My name is Jessica a.k.a. Gessyka
I love to talk on AIM online, and I love to hang out with friends. I teach myself how to play the keyboard and on it I can play "Fur Elise", "Heart and Soul" with both hands, and a few other songs. My birthday is March 31 1990.
I love to write, draw, play video games. Im not MUCH a tom boy but I like a lot of things that boys like (like skateboarding, video games, hockey, etc.)
I like to help people out very much and I'll help you out as much as I can if you need advice.
I've been through a lot of things, and I'm only 14. Some people think I have the perfect life but in reality, I DO have a lot of problems...
I've had people who passed away, crying all the time, people have told me to kill myself (sluts), I have seen people talk about suicide...I know some people who tried killing themselves, so many things that I'd rather not discuss that are pretty horrible, and a lot of other things now that are on my mind...good and bad and...*cough* puberty too...=(
Oh and I also believe in psychics, spirits (only good) and I'm a Christian Catholic.
MY BFF/Cousin IS RACHAEL! Button Rachael (lol)
Oh and I have a goofy sense of humor but if it's time to get serious, I get right down to it.
E-mail: truevalue53@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: USA, CT
Occupation: School, babysit (once in a while)
Age: 14
AIM: Infinityo0o (or) Met3oralp
Member Since: November 10, 2003
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Last Update: February 27, 2005
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Me and my best freind really like eacother alot. We have a history of 'relationships' in the past, but it was middle school, and I don't really count it...But anyways, back to the present. He was my date to homecoming (which was a month ago) and at the dance, he told me he still liked me. Well, i've always liked him, so i thought everything would be cool and work out. A week passes by and he says nothing. I confront him, and he tells me he wants to wait for his license. Well, he now has his license, and has for a week. But he still hasent done anything. He acts like he likes me, and I'm posotive he does, but i'm tired of waiting. Hes told all his friends (mostly girls, that ask him whats going on between us) that he was going to ask me out this week, but guess what? HE HASENT. What should I do? (And no, I dont want to be the one to ask him out) Thank you! (link)
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Okay, well, in this situation most people would probably play hard to get if they are that kind of person...but if he's not talking to you right now DON'T play hard to get because that could ruin your friendship.
You really don't have to ask him out. Just confront him or maybe even write him a letter. That's probably the easiest to do....especially if he's your best friend, he should understand.
Just let him know how you're feeling because that's the only way he'll probably understand. If you like him like a boyfriend then don't go out with anyone else right away if you're positive he likes you. If you start going out with another guy this could ruin it if he likes you and if he was going to act on that and ask you out. He probably feels intimidated because he probably knows that sometime soon you expect him to ask you out....so he may just want it to be perfect. Just have a little patience and let him approach you.
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so i'm sailing aboard a ship n noticed there are a few holes in it. microsoft has told my friend that we shud fill them. what shud we fill them with??? we could use socks but we rnt sure cos they mite just soak up the water from the sea n the earth will b dry! can u suggest a sock substitte? (link)
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Um...... uh......butter would do the trick...Yup uh huh, uh huh.
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I met a guy in a chat room....We have a lot in common and a lot of the same interests. I am 15 and he is 37...he looks way younger. I have been hanging out with him after school and at the mall. I want to date him. I am very attracted to him and he is SO nice and sweet to me. He takes me to lunch, etc. Should I get involved with him even though we have a huge age difference? I don't think it makes a difference. (link)
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No way...I'm sorry but...girl thats two years older than just turning a teenager. That is way too young. I could understand if you were an adult. That's illegal. He obviously doesn't care for you as much as you thought he did if he's not worried about what your parents would think. And don't you think it's a bit odd that you haven't told your parents yet. If your afraid to tell people than what's the point of going out with this guy...obviously you know somethings wrong about this if you haven't told your parents yet. And even though you havent said that you didnt tell your parents...I could still tell because you didnt mention that it was a problem with them. Have you heard about the people, especially young girls that get abducted all the time from internet searches? Seriously, you better let someone know knwo before it leads to major problems...and trust me, theres a god chance it will. Just becasue he takes you to lunch doesnt mean anything. Really, ditch the guy and help yourself.
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If you're too shy to ask someone out in person is it creepy to write them a note? (link)
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Not at all! I've done the exact same thing. Well, I found out he liked me and I didn't know if it was just a rumor or something...so i found out what his locker number was and wrote him a note, adn eventually he wrote back. But don't get too many people involved, becasue it cuold really ruin it. All of his friends were involved which I didnt care, but all of my friends were involved too and he said in his note that he felt awkward having all my friends crowding around his and my business. And the thing was, he was shy too, and I am majorly shy. Personally, it was the easiest thing I've done regarding a boy.
