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hi alex,I really dont get guys, especially this one guy that i have been talking to for a while now.He is a sweet and nice guy, and he always makes me smile. recently he told me that he likes me,and i have been doing a lot of thinking about him, i just cant get him out of my mind. i want to be more than friends with him,but i dont think he feels the same way even tho he telles me he cares about me and that he likes me. Im so confused, i really dont whant to get hurt again, but then again i want to take this risk.. wat should i dooo??? (link)
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Guys are different than girls. Girls generally are better with expressing themselves, unlike guys. Guys usually have trouble showing the real side of themselves and can sometimes come off wrong. If he told you he likes you, then I would say you should believe him. In relationships, there has to be a sense of trust on both sides. Even if he doesn't act like he cares about you, I'm sure he does. Guys sometimes put up a sort of shield to prevent themselves from being hurt. If he says he likes you, he's at least putting down his barrier a little, so he trusts you. You have to return the favor. I would say believe in what he's saying, and hopefully it will work. Good luck.
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Alex,
Your advice column makes my life. But anyways, my boyfriend and I have been going out for a month and I am not sure what to get him for Christmas. I don't want to get him clothes or a gift card, but something more personal, but not too personal because we have only been going out for a month.
Help!
Thanks for any advice you have...
Sincerely,
The Confused Christmas Lover (link)
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In my opinion, it's hard to find a gift that any guy would like, especially when you want it to be somewhat personal. I would say that you should think of what your boyfriend is into, whether it's music, sports, car, or anything like that. Then narrow it down from there. Music you could get him a CD from his favorite band, and sports you could buy him a jersey from his favorite team. Also, I'm not a big fan of it, but some guys wear necklaces and stuff. Depending on if your boyfriend likes it or not, you could get him a necklace. But if you did, stick to silver. Gold makes you come off as way to into him to be giving him something like that (plus it's expensive). Silver is casual and a lot of guys wear it, and it can be personal depending on the style. Hope that helps.
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Alex, I really like you. I'm not really sure if you like me back, sometimes when you look at me I get these little butterflies in my tummy. You're so romantic and handsome. You answering all these questions just proves to me that you're a kind and caring person. We hang out a lot sometimes. I also like your best friend, Atticus. He's really dreamy and has a great personality. When we're all together, I just get so confused on who to pick to like. I always look for your screen name whenever I sign online. I just like to stare at it, because I'm too scared to im you. You're so dreamy, but so is Atticus. Help me baby! (link)
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I'm gonna assume this is fake, but it was entertaining to read.
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what if I am a really shy person, what should i do then?
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My advice still wouldn't change. In order for anyone to like someone, they need to talk and get a relationship going, even if it's as friends. You have to become friends with someone before you can become anything more. Sorry but that's really all the advice I can give you.
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alex brother im liking a girl but were real good friends. she doesnt seem to acknowledge me as anything more than a friend. what can i do to make her wanna consider us more than friends (link)
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I'd say the first thing you have to do is tell her. If she doesn't know you like her, she won't have any reason to look at you differently. If she knows you like her, then she'll have to consider if she likes you and that will at least get her thinking about you. And if you're good friends with her, then you guys should hang out sometime. If you think it would be too awkward just you two, then hang out in a group. If she doesn't like you, it wouldn't be a big deal, you guys can just go back to being friends, and you'll have to move on. Good luck.
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hey alex! You are very attractive. i think i may be starting to like you, but i am not sure if i should talk to you. You seem like a cool kid, any dvice? (link)
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I think you should talk to me. Or you could tell me who you are. If you never talk to the person you like, how are they supposed to like you or go out with you? It would be pretty hard. But that's just my opinion/advice. It's still your call.
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hey man i need help i like this girl and she dont like me back.. what a bitch right (link)
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Just because a girl doesn't like you doesn't mean she's a bitch. If you're close to her, ask her to hangout sometime, whether movies by yourselves or in a group somewhere. If you aren't close to her, try talking to her more often until you guys are friends. When you get to the point when you're close enough, you can try asking her out. You can't make her like you, all you can do is try. Good luck.
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Hey Alex,
I'm told from a girl that I'm not the "boyfiend type", and that I'm just a nice guy and everything. I really like her. How can I become the "boyfriend" kind of guy. (link)
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This is a hard one. There aren't many things you can do. You can try and make yourself look better so she might like you, or maybe be a little flirty, but that's about it. Good luck, and if you like her, then go for her!
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heyy i have a problem...my friend told me shed bring to me this dance so i could dance with my boyfriend but then she backstabed me and my boyfriend hates me so what should i do...? not be friends with her or be friends with her...? (link)
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Well there are a few things you can do in this situation. In my opinion, it depends on the reason she didn't bring you to the dance. If something family-related popped up, then I would understand. But if she blew you off to hang out with another group of people, then that's a different story. If she apologized and you think she truly meant it, then I would forgive her and be friends with her. If she didn't apologize or if she did but it seemed like she didn't really mean it, then it's your call. It depends on if you think your relationship with your friend is worth something or not. Hope it works out, and good luck.
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hi. i have a problem. my family believes in not dating until your 16 but in the past years kids have asked me out and i liked them but i have to say no. i don't know what to do, should i betray my parents, or lose out with that boy? (link)
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Well, usually parents make rules like that because they don't want your grades to drop. What I would suggest doing is asking your parents again if you can go out with people and confirm that your grades won't change if you go out with him. I think that's their biggest worry. Good luck with it.
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is where you live in canada lol i am not a creep me and my freind were fighting if it was or not so i decided to ask lol (link)
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No, acutally I don't live in Canada. I live in the United States.
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alex,
theres this boy that i like but he's my friends brother and idk if it would be weird if i asked out my friends brother((hes also 2 years older than me)). and if i do ask him out and he says no then my friend might make fun of me for the rest of my life because i see him alot. what should i do?
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Well, there's really just one question you have to ask yourself. Do you like the boy enough to get teased and not care? If you like him a lot, then you should just go for him and not care what other people think. Plus, if he does say no to you, then a real friend wouldn't make fun of you. That's how you can tell real friends from bad friends. If she's a real friend, she would be fine with it and wouldn't mind you going out with him. It's all up to you what you do. Good luck.
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what do i do if the boy i like is asking me who i like? should i tell him that i like him or should i not? please help me? what if he laughs at me or doesn't like me?
sincerely,
needing for love help (link)
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Well, this happened with me, except it was different because it was a girl asking me. What I did was I told her that I liked her and that was that. Nothing happened, she didn't laugh. It was fine. If he does laugh at you, then you shouldn't even really like him because he is rude. And even if he doesn't like you, it doesn't mean it's the end of the world. There's plenty of fish in the sea. Good luck and I hope it works out between you two.
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alex my two friends like the same guy and he only likes 1 of them.the other 1,whos kinda a control freak and needs thing 2 go her way, is the 1 he doesnt like no they wont talk 2 each other and they just fight when they do talk.the friend he doesnt like is trying to ruin the other 1s life. please help me b 4 it gets ugly and im pulled in the middle. thanx (link)
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Well this has happened to me before unfortuanetly. Me and the other person weren't friends for a while, but then we realized that a girl (a boy in this case) shouldn't stop our friendship. For the one that the boy doesn't like, I think she reallys need to get over herself. It's like the saying, "You win some, you lose some." She just has to deal with the fact that the boy she likes doesn't like her back, and that's that. As for the one he does like, she didn't do anything wrong. It's not her fault if the boy likes her. And it's not fault she likes him. She can like whoever she wants. Just remind your friends that they are best friends and shouldn't stop being friends just because of a boy, because sooner or later, I'm sure neither one of the girls will like him, and they still won't be friends. And then the fight would be for no reason and stupid. Good luck.
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Hey Alex,
I'm goin out with this girl but there's one thing wrong. I like this other girl. I'm not sure but i think the girl i like likes me. Do you think you can help me out with this one. (link)
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Well, your situation really depends on who you like more: your girlfriend or the other girl you like. I would also try and talk it out with your girlfriend, but that's up to you. You have a decision to make of which one you like more. And I'll leave you with one last line to think about, "Don't leave the one you love for the one you like, because the one you like will leave you for the one they love." Hope that helps.
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im too nervous and scred to ask the k id if he wants to hang out oer the summer... (link)
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If you like him then it shouldn't be that hard. If you don't want to do it in person, just call him. And if you're really nervous, then have a friend ask for you. Even if he rejects you, it won't be so bad. You can just like someone else. Good luck.
p.s.-Can I know who the person is and who you are? If you have my screenname, please im me and tell me who the kid is.
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my friend likes the kid i like and she is like in love but i like him and he likes me..but she would be crushed what do i do? (link)
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On this situation, you have to evaluate what you like more: your friendship with your best friend or a boyfriend that you'll likely break up with. This is just my opinion, but I would not go out with the kid to keep your relationship with your friend. You wouldn't want to lose a strong relationship with your best friend just because you like a boy that she likes. So I would say don't go out with the boy, and stay friends with your best friends. Good luck.
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my friends keep telling me that i smell like shit and that i should go buy new clothes and that i need to get a tan, someone left me a note in my locker saying i smell and to take a shower, but showers arnt my "thing" i want people to like me but i think they should stop bugging me about how i smell.
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Well, this is just my opinion, but if people are telling you smell then maybe you really should take a shower. If showers aren't your thing, then how do you stay clean? I'm sorry, but on this problem all I can really say is to just take a shower. That's all you really can do.
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k, i like this kid but hes kinda shy ish. we've talked alot this year but i dont think we will next year and i want to talk to them next year but i dont want it to seem okward
iight,
what's a good idea?
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Well, I think you should make sure you keep in touch with the kid over the summer, so that you guys don't feel awkward next time school comes around and you try and talk. You can also just tell the kid you like him and see how he reacts. If he says he likes you too, then you can go out with him and stay close. Hope I helped.
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Hey Alex. I really like a girl in my class. She says she likes me too but she wont go out with me until September. Also, I think she likes one of my best friends and she is lying that she likes me what do I do? (link)
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Ok well I've had experience with this one. It didn't really work out with me, so hopefully you can figure this out. I think you should ask her why she won't go out with you until September. Also, just go up to her and straight forward ask her if he likes your friend. Lastly you should go up to your friend that you think she likes and ask them if they would ever go out with her. If they say no, then she may not go out with you, but at least you won't get it rubbed in by your friend when he goes out with her. If he says he would go out with her, then there's another problem. He may not be such a good friend after all. That separates the good friends from the bad friends. Well good luck with your problem and I hope this helped.
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