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Does anyone know of any good diet pills that actually WORK?!

I have heard from working in a drug store that the corti-slim works real well!

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I apologize in advance because this is going to be pretty long. I'm a sixteen year old girl and I've been single my entire life up until now. I met this great guy at work, and we both liked each other. Our first date was absolutely perfect. It was more of a date to make things official seeing as we already knew a lot about each other. He gave me a red rose, we held hands in the mall, cuddled in the movies, and he kissed me goodnight in the rain. It was perfect. With this being my first relationship ever, I'm freaking out. I know you're not supposed to kiss on the first date, and I wasn't exactly ready for it either. I know that in a relationship, a guy is going to want something "more" than what I'm willing to give. My morals are that I don't want to go past kissing wiht a guy until I'm married. I'm not ready for anything sexual...I'm only 16! Everyone has told me that before you love someone else, you have to love yourself. That could be an issue with me, since I'm full of self-loathing and I have no self-esteem. I can't understand how a guy would pick me in the first place. My internal conflicts are seriously creating a huge dilemma for me and I don't know what to do anymore. This guy made me so happy at first. I could not stop talking about him and I was so happy for once in my life. But now that things are moving faster, I'm freaking out and instead of smiling all the time, I cry. I don't want to give up something like this...what I've longed for my entire life. At the same time, I can't just ignore my issues. I need help. Please tell me what to do. :'( Thank you so much.

wow! that 1st date seems so romantic..kissin in the rain is awesom but yeah love doesn't have any true written out "rules" to how things are supposed to go and no one said you HAVE to give more than what you want to. talk with this guy and let him know up front that you have morals that you would really like to stick to. if he is right for you and respects you then he should understand this and be reasonable about this subject, no reason to cry over this babe!

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ok i know im not ready to have sex NOW but i dont know if i want to wait until marriage either..i mean what do you guys think?

a part of me says

"hey who knows if your husband will even be a virgin..then its kind of pointless that you waited..and besides if you wait until your married, thats the only guy your going to have sex with .."

then again anothher part of me says "sex would be more special if you waited to have it with your husband"

any input?

sex..it's an evil but yet great three letter word. it's soley your personal choice whether or not you wait. follow your heart!

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alright well my cousin is 17 and she's been dating the same guy for over 2 years... They've been through a lot... Her parents are very strict and she's been caught skipping school, meeting him @ places, and sneaking off w/ him just because her parents were so strict on her. Well now she is 2 months pregnant and her parents kicked her out so now she is living w/ her BFF. Her parents are going to force her to get married before they tell my grandma and everyone else in the family because they are too embarrassed. Then they are going to say that they snuck off, got married, and got pregnant which I think is a bunch of bull shit. Its tearing all of our family apart.. I think she should call our g-ma herself and go ahead and let her know, or if they don't it'll tear my g-ma's heart even more. I feel so sorry for her and I don't want her to be forced to get in married in a courthouse where her friends and family won't get to be there. Its really said and i'd like to know what you think about it and what I should do to keep my cousin & I close w/o tearing the family all apart.
Thanks for everything,
~Paige~

...well, marriage is something that shouldn't be forced on someone as young as a 17 year old. It should be her personal choice, even though she is 2 months pregnant it's still her life and her choice. Keeping things like this from family isn't going to a good thing and then lying to cover up the truth is going to make it even worse because you can tell by the marriage date and 8 months of pregnancy whether or not they were married at the time the child was conceived so if she is going to tell them then she needs to tell them soon. Now for you and your cousin to be close still you need to let her know that you are there for her if she needs anything especially someone to talk to... =) It's always good to have a close friend when times get hard...be that close friend for your cousin! You will feel a whole lot better by just simply being there for her through this diffcult time babe! I hope this helps...

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The first time you jacked a guy off or gave a guy head or anything, did you feel like you was doing it wrong? I haven't did that with a guy yet but I'm afraid that when I do, I'm going to be doing it wrong. Did you feel like that?

