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Location: Scotland
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Age: 14
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My bf (well...ex bf), Mike, and I were dating on and off for about 2.5 years. When ever we broke up, it was only for about 2 weeks or so and for a stupid reason.
Well last time we broke up (before this time anyway) was in Aug. and we stayed broken up for almost 2 months. We went to our homecomings together (we go to different schools) and got back together then. For the first months of getting back together, the relationship was great, almost perfect.
Then around the beginning of Feb., it started to drag on. It just wasn't there anymore. We started seeing each other less, I wouldn't care if he hung around other girls (which is crazy because I get overly jealous), just drifting apart. In the whole 2 years, that's never happened before. So, we decided that it was time to end the so called relationship, for good. The happened 2 weeks ago. One week before spring break (our spring break was the first week of March so it just ended)
Even though we go to different schools, we hang out with the same people. So we still see each other constantly. We also went on our spring break trip together with all of our friends. We had a blast except for that fact that we just couldn't be civil to each other. It was like one argument after another. And I have no idea why. Our break up was mutual and we were both okay with it. But know, out of no were, we can't stand to be around each other.
We cannot ruin our friend's good times because or our arguing. What's going on here? We're both 18 by the way.
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You should talk to him about the arguing around your friends. You have been going out for the past 2 odd years, you should know each other well enough to sit down and talk to each other even if its just for 5 minuites.
Besides if it works out you will be able to move on in life with your friends and if you arent arguing you could also possibly become friends with each other once again.
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warning --this is extremely long =\
ok well im 14/f in 8th grade.
ok so the summer before 7th grade like changed everything. theres this boy, chris that i never really talked to until that summer. i dont kno how it started but one day we just started talking online and he told me how he used to like me and everything. after that we just kept talking throughout the whole summer, and that's when i started to like him.
we continued to talk online, but we never actually hung out. then one day, i told him i liked him. he said he liked me too but i kinda just shrugged it off and we didn't go out or anything.
so then 7th grade started. we hardly talked for the first couple months. then i remember in october, there was a halloween dance, and my one friend, who was really good friends with him at the time, was like oh you guys should dance together.. we didn't. i was stupid and just like stood there. i'm also REALLY REALLY shy, so talking to him online for me was easy, but to his face, i got like speechless. i know that after a while though, i'd become more outgoing around him. but that never happened..
so during november, he asked me out again. except it was online and through my friend. i, for the second time, was stupid, and said no. i regret it to this day. like the time before that, he didnt actually ask me out. but this time, he was, and it was soo weird for me cause he would've been my first boyfriend, so i just like freaked out and said no. i regret it soo much. i just wonder how things would've been =[
anyway, i think after that, he had this thing with like kicking me in the hall. lol not like to hurt me.. but yeah soo that was like our thing for a week or two, but then one day i went over to him to kick him and he was like "im not kicking you anymore" i dont know what exactly he meant by that. i dunno if he meant this is stupid, i dont want to get in trouble [cause one time a teacher yelled at us lol] or that he didnt like me anymore. but i duno
after that we continued to talk online still. but it was becoming more me iming him first and he didnt talk as much, it was usually me talking the most .
the rest of 7th grade was just a blur. towards the end he went out with different girls, and rarely talked to me. i still imed him online, but he acted like he didnt care.
i know this sounds weird, but i became kinda like stalkerish online. i like imed him everyday. i regret it alott .i guess i was just desperate for him to like me or something.
the summer was like that too..so then 8th grade started and i dunno what happened. we rarely talk except if he asks to borrow a pen or something. he's only in one of my classes. one time in like september i kinda just like let out my feelings when i was iming him. he told me that im shy, which i know i am..i think thats why he doesnt like me.. he liked me in 6th grade because he didnt know me, and now he thinks he does, but he doesnt b/c im not always shy.
anyway, i havent spoken to him online since september or october. i talk to him in school rarely, but its not even talking its like, him asking me for a pencil and me being like "here" ughh. i just wish things were back to the way they used to be. like the day before 7th grade he was like i cant wait to go to school tomorrow cause ill see you..=[ i miss that.
now we never talk. AND he has a girlfriend..they were going out since october but broke up in february like, twice, but not they're back together. i doubt it will last..
i mean like sometimes i'll catch him looking at me. i duno. i still like him so muchh. he probably doesnt even remember or care, about what happened between us. i just wish he would realize what it means to me. i dunno wut to do. how should i talk to him? i want us to atleast talk more again. i know i should get over him but ive tried and i cant. should i say something to him in class, and what should i say? should i try iming him again? or would that be weird since i havent imed him since september? im desperateee=[ thank you so much (link)
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I can totally relate to whats happening to you & as you say you cant get over him i think it sounds like somebodys falling in love.
I realize how hard this is for you, you should try to talk to him in person sometime and get the truth out. I know it will be scary but in the long run it will be over with, and you never know what you can find at the end of the tunnel.
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i broke up with my boyfriend and said that i just wanted to be friends then he was saying that he loved me and stuff like that. i only feel like i still like him when he talks about other girls and stuff. well like yesterday he started going out with my best friend and she knew i still liked him. on his away messages he always puts i love sarah turner.
he never put i love paityn smith on his away message and we went out for almost 3 months and they have been going out for one day! we arent friends anymore because of this. and i really want to keep it that way.i dont know what to do , and im miserable now without him. do you think its just jealousy or do i really love him?
im in the 6th grade and hes in 7th i know this probably sounds stupid, but he is the only boy ive ever loved.
thank you for reading this
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i think that you need to talk to him and work it out together to find out if you really do love him. If he is your first love that is something special and you want that to last but you have to remember there will be other people in your life. Trust your heart is the answer.
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