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Hello, advicenators users!! My name is Kylie and I'm sixteen years of age.

I love:
music, books, cooking, baking, soap operas (lame, I know), emo boys, docudramas, etc.

I hate:
reality tv, people who are actually dumb, etc.

I'm a smart ass and I know it. I love to try anything once and more if I like it.

If you need to know anything else, I'll let you know.

Ask me anything if you dare.

E-mail: tootsie.000@hotmail.com
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Location: the country under Canada
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Age: 16
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i have this best friend i've been bestfriends with for a while now.
lets say a year or two?
i always feel so bad because she calls herself the ugly duckling.
she's pretty, and guys are really into her.
but for some reason (please dont think this is conceited sounding..)
whenever me and her are together, the guy ends up being into me and not her.
she gets so upset and has creid on my shoulder about it and told me how jealous she is of me.
it's flattering, sure.
but it hurts to see her like this.
now.. the guy she likes.. lets call him "bob."
bob and her have had a thing for a little,
nothing serious though, they never even kissed,
it was just a mutual liking eachother thing.
but now bob texted me and tells me he likes me.
i don't know what to do.
he said he wants to hook up with me and stuff,
but i would do that to my best friend.
he said if she doesnt find out, it really cant hurt her.
i cant even tell her that bob likes me, because i dont wanna hurt her.
when she gets upset about those things she takes it out on me and it makes me cry.
i don't know what to do.
hook up with him or not?
i'm starting to like the guy but that just makes metters worse.
what do i do!? _(link)

only bitches hook up with their friends crushes without making sure its okay with them first.

hey people!!
okay i like rock/emo/techno music.
and i'm looking for some new bands.
like:
head autimatica.
the medic droid.
family force 5.
like bands that a lot of people havn't heard of...

stuff like that.
thanks so much _(link)

bubble knots
chopped tongue
clover
sweet korn
orange buttons
lady v
prime sex
vanilla milk
pink lips
panda monkeys
black boot
lawn chair kidnappers

i am a young 18 year old girl.. i had a misscarrage about 3 months ago and i was 3 months pregnent.. the doctor at the time said it was naturl and women have then everyday and that its not my fault but that i am furtile and i am able to have children.. i do smoke and i did smoke while i was pregnent,, but i seem to think only myself that i pee from the big hole,, like i know where everything is,, and i have looked and shaowd me bf's mom lol and everything,, they all just laugh at me and think i am crazy.. but the question i have is can you pee from the big hole?/ is it normal if you do?? and i at all i could be peeing from that whole did it kill my baby??

Thankx Shay-z _(link)

the 'big hole' is your vagina, and no you cant urinate from it. If liquid is coming out, it probably just 'girl cum', or discharge. Since you have been pregnant, i assume youve had sex, so how the hell can you not know this?

Well, this week is going to be pretty special- I take the SAT's on saturday and I have not studied for it at all (plus i live in a non-english speaking country so its not like i can do it on my natural skills.. since ive studied math in my native language and english on a very basic level) I have a religion test (20 pages) on thursday, a math test (i have about 40 pages left to do to cath up with my class) on friday, and regular school work. I have a feeling that by the end of this week I'll be on my knees trying to kill myself. I believe in miracles, and God's capability to save me here.. but still, what can I do to prepare myself for the diaspointment to come? My one and only dream has been to take the SATs and move to the states, but since its been so important to me I havn't dared to study for it (if that makes sense?) I've kept postponing it and now the week is here.. I was just so afraid. And now its too late. I really fear the ending of this week!!! What do I do? _(link)

either study 24/7 or create a time machine to go back in time to have enough time to study. But i doubt youre smart enough to do that if youre too afraid your going to fail the sats

Hi, I've written some music which can be downloaded from my website: How can I register each download to be included in the music charts? _(link)

click the register button.

14/f
i think i'm gay.
i've been thinking about it a lot lately and really think i am. like ok when all the girls in like fifth grade started liking guys and getting "boyfriends" i was just never interested. i know that could be normal for a kid but still. and like when i'd play with barbies or some doll like that with my friend a long time ago she'd have the boy and girl kiss, ha i'd have the two girls kiss mostly. and now my friends always sit around saying how hot guys are and i just sit there you know? i'm normally thinking about the girl nowadays. i've gone out with guys but it just never felt right to me. i alwyays felt uncomfortable.

but what i don' get is how on the internet most lesbians say they knew when they were like 7 or 10. i'm just now starting to realize it. maybe it's hormones? but i think it's more than that. maybe everyones different? what do you think? what should i do?

