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Q: lately i've been getting uncontrollably aroused by guys with lip rings.. when i see one, i feel the urge to jump on them.. i dont know why i think theyre hot! it just is.. i dont know what to do or why im feeliung this way.. HELP!

Honestly, it's probably just something that turns you on! Like when a girl has a guyfriend who does something cute or wears something they like, they tend to squeal or act funny. It's normal, you just like it.

Q: Can you get an STD from sharing underwear with someone else who has an STD, even if the underwear is washed?

So long as the underwear was washed there probably isn't any problem. If it was washed in hot water that probably would help matters even more.

Q: okay, so this is just a simple question. but do a majority of girls shave "down there?" like i'm afraid when it comes to when i become intimate with a man that he'll be turned off if its shaved or not? so, what do most girls do? shave, or not?

You pretty much do whatever you want. However you prefer is however you should do it. Girls do it both ways, and it isn't abnormal to do it or not. I feel like most girls who are sexually active do, but not always.

Q: I really want to change so badly. Please give as much advice as you can. Im now starting to lose some weight but how can i become more motivated to lose it and to get up and want to go running ? I aslo whould like to become more outgoing and to stop caring so much about what people think of me. To stand up for my self . I need to know how to do this though people always tell me stop caring so much about what other people say but i cant i dont know how? Please help i need it. I need more friends also to become more social i have friends but not enough or not very many close ones. Thanks for your help please explain how i can do all this.

Anyone you will ever meet wants to change. People are always wanting to better themselves and become better people. The first step you need to take is accepting you for you and believing in yourself. Something that would encourage you to lose more weight? You could try listening to uplifting and inspirational music while you excersize, you can not eat extra snacks and stuff in between your big meals. The more you take care of yourself, the more you'll learn to love yourself and accept you for who you are.

Q: my dad watches porn late at night when me ans my sis are suppposed to be a sleep...i hate it..does he not love my mom...i don't know wat to do...i told my mom and she was really disapionted...i wish i could help i don't know wat to do...i'm scared they're going to get a divorce...

That's probably really odd to watch your dad do, but it isn't abnormal. It's completely normal for all men, married or not, to watch porn. Even happily married men like to do it. This doesn't mean at all that he doesn't love your mom. I don't think it's something you have to worry about as far as them getting a divorce.

Q: I don't have a flat stomach so I'm going to do cardio excersizes to fix that. I really love to run and running helps me stay in shape and it's the only fun thing I like to do for excersizing, but there's a problem. Where I am, it's 100 degrees and I can't run around in that kind of heat! I almost passed out just by walking because its soo hott! I don't have a tredmill, I'm too young to go to the gym, and I can't use anyone else's tredmill. How can I still run, and what are some more excersizes I can do that will have the same effect on me as running to help me lose the fat in my stomach? (I already know about sit ups and crunches.) And what are some healthy foods to eat?

If you have a recreational center or something like that near your home you can go there and run in the indoors where it won't be so hott. You can do crunches to work on your stomach area if you're trying to gain muscle and lose fat there.

Crunches are when you are in the position to do sit-ups, but you don't go all the way to your knees, just half way.

Q: Okay I am 15 and I am very devout, although I'm catholic I follow the belifs in general of Chritianity. I have had a connection with God. This year it was on and off all the time. In may I went to Quebec and Saw the Basillica of Saint Anne de Beaupre(people claim its were heaven and earth meat) and upon entering the church, I felt something and upon entering the main part of the church I felt something and I felt a strong connection to god. Since tyhen the connection is lost. I feel empty now unless in a sancutary. Do any of you (christians only please) know how I can streghten my connection with god>

Sometimes I feel like I'm seperated from God, too. Try reading scripture everday, or at least a bible verse. Connect with God, write in a diary and tell Him about your day. Pray to Him that your connection between him will get better. He listens to everything we have to say. Go to church as much as you can and hear his word.

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Hi! I'm Becky, I'm from Ohio. I love to help people and I feel like it isn't bad to have questions and want answers. I think that there are no stupid questions, but stupid answers. :) If you need help on something (anything!) just ask.

I go to THS and I love it. Some of my general interests are singing, dancing, music, cats, oversized sunglasses, sweet people, doing random stuff, loving people, helping people, writing, tennis, color guard, and talking - of course =]