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Hey guys. my names ashley and im from new jersey. my friends are my life ♥ i think i give really good advice because ive been through i lot of things and i can relate to most people. so if you have any concerns or questions. make sure you ask! i hope i can help!

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ok so me and my bf have been going out for like 4 months now.. but his exgirlfriend has still liked him the whole time.. she still flirts with him and he doesn't do anything to stop her, i don't even think he notices that she does it. i've tried talking to her but she just denies everything.. help!

instead of talking to his ex-girlfriend. try talking to him! say to him- your my boyfriend and i feel really uncomftorable when _______ flirts with you. then hell be like "i dont like her, i like you" then you know he likes you. You dont need to worry about it. they broke up .. remember? i think your overreacting. i dont think anything is wrong. dont worry. ♥ ashley

So we went out with people and the guy that i like was going too. Me and my freind showed up eairly than the other girls and the guy i likelove was there too, so we were hanging out n stuff and he was being sooo cute to me. Then he saw that the other girl showed up and completly left me, and he liked her the whole time he led me on. and now im like dying and its sooo hard. Any ideas to get over it.

you can get over it by hanging out with your friends more often. friends make everything better! dont hang out with him anymore. and keep reminding yourself what an asshole he is. go out with friends-- movies, shopping, hanging out at eachothers houses. they will make you feel more secure. rely on friends =] ♥ ashley

Ok here is the thing I have a boyfriend and he is really sweet and all but i like his best friend 2 and like i think i am loseing interest in my boyfriend right now anyway like once he (my boyfrind ) told me he would regret this one thing in life if he did not do it and that was kiss me but now i don't realy want to kiss him i want to stay frineds with him and we made like pack to always stay friends (fwy i am 14 ) and like i just don't want to brake his hart and like me and his best friend are also best friends so i don't want to mess up our friend ship because one of my best friends whent out with him and now they are X's but they are haveing a hard time makeing the friend ship work.any who like i don't know what to do i do more stuff with my boyfriends best friend then i do with my boyfriend and he doesn't even care like i have been out to lunch with him and his parents after going to the mall and been to the moves with him and friends 2 times and i have not done anything with my boyfriend out side ofschool and it will be 3 months the end of this month that we have been going out . what do i do please give me advice thank you

wow, thats long. i think you should probably break up with your boyfriend at the time, because if you dont like him, its rude to him, thats kinda going out with him when you dont like him. my byfriend did that to me, and i broke up with him right away. i dont think you should go out with his best friend, because that will ruin your friendship with your boyfriend now. he will be mad that you broke up with him, to go out with his bestfriend. go with your gut. i personally wouldnt go out with either of them. hopefully i was to some assistance. ♥ ashley

okay so there is this guy..and i really like him but he flirts with like EVERY GIRL in my grade! like he will put his arm around me but then go and put his arm around some1 else! he is rarley serious.. but a few weeks ago he told me he liked me.. then my friend talked to him and he said that he did like me to her..but then the next day he said he was.."trying to get over me.." okay so now there is this other girl that i have hated for a LONG time because she is like more slutty then anyone in the world..and she always puts her arm around him and he does it back. i` m really confused and i want him to like me..but how do i be more flirty..should i?
PLEASE respond back!!

if he flirts with every girl. maybe he can not be commited to anyone, and maybe he really did like you, but he didnt want a "relationship" but dont change yourself for him, maybe put your arm around him sometimes to show you care. and maybe ilke him. tell me how it goes --ashley

Who know's spanish.

Can somebody tell me what "Lusta Prima Vista" means.

I dont really know if it's spanish, but if it is...can you tell me?

i think it means looking for cause lista means looking, and prima means for. hope i helped a little.!♥ ashley

Ok so i really like this guy, i was so excited because his best friend found out and he has a big mouth so i was pretty sure he was gonna tell him and he might ask me out. But now i dont even know if his best friend told him and if he has he hasnt said or dont anything about it. I dont know what else to do, but i still like him alot. what sucks even more if i think he likes my best friend. isnt she lucky, all the guys like her because she is really pretty. i think i am pretty but i dunno. what should i do??

become closer friends with the guy's best friend. then ask him to tell ur crush that you like him and make sure he does it, all guys dont go for pretty girls, and you should have self confidence to know ur pretty, and thats not y guys dont go out with you. once he knows, become closer with him.. then ask him if he likes you. hope i helped. good luck! ♥ ashley

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Okay I asked a question like two days ago about how to get some one make a move. The advice I recived was that I had to make the first move. So I've been thinking about this and how can I do this without looking like an idoit? And is it even okay for girls to make the first move? Do guys perfer when they do it? eh I'm hopless.

boys are expected to make the first move, but if they dont.. its fine for a girl to too. it makes them seem brave and guys like that. it takes the pressure off of them. you wont look like an idiot. if your in the movies, house, dinner etc, just lean over and do whatever your heart tells you to do. it is not a big of a deal- itll probably make your relationship stronger! hope i helped.
♥ ashley

ok well tonight I went to this party type thing not a big one but big enough...well there was this guy there and we started talking and he was helping me play pool and stuff and i dont know i thought we clicked...and i sorta started to like him but the problem is hes 19 and im 14 is that bad? Should I just stop before I get myself into trouble? Thanks

i recommend you stop dating him;; your a minor and hes an adult, if you both get into trouble- hes responsible, and if you like him- youll feel guilty. its your choice..if you really like him, go with your gut, but you guys can get into trouble. and thats bad. stop while your ahead. ♥ ashley