-anyone who answers thanks. =] _(link)

not all people realize it when theyre that young because of pressure to conform into what society thinks is 'right'

looking for the song, can't find an MP3 or the album anywhere!!

any help/adive :-D

Chad and Jeremy - Distant Shores _(link)

go to bmg.com, they have everything.

I seem to know how to do other's makeup pretty well. You know? For light colored eyes and tan or pale skin. The right foundation and blush for them.

But I can't do that for myself. i don't know why. I'm not really tan nor pale. I have dark brown eyes..and black eyeliner looks.. rather bad on me. I don't know how to rock a makeup look :\ the foundation is either too pale or gives off a fake tan. any tips? ;[ _(link)

then dont use foundation. you look better without it anyway. just use concealer on the parts you need to. instead of using black eyeliner, use dark brown.

actually, i have two things,

what song did they play at the end of sunday's episode, "Home Front"?

and what song was playing on the preview for next week's episode?

thanks (: _(link)

1. the weepies, 'the world spiins madly on'

2. my chemical romances, 'teenagers'

ok so im a girl ok well trannyboy,same thing..for now...but anyways i wanna have sex with my g/f but im not sure how to make the move..any ideas...i mean im not 100% romantic but im not all fun either...so just give me something that will make her smile

thanks in advance

-kevin _(link)

honeybabe, you just gotta let her know she turns you on and that you want to take the next step. tell her you love her and want to 'be' with her.

Hey I am trying to become the ultimate player, boyfriend, whatever you wanna call it. I could use some advice and please spare no details. The more info you give the better. Try to cover all the bases like clothes, personality, and anything else you can think of. Thanks. _(link)

im not sure why you would want to become a player, because fye, girls hate that. all girls have different types no matter what 'group' they're in. a preppy chick, a goth girl, and a nerdy girl could all end up liking the same guy.

hi..lets call me jane...okay so im like obsessively in like with my best guy friend, lets call him chad. okay so my best girl friend lets call her...well her names sam. okay so i told sam that i told chad i liked him and she was like OMG RLY? YAY so then she messaged chad on myspace and was like "omg jane told you she liked you!?!?!?" but hes not on right now..the thing is I NEVER REALLY TOLD CHAD! what do i do?! do i lie and make up a story saying that i was joking or do i actually tell him? thing is-- im POSITIVE he doesnt like me. _(link)

get over it and tell him.

so what if he doesn't like you? its not a big deal to let someone know that you like them even if they dont like you back. you can make a joke out oof it.

I made lots of cool videos on my webcam since I don't have a digital video camera, that I was going to put on youtube! I recorded alot of them on windows movie maker. THey were all there from like when I first got it 3 years ago till now, then when I just checked now they WERE GONE! Like it showed a red x over the videos and said the file can't be found. The webcam is plugged in an everything, what can I do!??! _(link)

shoot them again, because theyre gone.

hey i have a American Studies Honnors test 2maro and my teacher told us one of the question that would be worth alot of points, but i don't remember learning anything about it. Please help me! My teacher is hard and told us that she made the test very hard, so i would really appreciate your help. btw were studying the time of colonization in the americas if that helps. Heres the question

Explain the concept of economy vs. religion.

thanks in advance!!!

sorry it was so long _(link)

economy is money circulating in the environment and religion is the belief of whatever in the environment.

How do i know when im ready for a cupped bra size? I wear like those cami-cut off bra things now but everytime i wear a shirt i can see my nipples. Does this mean i should start wear cupped bras??
What's the smallest bra out there??
help me. any answer is greatly appreiciated. _(link)

the smallest bra cup size is AA.

One of my friend's brother or step-brother, I can't remember which, tries to rape her every night.

She first told me about it a week ago, and I told her that she has to tell someone that she can trust immediately. Well, she told me that she's told her parents and the school counselors, but no one is doing anything about it.

I really hate to see her like this because she deserves so much better, is there any way that I can help her out? _(link)

If she really told the school counselor about it, (s)he would do something about it. They are required by law to do something about it. And what do you mean, 'tries' to rape her? If she isn't fighting back beyond saying no, then he wouldn't stop at 'trying'. And if she has fought back and stopped him, he wouldn't try again unless he has something to threaten her with. If you have proof, go to the police. But just make sure that she knows that if she tells the police about this and it's not true, she could go to jail instead of her brother.

