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How do I make my dad understand how much he's mentally hurting me by taking away my iPod permanently until he can block chat sites? When he takes it away and blocks the chat sites, I can't talk to my friends or my girlfriend anymore, and it's really hurting me. I try to talk to him, but all he does in response is not listen and make fun of me. I really need someone's help right now... v.v
I am a 13/F (link)
Well this can be a difficult issue, parents come from a different time when all this internet chatting didn't exist, naturally some are going to be protective of their children talking to strangers, or even some will just find it weird that your not talking to people around you, making you feel badly. Convincing someone who is determined against is would be a difficult task, especially if he has already chosen not to listen to a word you have to say about it. In his mind hes correct and has no reason to listen to anything you have to say, he's probably thinking its for your own good. I'd say for a situation like this, you have little to no control over what happens sadly. Best thing to do if at all possible would be to try and get something back from him, even if it means let him think your done with that stuff until he gives it back. After that i would say do it in private, hide what your doing from him any way you can.

Sorry I couldn't be of more help, but dealing with a parent in that mindset with you at the age you are is not something that can be solved so easily. Also if you can get a hold of your gf or friends again at some point, might be wise to tell them to talk to you on something else that he doesn't know about, and continue to hide it. Hope things work out for you.


I'm a 13 year old boy that had the best sex in my whole life because I reached best orgasm I ever had in my adolescent timeline. I forgot to mention that the sex was with my hand. Yes I masterbates and like I said I reached the best orgasm I was completely num except for my penis and I was still stroking I was sweating and it was way too much for me but I loved the feeling so much I just couldn't stop so I continued and the feeling got 100x better and the urge to quit got worse but I kept on going and eventually I came for real this time it felt awesome.and I took a break and tried to continue but it was way to much and I stopped. I was super satisfied. I felt my penis head and every time I did it was kik a static feeling but it felt good. Then I felt he moisture from the cum. It was unlike any fluid I have felt. Is it that moist and sticky so it makes sex satisfying instead of painful? Btw tho is a wild guess. (link)
Well during sex you release pre cum to make it go smoother, works as a lubricant so theres less friction. The cum you shoot out in the end doesn't really help at that point, just to impregnate her, or cum in her mouth, or wherever it is that she wants it. But yeah have fun man!


I've always thought that I was straight. I'm a sixteen year old female. I've been watching this show and I began to realize that I had feelings for one of the female characters. Some scenes where she's kissing other girls really turns me on. I've also realized very recently that I have feelings for a girl a year older than me who just graduated from my high school. I've just lost interest in the boy I'd been crushing on for a few months and have been texting and chatting with this graduate instead. I don't know if I'm making all this up in my head or if I'm really bisexual. I don't want to make a move on this girl because I'm reasonably sure she's straight, plus what if I kiss her and it turns out I'm not bisexual after all? (link)
Sounds like you are, finding girls attractive and it makes you happy, most likely then. On a side I've met more girls who were bi sexual in my life than straight or lesbian. It appears to be very common these days, so just think about girls, look around some more and see how they make you feel. Have fun.


18/F Am I crazy to be in a long distance relationship for about 6 months? We were close friends first but somehow it moved to another level. I feel happy and wanted when am talking to him and I guess he feels the same the thing is I feel like am being suffocated sometimes like I need a lil space but we are already that far how much more space do I want? He makes me happy yes but I don't see it going anywhere because we are not at the same place. I don't mind being by myself because I've never been in a relationship before. I wonder if its best to end what I have with him and just live my life until something good comes around. Am I throwing away something good or should I just move on? Please help... (link)
Well all you have to do is know if its going somewhere, are you willing to move to where he is? Or is he willing to move to where you are? If you know you aren't ever going to, and he has no intention to either, then you have your answer already. As for the space, theres nothing wrong with being open about it and just telling him that, hurting someone a bit with honesty is much better than letting it build up until it becomes resentment. Thats how you end up hurting someone the most.

This is advice from a guy who knew a girl for 7 years, dated her at a distance for 3, loved her deeply, and then had her cheat on me creating a huge, messy, painful breakup.

My point is they can be great, they can work out if both people really want it to and commit to it, but if not, it can just be time spent getting close to have it end in a painful mess, so just find out what he really wants out of it, and you can see what you really want based on that. Good luck!


