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Hi I'm 14'f,
After school i found blood in my knickers so i showed my mum and she said that it was my period and it went on for about 6 days and i wore pads and it seemed like a period but 2 months after i haven't got my period yet, so i also masturebate as well so did i pop my cherry (hymen) or is it my period i'm really scared what is it?
thanks in advance
If that incident was your first period, which it almost certainly was, you don't need to worry at all. You're not regular yet so your periods are going to be all over the place, not regular every month things. It can be like that for a year or more, but I wouldn't worry. I waited about 10 weeks once to have my period! My friend waits three months everyt ime although she is now regular, although she's extremely skinny. If you're like her, health and weight can also be an issue with periods.
But no worries. Its a period... I'm sure you'll become friends over the next 40 or so years :P
Hi I'm 14/f
I was just wondering what is a boner because i've heard people say boys get a boner when they masturebate or whatever.
Thanks so much!
Boner = erection
very simply :)
So I'm pretty much the most good goody you have ever seen. I'm 16/f. I have a 4.0 GPA. I am chosen to be in senior classes even though I am a shophmore. I do everything when I am suppose to do it and how I am supposed to do it. I have never drank, did drugs, or had sex. But I am so sick of being the same old boring me. All of my friends believe in no sex before marrige. Well now I'm starting to think sex before marrige isn't so bad as long as it's with someone you care about. Well I really want to change into someone who has a little more fun. No drugs though. But will I ruin my reputation? Is it worth the risk to ruin something like that? I am really tore. But I know I'm not one of those who wants to go out every night and get wasted. I just want to live some of my high school years in fun. It's not like I'm a dork either. I was prom queen my freshman year. I was homecoming attendant our first year. I'm "popular" I guess you would say. But anyways should I try it? Or should I just stick to the goody goody I am?
My Name is Faye :) 15 and in the last year of my secondary school (in a class of all 16 year olds).
I'm an ambitious all round achiever really... and I'm pretty successful. Geese that sounds boastful but I'm trying to relate this to you I guess :) A year ago I was like you. I stuck to my work and all that but I knew that, although academic values are important, so are social values. To do well in life you NEED to be able to communicate and relate to people - and have fun. Life will be alot more enjoyable if you get out there and live a little. Not to too much of an extent where you forget work of course - but life becomes so much more rewarding when you do a little. You DON'T need drugs, like you say, to have an awesome time. But really - try and get out there and do stuff! It is a good idea. It'll be great for people to see another side to you and you'll find alot of attitudes toward you change, veen when popular, for the better. Getting involved is what makes people connect and its likely to bring all sorts of opportunities. A year on from deciding to get out there and do stuff, and I'm in a strong relationship with a boy I love - and I've met all kinds of new people who have given me new, fun experiences (perhaps with a bit of alcohol... but not too much, and this has only happened three or four times in the year...). None of them distract me from my work or anything - none of them have changed me. But now I feel much more valued with my friends and alot closer to people. I also enjoy life alot more... and work too!
More enjoyable social life, more easy it is to work instead of loading it all on.
Hope I Helped
Faye
16/f...my boyfriend's 15/m (almost 16 though) i'm kinda awkward around my bf. i mean i REALLY like him, and he REALLY likes me. but he's my first and i'm not HIS first..
so i dunno what to do around him and i'm afraid i'll do something stupid and make a fool of myself. i'm afraid he won't like me anymore. like, when we were about to kiss, i freaked out, and we just pop kissed instead. he knows he's my first boyfriend and he's taking things slowly. but i dont want them to be TOO slow. i'm not usually like this around my friends. i'm just really scared that he's staring at my imperfections or something or that he thinks badly of me. and when we're going to kiss next time...but for REAL, i don't know whats going to happen...ahhh..
any experienced people...lol what do i do?