I wasn't sure which category to put this under, so here it is. I got my 2nd whole pearced around january 15th. its now january 27th. ( 2 weeks i think lol ) i got it pearced with these earring in which are not real gold. My ear have been getting 'gunk' on the back of them. My ear are very senstive. I really want to take them out and change them into earrings that will not irriate my ears. Also i got my cartlidge pearced around December 23rd..and i'd also like to change this one. Would it be safe for me to change my 2nd whole now, like take it out really quick and putting in another earring?

i'd LOVE any help or advice you gave me!

you should have no problem changing your earring really quickly. just make sure you clean the new earring well and make sure your ear is clean.that could be what is causing the infection. take some rubbing alcohol and clean really well. the gunk could be because the earrings arent nice earrings, since your ears are sensitive, it could be an infection, you should get the infection first before putting in another earring. hope i helped.
♥ ashley

I am going to have someone live here and i dont have room for another bed in my room. Im 15 female and so is she and i dont like regular bunk beds. My problem is that futon bunk beds, when the futon part is used as a regular bed, theres a part in the middle that is painful to sleep on. And i really wanted a futon bunk bed becuase it seemed like the perfect thing to use becuase i need one full sized bed for my full-sized very expensive comforter. What should i do? People with experience are very much helpful too! Thanks!!!!!!

try buying a thicker matress so your back is not directly on the spring. that it probably what is hurting you. a thicker matress would raise you off of it. or you can get a matress pad or something so it is softer. hopefully i came to some assistance.
♥ashley

theres this girl whos like...taking over everything and trying to take over all of my friends. i know that im probably just jealous and that i should forget about it, but you know, its hard to forget when youve got this feeling that you might lose all of your friends.

if you feel that way, then try talking to her and saying, "why are you taking all of my friends away from me, i think it is really rude" if she says shes not, then there you are-- shes not trying to take over your friends, she probably just wants to be friends with them too. you probably are being a little jealous, but its fine. you just dont want to loose your friends. but after you ask her and get it off your chest, itll all be better. instead of keeping it inside of you where no one knows about it. hope i helped. tell me how it goes
♥ ashley

What should I do...I like this girl and she likes my best friend. The girl I like is veryy hot and I want to get her attention....

does your best friend know? if he knows, then talk to him and say i really like her but she likes you. and hes an ass about it and says i dont care, i like her, then hes obviously not a good friend. you should try to become closer with her and get to talk to her more often so she can feel comfturable around you. then ask her out. if you too hang out a lot, shell stop liking your best friend. but if he likes her too- i wouldnt risk your friendship over a girl. hope i helped.
♥ ashley

My ex-best friend is trying to move in on my best friends. She's being moody, and since her mother is a witch, (like her, and overprotective) she's "brainwashed" her into just...being that way. I'm getting so tired of it. She's already moody and protective of everything she does. She's not all that pretty, and I'm not saying I'm better than her, but everything about her is ANNOYING. Andd I have to see her every single freakin day at school. What should I do. It's really getting old. I hate her.

Signed,
Frustrated >:(

Well, if shes trying to take over your best friends tell her to get her own, say you moved on, and now its time for her to. i dont really understand your question, but ill see what i can do. maybe if you tried to talk to her and tell her what shes doing thats annoying you, maybe that;ll make her change. but i wouldnt judge people on their looks and if theyre pretty or not. but if shes really annoying and you dont like being near her, then make your life with ur new friends seperate from your life with her and ur new friends. hope i kinda helped?
♥ ashley

ohk i want to know what i should do. i had gym on thursday and i have it before i go home so i have to change and i left my bookbag in the locker room cause our lockers arent very big so i left it sitting out like everyone else does and inside i had my purse which had my ipod and digital camara inside and someone stole it. poor fucker. but what should i do? i already talked to the school with my dad and the police got involved but what can i do on my own?

well, the good thing is you told your parents and the police got involved. i lost my tiffany jewlery, solow oe utfit, my earrings and my cellphone in the locker room. just my luck. i found it all! someone will give it back in once they know the police are involved. i dont think there is anything you can really do on your own though, since you dont know who took it. if you have any questions. leave them in my inbox. sorry that i wasnt much help.
♥ ashley

Ok, well I kinda like this kid Anthony at my school..but i don't really know him ..well liek we're not friends..but he's becoming friends with my friends. The other day when I wans't at school he was asking about me...and now my friend is trying to hook us up. She talked to him and he said, "i want to get to know her, before i ask her out." Well alot of ppl have gone up to him telling him I like him..when I told them to stay out of it...so i was thinkin what I would say is: Hey I know you've been hearin that I like you..but i dont really

i think that you should probably get to know eachother better. once you get to know him, become friends with him, and talk to him about what everyone is saying. if you do like him and you feel he likes you too and your ready, then i suggest go for it! but if he wants to become friends with you. then become friends with him if you want to go out with him. hope i helped.
ashley ♥

when is it ok to kiss your girlfriend? like, what times/how long you've been dating/age?

thnx in advance

whenever you two are both ready, if you are not ready, or she is not ready, then i recommend you do not kiss yet. when you are both ready, then it should be okay to kiss your girlfriend. hope i helped.
ashleyy

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