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Q: ok theres this cute guy on my bus. he seems kinda shy. i haven't talked to him yet. but i would like to get to know him and talk to him more before i start flirting. or is this wrong? what should i do? oh how should i start talking to him?
Make simple conversation. "Hey, How you doin today?" Then the next day maybe ask more than one question. And keep it going til its a full blown conversation.

Q: my boyfriend and i have been going ou for 2 months and almost 3 weeks and i STILL get like nervous/shivers before i hang out with him and it takes me time to stop being like that. is this normal? By the way... im hanging out with him in 10 minutes ahhh
Its just anticipation. The best thing to do is to put something else on your mind before you get ready. Think about something else.

Q: 13/f

I've been getting my period for every 21 days lately.. is that normal? And also, my last period only really lasted about 5 days and it was really light. It usually lasts about 6-7 days and is regular for me. Im getting really nervous about this.. is it normal?
Its normal. When you have more or less hormones racing your period does different things.
When you are more active your period is lighter and when you are more stressed your period may be heavy and last longer.

Q: my dad and i have a very bad past, i stopped talking to him for reasons that i dont really want to talk about.
is there anything i can do to stop being sngry at him, and move on with my life?
Have you ever confronted him about it?
I mean of course he most likely knows why your angry but, Get it off your chest. If you find a way to get it off your chest and get it out of your system them a weight will be lifted and you wont be as mad.

Q: I asked this question a while ago, but then my computer died on me and i had it fixed. i would like to know what colors look best on me, so i can use my money more wisley when it comes to clothes. here are some pictures of me..

http://tinyurl.com/2jtsog

http://tinyurl.com/2opbj5

thank you for your time,
Pastels are definately your colors.
Light blues, Pinks, white, Greens And orange.

And your cute too.

Just stick with light colors.
Nothing loud. You know stuff that yells at your eyes. lol. I like the black and white you had on in the pic with the girl. You already know how to dress!!

Q: ok i have some random questions that just popped up..
if you smoke weed while your hair is wet does it stay in more than if it was dry?
how many hits do you need to have before you get high?
how different do you act. like in what way?
is it like being drunk?

i have done weed 3 times and i still dont know these things. haha thanks
Well in my opinion it probably does stay in your hair longer that way. But I dont know.
How many hits. Im told it depends on the person.
Not sure how you act because I dont smoke.
Some people act stupid though. Some people are really mellow.

WELL smoking is bad. SOOOO I just had to make sure I added that in.

Q: i have a problem. i cant let any guy in my life. i guess its that im afraid of relationships and my expectations are too high... help?
The best thing to do is to get to know a dude first. Get really comfortable with him outside a relationship and then when you think your ready to be in a relationship with that person then try. You can tell what type of person someone is by getting to know them.

Q: i had sex and think that i might be pregnant, i haven't had my period yet this month but it's not really late yet. do you still have discharge when you're pregnant?
You have ALOT more discharge when your pregnant.

The best thing to do is wait it out til the end of this month and if it doesnt come take a test.

Q: i think i have an std and im tryin to figure out which one it is. ive been tested for chlamydia and ghonorrea and am now negative but i have this horrible rash. it started under my pubic hair and has now spread to the top of my thigh. its sorts patchy and red plus it burns and itches. anyway please let me know what you think it is
Go to the same place that tested you and ask them. That sounds really bad. But it may be syphilis. I know that gives you rashes..... And its curable. But im not sure....

Q: 16/f

I recently took several career, value, aptitude and personality tests at university. One of the questions included how much you value making a significant amount of money. Of course I want to be rich, but why do people always say that money can`t buy happiness?

I think that if I could buy a boat, a nice car, a nice house and go on vacations without stressing too much over money that I would be happy. Should I choose a career (which I hopefully like) just because I can make a lot of money?

Summary: Who says money can`t buy happiness?

Thanks so much for your opinion! =)
I say it!!

Here's why:
You can have all the money you ever need, but when you find the love of your life, how do you know that they love you and not your money??

You have 2 kids, and you give them everything that you never had, but when you tell them no, they act like they dont love you anymore. But as soon as you come out your pocket, Its smiles on their faces

What if you push everyone away because you think all they want is money? Then you will be lonely. And what does loneliness equal?? Unhappiness....

I could go forever with this!!

Q: okay so there is this guy named Brandon and he's 15-16ish. and like i was at Ohio skate and then like we were just playing around for the first time like poking each other in the sides and then like it moved into more. like every time he saw me then he like poked me which i had no problem with it. then like ever time he came around he started to like pinch/grab it again no problem with it because i though he was just kidding.but then he started smacking it with i was haveing fun so i didn't care and like we just smiled at each other. then he was all over another girl too. once again no problem with it because it not like were going out. but then he gave me him number. but heres the thing he had a babe with another girl and saying he didn't. saying its his cusent's. does he like me for me or just action? oh and I'm 13. if that helps. PLEASE HELP ME!
Wow. Leave this one alone. Thats a big red flag especailly if he is denying this child and you heard that it was his. And he is only 15 with a baby?? No way. There is other boys. He is just a player. Leave him alone.
If someone likes you for more than just sex, then they would do more than slap you on your butt and stuff.