♥ it all comes natural but I will admit that I know what you are talking about "doing it wrong" there's really no -:wrong:- way to do it really...just when you are doing oral things watch your teeth, don't bite!

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I know there have been alot of kiss questions lately so I'm sorry if this has been asked before. When my boyfriend & I are kissing, we don't use any tongue & I think that's because we haven't been dating for long & we're just getting used to eachother. Is there anything we can do to make the kisses more exciting without tongue?

Thanks,
Elle

♥ what is a kiss without some tongue?

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*Hey Tara* I was wanting to ask you a couple of questions. #1- How long should you wait to have sex, I have been dating the same guy for 5 months. #2-My mom knows everything me and my boyfriend has done... she said she can tell what we have done because I have been actin differnt, do you think that is true, or did she listen on the phone or something? #3-Is jackin a guy off nasty or is it very enjoyable? #4-When ever the guy cums on you from jackin him off...how should I react!! If you could plz help me I would greatly appericate it. =) Thank's!

Okay, let's get started with some answers for you..

#1- This is a personal choice you have to make on your own but I will tell you that you need to make sure that sex isn't the only one thing that your boyfriend is with you for. Sure it is nice in a relationship but it's not something that you and your body should be "used" for. Another thing, ask yourself "am I ready for this and any consequences that may follow with this choice"

#2- They always say "mama's know" but you may be acting a lil more "reserved" and keeping to yourself more lately if you are trying to hide something from your mom such as anything you and your boyfriend have done "sexually"

#3- Well, the mess is the "nasty" of it but guys say that it's the next best feeling in the world to oral sex, it's very very very enjoyable for the guy though and the girls...well, ummm the enjoyable part for us is to see our boyfriends pleased! haha!

#4- Hmmm..how should you react? Don't yell "eww, that's nasty" or "GGRROOSS!" haha...be calm, it's not going to kill you, trust me! Just wipe it off on something or if you can wash your hands (which is something you would want to do anyways! =)


=) you are welcome!

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I have heard some rumors about you not being a virgin anymoreou would so I figured you would know a few things...

1) does it hurt?
2) what types of pregnancy preventions can be used?
3) do you need to go to the OBGYN?
4) what does "giving head" mean?

Thanks! I was just wondering a few of these ?'s for my future knowledge =)

Oh yeah, I'm 13 by the way if that helps any!

♥ ha, let me get some shit straight first all these rumors about me aren't really rumors because well yeah I'm a virgin anymore to be honest with you but all the other shit that people say is getting on my nerves! =) I'm a very nice girl until you piss me off like some of these people have done...To answer your questions now that I got that stuff off my chest 1)The 1st time yes but for about 10 seconds...you might think oh 10 seconds, I can handle that but shiiit it's the most painful thing I have ever encountered! 2) Birth Control Pills, Condoms *duh*, Diaphragms, Spermicidal Gels, Foams, etc. 3) It's probably a good idea after or before your first time because if you aren't wanting to get pregnant then you can be put on some form of birth control to prevent pregnancy occuring plus it's always good toget "checked out" to make sure you are healthy! 4) Gee, you are 13 and wanting to know what "giving head" means...whoa! Pleasing a guy with your mouth "sucking his dick" there's no pretty way to put it...

Hope this helps you out =)

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Hi.
I have acne and whenever I wash my face, it feels tight and starts to get dry and sometimes flakey. What's this mean? Also if it helps I just started using this face wash.

Maybe the face wash you are using is too strong for your skin. Try Dove Self-Foaming Cleanser, it works really good and it's a mild wash too! Hope you like it! =)

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does sex hurt the 1st time? how bad? plz help

The first time you have sex it hurts like hell, I am not going to lie to you but I'm not trying to scare you either but it does hurt REALLY bad the first time! Although the pain doesn't last long it is still very uncomfortable at first! But, after a few times it doesn't hurt at all it starts to feel really good! Hope this helps =)

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