Hey everyone! The names Melissa and I'm just dying to help everyone out.
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Location: Pennsylvania
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Age: 21
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I've been seeing this guy for two months now and he's pretty terrific. About a week ago we started to talk about having sex. I've never had sex before but he's been with two girls previously. He says he knows what to do so it won't be so clumsy and awkward but I'm kind of stuck on if I should have sex with him or not.
I don't really love this guy is one problem and everybody says I should love someone before I let them do it with me. The other problem is that I sort-of already told him that I'd give him my virginity so I feel stupid if I turn around and say nevermind. See, I really wanted to give him a boner so I started talking it up and he got really excited about it. I did get him to get hard about it but now I know I'm such a tease...but I don't want to be lying to him!
My mom would literally choke me to death if I got pregnant though. My boyfriend said he has some condoms but I've heard that those break sometimes and that worries me.
I know it's just sex and if I just go on and get it over with then it won't be a big deal. I want to be ready for this though so if we end up doing it this weekend I will be prepared. How do I know if I'm really ready to have sex? What should I get some information on before I let him put it in me? He really wants this and I think I do too..? (link)
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You know your ready for sex when you have a deep connection with someone. Losing your virginity is never easy and you want to make sure its with someone you are completely comfortable with.
Just because you promised someone u would loose your viriginity to them does not mean that you actually have to. It doesnt make you a bad person and honestly they will just have to get over it.
Anyone who pressures you to have sex is just a waste of time.
Sex is a big deal especially the first time. You may become emotional afterwords or get rather clingy. Thats why you want to be with the person for awhile and make sure that they are someone u want to be with for a long time.
Loosing your viriginty on a random relationship that you dont even really care about is something you'll grow to regret.
If your not 100 percent sure about loosing it to this boy, then your not ready.
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My teacher was telling us about STDs and AIDS and how it can ruin your life. I know tons of people in African have AIDS and are dying of it because a lot of them were born with it or were raped and contracted it. I don't want to get AIDS if I accidently sleep with someone that is infected and they don't know it or don't tell me. I thought maybe there might be a shot for AIDS that I could get at a clinic somewhere? I don't mind having to pay if it protects me for a few years or something. Can anybody tell me how to get it or where to go for it? (link)
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Sorry hunny, there is no way to get a shot to prevent aids, and after you do get aids theres no way to get rid of it.
The only way to prevent aids is a) Always use a condom (which isnt always 100 pct effective) and b) make sure that your sexual partner is screened for stds before you have sex and make sure that you yourself are screened for stds.
As long as your safe then you should be okay.
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I was thinking the other day and if you have sex and you don't have an orgasm then it doesn't matter if your guy cums in you, right? Because the orgasm is what makes your egg come down to get fertilized, right? Something like that, I think. So, if the girl doesn't have an orgasm can she still get pregnant? ;) I was thinking that maybe my boyfriend and I could have sex and stop before I climaxed and then we wouldn't have to worry about me getting pregnant...
THANKS! (link)
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No, You can still get pregnant if the women does not have an orgasm, Heck you can get pregnant even if your boy doesnt cum because theres something called precum which can contain small amounts of sperm.
You should ALWAYS use a condom or some form of birth control.
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my boyfriend wants to kiss me and ive never kissed anyone before and im 14. he understands when i pull back but i can see him hurting inside and that annoys me that i let him down so much. he asked me if its just that im unsure or whether its to early for me but my answer is always i dunno. i really want to kiss him but 1: im not sure how and 2: i dont wanna do it wrong
like i said i really want to kiss him but im just uncertain about it all. hellppp???????? im just not sure how to and i would rather be alone with him but its a bit hard theres usually 3 othr ppl ther and he says they wont c but i dont mind if they c there my girlfriends and they know that i always chicken out with every boyfriend i have had. i just freeze sometimes. im not sure but its weird cos i do really want to but yeh. im just glad he is so understanding :) (link)
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Okay first things first, Just relax. Your first kiss can be terrifying and the more you stress about it the less ull enjoy it, and thats not what you want at all.
Your first kiss doesnt need to be full on tounge action making out. Just take it easy. Go with a peck on the lips, and then see where it goes from there.
Its awesome that your boyfriend is so understanding about how your feeling and what your going through. So if you just start off slow and let your first kiss just be that everything will work out naturally!
Just sit back, relax and enjoy it!
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