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Q: my girlfriend was over one time. and i asked her if she wanted to have sex and she said no. which i figured since shes waiting for marriage. then i decided i didnt care and i sat on her and forced her clothes off. shes really tiny and week she weighs like 91 and i weigh 156 so it wasnt hard. she tried to get me off of her but we both knew she couldnt. so my friend who was coming over to hang out with us came. and he held her down while i fingered her. she was screaming and telling me to stop but i didnt. then he sat on her and held her legs apart while i stuck my dick in her vagina. she was screaming and crying for us to stop she said it hurt.so my friend told me to punchh her so she will shutup so i did. i didnt mean to punch her that hard but she passed out. so i finished up and my friend left. and i just stared at her. i didnt mean to hurt her. i love her soo much. and i couldnt believe all the bruises all over her shoulders,legs,arms,colar bone and her face was dripping blood. so i got a towel and wiped it off. then when she woke up she couldnt move so i helped her get dressed and carried her home. i kept apoligizing but she didnt say anything to me. when i see her in school she looks scared and runs away from me. how cdo i get her to tlak to me thanks.

WHAT THE HELL. YOU ARE FREAKING MESSED UP.

how in the world can you say that you love her when you just beat the hell out of her and didn't care about her decision to not hav sex at all. this story really makes me want to cry-- that is pathetic. how can you live with yourself! i hope your "girlfriend" never fucking talks to you again. your a moron. if i knew your name or anything about you, you better believe i would definitely report you to the police. this is rape, AND abuse on so many levels. that girl will be scarred for life because of what you did. your friend is a little dickhead, too.

i dont' care what you think you were doing, but it was WRONG. so so so so WRONG. you seriously need help.

Q: What kind of jewerly would look pretty with a white spagetti strap sundress?
It looks like this:
http://www.aeropostale.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2582399&cp=2284058.2365584&clickid=cat_leftnav_txt&parentPage=family
There is a little bit of detail in the dress.
Colors and kinds of jewerly would be most helpful! -I am wearing white tie up the ankle high heels.

first, that dress is super cute (:

maybe some bright colored, long beads;
or just a few simple, silver chain-ish necklaces;
or white pearls with a matching pearl braclet would be cute. white with white is always classy.

have fun with it-- everything goes with white.

Q: So im a 15/f. I havent had my first kiss yet! Not to sound cocky like at all, but Im cute! I know afew people who like me, and I'm sure wouldnt mind hooking up. So my question is, should I keep waiting for that special person/time for my first kiss? Or should I just hook up with someone and get it over with. I mean no offence but im so kiss horny! lol I want to hook up with someone so bad, but I also dont want to ruin something potentially special you know? Is your first kiss really that big of a deal? THANKS!!

i'd definitely wait for the right time. my first was some stupid guy in middle school and i barely even know anymore, and i'm pretty sure he's gay or something. so now when people are like "so how was your first kiss", i have to say that, haha. it's quite embarrassing. so yeah, wait for someone who you won't regret it with.

Q: I dont have a date for prom, but I'm still going. And a few of my friends odn't have dates and they're still going, too. But.... is it okay to go to prom without a date? Do people go without dates? Will it be as fun? Will people think you're a lsoer?

thanks

going to prom without a date is perfectly fine. you get to dance with whoever you want, instead of being tied to your date the whole night. it will still be fun, i promise. just let loose and have a good time (:

(alright, well not TOO good a time, that could be dangerous. haha.)

Q: I really love sun dresses. i was wondering if anyone knew where i could buy a whole bunch for pretty cheap. It doesnt have to necessarily be a sundress....just like casual dresses that i could wear out.

Thanks so much!!!

i love sundresses too (: i'll second the person below me-- charlotte russe has a bunch, and they're adorable & only like $30, if i'm not mistaken.

Q: Does anyone remember all that from like 1997 or something? On nickelodean (sp?). wellll I definitely miss it. Does anyone know where I could like find videos of it? I checked you tube it's not there. Would it be out on dvd?

please and thank yoU!

holy canoly, i loved that show. i googled it and you might try this site:

http://www.tv.com/all-that/show/3090/summary.html

hope i helped (:

Q: When I did Cross Country, I met this kid. He helped me throught a lot. We were somewhat friends, and we somewhat talked. It was like, a hi in the hall way, sometimes talking. You know, that deal.

He committed suicide the other day.