Finally! Someone who has my acute shyness. I was in the same boat around 9 months ago. I'd been going out with my boyfriend for 3 months and all I'd been able to bring myself to do was kiss him on the cheek. So the first kiss came and I can tell you it was nothing special... in fact it was horrific. I clambered into a bed after school and tried to sleep it off. For a LONG time. Attempts had made me do that before. Anyways, same day my sister and her boyfriend broke up - she was heartbroken. It put things in perspective. Anyway, have you told this guy how nervous you are? If he's experienced you're at an advantage girl!! He can teach you and if one of you is a good kisser, you're naturally going to follow and copy what he does - meaning that he can't say you're any worse at kissing than him. Me and my boyfriend had both never 'snogged' anyone before and we were BOTH dismal - but with time and practice it gets better. Remember, this boy REALLY likes you - as you say. He isn't going to worry too much, and far from feeling bad about it he probably wants to encourage you and help you as much as possible. If you don't want to go to slow - try it. Chances are, if its spontaneous then it'll be fine - just do as he does! If you don't have the confidence to just turn around in the street or something after you've had a really happy conversation and kiss him, try it slower. But it'll be so much better if you just do it lightheartedly, no pressure. Kiss him - kiss him again - kiss him again - then go for tongues. 4 point plan didn't fail for me the second or the third or the fourth time... :) If he's with you he wants to be with you. He's not there to pick you apart for what you do wrong. He's there to help you get better - and he's male. He'll love having someone to be good at that stuff with!
;) good luck
Faye
ive known this kid for a couple years now and were pretty good friends. we party alot together. for the past two years he was dating a girl. a few weeks ago they both came to a party and me and him started just talking and stuff like we always do. well his gf got jealous and made a big scene saying i liked him. i did like him but i knew not to show it in front of her. he kept tellin her to stop and go to bed and stuff and she was yelling at him for defending me. they broke up that and the next weekend we started talking talking. we've been hooking up ever since and he's perfect. going to school to be something, nice job, cute, sweet, funny and fun to hangout with. the problem is we've just been hooking up and not really anything else. i know he just got out of a relationship and i dont want to date him but i would know if he cared for me cause i dont want to keep hooking up with this guy if he just wants sex. i know him really good and i dont think he would do that at all but idk. when we hangout he acts like he cares but when we dont nothings going on. we dont talk on the phone or anything cause i dont have the cell and we have to wait until the weekend to hang out cause of school and work. what should i do?
Next time you see this guy ask him what you think. He does sound like he likes you but if all thats been happening is you and him hooking up I suppose its possible he is in it for the sexual attraction - but which guy isn't? All men are going to be like that and as long as he's not needlessly pressuring or anything, everything with him and you should be fine. The fact is, if he didn't like you as a person or even respect you a bit he wouldn't have started hooking up with you anyway, and you say you've known each other for a few years. Have you tried going to meet him and asking if you can do something normal like watch a film. If you are doubting his motives, I would go there and make sure he knows you're reluctant; see how he reacts and if he doesn't notice, well. Pfft. If he does you know its safe to approach the topic with him and you only have to ask :). He sounds like he's intelligent, I'm sure if you've known him for that long and you're not only good friends but hooking up too, he'll be willing to listen and answer truthfully and reasonably! If this guy ever makes you feel bad though, don't do anything too drastic if you like him. I would make myself seem slightly distant - try and be like he is to you, if it does go wrong, and he'll soon get the message. However that's a last resort! I really do hope this was useful, I've questioned my boyfriend's motives alot and I find this works :)
Good luck
Faye
i eat nice full meals, but sometimes after i eat and i know i'm full, i want more or i get cravings
i mean im not fat but sometimes i go in the kitchen and get a cookie and i want to stop
so how can i stop these craving for sweets (im trying to eat better and healthier) and how can i cut back on bad foods?
*please don't say "don't go in the kitchen" or "stop the cravings" cause that doesnt help much
16/f - 125lbs (i know that's a lot but it doesn't show)
Wellp... I am also a victim of cravings. Luckily due to an excellent metabolism it doesn't really rub off on me but I'm sure it will. I'd say - when you have a craving - drink a few glasses of water! It makes you feel like your full. Or, if you can't stop the cravings this way, try a sweet drink like nesquick or milkshake or hot chocolate - sure, they have calories too but maybe this way you won't feel the need to consume lots of sweets. Or simply - make your parents stop buying the stuff in the fridge that you eat! It works for me. I eat because the things are there. If there is nothing there that looks good to eat to me, I won't eat it. Try it :). Otherwise try to find a hobby that consumes your time physically so if you do consume those calories, it won't be as bad. Alternatively, fruit is nice. I hate the principal of fruit - its not chocolate covered! But I've recently started eating apples and Pink Ladies exspecially make the perfect substitute. Try it!
Good Luck
Faye