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"People seem to enjoy asking if the glass is half empty of half full. They stop smiling when I tell them it'll be all empty when I dump it all over their heads."--Jimmy Fallon.
I guess I'm kinda the cynical optimist. People take this world entirely too seriously sometimes, and I really just like helping people when they need me.
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My best friend and I dont ever hang out anymore. Her and I got in this really big fight back in November and we didnt speak to eachother for a few weeks. We both kind of brought our parents into our fight so now my mom doesnt like her and she never lets me go over to her house. Its like her and I are only friends in school and not outside of school. And sometimes in school she'll be with her other best friend who is a guy(my ex) and when she is with him, its like I dont exist to her. What do I do? It just seems like her and I have completly drifted apart. What can I do to make our friendship stornger.I havent really hung out with her or had a decent converstion with her in well over 3 months. When we talk on the phone she is always on her computer and I am wathing TV or listening to music and we dont even talk on the phone, we just sit there and it bothers the fuck out of me. We honestly can be on the phone for like 2 hrs and we will only have said maybe 5 mins of a conversation. PLease help me!
Friendships take work. Just because you had a fight doesn't mean you should give up on her. I think that you two need to talk. See where you're at after that. As well as keeping up old friendships, making new friends is never bad either. As much as you work at something, the other might not be interested at all. In that scenario, it's nice to have other friends to fall back on. I hope you two get things worked out, good friends are the best :-)
Good luck!
Well, I have two best friends, and i feel like the third wheel. Although they say im not, I feel like it and my parents see it too. I dont know if I should split off from them, or hang on? And, theyre always sort of depressing, and i dont like that...but every1 else in my school has best friends...i feel like i have none
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Alright, this is like reading the story of my life. This is what I did, and it's working out well for me. You need to start distancing yourself from these people, just a little at first. Go out and make some new friends. New experiences always rock, and maybe your old friends will come to miss you. Only time will tell if the friendships were really all that worth it. I say distance yourself a little bit because friendships to take work, just quitting all together might be irrational. Well, good luck who knows what you'll find!
Just yesterday i was playing on my computer trying to zone out from my problems and my sisters. Well anyways i'm juast asking for tips to help me out because i cant use my computer anymore and i need to zone out instead of remaining depressed like i have been for a while. I would tell people about my depression but i am very shy and i dont really like to talk. I need any tips to zone out and i will rate high for them............................. please help me out im going crazy!!!
You need to do something to rid yourself of build-up negative energy. Doing some exercise take cares of two things at once. You'll feel better physically, you'll look better and more toned if you stick with it. This will in turn help your confidence so not only will you be healthier, but you'll also feel better mentally. Dancing is great for this. It's just fun, and it's good for you as well. If you don't want to do it in public, turn on some music you can really move to! It might be just what you need.
You need to talk to a friend or actually, someone you don't know very well might help. I like talking to people I'm not that close to sometimes becuause they don't judge. They don't go into with these pre-formed opinions of you. Writing is great for ridding yourself of bad thoughts or feeling bad. You never need to worry about a pen and paper telling someone or being able to relate. It works out pretty nicely I think.
Do things for yourself. Sit in your room, light a candle and read for a while or listen to some music. You need to relax from time to time. Life's pretty hectic for all us these days, don't forget to enjoy life despite the crazyness.
Well, good luck :-)
the guy i have a crush on is really shy around grls and isnt into grls alot or my friends told my and i dont want to sound obsessed with him so how do i get the nerve to go up and talk to him without sounding like a freak?
Okay, this is going to be very repitious, but here I go: just talk to him. Seriously my dear, if he's shy around girls, he'd probably appreciate you taking the initiative. Don't give him a reason to be uncomfortable or shy, and mostly, just be yourself! Good luck :-)
okay im 14/f...and ive been best friends with this guy for 3 years and hes been in love with me for 3 years, we've never done anything sexually er w/e..but hes been wait'n on me fer 3 years and ive had like 5 er 6 boyfriends in the last 3 years but he still stuck with me...soo i went out with this one guy over the summer and at the beggining of the school year for 3 months and i broke up with him and my best friend was rly sad b/c i went out with him..and it never rly bothered him before but then when me and this guy broke up my best friend caught us in the hallway makin out and that lead him to cutting...witch i got him to stop that now but i felt rly bad...but now i dont like my ex-boyfriend and ive ALWAYS had feelings for my best friend but i never realized how strong they were this past like month....and i mean hes always loved me and hes always been there for me so i dont know if i should go out with him or just be friends...b/c i mean we do everything together and wherever you find him youll find me and wherever you find me youll find him...so i rly dont know what to do b/c my ex-boyfriend is still in love with me and i dont know b/c i dont wanna hurt him by goin out with my best friend er w/e so what do you think i should do? should i hook up with my best friend?
Alrighty, lets see here...
Communication is the absolute key to a relationship, any relationship--friendship, courting, marriage, siblings, parents. It all needs communication. He needs to know how you feel, exactly how you feel. If you can't give him everything up front, it wouldn't have worked anyway. Him seeing you making out with a guy led him to cutting? It takes previous mental instability to do something like that. Don't even begin to blame that on yourself. Don't make a decision to appease someone else. Do it because it makes you happy. Going out with someone because they like you while you're liking someone else is going to lead to much more heartbreak than necessary. You just have to be true to yourself. Well, good luck with everything :-)