I hardly knew him, not well anyways. I went to his wake and it was so sad. All of his best friends, whom were my close friends too, were there, and crying. I started to cry pretty bad, becausei couldn't even imagine what theyw ere going through. I don't know what tothink, what to say.

He was such a nice guy.
I don't know how to cope with it, and I feel stupid because I wasn't even close with him.

first, i'm so sorry about your friend. i can definitely see where your coming from & relate. in october of '05, a friend and his dad were killed in a car accident. i knew the kid when he was younger and we played sports together. and i cried like a baby and his viewing and funeral, even though i wasn't near as close to him as i used to be.

the best thing to do would just be to let out alllllllll your feelings. holding it in or not talking about it won't do any good. talk to his friends, and tell them how you feel. i'm sure it'll help them and it'll help you too. when you go up to them [if you do], just say "hi, i'm so sorry about ____. he was so nice..." etc.

also, people will probably talk about it for a long time. you might as well get used to voicing your feelings. thats how things were here. it's the only way people move on- is to let things that happen, happen.

sorry about your friend again. hope i helped. anything else, leave it in my inbox (:

Q: i'm about to finish my schoolyear as an 8th grader, and we have this powerpoint slideshow with all of the 8th graders' baby pictures. i volunteered, along with my other friends, to do the powerpoint. and i was thinking of putting a slogan at the end of the slideshow. something catchy that has "class of '07" and "class of '11". anything catchy would be great.

thanks!

the seniors at my high school use the slogan "looking forward to looking back-- seniors '07". of course, you wouldn't put seniors, haha. but you could still use it (:

Q: I really need a b/f all the guys except one is nice and stuff to me...what should I do?

the best advice i can get would be to not go out looking for a boyfriend just to have one. no one neccessarily "needs" a boyfriend or girlfriend.

with that being said, if you like one impaticular guy, then flirt like CRAZY. i'm sure they'll love the attention. if you don't know exactly who you like, write down some qualities you think you'd like in a boyfriend, and then write down the guys and which of those qualities they have.

hope i helped (:
anything else, just ask.

Q: hey does anyone know where i can find tabs for blue octobers 18th balcony i love this song and i would love to learn it.

ahhh i love that song too! haha. i would give you the link but that other guy did (:

Q: are guys proud of getting hickeys? i mean.. is it embarrassing for them or do they take a kind of "sexual bragging pride" in it? opinions please!

my boyfriend doesn't like them, so i've never given him one [and i've never gotten one either.] i just think they're sort of trashy-looking. they just attract attention, and sometimes bad attention. someone going around with a hickey on his/her neck just looks sort of disgusting.

and they do NOT cause cancer. it's basically just a bruise, like any other bruise- bleeding under the skin.

Q: for AIM how can you make it so that people can only talk to you if their on your buddylist ? thanks.

if you have the new AIM, jsut go to "edit" on the top of your buddylist, then go to the bottom to "settings". under the "privacy" tab, under "who can contact me", select the circle with "allow only users on my buddylist".

hope i helped (:

Q: It seems to me that there are two kinds of trickery: the ''fronts'' people assume before one another's eyes, and the ''front'' a writer puts on the face of reality.

what does this quote mean or symbolize?
i promise it's not homework or anything. This quote just caught my eye and i don't exactly know what it's saying.

thank you!

well, i'm definitely not an eistein. but my interpertation would be...

the first part ("the fronts people assume before one another's eye") in basically talking about fake people. people that don't know who they are, and are just generally fake.

and i'm not so sure about this one, but for the second part, i think it means that a person puts a paticular image of the world (THEIR world) in his/her head. and sometimes they're blinded by that image and they can't see reality.

haha, if any of that makes sense, i hope i helped.

Q: jobs . . . . . . . .

yea tomorrow im gonna be with my bf and we are gonna play around haha
its gonna be my 1st time
but i want to know

1-are they fun?
2-how old were you when you 1st gave or recied one ?
3-how long do they last?
4-does it feel weird ?
5-do you enjoy them?

first off, i don't know what the IM HAWT chick's deal is.... ?

but anyway--
1. it all depends. i've only done it to my boyfriend a couple times, and i just like pleasing him. so, it's sort of in between.
2. i just gave my first one about two weeks ago. and i'm sixteen. we've been dating almost two years, haha.
3. it, again, depends. i don't like him cumming in my mouth so i do it for a few mintues then switch to using my hand then go back, etc.
4. it does feel weird, i won't lie. but you get used to it.
5. they're not bad, actually. haha. i never thought i'd be one to give one, but i don't mind it much.

