Being a teenager is the toughest thing any of you will go through..well except for a divorce or death of a loved one.
Adults just do not remember how hard this time of life is for you.
They forget how important all of these things that you ask questions about are.
Parent do not have all the answers either..they just muddle through life..just like you.
I am as old as dirt..and still have some of the things that happen to you..happen to me.
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I'm 15, female, and I've been BEST friends with about 11 people for a long time now. Last year we were together all through our first year of high school...and now there are so many things splitting us up. First...one of my guy friends, "M", has liked my best friend for two years now...aparently he didn't know that last year she was crazy for him...and now i was the one who told him she was...which makes him mad at everyone and jealous of my best friend because he thinks the reason she smokes pot and drinks is because of who she's dating and the older kids she hung out with over the summer. Another friend of mine has liked "M" for two years now and he's known it but doesn't like her. I kinda got her to like another guy who liked her back, and they were so cool for each other...but now she told him she didn't like him and didn't want to go out with him, and she told him in a way that really hurt bc she's never done anything like that b4...now their both miserable and the reason she said she didn't like him was because she liked "M" still even though she thought she was over him and didn't like him. Now she's crazy for M, M is crazy for my best friend, my best friend is dating an older guy who has no problem with her smoking and drinking, and I'm caught in the middle of all this! And now, my other friends think they can tell my best friend to stop smoking and drinking or not be a part of their lives...they are going to make this so miserable for them...my best friend is too proud to admit she was wrong and stop doing shit she shouldnt...I'm sorry this was so long, but I need to know if there is anything I can do to help them work this out or help them in any way, because what I've tried b4 isnt working at the moment...plz help me (link)
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ok first of all..you have got to stop the matchmaker stuff. Or even telling anyone about who likes who. You are the one who is going to get dumped on.
Nope nothing...i mean..if we could stop people from doing really dumb things..world would be a lot better place.
On the upside you have a great career as a therapist!
so sit bakc..let your friends make their own mistakes.
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whenever i have a boyfriend i have to hide it from my mom. she said its okay to have one but i usually never tell her. but i got one now and i really need 2 tell her bc hes so different from any1 ive ever got with....and shes met him n stuff n she thinks we go out but i dont call him my bf around her. but the thing is she wont let me go newhere (but i do newayz she just doesnt know) but its hard to sneek around her i just wanna tell her but she like wants to "get 2 know him" im like IM NOT GETTIN MARRIED CHILL OUT...she acts like wer gettin married she wants to meet his parents n everything so she knows who im with...how can i tell her to calm down...i tryed tellin her but she always finds a reason for everything...helllllpppp (link)
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ok...your mom will never see you as an dult until you are married and have have children and even then she will see you as a young child. Has anything happened in the pas that would make her crazy about thae subject?
well seems to me that you do really care for him..so she just ants to kow what kind of family he is from.
Ask he what is it that she is scared of..nicely..ask her what she feels will happen. If these things never have then she has go to give you some space and trust you.
remember she loves you...even if the moms get all hyper the feeling is coming from love.
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Me and my best friend Krystal want to ask you this. Theres this girl, Holly, she keeps butting into me and Krystal's friend ship. I mean coming between me and Krystal. I feel that she wants to take my place. Its really getting me mad because she is really annoying to! Anyways she already slept over krystal's house once [ i was there to ] but shes that type of person that you get sick of quickly and Krystal doesnt want her to sleep over tonight. How can we let Holly down gently?? (link)
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You cannot if she does not get a clue by now she never will. Just do not talk about your plans together and changed the subject if she does. Sounds to me like she is lonely. Nice of both of you not to want to hurt her.
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Do you ever feel like breaking down.. DO you ever feel out out place.. ANd somehow you just don't fit in and no one understands me... I've been kiked... hurt.. well I'm just like him.. and the rest of the song.. and sometimes i just wanna curl up and give up! the kids at my school are so mean to me. And a lot of my friends think they're to "cool" to hang out with me. I've been pushed down and kids kicked me and I've been in 5 fights with a bunch of kids and always get beet up picked on. And i don't belong.. I think i should just run away. no one would miss me. I'm just a loser in the way! I just wish i was a little cooler and people would be nicer to me. like the other day i was over my "friends" house and him and his neighbors made fun of me and 1 kid punched me so i fell and then they threw things at me. I've broken down.. ok and I'm young and hopeless and going no where fast is what they say.And the girls... forget about it... i mean the only reason most them don't like me is becuse the cool kids don't like me. I mean I'm not ugly..but you get my point. And some kids just pretend to be friends with me and then stab me in the beack like it's a game. And my gf just played me. Well you kinda get my idea of my life. that's not the details though. It's a lot worse. Well is there anything i can do? Or should i run away becuase no one would miss me!
Signed,
A loser!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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What makes these kids so cool? What do they have that you do not. Guess what as soon as you leave the school..by graduating or getting a job...all of this ends.
To me they get pleasure out of kicking you around..for they must REALLY hate themselves or their life. Super psycho's...hitting is for 3 year old's
Don't run away if your family will not help you find someone to talk to.
But again...these kids are the losers...in a few years they will be in prison and you will be the one making fun of them
I know it is hard..seems like your life is today is all it will be. But once you are out of that atmosphere...and able to be you. You will at least find your place.
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