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Q: Would a guy have a girl with kind of bad acne? I have been having acne since elemetary school, and it never goes away. I've tried dermatologist and eveything and the doctors say that the medicine I use gets used to my face and the acne comes back. Sometimes my pimples get really big and I feel like my face is disgusting with scars and zits and then my face clears up and gets worse again. I think I have cystic acne. There are a few guys that have liked me, but I never talked to them because I think they may think my face is disgusting. And there has been guys that have made fun of me and have just been rude to me and call me zit face since elementary, so when a guy tells me he likes me, I just don't believe him. Would a guy date a girl with kind of bad acne?

I've had this fear my whole life because it runs on my mom's side of the family... HORRIBLE SKIN. it's honestly one of the worse feelings in the world. you feel like people are always staring in your face thinking how disgusting your face is and it feels like no matter how much makeup you put on not only will it never cover it, but it never will go away. BUT i've seen people with worse skin then mine probably yours too in perfectly healthy relationships. Because looks shouldn't really matter that much. There are guys that can look past stuff like that. and i guarentee you'll find one one day.

Q: What do you do before you get eaten out to smell or taste good??

Well if you wash it often (daily) there should not really be an odor some people have an odor still which is why they have washes and wipes just for down there, i see females at my job buy them in front of their bfs so there is nothing to be ashamed of. But me myself i'm kind of wierd i have a specific body wash for that area, and i lotion it and spray perfume on my undergarments that go down there but that isn't really for everyone.

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I'm being pissed off because of my oily face I wash my face using dove soap so of course the oil will gone but in few minutes the oil is there again and the oil on my nose never gone even if I wash it with soap. I also get painful bumps around my nose and chin and I've used every acne product you can think of even from my dermatologist.

Your skin might just be oily some people have that naturally. Like myself which is why i had to go out and buy specific makeup and specific facial washes and products for my face. The problem is you do have to try stuff out see what works see what doesn't. form a routine you can stick with. one of the best things for oily skin is after you wash your face with a hot rag cloth splash really cold water on your face after and use a moistruiser... im defintely not spelling that right but you know what i mean. and if you wear makeup, you pile it on that spot the most. you also want to use the moistruiser or primer before applying any type of foundation and/or concealer to your face.

Q: I have been dating this guy for a while now and I don't think he is really that attracted... I want to do something that will make his eyes pop or something... but I don't know what.

PS. We have not kissed yet so it can't be too forward, but just forward enough.

Well if you two have been dating, shouldn't he already be attracted to you? I mean he wouldn't be dating or seeing you if he wasn't and if he isn't attracted to you sweetie your barking up the wrong tree. Just be yourself alright? And maybe if you know there is something he likes that you wear like say he likes cleavage show a bit more cleavage. And kiss the guy, your dating. SMACK THOSE LIPS ALREADY!

Q: me and my boyfriend of a year and a half recently broke up. we both would like to be together, but due to the fact that we're in two different worlds right now (hes in college and im in high school) we mutually decided its best for us to be apart, and we're both okay with that. i'm going to the same college as him next year and we will probably get back together eventually, but right now we have both recognized that we're single. he said if i hook up with other people its fine and that he wouldnt hate me and he wouldnt stop loving me blah blah blah all that stuff. i know it would make him upset if i did, but i feel like if were going to be broken up i shouldnt have to feel tied down (but i do). do you think its wrong for me to hook up with other people if theres chances of us getting back together in the future? and if yes, should i/how should i tell him if i do hook up with someone else? and please don't say "oh if you really loved him you wouldnt want to hook up with anyone else!" because at least in my situation that is extremely false. if things with my ex could work out right now, i would not have any interest in anyone else. thanks

the fact that he is comfortable with you hooking up with other people is defintely different you would think out of love it'd bother him a little? i mean it doesn't bother you he could be hooking up with some hot number at this moment? But i mean it's not like your dating so there is NOTHING wrong with it. Do your thing but keep in mind you got to be careful because someone else could catch feelings in "hooking up" and they could possibly get hurt,

Q: So, me and my boyfriend are deciding to take it to the next step. and we were talking about fingering and handjob but the thing is i get really wet when we do stuff and i feel like he will be grossed out how to i stop myslef from getting really wet or aviding it when it comes to the moment.

Girl, please. If anything your guy will be happy he could make you that wet that lets him know just how much you attracted to him and the thought of him can turn you on. He'll drown in that happiness ;p

Q: Well since I was about fourteen my toes have started to hurt and slowly progressed. I am 18 now and they are so sensitive still, if my toes barely bump something they hurt, they're slightly swollen on the outside edge of my toes by my nail, if I pull the flesh apart from my nails a small amount of puss will come out, they are slightly red and super sensitive, is there anything I can do to get rid of this, I've tried to drain it but it's so tender and sensitive I can barely touch it without cringing, please help, I can hardly wear shoes!

0_o ive honestly never heard of anything like that and i was just going to do some research on google for you but honestly your best bet is to go to a doctor about this and if you already have go again being persisted because if its been four years and your having this problem you don't want it to get even worse.

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Hi, thanks for coming to my column.

The name is Diamond but Dia is fine.

20, female, jersey girl at heart. mixed race taurus natured woman.

So...the reason I made this was during the start of my senior year of high school I had reached a point in my life where I didn't want to live anymore. I was tired of fighting and didn't see the reasons to fight. It was a random stranger that made me realize I would be stupid to take my life and to stop fighting.

So if you think I'm going to tell you life gets easier, I'm not. Let's face it, it doesn't get easier. Through pain you get stronger and learn to open your eyes to those things that give you strength to live.

Mine happen to be music, writing, dr. pepper, anime, the color black, the way rain sounds, and an amazing boyfriend. What gives you strength to live?