dreaded "LETS JUST BE FRIENDS".

I just dont understand what im doing wrong. and when i think about it it makes me real mad, that
there's girls out there with boyfriends that beat them, abuse them both phisicaly and mentaly,
they cheat on them and treat them like crap, but when asked why the girl stays whith him the anwser is always "cause I love Him". Life is just so f*cked up, how can guys that treat their girl like shes lower than crap get so much love, but a guy like me that alwas treats women with respect and is always nice and honest and caring
have to feel like hes going to be alone forever?

Ive had sex, but it was always one night satands and its not about sex. its about love, I want to love some one, life is just so empty and meaningless when you dont have anyone to sahre it with.

Now im getting to the point where the girls i meet are close to my age and want someone with experiance, witch i dont have.

So i figured if by the time i turn 25 i dont have a girlfriend i should just give up and not waste anybodys time.

what do you think?

my cousin is 29 she doesnt have a bf now but she has a 6 month old baby and she wants 2 find him a dad who she can marry so her baby wont be fatherless......ur still young dont worry...try online my uncle just got married 2 someone he met online...who knows u might get lucky.....hope i helped

Q: okay i really dont kno wut to do with my hair. i've tried a buncha things and i jus cantfind anything i like. go to www.picturetrail.com/hollisterbarbie09 and tell me wut u think cuz i dno wut to do with my hair! thanx! i rate 5s

omg i absolutly love ur hair...but if u really dont like it try frosting it or if u dont want 2 change the color try scrunching it when its wet and blow drying it ............good luck

Q: Ok. I want to lose 100 pounds or more in about 1 -3 years. Will this make me lose 100 pounds. For breakfast all I eat is cereal. Then I have gym for 4th period. Which 2/5 days I walk about a mile or more. For lunch I have a sprite and sometimes chips. Then for dinner I have whatever my parents make. Then after dinner I do 35 sit ups, 50 squats. 30 jumping jacks. Also, I do watch what I eat. I drink water most the time and sometimes Ill have a pop. I usally only have 1 pop a day. Is there anything else I should do to help me? And do you think that'll make me lose 100 pounds in 1 - 3 years? Ok thanks.

ok first i think u should stop drinking soda(or pop..watever) all together......u may be addicted 2 it but if u just tell someone who u see alot wat ur trying 2 do they could help u cut down....switch 2 juice, water..... why not switch chips 2 fruit....this is my theory u eat food for like 10 minute enjoyment but after that 10 minutes u start thinkin "why did i have 2 eat that i mean i dont even taste it now"......i hope i helped.....good luck i think u can do it

Q: ok last week i had a test coming up in math but i thought it was a quiz so i didn't study very much 9cause i got all the homework questions right) but during the test i didn't understand a lot of questions. i got my test back today and i got 25 out of 40! my parents are really spaztic and i know they will get really mad at me. i know u will say not to tell them but my homework is to get it signed by a parent! i dont know how i should tell them! please help me! i rate really well!

OK like u should definetly tell them.....how??.....um....ok if ur parents r like my parents once u tell them they will blow up at u but then like they finally 4get like think about all the things u did wrong be4 do they still remember everything.......good luck