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my friend has a boyfriend. he can be really nice. but this summer he did a lot of things with girls this summer [not sex or anything like that] but lots of stuff that he shouldn't have been doing. and my friend, was like "i'll never go out with that player". but of course he asked her out and she said yes. now they're always with eachother, that doesnt bother me. but what she doesnt realize is that he's a bad person. me and my other friends were talking about it and we were like "yeah she should break up with him." but i dont know what to say to her. if i said anything like that she would probably get really sensitive about it. and trust me, i'm not jealous at all. i could never date him. it's just annoying that she'd choose him over her best friends. and he is bad.. not the greatest grades, all that summer stuff, and everything else. in high school he'll go crazy. what can my friends and i do?? (link)
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Dear Friends Boyfriend,
If this girl really is your friend she will take your word seriously meaning she should trust you if you say that he is bad news. If she doesn't maybe you and her weren't meant to be friends. It is good that you care for her and you don't want her to get hurt but I think that she is doing this to herself. I do think that you shouldn't judge him by the grades he gets, you are being judgmental if you think he is stupid with the grades he recieves in school. Just talk to her and you and her might understand eachother. Good Luck!!
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sorry if its long - ill rate 5s ?
k so theres this girl that ill call janet well .. during the summer i invited her and my other friend "lisa" down to my beach house and they came. so recently she has been saying to me like ohooh i got a beach house i cant wait to invite you down this summer! maybe i can invite you and lisa down at the same timee and stuff .. and like she mentioned it to me a lot. so then i just found out bc i saw this note she asked me to pass to her friend .. i saw a glimpse of it i didnt read the whole thing but it said that for her party she was gonna invite her and all these others girls and lisa down to her beach house. but my name wasn't on it. idont know hwen they are going but this makes me feel like crap. what should i do? i mean i know i cant like say anything to her because that would be mean but .. idk. why would she do this ? i thinks she uses me bc in some classes she alwyas begs me to be her partner and be in her group and stuff but then like outside and in this case .. she doesnt even think of me. it makes me feel really bad so .. what should i do?
thank you so much (link)
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Dear Left Out,
You shouldn't let her make you feel bad and i think you should say something to her and not let her use you like that. If you do not confront her then she will continue to make you feel bad. You could invite other friends to your beach house and have a good time without Janet. Maybe she isn't really your friend if she doesn't think of you or maybe she just forgot to add your name to the list but either way you should confront her. Good Luck!
Alli
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ok so over the summer i became best friends with this girl and we did everything togeter. but since we started highschool everything has changed. she wont talk to me and when she does its aways negative. i really cant stand it anymore and my other friends are sick of listeing to me. i come home and go in my room and i dont want to talk to anyone except her and try to work things out. but i do want to talk to some one like one of my favorite teachers who i think could really help because she knows whats going on but i dont know how to approach her and as her about it. someone help! (link)
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Dear Best Friend?,
I think you should just go to your teacher and if she is really your favorite teacher when you talk to her everything will fall into place and she(teacher) will know that you can trust her with your problems and that will jut open so many doors for you and her as well. Good Luck!!
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hi guys. Ok, i moved away this summer and wasn't allowed to tell my friends until the last few weeks b/c my parents are well, basically, very private. So I tried to call everyone in that time period but i couldnt get a hold of everyone and had to tell people to spread the word. I felt really bad about it but i had no choice. Then I find out that one of my friends from my old town hates me. I email and try to set things right explaining everything but she refused to believe me and proceeded to cuss me out. She wants nothing to do with me and says she hates me and that i am a fake and a bunch of bad words and told me to **** off. She is also spreading bad rumors about me around my old school and ruining the squeeky clean image i had. I really just want to get through to her but she is being really stubborn. I really wasn't allowed to tell anyone. What should I do she refuses to believe me?? THank you, Megz2009 (link)
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Dear Megz2009,
She might be angry that you moved and doesn't know how to cope with the loss of your friendship. You should give it time but still try to tell her the truth. Don't give up just because she is being stubborn. If you want to repair this friendship you have to be willing to deal with her cussing and such until she calms down. If things get really bad you should just move on. She will continue to think what she wants but at least you tried your best. If she really wants to make things right with you she will believe you. Best of luck!
