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heyy, im Rachel and im 15 w/ blonde hair & blue eyes. im a sophmore at RMHS [soon to be junior!].
i LOVE meeting new people & helping people w/ problems, so ask away!!



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advice

14/m
what are ways that i can pull my girlfriend aside from all our friends and get our first kiss? like what are ideas that i can do? what are things that i can bring up the romantic event once i pull her aside?
Background: she has been getting annoyed with me for absolutly no apparent reason, sometimes just because im around-we go to the same school, and are in the same classes, and hang around the same group of friends. sometimes i get the impression that she gets annoyed whenever i pull her aside for a while just to cuddle with her, or talk by ourselves, its like she thinks i am hogging her from everyone, when really its just some of our friends are so obsessive with her (they are almost all girls, we have like 2 or 3 other guy friends) and they (a few girls) like obessess with her and shit. so how can i pull her aside without her thinking im trying to hog her to myself?? thanks for the help!

hey! wow ne girl would kill for a sweet boyfriend, idk why she's acting that way =\ well, ask her to go to the movies w/ just you 2 sometime..and then you can talk alone and stuff. i dont think you're "hogging her" ..its normal. you just want to be w/ your girlfriend and maybe she's trying to show she's lost interest? i doubt its that bad, but just try talking to her about it and maybe you could call her when you know that she's not w/ anyone and she's at home w/out any friends and all that and just explain to her how you feel and let her know that you arent trying to hog her away from her friends and that you do want some time alone though. i'm sure she'll understand! =) i hope i helped, good luck!!!!!

xoxo love always,
*rachel*

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I need some advice on love. Well i like this guy (but i dont know him)and i the only thing ive said to him is that i was srry for running into him in the hallway. How do i get this guy to notice me if hes in a completly different world from me?

haha heyyyyy kt! i love you =) well, you need to talk to him babe. if you want him to notice you, then get to know him! he's a nice guy trust me, i'm friends w/ him and i've gotten to know him...and he's really cool. so go for it! =) i know you don't really want to talk to him but if you want to get to know him and notice you and stuff, then bring up a convo. just a simple one like "hey whats up!" or something like that..its a good start. then you can start talking to him about other things, and just ask if you want his sn..i know you know it but you said you deleted it or something so i can always tell you again =) well i hope i helped!! love you sweetheartttttttt


xoxo love always,
*rachel*

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Alright well theres this girl i think i like but i have never met her before.And she likes someone else. Also im a very shy person what should i do?
12 Male

hey! well just stay friends w/ her for now b/c since she likes someone else, you shouldn't get your hopes up too high b/c that would break your heart if she doesn't like you back b/c of the guy she already likes. and if you haven't met her yet, then i think you should meet her when ever you can b/c sometimes people can be so much different online than they are in person and whatnot. being shy is okay, you'll learn to open up soon! =) but my suggestion is that you just be friends w/ her b/c otherwise you are going to have a tremendous heart break...and that wouldn't be cool =( so meet her some time and see how things go! but don't try to take her away from the guy she already likes, just wait it out and be friends until things start to change and you get to know her more =) i hope i helped, good luck!!!


love always, *rachel*

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Ummm well lets see i say your advice column and i was wondering if a 5 inch penis is big.
12 year old male

hey, um hun, don't worry about what size ur penis is, you're fine the way you are.

~*~rachel~*~

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I read the one you gave the other person and I tried it on my Xanga site but it doesn't work. do you have a site that will work on my xanga site? thank you for the help!

hey!!! ooh no its not on the xanga site..its an actual icon site

www.iconator.com

i think thats what you're asking, ask away if you need more help! =)

*rachel

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what site can u go to to get really kool icons? and not badassbuddy.com thx 4 ur help!

hey! oooh i know a really good site-- www.iconator.com they have soo much there, its great! i hope i helped =)

xoxo love always,
x33 rach

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My boyfriend and I have been going out for a while. We tell eachother everything. The other day I was talking to one of our friends and he was saying that there was rumor that my bf kissed another girl. Should I ask him or should I leave it because I trust he wouldnt do that?
Female 13

hey! well i think you should definitely confront him about it (when the time is right of course) and just casually bring it up. don't make it sound like you're mad b/c you don't know if this rumor is true or not. but just talk to him about it and since you guys are bf/gf, then you definitely should tell each other about these kinds of things!!! cheating is wrong and if he did kiss another girl, let him know that cheating isn't right. but i hope that you can keep his trust and know that he didn't kiss another girl...like i said, just talk to him about it and you can work things out that way. i hope things work out!! i hope i helped, good luck =)

