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okay so heres the deal.
im a 15/f and i recently met this boy named joe and hes a senior hes 17 and he'll be 18 in january. we've become really close in the past few days, hes drove me to school a few times and hes been over to meet my mom. everything seemd to be fine until i asked to have joe over for a day this weekend. and my mom starts going off on me because hes an older boy! and i've been trying to explain to her that we're just friends and nothing more! and that i kno what im doing! but she wont believe me she cant get over the fact that hes an "older boy". it makes me soo up set! how can i get my parents to approve of me hangin out with joe? please help soon!

thank you

It seems like your mom has the idea that you're dating or going to be dating him seeing how he has met your parents. I think that being "older" doesn't always have negative thoughts. I had an ex that was 15 and I was 17 (at the time). Her parents became to trust me because I presented myself well, and I promised to look after and be there for her. In a way, Joe will have to present himself well...and you will too. I know I used a relationship ancedote there, but this applies when you are female and you just have an older male friend too.

Just wait a little while longer before you start to bring boys (Joe) to the house. Like I said before, in the teen years, that usually means that you're dating or thinking about dating him since he's meeting the family. Make sure that your intentions are clear with your mom, and make sure about Joe's too. Communication is the key here.

Hope that helps out.

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im a sophomore... soo this guy who i met last year and talked to him sometimes during school... well i ran into him a few times sometime after school started back this year, and after a little bit he started runnin outta class to see me in the halls, would come by my locker after school to talk to me and walk with me to the bus, and call me every night sometimes numerous times if i didnt answer, for like at least a month straight. i was never mean to him i was always nice and stuff but all of a sudden he quit callin, quit comin to talk to me, and is giving me the cold shoulder. he'll walk right by my locker without even looking at me, and the other day when he passed me i walked up behind him and tapped him on the shoulder to say hey and happy birthday and he was just like 'what!?' when i tapped him.. so i was like well fine then i was just gonna say happy birthday... and he still didnt say anything else so i walked on. whats up with this?

dont say talk to him because obviously he's not talking to me haha and we werent really good friends to begin with anyway so honestly i really dont care but im jw what that behaviors about.

and also i dont have feelings for him at all incase youre wondering.

It sounds like to me either:

A) Something happened to him personally and he's just trying to cope with it. Some people from a death or something among those lines actually become an introvert (shy/reserved) when trying to come to terms with things. Wait a month or so and see if his behavior changes.

or

B) He had feelings for you, but he realized that you weren't interested so he took it kinda personally. This is a guess at least from what you said. Usually, if I like someone I do the exact same things that he was doing with you at the time. If he's a "nerdy" guy like me, that's his way of saying he likes you. However, yes I took in the other things you said into account as well.

Hope this somewhat helps.

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ok so im sad lots of the time and moody and stuff because of one girl and she cares about me alot and she wants me to be happy she doesnt want to have a relation ship and she dosnt LIKE me i dont want her to like me i want to move on .. this has been going on for years and years by the way so its not som little average heartbreak,what should i do .. and for the record how can i keep my self from being sad about other girls cause.. fuck,this happens every fucking time !!!! sorry for swearing but .. woah i just cant take it anymore i get into the state of depression were i want to die and everything and i dont see the point on being alive.. but w.e thats stupid i like another girl .. been friends with along time .. weve liked each other on and off and yeah i need to hint that i like her .. and yeah and how can i get her to like me .. like frickhahaha well please help me on all thos questions .. it would be sweet if it was a long sentence answer cause iv asked this in differnt ways befor but i cant seem to be geting the kinda answer im looking for.. well somthing that might help * because .. yeah iv tryed lots and i seem to be geting the same stuff over and over agian .. thanks .. bye

15/m

Are you making attempts (such as hinting or even in your own behavior/bodylanguage) to tell that a girl that you like her? I used to be the same way, where I would get depressed over some girl, but I now realize that you can only really feel depressed if you actually took the risk of either finding out how she feels about you or if you made a clear effort to make your feelings be known.

About your friend: Just be yourself. You don't have to make her like you. If she likes you already, you don't have to go out of your way to prove that you like her (though, going out of your way when you're in a relationship for the one you love is a different thing). Also, don't be worried about the whole "friends" thing. If you've been friends for long time, saying how you truely feel shouldn't make the situation awkward. If it does, something's up. Even if she were to say no, down the road, you will never know what will happen and change her mind, but she might change that way unless you have your feelings all ready out there. To hint at you like her, just be sly but obvious at the same time. If your body language (how you act around her and stuff) is very easily read, she probably already knows you like her, and is probably waiting for you to say it. I hope this helps you out.

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