Q: im looking to join a sorority in 2 days. ive been in rush for the past three and i need opinions from girls. is a sorority a good thing to do? i was really excited until i found out i got cut from the ones i wanted. i need everyones opinon on whether or not to do a sorority! thank you!
That is a great thing to do. It looks good on a job app. You will make good friends that you will always be connected to. It will be a new experience. I say go for it. Why go to college and not be apart of anything??

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i have guy friends that i talk to sometimes and my boyfriend gets mad easily for that and i DONt like them i LOVE my boyfriend and i dont know how to tell him that he just doesnt get it. Its really hard for my boyfriend to understand that i dont like them. help?
Have you ever took him around them?
Does he know them? Then thats the problem. Let him get to know these guy so he can see that you dont like them. That's the only way. Ya'll should all hang out together. And if he does know them, and he is still acting the same way that means he is just overly jealous and has some trust issues...

Q: my skin always feels itchy and dry and stuff and i use organic bodywash and things and i cant use lotion or i will break out my skin jsut feels all gross what can i do
Its probably the organic stuff that you are using. The regular stuff has ingredients in it to prevent that stuff from happening to you.

How about some cocoa butter or some baby oil. Just a little don't go overboard with it.

Q: please do not say "There's no such thing as a myspace tracker" because I had one and it worked perfectly it was called 'Spyspace' it logged EVERYONE with pictures

if there's any savvy computer people out there please help me find one that works out good enough to AT LEAST have the persons myspace name, pic, or link to the persons myspace. any of those would work for me

thank you so much
(5s for any help)
If you ask tom....

www.myspace.com/tom

He will also tell you the same thing. There is no ligetiment tracker. They do indeed still peoples codes. And some of the people they say looked at your profile, never really looked. lol

Q: Okay, theres this girl Cara, we used to be such best friends about 1 year ago. Then Well call her, B. B comes along, After B came along, cara and i drifted, I hate B with a passion, i know hate is a strong word, but i hate her. B started being rude to me, again [shes a backstabber, i hate her, and btw, cara and B go to diff schools, us 3 go to diff schools.] and cara and i drifted, i feel like im putting more effort in being in a friendship than she is with me. I im her, i call her to make plans [which never work out because of b] and all this stupid stuff! She never tells me anything, i used to be her secret storer and we knew EVERYTHING about eachother, i told her i got a new kitten, she was like, oh oh my goddd! no way! .. i got the cat over about 2 months ago. and she had a boyfriend, we promised to tell eachother our crushes and EVERYTHING..... 2 weeks ago im like your going out with [r]? she was like yeah, i thought i told you, i was like no, we havent talked in 1 month. but, after b went to Brazil, we started to talk more. do you think its just B or do you think were drifting? im so confused,

*** i was with my friend [c] and we were talking to her on the phone.. well i "wasnt there" and she asked if she hated me she was like no i dont why do you? and [c] said no i dont, she thinks you do because you dont talk to her or put effort into a friendship for her. and cara said well, tell her i dont. ***

what does all this mean? i mean i love her and all, but should i dump her as a friend.. or should i wait for her to talk to me....?
When people grow up they dift apart. Dont take it personally. She is still your friend, "b" is just up on the ladder a little more than you. Meaning they are closer than you and her. Just make some new friends to take your mind off that.

Q: Well, I moved to the USA when I was six, ten years ago. I left all my family behind. Well, my aunt recently remarried and moved to a town (San Francisco) an hour away from us, and my cousin has just arrived a couple of days ago and will be living with my aunt and his step dad. We are going to visit them tomorow.

The thing is, that I barely know him. He is a really cool person, VERY smart, funny, etc. I really admire and look up to him. But I only visit him like once every two or three years, so we never got a chance to have a real friendship. Well, I will be seeing him quite regularly now, probably about once every two or three weeks.

I know what you are going to say: just be yourself, play games together, teach him English (which he already knows). But I can't really be myself when I'm around him. Where he's from, I would be considered a spoiled, pampered little girl. For example, I like to go shopping, paint my nails, straighten my hair, listen to the kind of music that there is considered very barbaric. All of these activities are only seen in the very rich, spoiled girls.

Also, education wise, I am far behind (by their country's standards). I would probably be in fifth or sixth grade math if I were to go to school there. Also my writing suffers horribly, and I make grammatical errors worse than a second grader's. And I was homeschooled for a while, and my mom taught me how to read and write in that language, and, well, I suck. There's just too many spelling rules that I don't get and forget.