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Thanks soo much for helping me out!!!!!!! You are awesome!!!!! but i have another problem. my ex boyfriend broke up with me about 2 or 3 weeks ago. and when he broke up with me he told me he wanted to be really good friends. so i was like ohk. and at first we were really good friends and stuff. but now he makes fun of me and hes kinda mean to me...do you think he really doesnt like me anymore and just said he wanted to be friends when he broke up with me or do you think its cause he still likes me and hes just doing that to get my attention????

hey! no prob. !!! well guys can be like that sometimes..he might be trying to get your attention, but then again, you never really know w/ guys. so i think you should just bring this up w/ him and be like, "whats up w/ you being mean to me and stuff and not being as close of friends as we used to be?" --or somewhere along those lines, and if he continues to be like that, then maybe just stay away from him for a while...he'll come back around if he really does like you still. and when you feel that things have changed and he hasnt come around to you first (which he'll probably do anyway) then come to him and start a convo and see how things go! i hope i helped, good luck!!!! =)

xoxo love always,
--rach

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Female,16
The guy i like is really shy about girls, hes never had a gf before, and we are really good friends. ive liked him a long time, and i figured it was just time to tell him. I guess he really had no clue.. yesterday i talk to him alone after school, and said you know i like you and he was silent scuffing his feet and half smiling and he said THANK YOU.. tell me what is that suppose to mean? thank yOU!? and then he said wow this really caught me off guard i i.. and his friend walked by and siad lets go, i need a ride home, so hes said well i guess ill talk to you later and left...do you think maybe he jsut didnt know what to say, usually he'd say oh well lets jsut be friend or somthing like that but he said thank you, and its such a neutral comment... plus most people i know think he likes me.. so do you think maybe he was jsut caught off guard and didnt know what to say or what?

hey! it might be b/c since he's never had a gf..maybe the fact that now he knows that you love him, he's thankful for that...and maybe he does like you, ya never know. but i think you should ask him, b/c it really sounds like you two have a chance! but it really does sound like when he said "thank you" it sounds like he meant that for one, he's thankful that you like him..and he probably took it as a compliment. so like i said, you should ask him about it and talk to him more about everything..good luck!! i hope i helped =)


xoxo love always,
*rachel*

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Hey..im a girl thats 14 years old....Okay i think i like one of my good friends. I wanna go out with him but i dont know if it will ruin our friendship and i dont want to ruin our friendship. He sometimes acts like he likes me but I dont know if he does. We thought about going out one time but we decided not to. And even though we are just friends and never gone out...we've made out and touched each other and stuff like that before. i dont know what i should do..and all of my friends and people that know both of us think that we are going out because we act like it...i guess. i need HELP!!!

hey! if you really think its going to ruin the friendship, then just stay really good friends..b/c if you are unsure of ruining anything, then thats something telling you that maybe you should just stay friends. i've had this happen to me, where i liked someone but i wasnt sure if i wanted to go out w/ him b/c of ruining the friendship. and i finally realized that if i was that worried, then maybe i just should stay friends b/c when you really like someone, you don't even think about the friendship being ruined b/c you know it WON'T be. this is b/c if this guy you like is a really good friend, even after you guys break up..you both will still be friends, being that you both are so close. and so that's important knowing that a good friend can and will do that...so pretty much its up to you, if you really have doubts about the friendship, then keep it as friends..but if you want to try more than a friend, go for it! i'm sure everything will work out =) i hope i helped! good luck!!!! =)

xoxo love always,
*rachel*

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Hey rach,
I honestly have not been in a relationship since august, and i kind of get jealous of all my friends who have boyfriends right after another. Is that my fault? Should I do something to change myself?

hey!!! hun, its not your fault at all...its just the fact that you havent come along a guy that you really like that much. i know its hard but if you like someone enough to the point where you go out w/ them, then that should be sooo special...rather than some people who might get gf/bf after gf/bf and so on. so when you come across a guy you really like, take that for advantage and cherish him for as long as you can...personally i dont think people who have relationship after relationship after relationship really love each other (but then again, at this age we arent in love...but you know what i mean). a lot of people are single for a while and its not a bad thing..things happen for a reason and i'm sure God has a plan that you will meet someone one day and you will have SUCH a special relationship w/ them. it could be tomorrow, next week, 2 months from now...who knows. but just be patient, b/c good things come to those who wait...and i'm positive that you'll find someone! but if you like someone, then go for it sweetheart!!!! i love you and i hope i helped, good luck =)

xoxo love always,
x3 dewoody

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to put it simply.. about 5 guys like me a lot right now and are fighting over me... i cant just pick one though because i feel a connection
with every single one of them. i dont know what to do.. do i pick one of them or just try to find someone other than them so i wouldnt be "picking"?? please help me

hey! i suggest that you just stay friends w/ all of them for now, and then maybe later on you can work out something where you can go out w/ one that you find you really like. but its up to you, if you want to stay friends w/ all of them right now til you find the one you like a lot or b/c you dont want to ruin anything..then thats cool! i hope i helped, good luck =)

xoxo love always,
x3 rachel

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i want a boyfriend, but there is no one at my skool that i like except for one person, but she's a gurl so that's never gonna happen. Anyway, i need a way to meet cute guys and actually get to see them often enough to be able to date. how can i do that?

