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Q: Hey ,

So I met up with this guy alright and I went down on him then as I went up his thing was on my thigh as I went to kiss his lips and then I went down again on him , and now I missed my period , am I pregnant?

Thanks ,
Betty
Elliah4yue:

okay so you cant get pregnant from
sucking someone off but you can get pregnant
if you was having unprotected sex with-out ay
birth-control pills...but you will aso have the benfit of the condom breaking if you did use one...it a possibility that your period is just late cause of the season changing....but if your still wondering through your mnd if you are your best bet is to go take a test....ASAP



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Q: OMG please help me , i really like my bestfriends crush and i think he likes me too , we talk every single day , he told me that he doesnt like my best friend though , what should i do should i tell her i like him ? , but were all going to the ,ovies on soon , and he said he doesnt wanna sit next to her , he also said hes bringing two of hid girl friends but i dont want him to cause i wanna sit next yo him what should i do ? plase help !
Elliah4YUE:

BECAUSE THAT YOUR BEST=FREIND CRUSH YOU SHOULD TELL HER THAT HE NOT INTO HER AND THE BOTH OF LIKE EACH OTHER...HOW EVER IF YOUR BESTIE REALLY LIKE THIS CRUSH ALOT THEN YOU SHOULDNT TALK TO HIM...CAUSE YOU;LL BE HURTING HER FEELINGS...BUT IF SHE NOT ALL SKETISH ABOUT IT DOESNT FEEL LIKE YOUR BREAKING THE girl-code rule THEN I SAY GO FOR IT....




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Q: ive been feeling weird,drained,and hopeless since i got rejected because getting his attention wass my main goal but now i feel nothing.what is this feeling and what should i do
Elliah4yue:

to keep it simple it the feeling of rejection embarassment and stupidity...

which is usally around the time when you wish you never ask or your asking your self over and over why did you just do that or now what do i do when i see him just alot of ?s running through ypur mind at once....your best bet is to just face and act like it not really effecting you else your gonna feel like your dying inside slowly....

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Q: when you go in for birth control pills?

I'm going in to get birth control pills tomorrow because I've been on my period for a month (i have really irregular periods)

I'm 18 and I've been depressed for about 4 years now, ever since my grandma passed away who was more like a mother to me.
In the past 4 years I've gained 50-70 pounds, my sophomore year I told the school that I was considering suicide and they called my mom...both of my parents thought I was being dramatic and just looking for attention. That all blew over within a week. Before this I was overdosing on cough syrup to get high with a friend since we didn't have any kind of connections to get any real drugs. I almost died because I took too much. My parents never found out about that. I got caught shoplifting when I was 16 during my junior year of high school. I didn't graduate. I was supposed to last may but didn't have enough credits because I skipped too much. Now im not doing my alternative school because I have no motivation to go
My parents really don't care at all. All of this has happened and they never once said anything to me, other than get mad and yell..then time passed and they never really cared. I'm so alone. I have no friends, no nothing. I'm just sad all the time.
Oh god. Okay, i know that was a lot of pointless info but i couldn't stop typing..

My main question is do i tell my nurse that im depressed tomorrow when i go in for the pills? or is it not her problem? I don't want to bring it up if there's nothing she can do or if that's not who i should talk to about it.
Elliah4yue:

their are times in are life where things become
a turning point some we can handel and some
that we cant some that leave us with the only question WHY?...which dot really give us info
jus leave us wondring....something to tink about
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I been depressed since i was able to walk talk and hear basically since i was bout 10
I have tryed to kill myself in many different ways and so many times...till I turn 18 that when every thing stop...but i bacame into this person not care for smothing inless it worth losing...and to just be strong when thier is to much pain/ feel like the walls is closig in on me
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what I am saying is be strong you hae to fight pain or else your life will feel miserable you have to froce your self to want to do better or else you will get worst and i know for sure cause sometimes I ask myself what am I really living for

and to anwser your question NO dont not tell the nurse....but I can assit you to a hot line

FREEDOM-SPEAK: 8563458600
Mon-Fri:11am-12pm
Sat-Sun:12pm-10pm

I really hope this could be a good help for you
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Q: Hi I'm liz I am 14 years old and I'm from ny and There's this boy in my class name don and I really like him but I'm not sure if he likes me becuase sometimes when someone ask him if he likes me he says no but when he is next to me he is flirty and he is always saying something funny and staring at me and making eye contact with me and making fun of me
Elliah4yue:

this where you dont fall for any of those
only because you still dont know how he feels
he can see you as a friend, he can just be playin games with your head because people told him that you like him, or he can pretty much be intrested...
so your best bet is to either approach him when it just you and him in school or wrtie him a message online or just forget bout it and continue wondering on how he feel's bout you...

hope it goes well liz...:)

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Q: I need to no somting to do for my schools Talent quest
Elliah4yue:

There are a varities of things that you can do
for the talent show you just need to make a list
of the things you know best and how to do
and found out which one your a pro and fit your criteria and is exculsive for you and go with it...