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ok i'm a teenager and least year i almost commited suicide over a guy i really liked and this year i've been thinking about my father (i have never met him andi really want to know more about him and accually meet him) and my mother will not tell me anything and earlyer today i was ready to write a couples of letters to my family and friends saying how much i love them and stuff like that nad i was ready to take a couples of different strong pills and kill myself but then i stopped and called up the guy i almost killed myself over and i asked him what he thinks other people and himself would feel if i killed myself or died and he said that he would be really upset cuz we went out a couple of times and we've been in each others lives for a long time and he said that he wouldn't know what to do with out me but i don't know i just can't handle all this so someone please tell me what i should do cuz i just feel like takin my life (link)
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Okay...fisrt of all...do not take your life away. The reason for this advice column is to help people like you and I and everyone around us as best we can and even though I'm probably younger than you...I've been through many things in my life. I've even posted some questions myself. I've been through some things like this (not where I wanted to kill myself) but where I just wanted to be alone forever and I would just cry all the time. I've even been to a therapist before and I'm not ashamed to admit it.t to seek help. A great therapist. I know everybody around you is probably saying the same thing but trust me...there would be no point to making your family miserable. If you love this guy...no matter what happens to your relationship, nothing can cause him more pain then seeing you go...if you take your life...think about everyone you love...
Write in a journal....Stay in your room if you just want to be alone. Just don't take your life...
I'm going to be praying for you.Ask me a question if you want more advice...just let me know that your this girl so I know who you are.
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ok well here is the deal i hate these things because they are all alike but i need to no
anyway
ok my friend and i are semi close and he isnt really that cute but today when i passed him in the hall in the morning his eyes caught the light just right and i literally stoped and just stared at him and i mean last year he would make my knees go weak and melt every time i looked into his baby blue eyes (they are like brad pitts eyes in interview with a vampire when he is a vampire not before) and he has the most gorgeous lips but i have to say an ugly nose lol any way the other day i told him his sister told me he had little pink piggy's on his boxers and after i told him hes like well i do see and he showwed me cuase he was wearing them that day and omg i cant stop thinking about him but what i want to know is it love cause i am only in 9th grade or crush or nothing oh and jsut to let you all no io posted before and the title of that post was snibble it was under love relationships (link)
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Okay, well...I don't know you (wink, wink) but the way I got a boy's attention once was dropping a note in his locker. Eventually he responded. But just don't get all your friends involved because that could ruin it (maybe one friend would be the best just to make you comfortable). If you're worried about losing the great friendship you guys have, then I'd say just to take it slowly...because these kind of things take patience. Personally, I don't think its love. I've had times where I thought I loved a boy, but as time went by I noticed I started to like him less and less until I realized it was only a crush. If you keep liking this boy one second, and then the next you don't...or if your not sure, then I think it's onlya crush.
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I keep seeing signs everywhere that read, "You are a brain in a vat." Is this the central computer trying to tell me that the world around me is just an illusion? Or is some philosophy major just messing with my head? (link)
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What do you mean by that?...Repeat the question to me and then explain what you mean...I'm sure I can help.
Sincerely,
Here To Help
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ok i like this kid...lets call him snibble...any way lets get back to the storywel me and him are really good friends and one time he told me that he loved me (then quickly turned away)but didnt say anything except joke with me and all our friends( 12 other people at one table it gets crowded anyway) he acted like nothing happened and went back to the conversations we were having and he has done stuff like that before and then me and him went to the movies together to see scary movie 3 and then some of our friends saw us and were like smushy (me) and snibble (him) are on a date adn i was yelling at them to stop because i didnt want him to think i liked him when i did and he wasnt saying anything and then i asked him if he was upset bout it he said no it was all cool and i like him alot and there have been others little things but any way for the first time this year he called me his freind even though we have hung out (only in school till this year) and i have liked him since the first day of school when he said hi and bugged me till i stoped ignoring him in 8th grade (now in 9th)there are times that i think he likes me and other times i think we are just freinds what should i do becasue i dont wanna ruin our relationship and i donmt wanna ask him out my self i know that narrows it alot and all but i dont wanna unless i am positive (link)
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Hey! I know you! I was there when you submitted this question. I clicked "answer random question" and you popped up.
My advice to you is to just let things flow the way they flow and if your the kind of girl who plays hard to get...go for it!
I know its not good advice but I dont know much to say about these type of things because it all depends on the type of people you are when you and "Snibble" are around each other.
Talk to you later!
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Lately I've become very emotional about stupid stuff (crying, screaming, etc) my mom has been calling me a bitch and my dad just doesn't like to be around me, which I can understand - I don't want to be around myself either. I dislike being around my parents - they ask stupid stuff, and just won't leave me alone. My doctor also thinks I have depression. What can I do to make myself a better person to be around? lately I've just been biting people's heads off - and I honestly don't mean to. HELP!!!! (link)
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Okay, I've been through depression before. Do something you love doing, like other people were saying. I'm only 13 and I've been through a ton of things that make me emotional. I had a headache for months and months and i was starting to get nervous about it and I asked my mom about it so she took me to the doctors. The doctor said that it was stress from always being depressed and then hearing that at 13 made me feel uncomfortable because I'm 13 and I'm always stressed out.
Maybe you can sit down and talk to your parents because I too went through this phase where all I could do was cry and slam doors and i didn't want to be around people.
Do you like to write or do you write often?