hey! well do you go to any parties, or church (i know that might sound stupid, but hey there are some pretty cute guys at my church haha!!) and um...maybe around your neighborhood or something? also, your friends might have cute guy friends that live around you and stuff..i really hope i helped, i couldnt really think of anything but i tried! good luck =)

xoxo love always!
x3 rachel

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i heard your pritty good at this, so i need some adice on this...i love my gf, shes my whole world, shes perfect, anything i can ever ask for, and i respect her and most of her choices...but i want to have oral sex with her...i haven't asked yet, but iam pritty sure she will say no...but i really want to do it, and i don't want to force it on her...what should i do!?!?

hey! well even though you really want to do it, like you said..she might not want to. you can go ahead and ask her when you feel comfortable and you two are alone and whatnot..and then if she says no hopefully you can respect that and wait til a later time to do it when you both feel comfortable, etc. but if you both choose to do it...be careful!! good luck =) hope i helped!

xoxo love always,
x3 rachel

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Okay, I have this friend that I really like a lot. She is such a great friend who has always been there for me, and helped me. Lately we've grown kind of distant. Whenever I talk to her we get in stupid fights. Shes been really moody, and two faced. Please help me. Thanks.

hey! u should really sit down and talk w/ her about it..worrying about it isnt going to do anything about it unless you talk about it w/ her. and let her know that you mean so much to her and you hate to see you guys' friendship like this (getting so distant). you should also let her the way you feel...about her being 2 faced and moody and all. and if she freaks out on you and does it again, then maybe theres a reason why you guys are getting further apart. but thats not cool when you have a friend who means so much to you, so i really suggest talking to her! that way it should hopefully work things out. i hope i helped! good luck =)


love always,
x3 rachel x3

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holla, i have a serious question for you, ok here it goes, my gf is 2 years younger then me...is that a bad thing? =/

hey! well i dont think its THAT bad, but its up to you..i mean if you really love her, then go w/ it. and if other people think its bad, then just as long as you know that you both love each other, it shouldnt be a problem. like if you were a lot more than 2 years younger or older than each other, that would be pretty weird but just as long as you guys love each other, then i think its all good =) i hope i helped!

love always,
*rach*

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I'm bisexual and I'm totally in love with my best friend. She knows I'm bi but she doesn't think I like her and I dunno how to tell her cuz I'm afraid it might change our relationship as friends...

hey! well if you really want to wait b/c you feel like it'll ruin your friendship, then wait. but if you guys are really close and she's a good friend then when you decide to tell her she should definitely understand. i think you should tell her whenever you feel comfortable, and bring it up in a conversation like, "hey i have a question and i was wondering..." and then just be like, "how do u feel about bisexual people and lesbos and all that?" and then let her say what she has to say, and then tell her ... i hope i helped! good luck, hope everything works out for you =)


love always,
rachel

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Okay..i've liked this guy since the begining of the year..and i just found out that hes moving to florida in 2 weeks..i live in NC..but still..yah..and supposedly he was gonna ask me out..i dunno..plz help!

hey! well long distance always sucks and everyone is different; for some, long distance isnt a problem, but then for others..its a big deal. so i think that if you guys really like each other, then go for it and see if it works out! but if u really dont want to b/c of distance or something like that, then stay friends and you guys can always keep in touch =)

i hope i helped! good luck =)


love always,
*rachel*

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anyone know any cute site quotes besides...Quotecraze.vzz.net (what used to be Hellz-Angels) and FireHotQuotes.com?

hey! my friend has a quote site and i think its soo cute:
http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=xgOrgeOus_quOtesx

and then you can also go to www.google.com and type in "quotes" or "quote sites" or something like that to find them! i hope i helped =)


love always,
*rachel*

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Okay so I have broken out pretty bad latly and they are starting to go away but not very much. I was picking at them but now I stopped. But how can I get rid of them and the redness of the ones i picked at? And please don't say proactiv or anything really expensive. And only things that will REALLY help!

hey! i would advise not using any chemicals AT ALL. nothing like those skin care lotions that "help you not break out" b/c they really dont help ..they just put chemicals into your body. i would just wash your face every night before you go to bed, or every morning when you wake up, and change your pillow case every couple days, and drink a lot of water! also, dont eat a lot of fatty foods (i mean you can still eat some, just not a lot) and eat less candy and things like that.

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