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Age: 14
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okay, i have a question, i like this one guy, and he likes me back, but the problem is that he lives far away like 20 minutes away, and we can hardly see each other, were're not going out or anything, we just like each other a lot, we want to see each other more, well at least i do, i like this guy alot, but i don't know what to do, can u help me?? (link)
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Meet up at a spot in between both of you. You could go to a coffee shop or a cafe for lunch. Find a place that you both like that you can meet up every weekend and talk. That way you'll always see him and the drive isn't that long.
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All right, so my friend is always making fun of me. Even if it is just jokingly, I get really mad after a while because some of the stuff sort of hurts sometimes, you know? And if I make fun of HER, she gets really mad, like it's only okay for her to do the teasing. I finally tried telling her that I don't like it when she does that, but she keeps doing it anyway. She just says I'm being too sensitive. What should I do?? Am I being too sensitive?? (link)
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You are not being too sensitive. Maybe your friend feels the need to make fun of people to mask her insecurities. Tell her that even though she doesn't think it is a big deal, or that what she says is hurtful, it is. If she is a true friend she will respect your feelings and what she says to you. If she keeps doing it, you might think about having another friend talk to her for you. Maybe if she gets another perspective besides yours she will realize how this affects you.
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My friend has been married for 3 years. She and her husband are expecting their first child in December. (It's a boy.) They are trying to pick a name. Her husband really likes the name Jonathan, but he doesn't know that she has an ex-boyfriend named Jonathan. Do you think she should tell him about her ex or just go ahead and name the baby Jonathan anyway? (link)
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If it stirs up bad memories for her then she should absolutely tell him! Once you name a baby, it's for life. Couples should avoid all names that stir up bad memories for either spouse. I'm sure he could find a name that he likes just as much without bringing up past relationships.
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My boyfriend and I haven't been going out for that long. When we're kissing and really into it, he tries to finger me and I really am not ready for that right now. How do I explain/tell him I very much enjoy kissing him, but I don't want things to go too far just yet? (link)
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Tell him just what you said in your question. If he is someone that you should be with, he will understand and respect that. If he doesn't respect your wishes, I suggest you dump him. Tell him you don't want to go to far, and you want to get to know him better before you start getting really serious.
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I met my current boyfriend at the beginning of summer. We have been off and on many times. I'm 15 and he's turning 16 soon. I have no idea what to do about his birthday because first of all, we don't know eachother that well yet and we haven't been going out for a long time. Should I even get him anything? Or is a special birthday call, hug, kiss (I know it sounds lame) good enough? (link)
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It might be nice to take him out to his favorite restaurant for dinner or lunch. Don't feel like you have to buy him a present, especially if you don't know him very well. A nice greeting card and a lunch or dinner with just the two of you should be wonderful!
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I love my boyfriend with all my heart. He is the best thing that ever happened to me, but he has this one little problem. He likes to play by the hand a little too much. He doesn't hurt me or anything, but like if I'm sitting at the computer, he will pass by me and knock me upside the head, or flick the back of my neck or something. It doesnt hurt but its really annoying. Sometimes I yell at him because i get so agrivated, but that doesnt seem to help. I also try telling him, but I just think its a really bad habit he has. How do I get him to stop. (link)
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You need to tell him that what he does aggravates you and to please stop it. Tell him it's destracting. You could also make a deal with him. Ask him if there's something that you do that annoys him and tell him that you will stop doing that if he stops playing by the hand. Also have a concequence for each of you or both of you if you break your deal.
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Ok my sister annoys me so much im gunna be 14 and she iz 18 but n e wayz i have been wid my bf for more then 10 months and she iz alwayz sayin i like her bfz brotha which iz so not tru and she iz like yea when u go to BP then Sam can play football and u cna be hiz cheerleader and i was liek uh.... no she was like well iz not like u r still gunna be with him when u go to high skool i mean it pisses me off juss cuz im younger duznt mean i cnat be in a relationship that has lasted longer then hers iz right now i mean come on i may turnin 14 but i kno my bf iz the 1 and she tries and tellz me that he iznt and o u wont be togetha in high skool and all thiz shyt and it really pisses me off so wat do u think?!?!?!
help plz....... (link)
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I don't think your sister has any right to put down your relationship with your boyfriend. She needs to respect your relationship as what it is, a relationship. You should probably tell her this, but be polite and respectful! She might become defensive if you yell at her. However, it is very unlikely that you will marry the guy you are currently dating. People change and it is almost guarunteed that you will grow apart. You might be together in high school, but you probably won't be together forever.
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