I'm 13 and I jerk weekly and I need to know if I'm giving off real cum. When i jerk I often feel a orgasm that is an amazing sensation that starts from my penis and throughout my whole body. The only way I can describe it is amazing.i often close my eyes at that time take a brake and continue after a 10second cooler then this fluid flows out by droplets and didn't shoot like its supposed to. The liquid is like the color of sugar water with a little white, is that real cum? A guy told me it was I believe him about the orgasm but not the cum I need help. Plus I never feel the cum rising to my head I can only imagine the feeling. (link)
Well, it sounds like you're not quite ready to be having full, cum filled orgasms, but it sounds like you're body is getting close. Give it time, nothing different needs to be done, just enjoy playing with it in the meantime and soon enough you will be shooting loads of cum out like everyone else. Have fun man!


Hi...I am 16yrs and i have recently ended a relationship with my bf who is more than 6years older than me. I am a virgin but since we hardly saw each other for several months we used to do sexting... send videos etc. I never liked doing it... i mean i was fun because he.was always.happy and playful but he would masturbate a lot while i would just rarely touch myself but fantasize a lot. Now his.aunt found out and ordered us to end our rrelationship. He did but now i desire him a lot. Although i deleted all his pictures and videos i remember them and touch myself until i am tired and fall asleep. I feel guilty in the end because my mum and family would be really annoyed if they knew. My religion doesnt approve. I had been touching myself hoping to have.an orgasm but nothing works. I dont want to penetrate myself at all but touching my clitoris makes me tired and i dont have an orgasm. Should i try to have an orgasm or try not to masturbate? If i should have one what can i do to have one which does not involve penetration? Ps.i dont watch porn.i have never really wanted sex until i met my ex. And i have only dated older guys and i am afraid to date anyone since i am always so horny. I dont want to lose my viginity before marriage and younger guys are always so horny. My ex was horny but we didnt do anything that both of us wanted and didnt force me to to anything. (link)
First off, there is nothing wrong with masturbation and really no need to feel ashamed, pretty well everyone does it, its healthy for your body, and especially beneficial if you wish to avoid having sex, while combating you're hormones.

As for things that can help, you can also try rubbing your nipples, rub around them slowly, squeeze you're breasts, can rub slowly around your clit to tease it and help the stimulation build up, sometimes teasing yourself can help greatly.

I've met quite a few girls younger than me who like older guys as well, good luck, hope you can cum soon.


ive already asked it its name and age and its answered it. I just need help with a lot of questions for this spirit!!! THANK YOU! (link)
I too would not recommend contacting a spirit if possible, if its something thats already around on its own accord, meaning you did not summon it and it brings you no harm, then sure talk with it verbally, but do not use a Ouija board or anything like that, they can be very dangerous and leave you with something powerful haunting you.


I hate putting this under love life. But I wasn't sure what else to do.

I've been struggling with this thing since March. I am a 19 year old female, college student. This spring I went on spring break with friends in Florida. We went to a club with fake IDs and, yes, I'm a college student, I got pretty drunk. I've only blacked out three times in my entire life and I've been drinking since 16 and I'm almost twenty. The last night of spring break, in that club, I blacked out. Kind of. I can remember bits and pieces. I remember meeting a guy and dancing with him and that I thought he was cute. At some point I left with him. Which is completely unlike me. My friends were freaking out and so scared, they called me hundred times. I don't remember texting them this but I replied to their messages and calls with "I'm fine, meet you at home". The next thing I remember after leaving the club was vomiting violently in a toilet in either a house or a condo. It was horrible. I remember the guy picking me up off the floor. And I remember laying in a bed. I think I have flashes of having sex but I don't know if they're real. Before this night I had only had sex with one guy, my boyfriend of two years but we had recently broken up. I remember being in a car and walking up to the house where my friends and I were staying. I definitely remember this next part. I was laying on a table in the backyard of our house, behind some trees by the pool. I remember something inside me and it hurt. I don't know what it was.That's the last thing I remember. When I woke up the next morning my vagina was bleeding and sore and it hurt really bad. I knew I had had some kind of sexual intercourse. I just didn't remember if I wanted to. I felt so embarrassed and didn't tell my friends. I was so mad at myself for putting myself in that situation. and I hate that I can't remember if I told him no or fought him. im almost positive I wouldn't have willingly had sex with a guy I just met. I went to the doctor to get tested for STDs and pregnancy and I was okay. I didn't tell the nurse any details. But that night still eats at me. I haven't told anyone and I don't know what I would say. I don't think I can call it rape, but then why do I feel so violated? (link)
I wouldn't call that rape, if you simply drank too much on you're own free will,and consented to going with this guy and having sex with him while under the influence, then no. If he had drugged you in some way, then it would be considered rape, but drinking on your own and having poor judgment while under the influence is not considered rape, as he didn't cause you to become intoxicated, you did that on your own and went with him willingly, drunk or not, thats not illegal.




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