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Q: hey, so there's this girl. AMAZING and i am so in love with her, and she has known for a long time. we have had drama and stuff about us, it all just seems like one messed up fairy tale waiting to come to an end. a few months ago, she told me that she liked me but wasn't sure if she would date me yet. i was fine with that answer and was determined to get her to love me the same, until the day she told me she chose another guy over me. that's when the drama started, but we've moved past that and she is still my great friend. Now she's thinking about breaking up with the other guy, but I'm not sure if it's for me. She said maybe one day soon her love for me will grow stronger, so I want to win her back. I even got into a fight with her bf tonight haha. anyways, i just need help on how to do it? i would prefer a girls advice please because i need a girls opinion on what they would do in this situation thanks and sorry that it's so long.

If you want to win her back. Talk to her as often as you can. Remember the lIttle things she tells you be there for her when she needs you chill with her as much as you can ask her to chill with you a lot and if you think she is giving you a shot at being her boyfriend take her on a date buy her stuff kudos to you if her and her bf get into a fight and you're there for her ;)

Q: So basically I'm a girl who has a crush on her female friend. My friend has another best friend who she prefers more than me- but whether it's a crush or love, I defiantly like her more than a friend. But I've never been attracted to someone of the same gender before... I'm totally okay with being gay, but I'm just not sure if I am- and I'm not bi because (as I've said) this is the first time, and I know that she's not gay but is supporting of gay people, so do I tell her how I feel? Or continue to be the third wheel as I feel really sad, I don't know... Please no hate, I'm very young (13) and please serious answers... Thanks, Lea Wills xxx

It's better to get it off your chest and tell her how you feel. You'd definitely want to know if she did or not and only time will tell if you're gay or not.

Q: So I've been seeing a guy for a few months now. He's great and all but I feel like he's sending mixed messages. He says he cares about me, which I dont doubt. One minute he has strong feelings or me, then says he cares a lot for me. He says he's happy we are together then says he thinks we should be friends. He says he wants us to work out but then says he's not ready to commit. He says he wants to give me the attention and time I deserve but has to take care of stuff first and doesn't want to make me feel like second best. One minute he thinks its just the time (or lack there of) to spend togther then its he needs to take care of stuff first, then its he wants it to work again. I understand he isn't ready to commit and wants to better himself before he can provide a girl with what they deserve and has been hurt. But it seems he wants to be with me but doesn't. We broke up but were working on talking things out. But he wouldn't change his relationship status to single but made a comment about mine sating we were in a complicated relationship. Any ideas on what he's thinking? I ask him but he's all over the place

He thinks you'd make a great girlfriend but isn't ready for a relationship so by saying the things he's saying and doing the things he's doing, he's keeping you on the back burner just in case he decides to get a girlfriend. Guys do this a lot when they like a girl but don't want to commit. My advice is try to move on and live your life. Don't wait for him. He takes advantage of that because he feels like you'll always be waiting. You're his backup girl. So you should move on or try dating another guy and if he really does have feelings for you you'll find out then and it will be up to you and on your own terms, not his. Good luck girl

Q: should i have sex with a gay guy yes or no?

No. There are a lot of guys who pretend to be gay to get in a girls pants without having to take her out and stuff Like that. I've seen it happen. Don't sleep with him

Q: what should I do about my dad losing his job

Make your dad feel like you really need him. Ask him to help you with things or help him out by helping him look for a job. Spend quality time with him and let him know you care and just be there for him. Everyone likes to feel appreciated by someone. Hope this helps :)

Q: Since I was 16, I've been on and off with this guy. I'm 20 and he's 22. It never turned into anything, we were just friends with benefits. We'd kiss and stuff and it was just when I wasn't dating anyone.
Sometimes I had feelings for him and sometimes I didn't. Sometimes he had feelings for me and sometimes he didn't. It was always bad timing.

Last year we started having sex rather than just messing around.

Around October he told me he doesn't want to have sex with a girl who's having sex with other guys. That was fine with me. So if we start seeing other people, then we stop sleeping with each other.

But then he started getting mad when I was out late with a guy and things like that. I had feelings for him at the time so I did tell him and he said he doesn't know how he feels.
Anyways, about a week later he told me he likes me. He said he knows our situation isn't normal but he does like me, ect. He asked me on a date and all that.
It's been a couple weeks now and we've barely talked. I asked if I did anything, he said he's just been "lost".

So I guess he's unsure of what to do and that makes me unsure where I stand with him and whether or not I should move on.

Our situation is far from normal and most people don't go from friends with benefits to a relationship. What makes it more difficult is that I'm very close to his family. His sister is my best friend and no one knows about us as it's a strong Christian family and we've just been messing around. So I get how this whole thing can be difficult for him and he's never had an actual relationship.

So the odds are stacked against us. But I realize I really like him and I don't know where to go from here. I've been getting asked out by guys and I just don't know where I stand.
Should I give him some time or just let it go?

I'd just let it go. He probably likes you but isn't ready for a relationship right now and doesn't know how to tell you or he thinks you don't like him in that way and thinks oh well life goes on. Men are so good at getting over things quickly and moving on. If he doesn't make the move let it go. If you two are meant to be together it'll eventually happen. If it doesn't work out with him at least you have more opTions can't go wrong there ;)

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Hi I'm Dana and I've always loved to give people advice and help them. My friends always come to me when it comes to needing advice. So leave me a question if you like and I'll help you out as best as I can :)