I hardly ever ask questions about love life. But I really need advice. I would talk to my best friends about this matter, but one of them will just tell me to go for it without listening to how i feel about it, and the other will just tell me NO because of the guy. I'll tell you everything that happened up until now, and i won't leave anything else out so i get get a truthful-straight foward answer from you guys.
Just for a warning, this is probably gonna be long.
I'll take you back to a few months ago. lets say..may. Well, back then I was currently with my first boyfriend (lets call him Joe) and things weren't going very well. I was doing things I really didn't want to do because I felt like I was trying to compete with his ex. Even though he didn't have contact with her. Well, Joe met my mom one weekend, and she let us go down in the basement to watch a movie. Lets just say she walked in on something that she wasn't supposed to walk in on.. After that, me and him had a serious talk and were going to try to change our relationship around, and if it didnt' work out, we would end it.
It went good for a week, then around memorial day, joe, danny (his best friend), and hannah (my best friend) went to hannahs house for her family cookout. [[ Danny and Hannah are going out btw ]] Everything was going good, but then Danny and Joe went for a walk and were talking for a while. I wondered what they were talking about to Hannah, and Hannah said Joe was going to break up with me. I thought she was saying it as some mean joke, like she has been for the past week. So I just pretended to be mad and shurgged it off. Well, Joe and Danny came back and we all talked.I thought that everything was going good, and I guess it was.
Then the next day, I went to hang out with Frank (my other best friend). Frank told me that Jimmy (his best friend, and one of mine) told him that Hannah was saying that Joe was gonna break up with me and such. So Frank talked to Joe about what was going on. Apparently, Hannah knew everything going on before I did, but wasn't going to tell me because Danny made her swear not to tell. Which kind of pissed me off. But anyway, Frank got the inside scoop on why Joe wanted to break up and such. Looking back on it I guess I knew what everyone was talking about, I was just in shock.
So later that night, I called Hannah to see if she would have the guts to tell me herself. I asked her what was wrong and she told me to talk to Joe about it. I told her that I knew and pretended not to be mad at her. So, I ended up calling Joe later and flipped out on him about telling every single person in the school. He told me that he didn't think of me as the same person. We ended up deciding it wouldn't work out so we broke up "mutually". I didn't really care until the next morning when I was an emotional wreck the whole day. I was talking to my good friend Jade about it, and Jade told me that she heard from her friend Amy that Danny said that Joe told him that he wished he asked Amy out sooner instead of me when we started having problems.
Well, I was even more of an emotional fjewirjfl after that and tried to figure out what the heck was going on from Joe. Joe told me that Danny lied. But Danny told me that Joe lied. I ended up getting mad at Amy. And then Jade hated me for telling Joe what I heard. So that went on for a good couple of weeks. I still liked him for about a month after we broke up, and I told Joe how I felt, he told me he doesn't like me anymore and ended up getting into huge "sob" stories on how his other girl friends broke up with him. So I don't really talk to him about it anymore.
Me and Hannah aren't that good of friends anymore because she's all hypocritical about Danny. and honestly i hate Danny with a passion so I just don't bother getting into huge discussions like this with her.
The problem is, its been three months and I'm still afraid to let go of Joe completly. I havn't really accepted the fact that he won't come back. I faced it, I gave back the stupid stuff he gave me. But I still have this feeling in my gut that he still likes me? Or maybe I just want him to like me back.. I can hear people getting sick of me with dwelling on this for so long. I'm sick of it myself. I want to move on. and whats even worse is that Jimmy likes me. I want to like Jimmy so bad, but I wouldn't go out with him because of the fact of Joe. And I don't beleive in using people.
Part of me wants to Call Joe. Just to set things straight. Should I? What should I do? I'm really lost right now.

sorry for the confusion. I just don't know if I should set things straight again with Joe (relationship or no-relationship) or give Jimmy a chance.

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Cut joe out of your life, hes just playing you. on the other hand, so what if jimmy and joe are friends? if you like the guy, go for it. joe said he doesnt like you anymore, so if he was telling the truth about that, he wont care if you date one of his friends.

i have a few stretch marks on my inner thighs... and i dont understand it. im not overweight or anything. so why do i have these? and how do u get them? from losing weight, gaining weight, both? And finally, how can i get rid of or reduce the appearance of them?? thanks!! _(link)

you can get stretch marks for gaining weight quickly or even getting taller really quickly. use a scar reducing cream on them twice a day until you get the desired result.

So I just bought a bracelet at globalangels.org, because I thought they were cute and for a good cause. I payed through paypal, and filled out all of my information. But it didn't ask for my state. It asked for my name, address, zip code, and phone number, but not my state.

Is that normal? Will they know where to ship it even though I didn't put my state anywhere? Even though it was only two dollars, i'd still like to get the bracelet since it's limeted quality. Thanks. _(link)

dont worry about it. they'll know what state you live in by your zipcode.

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