Alli
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I'm 14 & a girl in the 8th grade. And like this year i've lost A TON of my friendships w/ the girls in my grade. I get like excluded out of alot of things.. but i kind of did it to myself. Last year all the girls in my grade annoyed me SO MUCH i couldnt take it, i started becoming good friends w/ the guys, and the kids in the grade above me. If i needed any help in school or in anything i would call my guy friends, and if i wanted to hang out w/ someone i would call the girls in the grade above me. over the summer i barly hung out w/ the girls in my grade. i lost all of their trust after they started talking behind my back and stuff the year before. So i kind of didnt care. Then this year. I was even more annoyed w/ them & hung out w/ the guys in my grade more then ever. One of them became my BEST FRIEND and would come over after school and crap all the time. Then me and him kind of got in a fight and stopped being friends all together. and the girls above me sort of leave me out of some things & i regret alot of it. instead of like changing groups w/ the girls that i didnt like, which i should of done, i just decided to not like any of the girls in my grade at all, when really the other group of girls were ALOT nicer and it would of been so much better. And now the freshman girls think i'm like becoming best friends w/ girls i use to hate, and like the guys and me have sort of drifted apart, and their all going to different highschool. And i'm gunna be stuck w/ those same girls and like the girls above me, who one of them i LOVE TO DEATH but the other can think she's too cool now cause she's in highschool and stuff. and it really bothers me.. one of my friends, in my grade (girl) said that i'm mean to all the girls in my grade and that the only reason their even nice to me is because i'm really close to the guys and i'm super popular. And other ppl call me a slut because of how close i am to the guys in my grade. But all i do is talk to them. and i feel like i kind of just threw away my life, and i cry about it all the time. i have no clue what to do. PLease help. OH and i've started doing horrible in school, C's in like every class. if not lower. And i'm gaining wait. it's spring break and i havent hung out w/ anyone the whole time. i just sit at home and eat and watch tv and stuff. WHICH IS HORRIBLE. i think i've gained like 10lbs no joke, and you can tell. :[ please help me (link)
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Dear My Friends,
I think you should get out there and get some other friends, but try to repair some of your previous friendships, with girls not just the guys. I think that instead of eating you should find other ways to solve your problems like screaming in your pillow or talking to your mom or siblings. If you get other friends you will be able to do more things and feel better about yourself, but in order to get friends you need to let people know that you are a nice, caring person that is willing to be friends. Good Luck!
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Well, a girl in my school Sara's sister died last summer in a swimming pool accident ( the girl who dieds name was elizabeth but everyone called her boo), Sara and I never had any hard feelings against each other, Elizabeths best friend Sam, and I were becoming really good friends before it happend, and we were supposed to go to Elizabeths house, or Sams house and hang out 4 days after we all talked on the phone, but Elizabeth so happend to die only 2 days later. At that point in time, Sam and I never talked ever again.. Even thou I still would've loved to be friends with her. And then one day, on Sams Xanga, she wrote a huge entry about Elizabeth, and i posted a comment saying "I know how you feel, I lost my best friend too.. Its hard, but you learn to deal. But no matter what, you'll always miss her, all of us will RIP Boo 9.27.92 to 8.10.04" and sam got all defensive saying I had no idea how it felt, and I got very upset, and this all led to a huge fight, Sara and I got into a huge fight, which basicly ended with her saying that Boo hated me. Which I know wasnt true, but I feel horrible for some of the things I said to sara, and no matter how hard I try to appologize, its never enough, I dont know what to say for her to not hate me anymore, and it kills me. I dont want her to hate me.. I honestly have nothing against her, And I loved Boo, even if me and her werent 'best friends' ... Is there anything I can say to get sara to not hate me as much anymore? (link)
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Dear Bad Feelings,
Friendship is a tricky aspect of life but everybody needs it to survive. To make things right with Sara I would suggest that you talk to her and try to reach out to her. She lost a sister and that is really hard to go through. She might want to talk to you but not know how to go about it. You have to make the first move so go for it. Good luck!!
Alli
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