I am an 18 year old girl who loves to give advice. My advice will be direct at teens though, since I am still a teen myself.
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I used to go out with this guy. We had an amazing relationship. We bearly fought about anything,talked to each other about everthing, spend time together, and we got soo closed to the point that I knew what he was thinking before he even told. Its very easy to talk to him because he understands me so I never feel like I have to explain myself, are personalities are alot alike. But during our relationship we had some problems with people accepting us being together, since he's 7 years older then me, so they thought he was using me because of my inexperience things began to get weird between us, right during that time i went on vacation for a whole month, thinking that the time away from him was going to benefit turns out, that when i came back he was done with me, and I never heard from him, and he never tried reaching me knewing that I was back.... Six months have passed and I still have the same feelings I had since I met him, I love him more then anything I would give anything to find out what happend that made him abandon me. then a few days ago he finally contacts me though facebook and gives me his number because he wanted to talk to me. When I texted him he asks why I never reached him, then he calls to explain what happend, and tells me he still has feelings for me and would like to see me and apologize, when he tells me all of this I couldnt be any happier. He finally comes over and he apologizes and I ask him what his intentions are with me, and he seems very unsure, i told him i didnt want a friendship with him, or be a bootycall, I told him that I was willing to forgive him and i would love to make things work again and have a serious long lasting relationship with him, I told him if thats not what he wanted then he could just forget about me because I already felt better once I found out what really happend between us. When I told him what I wanted he says that he would like to atttempt things again and take things slow, and start with a new beginning, because i know him so well, I dont think hes ever taken anything slow and I feel like he doesnt want the same thing I want. I dont know what to do I dont want to feel like im pressuring him, but i dont want to wait around for ever. I love him, but im scared that hes going to break my heart again. I dont want to relive what I went through, but I dont want to be away from him...please help i know this is long, but i feel like no one understands what im going through, and please dont tell me thers other fish in the sea. (link)
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I think you guys should really take it slow. It sounds like you are both unsure and it will take some time to get to know each other again. Start out as friends and work your way up. Don't rush him and have him not rush you.
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I'm a 14 yr old girl and the other day my dad found weed in my sisters jacket he went ballistic. He punched her several times and then choked her. All our mother did was say No, Stop,No. Like wtf is that going to do? My dad is a very big and strong man. When I do something wrong like forget to vacume my dad wraps his hands around my throat like he's about to choke me. It's been like this for me ever since I was About 5 or 6. I just can't continue to live in constant fear. The even that happened recently with my sister I just can't seem to get it out of my mind. I get drunk next day wake up have a hangover still remember. Get high still freaking remember! I just don't know what to do. Please help me (link)
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Get out of there now. You need to go to the police and tell them. This is abuse and this is serious. If you don't act now, it'll get worse. And please... don't kill yourself and give the "man" and I use the term loosely, any satisfaction. But you and your sister need to get out and now. Be safe, and I'll keep you in my prayers.
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well, me and this guy have been like close friends for a while, im 13 and he's 16, he asked me out on a date and i dont know wiether to go or not, there is a couple who are going to be there but im going to be sitting next to him and i think there gonna be sitting somewhere else in the pictures(movies), i was thinking of going but he said we could always munch(snog) if im up for it, i havent agreed to go of anything yet, but he says that he likes me and everything, should i go or not?(oh i do like him back but im wondering what yous think about it) and my bestfriend thinks i should because he is such a lovley guy and very good looking, its just the slight age gap? (link)
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Honestly, the three year age gap worries me. In my experience boys that age are mostly after one thing. So, you might want to say no to the date at least until you are older. because this just doesn't seem right.
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hi. i am the same person that asked this question http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=600975. i was wondering, if i really decide to tell him how i feel, what would be the best way? text message? in person? i don't think i can get him away from his friends to tell him in person and if i try to talk to him around his friends he might be rude to me and he and his friends might make fun of me or something like that. but i'm not telling him how i feel in order to develop a relationship with him. i'm telling him because i don't want to lie to him, having him think i think of him as just a friend when i really don't. so how should i tell him? (link)
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Tell him in person. Ask him if you could talk to him privately and then tell him. The worse he can do is say no. But to me, telling him in any other way then in person is just... a bit tacky. Good luck
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sooo im almost 15 and my parents never let me do anything. i live with my dad and his gf, and shes a control freak. whatever she says my dad goes along with and if i dont listen to her then she starts taking away all my fave stuff. she even goes through my phone everyday and reads every single txt message...and if i delete them, she gets online and reads them! its like i cant even go to the bathroom by myself! but anyway, i cant go anywhere with my friends, i cant ever hang out with my bf unless their with me the whole time watching my every move, i cant even ride in the car with my cousin or go anywhere with anybody without me having to calling them like every half hour telling them what im doing, what time ill be home, and blah blah blahhh! i just cant take it anymore....i mean i know im not an adult but seriously! there wayyyy too overprotective and they need to lay off a lil and give me some privacy! (link)
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What I would do is sit down with your parents and talk to them about how you feel. Be calm and mature when you tell them because if you act like a child, they will treat you like one. Tell them that you feel smothered and would like some freedom in your life. But let's be honest. Have you thought about why they are so strict on you? You could be acting like a child and not even know it. Reflect on your behavior first and then bring that up in the conversation as well. Show them that you are willing to do better and earn the freedom you so desire. Ask them why they are strict. They have their reasons and if you are polite and mature, they may share the reasons with you. Do NOT lose your cool at any point. That will just make things worse if you start yelling at them. Good luck.
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ive been dating the same guy for a year, i am completly in love with him! i love being with him and everything about him, so my dad got a job offer for brazil! i live in colorado and were moving around august. i told him im moving and it didnt go so well. everytime i think about leaving him i just want to break down and cry tell i cant cry anymore. im im in love with him and i dont think i can just get up and walk oit of his life like this, i dont think its fair for me or him. he was my first everything. first kiss first holding hands first sitting on lap first make out first everything i even lost my v card to him. hes told me he still wants to be with me after i move, i told him we cant see each other or anything and he said he doesnt care he wants to be with me and he would even buy a web cam to speak and just to see my face, what should i do??? im so lost!! everytime i think about leaving my heart breaks more and more (link)
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1. you need to take a deep breath. After that is done and you have calmed done and relaxed, you need to think. Would it be fair on either of you to keep up a long distance relationship which won't work nine times out of ten? My advice is to enjoy what time you have left but slowly fade out of the relationship. Remaining friends is a good idea and will help keep contact, but it would not be fair to either of you to try for a long distance relationship.
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