hope i helped (:

Q: Ahh I love the idea of love.
And anything romantic. :]

So, I was wondering, what are some good really good, possibly alt. rock, folk, or alt. pop -
I really like "Blue Eyes" by the Cary brothers
and, I like Coldplay, Iron & Wine, Counting Crows, Ben Harper, Kings of Convenience, Blue October, Simon & Garfunkle, anything of that nature. :)

Or any other sweet, romantic lyrics about who you love, whether it's happy or sad.

and while I'm at it....anyone know some good waltz songs? I'm thinking "Lover, you should've come over" by Jamie Cullum. sound good?

They're having a dance at my school on Friday and I'd love to request some good slow songs with sweet lyrics and pretty melodies. Thanks much :)
(no R&B please! thanks again)

ben harper-- "forever" is a cute song, i love it.
and it sounds like you'd like a group called five times august. they're acoustic sort of stuff. i absolutely love them. they have an adorable song called "love the way"; download it (: i'd recommend any songs by them.

have fun at the dance!

Q: i hate this... i had an advice column a couple of years ago, but i forgot my password, so i made a new one. that one ended up just not working. now i got another one last night, and now the stupid thing won't let me log on! i got my correct username, correct password, but i sitll can't. ok, so i click on this thing tha says "frgot your password?" and type in my email, but it says there isn't an email like that in the database or something like that... whatthe heck is going on?? why can't i log on? anything i can try that will work? will i be able to log on AT ALL anymore? i don't wanna start over!

did you confirm your account in the e-mail they sent you? if haven't done that, then that's the problem. other than that, i'm with the other guy, haha.

Q: Well see my boyfriend and me kinda had sex it weird. like i'm not goin to go into details or anything but like he got in me and kinda poped my cherry but we stoped but he cumed before. could i be pregnet? becuase i've been worrying about this for like 2 weeks now and i'm only 14 and he's 16. and my mom told us before if we have sex she'll have him go to jail for like sum stupid law. and i'm scared.

help me please.

considering having sex IS the one and only way people get pregnant, then yes, there's a very good possibility you are. and you're fourteen?! my god. please, at LEAST do us all a favor and use condoms. and yes, if your mom does find out you all have sex or you do get pregnant, and your mom decides to take legal action, he probably could go to jail.

Q: so i was at the beach and I noticed that my ribs look different than everyone else's. they're more...spread apart, i dont know. Like everyone else's ribs touch each other when they poke out...mine just look like...boobs or something.

Picture: http://xs313.xs.to/xs313/07115/MyPicture-1.jpg

i think it's just because you're so skinny. not that that's a bad thing. but it just looks like your veryyyy skinny, so that when you lay down, your stomach retracts because its just muscles and organs in that area, and your ribs can't do that [obviously, since they're bones] and so they just stick out more. and some people's ribs are just naturally more spread apart than others-- my friend is that way, too.

hope i helped :]

Q: what does bff mean? i hear it everywhere but what does it stand for.

i'm guessing best friend forever?

you guessed right- best friends forever.

Q: in middle school youd look at people n you would smile at eachother even tho you werent friends or anything. then now in highschool people look at you n just look away just as fast. is it just me or did that like happen to you too? people seem so mean now or whatever.

that is SO just not you. people definitely get cruel when they enter high school. it's rediculous how mean some of the girls are. i just kept my positive attitude, and i still smile at people and wave or whatever (:

bio

hiii! i'm caroline. i'm eighteen years old, and just started my freshman year of college. i have a magificent boyfriend who i love more than anything. we've been together over three years. he's also my best friend. speaking of which, my other best friends are also pretty fantastic. another huge part of my heart is devoted to god. he's blessed me with so much more than i deserve, and even though i fall short on a daily basis, he's still there for me, every step of the way. i'm a pretty simple girl- i love anything fun, texting, being outdoors, swimming, playing soccer, frisbee, or watching football, spending time with my family, and most of all- living my life to the absolute fullest.

to be frank, i'm not going to answer your questions about girl drama or pregnancy, because i have no experience in either of those categories, nor do i want to listen to you whine about how "we didn't use a condom" or "she's such a &*^#%!!!!". however, i'm totally open to anything else. drop something in my inbox and i'll get to it pretty quick- i'm quite the net nerd (: