I've been dating this guy for the past 2 years (on and off) and I am completely head over heels for him. Before we started dating he dated this chick named Emily. I just found out that Emily STILL likes him. And I feel kind of uncomfortable about the situation. I mean, it's his ex, which means he's had feelings for her in the past, and maybe now that he knows that she likes him STILL, those feelings will come back. I told him that I was worried about it, and he looked me in the eyes and said "I love you more than anything and everything. Do you believe me?" and I told him yes, I did. and he was like "then why are you so worried?"
and I explained to him about how she was his ex and how that meant he had feelings for her at one point in time. and he was like "I dated her like what? 2 years ago?" and that wasn't enough for me. Just because it was 2 years ago doesn't mean he can't like her again. and he said "Just because I dated her doesn't mean I had feelings for her. I was desperate." (or he said something like that. Very close to it.)
So, what should I do about his ex? I've seen her flirting with him (resting her head on his shoulder, laughing at EVERYTHING he says, but she only actually touches him when she thinks I'm not around.), and I try to ignore it, for my sake and hers. I'm not the fighting type. I try to be nice to everybody. So what should I do? My boyfriend knows how I feel about it, and he's assured me that he's not interested in her. Should I just leave it alone?
anonymous -
Hey, I can relate to this one! I feel the same way about my boyfriend and his ex.
But what my main concern here is why is she still in the picture? I see that they both still hang out with each other, are they still friends?
I understand how you feel, cuz I think the exact same. But if you two have been dating for two years, assuming the on-and-off pattern hasn't happened too much, there's something about you that he loves. With the Emily girl, if he still had feelings for her, you wouldn't be with him today.
I know it's hard to try and ignore the situation for the sake of causing a scene, but trust him. From what I can see, he seems sincere. With Emily, sure she can flirt, but she can't have what you got...her man. I wouldn't worry about it too much. Hope this helps!
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hey well i need some advice..you see well this is kind of weird but I am 14, and i have not had my period yet. I dont know when I am going to get it. My friends all have it and have boobs. I dont want to talk with anyone about it, like a doctor or family. Please help. When do I know I am going to get it? Thanks xox
xox -
Every woman's body is different, so you have nothing to worry about! If it makes you feel better, my mom had hers when she was 17.
As for knowing when you will get it is kinda tricky. Most women usually have pre-menstrual symptoms such as bloating, cramping, aching stomachs, and fatigue before they get their period. However, when I started I felt normal just like any other day so my only advice is to have a pad or tampon handy just in case.
As for the boobs comment, everyone blooms at different stages in their life. For example, I didn't fully develop until junior-senior year of high school. So don't worry.
Best advice is to be patient. :) It'll come in due time.
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tonight i was at my boyfriends house and ive been with him since october.. 16/f.. just recently i fell in love with him and its an amazing relationship ..i was at his house tonight and he and i were messing around and i suddenly have never wanted to have sex so bad in my life.. im a virgin so im kind of opposed to it.. but i mean im in love with this guy and he means so much to me its just.. being a virgin i get so much respect and i love the respect i get from it.. im afraid if i lose it im gonna regret it somehow or another.. i dont know though.. i really dont know.. what should i do.. i mean i want to so bad because its just so .. there.. but i just.. dont know.. by the way hes a virgin to.. hes 18/m me-junior him-senior
anonymous -
It's natural to feel the sudden urge to have sex, because after all, you're still young and raging hormones are on the loose! But one drawback of being young is being naive and not knowing what you want.
Losing your virginity is a very drastic decision. Taking into consideration your opposing views to it, consider what your virginity means to you. If it means a part of experimentation during your teenage years, or whether it's losing it to someone you love, think of your sentimental value of sex. If it's to experiment, no one's stopping you. If it's based on love, make sure that you're in love first. Will this guy stick with you after a fight? Is he reliable, trustworthy, and responsible? Do you see a future with this guy?
To really think about it, think of those couples who are devoted to each other for years and years, but break up because of sex. If the sex goes bad, so does the lover...will this guy stick with you? Although you may love him, does he love you...?
Think of it this way, if you do it now, and you two are still dating for a long time, it won't mean as much to you. If you choose to wait, and the guy truly loves you, he will respect your decision and be willing to wait. This way, it'll be more intimate and genuine instead of lust.
With sex, a lot is at stake. stds, teen pregnancy, and plain out emotional turmoil. With whatever decision you choose, make sure you do your research. Safety first!
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