How do I appear like I am smart and funny to my cousin. I mean, should I hide the things that I do from him, or should I flaunt them. Like I'm smart, but by American standards. He always says witty things, and he is multi-talented. I really want him to willingly be friends with me, not just because we are related. We have nothing in common, I can't really teach him anything, and he can teach me loads but it probably won't be very fun for him. =/ We just led different lifestyles, and were brought up differently, were exposed to different problems in life. We are like from two different worlds. He is actually from Ukraine, so I guess you could say he has lived half a world away my whole life.
You said it all. You were raised differently. So be different. Dont change yourself for him. If he cant sxcept you for you then, thats no good!! He is just family. So why worry about what he thinks that much? Like I said dont change a thing about you. And if he throws somethin in your face about where the both of you are from, and says O well, we don do that over there Just simply tell him, well we do it over here! So thats how im going to do it.

Q: ok, last time i wrote this, it wasn't written well. so i'm redoing it. it may be kinda long, but uhm please read?

ok, my friend mel, is dating this guy, and hes super nice and everything. but his friends like suck so bad. and my friend mel is going through alot of other stuff too. well, she hasnt been able to see her boyfriend in a long time. soo, she wanted to give him something. well they both have bunnies. and they always talk about there bunnies. well, so mel was gonna give him a little stuffed animal bunny. i mean, i dont know.. i thought it was kinda cute. anyways, so my friend mel, has a best friend named callie. and callie lives like a half hour away from the mall. so shes like, well fine, ill go up there and give it to him. well, callie is really really really shy around people she doesnt know. and like, i mean, she has nothing against kids that wear all black or anything, but i mean, come on, when you see those kids in the mall, and there not laughing and just look unhappy, its not like your getting the best vibe from them, yano? so she got kinda scared. so she left it like under this little table. and she called them and told them exactly where it was. and so then they were calling her allll of these mean names. like it was so bad. oh and mel wrote a letter to her boyfriend. and all of his friends were like, this is such bullshit, this sucks. how stupid. i thought it was gonna be better. so then mel felt really stupid. oh and her boyfriend never said thank you. so yeah. mel now thinks she should break up with him, because they were all being so mean to her best friend, and all that.

what do you think?
His friends are probably just jealousSoes HE act like that?? Because he cant control his friends. He can only control hisself. He shouldnt have his friends all in his business, but as far as breakig up with someone for what their friends did, I dont think thats a very good reason.

Q: ever since i got my period this month, it has smelled funky down there. the first couple days of my period smelled, then it stopped. now it smells again. its not like i dont wash down there and keep it clean, because i always do. i even use these little "fresh n up" wipes to clean. what could this smell be from and how can i stop it? i dont think i have any infections, because i have no simptoms of an inection, that i know of.

thanks.
That is a smyptom of an infection.
So try douching first. They sell them at any store. Then if that doesnt work, get some yeast infection pills. azo or something similiar and see if that stops it..

Q: hi. i go to a catholic school, and so, we dont really have alot of those kids that where all black, and are just negative about everything. we just dont get those kids. so anyways, shes dating this kid from a public school. and he is soo sweet. like hes super nice. i mean, really nice. but his friends.. are the biggest asses ive ever met. my friend mel is like going through so much. and these guys arnt helping. her parents are getting a divorce. and like, her family was close, and so yeah. its just not goin good for her. well, she couldnt see her boyfriend, and her best friend [and my best friend] callie, was gonna be at the mall. so shes like ok, ill give it to them. well my friend, callie. is like shes just peppy and just preppy and just always happy and always like, yano. so, when she saw these kids, shes like, k no. im not going over by them ,they dont look nice. basically, she was scared. anyways, callie suffered from being anorexic and came close to death. well, callie just dropped it somewhere, and called them and told them where it was. and they were like, omg your so effing lazy, you fat ass just bring it to us. and saying so many mean thinggs. and so callie was like crying. well, now mel thinks she should break up with her boyfriend, should she?? yes, or no?
IM sooo sorry. But this doesnt make sense. At all.

And thats mel's decision. You should judge these people jst because they looked mean.
Thats basically what happened. All of you were judge each other and didnt even know each other. Yall probably have your guard up everytime you go around these dudes soooo Of course they gon act funny towards you.
Try gettin to know these kids, and if they still treat you like crap, then she should kick him to the curb. Because not accepting her friends is like not accepting her.

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khadiya
Its A brand new year!! And I havent really been giving advice lately so now IM BACK!! If you have something to ask dont hesitate to ask. DONT BE SHY!! I've been there! Or I know someone who has!


I am a black albino female whose been through alot!!! I have a lot advice to give. Im a very knowledgeable person, and i look at things from many different views. Im very blunt, so if you dont want to hear it straight dont ask me!! any thing else you wanna know get at me!



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