Because whenever I'm very ticked off I write whatever comes to my mind. I don't swear but just an example would be if you were very mad you could be like @%&$*%& *** ***** ***(&^%^& (swear) in your notebook.
Maybe you can sit down and ask your parents,(or only one if thats what makes you feel more comfortable)if you could see a therapist which may help you. You can get a special notebook just for how you feel and you can write in it every few times a week and each time you see your therapist you can (if you choose to) show what you write to your therapist which may help.
Being around friends, and family, or writing when I feel alone helps me out a lot, and I write a ton of poems. They eliminate most stress I'm feeling for the day
also you can go to www.joelosteen.com
Best of Luck.
Sincerely,
Here To Help
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is it really bad that i think i'd rather go on a ski trip over thanksgiving than go home to see my family? they drive me nuts. (link)
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No, I don't think it's bad that you'd rather go on a ski trip then going and having Thanksgiving with your family. But they're your family so you may want to re-think that because if you don't want to hurt them you should really have Thanksgiving with them, no matter how much you don't want to. Thanksgiving only comes once a year and you will have plenty other of opportunities to ski, just on Thanksgiving, in my opinion, isn't a good idea.
Maybe if it's possible you could invite some of your family members to the ski trip but if that's not possible then the decision is up to you because personally, I'd go and have Thanksgiving with my family.
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ok at ed white high school there dis boi micheal anderson anyone know him well if u do tell him i like him pplz (link)
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Okay, you might want to re-type your question because people really can't understand you. I highly doubt anybody knows who the kid you like, and even if somebody did know him what will we say? "Oh somebody on the advicenators website wants me to tell you she likes you" sorry but i cant help you and unless you re-type your question another way I doubt anybody else can help you either.
From,
Here To Help
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well, i'm in grade seven and i'm the one outsider in my grade. i'm the one wearing the black makeup, etc. I really like this person alot and i know about at least 6 other girls that like him as well. me and him like most of the same things, hate the same things and we really get along great i know he's "the one"....or at least i think he is. i've always been very opposed to men and this is the first time i've ever liked any guy. what should i do to show him how i feel? and while i'm asking questions, how can i make some people take me seriously? most people know i'm crazy, fun, outgoing but some just don't take what i say seriously. (link)
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To tell you the truth...I'm in a way, the outsider in the 8th grade. I have friends and things lke that but I'm just vey shy and everyone tries to push me and encourage me to talk louder.
I've been through the same situation with boys countless times.
The truth is, i like some very cute boys in my grade but i don't know if they feel the same way I do. but I'm not about to change myself for tehm if that's what they're looking for, and you shouldn't either.
If you really like this guy then ust be yourself, that's really all the advice I have to give you. You just continue talkin to him and be honest with him from the beginning. Just because other girls like him doesn't mean he's necessarily going to choose one of them. If people dont take what you say seriously.....you may want to talk about some serious things sometimes if that's what you normally dont talk about. Maybe soon I'll contact you again and answer your question if I have more advice but Im sorry, that's lal I have to give you know.
Email me anytime
truevalue53@yahoo.com
sincerely,
Here To help
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How does one keep their voice in good condition during the three-month span of everyday musical practice? {ie, practice for a musical}
I'm aiming to a lead role and I want to know how to keep my voice intact. (link)
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Well, to keep your voice intact your obviously going to need to practice everyday, and do different warm-up excercises so you don't strain your voice from practicing too much.
I also heard that (and I dont know if you like this) that green tea helps the voice a lot. If not regular tea may do the trick with not much sugar.
Thanks for listening and thank you for your question!
Sincerely,
Here To Help
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The musical director at my theatre company has asked everyone who plays an instrument to bring it with them to the next rehearsal. I travel to rehearsals on the bus so I'm not sure whether I should. The cello doesn't belong to me but to the County music service although the case is my own( it's a hard case at least). The cello is on my Household Insurance.
Do you think I should bring it or not? I have been specifically asked to bring it because there is a shortage of bass instruments. (link)
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Dear Transporting a Cello,
I really think you should ask permission from the County Music Service first, and if that doesn't matter yes, I think you should bring it.
As long as it means that nothing bad will happen to it. It's it your hands and as long as you are guarding it, it's entirely up to you.
Sincerely,
Here To Help
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i'm a HS junior. i like a sr. however he's about a foot shorter than me. has anyone ever had a tall/short relationship? how did it work out? (link)
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Well...to tell you the truth...if you really like this person height shouldn't matter......and I'm sure he will grow into himself if you're that worried about it.
Is he a nice guy?
If he is tell him how you feel about this...if you really like him you should let him know the truth.
Does he love you?
If he's starting to fall for you and you feel kind of awkward because of your height difference...it's really not that big of a deal but you should really let him know how you feel now before it gets too intimate. Don't let him waste his time and don't waist your time if you feel you arent ready.
If you guys didn't even meet yet...but you have these feelings for him I'd say go for it because height really shouldn't matter if you like this person.
Thanks for the question,
Please write back any time.
This was my first advice letter on this website so sorry if if wasn't as good as you were expecting it to be
I'll be better next time!
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