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Q: 18/F
So me nd this guy have been tlkn for about 3 months now and i really lik him. We have yet to do anything sexual at all. I dont wanna be the one to say something..i want him 2 come on to me. He has had so many opportunities to do sumthn. Im always sleepin ova or he'll be at my house. What can i do to get him to at least go sum of the way if not all the way wit me. I dnt wanna have to say i want to have sex wit him. Any Suggestions?
Elliah4yue:

sometime the best way to get what form a guy is telling him...he may feel like you dont want him too so you need really dont have much of a choice but to talk to him bout it let him know that it okay to touch you...or you can be on the sneak tip and tell him what type of guys you like and add in there that you like guys that always take the frist step, that have somewhat of control in the situation...other than that all you can do is sit and talk with him see if he getting a different vibe from you that you may thinking your giving....

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Q: Two days ago, I had a fight with my boyfriend on AIM. It basically ended when he just stopped responding to what I was saying and we haven't talked since. I know this probably sounds like a stupid teenage fight, and maybe it is. But I honestly don't know what to do and need some solid advice.

I hate not talking to him and I just want us to work things out. And we start college in a couple of days- we're gonna have classes together and see each other; if we don't make peace it's going to be awkward. But on the other hand, I was the one that started it; I called him out when he really hurt my feelings. He apologized, but that was when I was still bitching at him. He was being extremely sarcastic and didn't even mean it - it was more of an "I said I'm sorry it's all my fault again so please leave me alone now" apology. If that makes sense.

Anyway, I feel like if I'm the one that breaks this stupid silent treatment, it might go over like what I said to him before didn't really matter. But I WANT us to talk about it and work thorugh it.

What should I do? If I SHOULD talk to him, what do I even say?
Ellaih4yue:

oaky plane and simple call him
up when your civilize cause the both of youupset is not going to work out...however if
you know you are wrong stop procasanating
and admit it to him and yourself...that you was wrong for being so extra...it okay so call your boyfriend on the things he did to upset you but sometime making it seem more then it really is can be a little to much...so I cant blame for the way that he was apologzing to you...if you you say that you was BITCHING at him which mean you was pretty much taken it where it didnt really need to be....but that okay cause that are job as girl it just something you dont want to make a habit...

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Q: 22/f, okay so I work in a school as a SPED instructional aide, and I like a co-worker of mine, a teacher who is a 27/m. He's is like the sweetest man ever... almost too sweet. So sweet that alot of women(not really much competition considering my self esteem isn't really high) are/were after him too. But I know he dosen't like them cause the teacher I work with told. The two of them are best friends.

Anyhow, he's like a big kid and that's what I like the most. Still plays video games,and a very caring teacher (teaches SPED) and cares alot about his brother who is also special needs. Plus he lent me his super expensive calculator for an entire year... We've hung out a few times but I can't really tell if we vibing or not cause I never paid attention to it. I was just happy to be in his presence. He's bought me drinks and food before too :)

So now, a co-worker of mine has told him I liked and he said "Ms.P---, I'm going to have to holler at her...." *I don't even know what that means*... so the first day back to work he came and sat next to me and I sat there for like a hot second cause I got nervous and had to move...

Now I'm too shy to really say much of anything to him. I only say Hi to him when I see him in the hallways and whatnot...So should I try to pursue him still? Do I have any kind of chance? Any ideas as to how I can break out of this shyness?

The only reason why I didn't tell him I liked him was because, well as any other human I don't want to get rejected. But my co-worker said that she "needed to get the ball rolling"

Any advice/opinions/ideas/thoughts are greatly appreciated!
Ellaih4yue:

okay darling you sound like my bestfriend
you still somewhat at high-school stage which
is okay for now to him it may be cute rite now
but if he make the move before you and you guys do start talking that shyness must go away we dont want the guy thinking that your some lil girl who is just to shy to speak...sometime being
straight froward help like for example start your conversation of with a hi and how is your day going and to continue on with it say so what do you got plan after work and so far on...not saying you have to ask the co-worker out...this is just to help you get over your shyness with him and the more and more you do this you will feel more confrotable with talking to him....

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Q: Hi I'm in high school
and I have friend who is 26 and I love her she's getting married next year and I haven't seen her in along time I asked her about the wedding and she said only over 18 could come I really don't understand she was laughing so it must be a joke or not she never comes to my gatherings so is this a right friend for me or just give another chance?
Elliah4yue:

well sweetheart sometime
love lead you down the wrong road
so that you may learn your lesson and be
prepared for the true one...I could
tell that your going the basic step of
high-school life but ill be sterotypin on my part
....however if she is getting married
next year then yes you should let her go plus the age range but if your bout to turn 18 and
if your truely IN-LOVE with her then
i say fight her...


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