Member Since: January 23, 2015
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Last Update: January 23, 2015
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21/f, 28/m
I have been dating this guy for about 8 months. We were in a grey area for a long while, and he was using a dating app/site while we were together for the first four months into dating. I told him to get off of them in the fourth month because it was bothering me and I found it disrespectful. During this time, he wasn't seeing anybody else other than me, but he was chatting/talking to a few people (from what he has told me).
Today, he has been telling me that ever since he got off those dating sites, etc. He has been wanting to build trust with me, he's committed, and he's serious about me. For some reason, that is hard for me to believe since he was just actively searching even though we were dating in the beginning.
Today, I saw a post from last year (two months into we were dating), his friend posted on Facebook that the guy I am dating was single and was looking for someone. I didn't know how to think/take that. Should I ignore it since it was six months ago? What do you think I should do? (link)
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well it might be a misuderstanding between him and a friend who posted that, or it was just a stupid joke. i think you shouldn't get upset about it now, since it was 6 months ago. you could talk to him about it later, if an appropriate moment comes, but don't make it serious. talk to him as if you took it as a joke
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So I've been seeing a guy for a few months now. He's great and all but I feel like he's sending mixed messages. He says he cares about me, which I dont doubt. One minute he has strong feelings or me, then says he cares a lot for me. He says he's happy we are together then says he thinks we should be friends. He says he wants us to work out but then says he's not ready to commit. He says he wants to give me the attention and time I deserve but has to take care of stuff first and doesn't want to make me feel like second best. One minute he thinks its just the time (or lack there of) to spend togther then its he needs to take care of stuff first, then its he wants it to work again. I understand he isn't ready to commit and wants to better himself before he can provide a girl with what they deserve and has been hurt. But it seems he wants to be with me but doesn't. We broke up but were working on talking things out. But he wouldn't change his relationship status to single but made a comment about mine sating we were in a complicated relationship. Any ideas on what he's thinking? I ask him but he's all over the place (link)
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you know, imho he's hopeless: okay, he might be too nervous or overresponsible for your future, but come on, this shouldn't lead to a break up! and no matter what, if takes away all the fun from your life, is it really mr right's style? this may sound egoistic, but you could as well go take advantage of this whole situation, like go out more often, meet new guys or sign up on a few dating sites which is even easier sometimes. when i have troubles in my relationship, i update my account on a few services like okcupid or http://kovla.com and start chatting with men. i don't necessarily hang out with them, but flirting also helps.
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